I've been waiting and waiting

I have been involved with a cancer guy for almost a year.. He doesn't live in my state right now although his family lives in my town. I have been very patient with the push pull stuff. Most recently he came home.. He showed up at my house and called me but I wasnt near my phone.. I got a text saying that he was outside n I turned off my lights as if I knew he was out there.. I called him he forwarded it I asked him why he said he was on the phone.. Then at 4am he is calling but I'm not having him come at that time he knows better.. The next 2 days we spent more time than usual and things were so great.. He went back to his state which is only like 2 hours away.. He was super sweet everyday after that with good morning texts talking throughout the day talking about how we should move down south (joking or a sideways attempt? IDK).. He sent me a text saying that he is going to get serious about looking for a job where I live after a talk with his mother.. I didnt respond because I've heard this before and he still hasn't made the attempt..Then he called and i missed it again and he sent me a text saying really?? So I called him back and he was saying he thought I forwarded the call and he feels like I dont like him when he goes back to his state I was like what— Why would you say that?? he said that he feels like I dont want to talk to him and we talked for a little but he said he'd let me go do what I was doing ( I was getting my son ready for bed) After that he pulled back so much.. He answers if I text and calls but its not the same.. I was trying to initiate contact more because I dont want him to feel like I dont want him when he's not here.. It is so opposite of that its not even funny.. I just feel like whenever I make more of an attempt he backs up.. Like he likes when I'm aloof or something.. Not sure what to do.. I backed off a little now to see what happens.. How can I make him feel more secure? When he goes back to his state I always feel like he's busy or idk... I mean I always answer his texts I just kinda follow his lead.. Now I feel like he is playing games with me... Part of me wants to just confront him on this but part of me feels like just giving him space.... Any suggestions guys?

Ok I'm a libra sun scorp venus he is a cancer sun gemini venus

Everything I've been going through with him as been so weirdly accurate pertaining to his sign... The push pull the disappearing the insecurities the 2 steps forward 5 back..... I've been super patient with him and this so far has been the closest we've been starting to become.. and nowww back he goes just like the damn tide..