Libra Woman - Cancer Man

Hi everyone!

This is my first time on this website and I've spent quite a while reading all the topics - now I need help with mine!

I met a Cancer guy at a party about 3 weeks ago - it was a turn-around dance - where the girls had to ask the guys to dance to the slow jams. My Canerian asked a male friend of mine to get me to dance with him - which I did. He danced like a dream although after two dances I went off to mingle. He put his phone number in my mobile phone and I called him a couple of days later. It was slow starting but now he wants to spend all his time with me.

My problem is that I have started to feel that he is very controlling - and very moody. He TOLD me to stop seeing a friend of mine (who I've known for nearly 20 years) - a guy who is one of my best friends (platonic) and who has been there for me through thick and thin. He says that he doesn't 'feel comfortable' with me associating with/going round my friend's house. I had to go round my friend's house last night to deliver something I had for him. I told my Cancerian guy I was going. I had only been at my male friend's house for about 20 minutes and my Cancerian rang to tell me he didn't like me being there. 10 minutes later he rang back and said I was being disrespectful and he wouldn't do the same to me. To ease the situation, I left my friend's house (while still on the phone reassuring my Cancerian). I feel smothered and it's only been three weeks.

He's told me that I am now his woman, he's placed me on a pedestal and that he is now going to protect me. He told me last night that he was in love with me but I told him that was impossible after 3 weeks - he then changed it to he's 'falling in love' with me. I told him I didn't know what love was yet and he told me that I did - I was just denying it to myself!

Is there any hope for us long term - I can't see it. I don't like conflict and I can see conflict rising its ugly head with regard to us.

I look forward to your replies.

Lynn

Are you my mom?Shes a libra/scorpio cusp and name is lynn.*kidding*If you don't see any reason to be in the relationship and knows conflict is going to rear it's head again why are you still in it?He sounds like a psycho.Yup,yup,yup.

Cancers are insecure, if you like him you need to build the trust level they look out for their feelings and protect their hearts so be careful..what may appear harmless to you can be taken very personal to them ...........
Im a LIBRA -FEMALE (Oct.17th) and I have been in a relationship with a CANCER MALE (June 22nd) for five years if you can ask me any thing and i will try to help u in ur situation .............................

LIBRA AND CANCER COMPATIBILITY

There are some similarities between you, and also some significant differences in your temperaments and needs.

Both of you are thoughtful, considerate, sensitive to, and aware of, other people's needs. Having good personal relationships is very important to both of you, and you make harmony and pace in your personal lives a very high priority. You both avoid conflict and confrontation if at all possible.

The differences are thus: Libra is more objective, rational, and fair compared to Cancer, who is subjective, emotional, and biased by personal sympathies and loyalties. Though seemingly sympathetic, Libra can be surprisingly cool and intellectual when problems arise between the two of you. Cancer responds very personally and emotionally. Libra needs more communication and conversation than Cancer seems to.

Also, Libra wants to relate as an equal and a peer, while Cancer wants to mother or be mothered by a partner. So Cancer is more comfortable with becoming emotionally or financially dependent on a partner (or having the partner dependent in that way), while Libra wants a more egalitarian relationship. These differences can cause misunderstandings between you, but rarely are they a source of major conflict.

Both of you try very hard to please and accommodate people, especially your love partner, and you are both very sensitive to others' approval and opinion of you. Because harmony in your personal life is so important to both of you, you go out of your way to try and make one another comfortable and at ease. Both of you, in fact, feel very threatened by interpersonal conflict and you sometimes avoid confronting the more thorny problems or underlying differences in your emotional natures, however.

Cancer wants and needs security, reassurance, a home, a sense of belonging, close family ties. Cancer needs to be needed, is inclined to smother loved ones, and may be more of a mother or father than lover to Libra. Libra, on the other hand, wants a romantic partners more than a parent. So differences may arise regarding loyalties to family (Cancer) versus giving time and attention to the two of you as a couple (Libra).

Also, Cancer is often more emotional and "irrational" than Libra, who is usually more even, cool-headed, and reasonable than Cancer is.

You are inclined to become very annoyed with each other over minor differences. Irritations over small differences of opinion and a tendency to be inconsiderate towards each other can make you both feel uncomfortable. These annoyances are not likely to lead to major upsets or seriously threaten the stability of your relationship, but they are a nuisance. You must learn to respect the differences in your temperaments and personal habits, and strive to be aware of each other's needs.

You enjoy going out together and you will develop a love for the same friends, groups, and social activities. As a couple, you are outgoing and friendly, and will meet lots of new people and share many new experiences together.

You may join clubs and associations or spend many leisure hours at your favourite haunt. Catching up with others, brings a lot of meaning and satisfaction to you both. Lots of social exchange, chit-chat, gossip and fun times are your cup-of-tea.

Circumstances develop so that the two of you become very active together in community affairs, socialising, or political/social action. Together the two of you explore many s

Yikes!

He is what I would call clingy! One thing you shouldn't do if you want to keep seeing him is allow him to tell you who you can or cannot be friends with. That is SUPER controlling and if he can't deal with you being friends with a man you have known 20yrs (him only 3 weeks) you need to lay down the law!

I mean honestly, if you two wanted to get something going, I imagine it would have been before now!

If you continue to give into him especially this early, he will become even MORE controlling and I don't think you want that. Don't be a Libra and go with the flow...tell him to back off and if he doesn't...YOU back off. He'll either understand you mean business and chill out or you will move on to greener pastures.

CL/CM2

READ THIS VERY CAREFULLY IT SAY'S IT ALL !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The differences are thus: Libra is more objective, rational, and fair compared to Cancer, who is subjective, emotional, and biased by personal sympathies and loyalties. Though seemingly sympathetic, Libra can be surprisingly cool and intellectual when problems arise between the two of you. Cancer responds very personally and emotionally. Libra needs more communication and conversation than Cancer seems to...

Both of you try very hard to please and accommodate people, especially your love partner, and you are both very sensitive to others' approval and opinion of you. Because harmony in your personal life is so important to both of you, you go out of your way to try and make one another comfortable and at ease. Both of you, in fact, feel very threatened by interpersonal conflict and you sometimes avoid confronting the more thorny problems or underlying differences in your emotional natures, however.
Cancer wants and needs security, reassurance, a home, a sense of belonging, close family ties. Cancer needs to be needed, is inclined to smother loved ones, and may be more of a mother or father than lover to Libra. Libra, on the other hand, wants a romantic partners more than a parent. So differences may arise regarding loyalties to family (Cancer) versus giving time and attention to the two of you as a couple (Libra).

Crazy,crazy stuff it's only been three weeks.Honestly,those types are the ones to blame whenever I refer to cancers wanting too much too fast,that stuff gets on my nerves.And the testing that they do at those WAY to early stages,ya know I don't even know if I even like them yet,so how is someone supposed to pass those tests when they don't want to or chose not to play along because it would be a lie at that time.