Libra Female/Cancer Male

Oh, Oh........When I was 16 - 19 years old I had a relationship with a man born July 18, 1959...It was a positive relationship for the most part......the problems were evident when it came to my independence. I was not at all the cheating type....I played in a Blues band and was friends with all the band members....these guys were married or otherwise spoken for....and I had no interest in "being" with them......after nearly three years of a relationship, Cancer Male said that I had to choose between him or the band......this ultimatum came from out of no where...I never missed a date with him.....I never lost interest in him...but here he was telling me that he couldn't understand why I wanted to play in a band......couldn't he understand that I spend my whole childhood playing music....and that I always dreamed of being in a band......I was perfectly happy working full time during the day and playing some weekend nights in the band....socially Cancer Man could not mingle and handle the social life I was
leading and he couldn't believe that I would still lead that life if he did not want to participate......the crowd was not scarey or intimidating......they were 10+ older than us and practically old enough to be my parents.......and the weekend nights playing out were more of a hobby and fun experience than anything else....SEX was the last thing on my mind...I was trying to keep up musically with the musicians...it was a musical challenge for me....and he really spoiled my concept of him by witnessing how much he missed the mark on this.....well now it is 20 years later and I recently met a Cancer Male June 27, 1961...I am a Libra Female October 05,1961....and I am attracted to this guy but I fear the whole same scenario will play itself out...and I can't afford to relive that whole thing......any takers on cooling my fears...or validating them.....~b~

It is not only the sun sign that can be involved with an individual it takes all aspects. In this case he is an Ox in chinese terms. Oxens are not normally jealous or suffocating (knowing this because I am an ox myself) as well as a Cancer. If anything I like my independance immensely. You might want to check out your chinese sign to see if you are compatible. I'm not so sure about libra and cancer though - it never worked for me - although there was a strong attraction - you must have a lot of water signs in your make up? Anyway I hope everything goes well with you guys!

Good luck!
Oxens are not normally jealous cre

I am also an Ox.....I do have Scorpio rising.......I should try and take it sensibly....but I am attracted to him in a surprising sort of way....it has caught me off guard....

This explains your strong attraction, since you are a scorpio rising, usually your rising sign is the outer you, this is what you portrait to people. Your sun sign is the inner you, what you feel inside. I have had two relationships with oxens, and boy oh boy talk about "attraction personified" but I found although they were not the same sign, one was a taurus (aries rising) and the other an aries (pisces rising, which are powerful signs anyway, it eventually bit the dust came very quickly, passionately, although they lasted 2 to 3 years, were very powerful as far as ending it was concerned. Both oxens being very stubborn. I am actually still trying to release one of those relationships to this day. Maybe we are ment to be, but I think not. Anyhow they are not the same signs as you mentioned, and I do believe two oxens can be very strong and longlasting together, as long as they don't deceive each other.

Good Luck to you again,

Hope it works out!!