Pisces Man Extremely confused about this Cancerian

I met this cancerian women at work about a year ago. At the time I was her boss so i didn't act on anything even though i found her very attractive, smart, and mature. So anyways She started to snapchat me when i wasnt at work with her telling me she missed me. This started about december so 7 months or so ago. Thats about the Time we started texting all the time. At first she was talking to me every day without hesitation and would text me back within minutes. Anyways, There was a birthday party for a mutual work friend one night, She told me she was going to this and told me she was hoping that i would be there and that she wanted me to dress nice so she could see how i looked. So i did just that. At the time no one at work knew about us talking. So anyways my friend who is a girl and works with both of us, needed a ride home because she had been drinking So i took her home. About 5 mins after dropping my friend off i get a text from The cancerian woman. She texted me and was telling me that she though i was fucking my friend. I told her that was not happening considering she was married and i was also friends with her husband. Anyways immediately after tell her that she tells me she has to tell me something important and that she is worried to tell me because she thinks i will be mad. I told her i wouldnt be and she started acting kind of funny in telling me that she was driving home kinda fast and acting kinda crazy. I got a text from her a bit later when she got home explaining that she was recently dating this guy (Well Call him bob). She said she was dating this guy bob for about 7 months and that she recently had sex with him but she was done talking to him because he was an ass hole to her. I told her it was fine and i didnt care as long as she was done with him because there was nothing i can do about a past boyfriend of hers. I also told her though at that point that i wanted to be the only one she was talking to if we were going to continue talking and flirting, she said she was completly done with that guy and that its not a problem for her. I also hung out with her a bit before that alone and I took her to movie and then we went back to my place and cuddled in my room and watched tv. we didnt hook up or kiss or anything. and also we hung out once and she went christmas shopping with me. I was going to get her a small cute gift she mentioned in conversaiton and she saw it on my christmas list and got really weird about it and told me to not ge

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gift she mentioned in conversaiton and she saw it on my christmas list and got really weird about it and told me to not get her a gift. I thought it was a good idea because she said earlier at work she wanted me to join the secret santa at work because she had a really good gift idea for me so since we were talking and flirting at that point i thought it was a cute idea. she seemed to get weird about it.

So anyways we texted everyday but by this point i hadnt seen her in about a week or so. she mentioned she wanted to take things slow so i didnt think much about it. She freaked out on me once about the age difference, shes 18 and im 27, another reason why i stayed away at first. Anyways she was going on vacation over christmas, the night she was leaving was my buddys going away party. I went to that because i honestly didnt think she would want to hang out considering she kept telling me no for 2 week prior. about 3 days into her trip i was texting her and she told me that she was sad that she didnt get to see me the night before she left and she said it was because she was "tryna to fuck" I asked her what made her think we were ready to take that step and she said she doesnt give a shit about steps.

She came back from vacation and i tried to hang out with her considering she mentioned she was mad she didnt get to see me before she left. She wouldnt hang out with me no matter how hard i tried. She gave the the excuse of the fact that she is stressed or the fact that she didnt want to complicate things with work or the age difference, but she was still texting me everyday all day for literally 3 months. I asked her a couple time withinin that 3 months what she was looking for and she said shes just too stressed for a relationship right now and she didnt want to complicate the work thing. I didnt text her one day and the next day at work she kept asking me who i was texting whenever i would have my phone out(i send alot of emails at work) i thought she was playing around with me so i didnt really answer her. she then procedded to distance herself after that and wouldnt text me barely at all. and when i asked about it she would tell me that i was over anylizing everything and that i need to stop. I said ok. I asked her what i thought was a normal question at that point of 3 months of talking and having an at work relationship but no contact outside of work and she turned it around and made me feel like i was being crazy. It really hurt me.

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to try and wrap this up quicky but basically. I went to a concert at a night club in march as well and i snapchatted alot of pictures and she was watching my story i guess all night. There were girls in my picture but she knows i have alot of girl friends and i have told her she doesnt have to worry about any of them. There just friends. she mentioned it the next day kinda oddly saying, i got to watch all your snapchatts last night while i was at hope. it was hard to tell if she was mad but she definetly wansnt happy about it. i could tell. I didnt say anything about them to her and figured she was just being jelouse and would get over it. and at the time i was didnt think anything of it and realized it a week or so later that she was probably mad when she was distancing herself right after.

