Interested and pushed me away or not interested

Hi everyone,

long time lurker first time poster.

I've been talking on and off with this cancer girl since march (more in a work setting). Her Venus is either taurus or gemini but I think its Taurus because I've dated many gemini and Aquarius and she doesn't seem airy at all. Very cool, low key, earthy type. Doesn't talk a whole lot. I'm a Virgo Sun, Aquarius Moon, Libra Mercury, Venus,Mars,Pluto in Scorpio, Leo Asc. She was slow to warm up but she would drop subtle little hints from time to time as well, and some times after she would give me a massage I would return the favor and she would really let her guard down in the moment. There were a couple times a month ago where she was dropping heavy hints that she wanted me to ask her out but she seemed so innocent I felt like I needed to go really slow and take my time with her. Maybe dumb on my part because maybe I missed my window. Two weeks ago I told her about a weekend trip to Vegas and she did not seem very impressed with and almost seemed turned off by the idea I was partying in Vegas, and this week I had a red mark on my neck that could be interpreted as a hickey and now she's become very cold towards me. Last night I asked out for a beer, she declined I kept a cool face and then she start asking about a friend of mine..a friend I know she's not actually interested in so why would she do that? To hurt me? To see if I could maintain my cool face and not break?

I'm really upset about the whole thing and I'm thinking about cutting all contact and moving on. I've always wanted to be with a cancer woman but the three cancers I've had feelings for and talked to all move in this weird slow fashion and it really throws me off and the three chances have gone no where. Because of my air placements I'm also an Aquarius south node, I'm used to dating air signs and the mental stimulation with those types air signs is amazing but theres no emotional depth. I've dated a few pisces also but they always seem to have Aquarius placements that prevent them from having a deep emotional connection. As a triple scorpio I need depth and security.

Any advice or feedback on her, or just on Cancer woman in general is appreciated. I'm very determined to date a Cancer or a girl with heavy cancer placements, I acted like nothing bothered me but I died. I couldn't stop thinking, "wtf is she doing, why is she asking about him, why is she acting like this, you're not fooling me I know you're interested"

I’m a cancer gal, Venus Leo, moon Scorpio.. I uhhh went thru this similar experience w a boy I like, but I was in her position. I saw this red mark on his neck & bOY was my mind a chaos. It was so hard for me to not lose all my shit and bombard him w questions but that resulted in me detaching myself bc well I thought it was a hickey and it hurt me rlly bad. But us cancers don’t really like showing ppl that were hurt, so instead we just appear reaaaally detached, unbothered, icy cold, bitchy. We’ll pretty much just back off. But if you’re interested in dating cancer women, be mindful that we need a lot of reassurance. The tiniest thing you say/do (or maybe in your case DONT say/do) can make us think you’re not interested anymore

My sun is cancer, moon = Aries, mercury=cancer, Venus=cancer rising= scorpio, I have some sir and earth in my chart as well; but the thing is I would do the same as her.

She is Interested and is pulling away.... you don’t owe her an explanation because you two aren’t dating, but that’s exactly why she’s not going to show you that she’s mad or hurt. Instead she just pulled away. As to her asking about your friend, it could be to see how you would react to it. No I don’t think she’s interested in him.

Cancers need reassurance... well I do. Like if you’re into me TELL me. I don’t like making the first move but I will if I really want someone.