Anyways ever since then she has been intentionally making me jealous by telling my best friends at work that shes dating someone else at work, but when i would ask her about it she would say i dunno were not dating just talking sometimes. we just friends blah blah blah. Come to find out she never hung out with any of them. anyways to wrap this up. She went to to cali about 3 week ago and she didnt say with whom. (she actually mentioned this the first time she got back from her vacation in december) come to find out she was there with bob from earlier in the story. Now the weird thing she talks to my best freidns at work as their her own so she knows what gets back to me and what doesnt. and even my friends are exteremly confused and they dont know whats going on really. so she snapchatted that bob is her "boo" now and i ended up deleting her off snap chat. She got really weird about me deleting her and that same day(im not even sure how she noticed so quickly it was literally 3 hours after i deleted her) she sends me a text freaking out on me for deleting her on snapchat and said im being childing when i told her i dont feel like seeing her and her new boo on snapchat in california. She said she never said she was going to date me and that im being childish and she also mentioned that she never even told bob she was going to date him either and that i need to control my feelings even tho she intiated the conversations. She ended the conversaition saying she didnt want to talk about it anymore. I didnt respond. I dont work with her anymore as of this past sunday because i moved to different store in the company a couple miles away. We had that last fight last week a

lthough i didnt try either. my friends say ever since I deleted her off snapchat she hasnt put any pictures of the guy bob. Although she has sent them directly to the friends of mine and they say its weird because non of the pictures shes taking with him he is aware of, the guy bob is either asleep or has his back turned to the camera. before this shes never posted this kind of stuff ever even before we were dating and she was dating this guys the first time. Its also weird because i found this guy bobs facebook and she just became friends with him recently. Shes not posting the pictueres on instagram because she knows i can still see those pictures. Also one of the pictures was a meme of a girl and guy in bed and the words said when your just tryin to cuddle and all she wants to do is fuck. Which was 3 days after we fought and i told her this is bull shit that she mad me her side guy while bob was being an ass hole. Shes playing into my worst fears and its fucking devastating, I still want to be with her because i dont even believe this guys really exist in the sense that shes making it seem and my friends who are friends with her too say the same thing. I dont know why she is messing with me on purpose like this. she said she just wants to be friends but then everyone of her actions say the opposite and then when i ask her about it she makes me sound crazy again. and then i back off and she find some way to pull me back in but keep me at arms length. Shes also been telling both my friends in the last month how she wishes she was older so she could date me and also telling me shes abstinate for no reason but then with bob out of the blue with no fore warning. nothing she says ever adds up to make sense and all her actions tell me is that she loves me and is scared but honestly at this point shes got me so confused i have no idea!!! PLEASE HELP!!!

side note as well she still at this point tried to be around me at work and do thinks that are alike me. I starting smoking cigerettes again and ive never seen her smoke once and she is always taking drags off my friends cigs in front of me now. she also asked me if she could come to colorado with me about 2 weeks ago and i said yes. but was confused why she wanted to go honestly, she hasnt mentioned it since. please help What do i do? does she like me? why is she giving me so many mixed signal? and why after 7 months she still doesnt trust me enough? im so confused, Ive done

@kodak375 Well yeah thats what shes made it seem like but nothing she actually says add up. I dont know if i believe this guys is really her boyfriend or if shes even dating him. She has spelled his name 2 different ways and weve never been able to find his profile on facebook or anything and now shes speeling it a different way and this guy she just became friends with on facebook no more than a couple week ago.

Exactly, y u gettin twisted over an 18 year old, she sounds retarded lol

I've thought of that Kodak but it just doesn't seem like it though. It seems as if I've hurt her somewhere and she's been distancing herself ever since.

Sounds like she's young and learning how to love but struggling with immaturity. Looks like she has a hard time telling you she likes you and asking for what she wants and she's likes you enough to be possessive of you-for a cancer woman to act like this I will say she loves you. At first it looks like a power move but when I kept reading I think she I just young and she's trying to learn how to be with a older man. When your young like that and haven't really been on too many relationships the person could be having a hard time being a adult and communicating like one. Maybe not so immature more naive then anything. She needs a good example of what it feels like to be with a man. How old is bob?I don't think she's trying to hurt you though. This is something that comes with being young and stupid. She's learning boundaries. That's why she took the pictures down. She probably didn't see anything wrong with them being up because she might think bob is just my friend and that's it so why not have pictures of him. I think bob wants her romantically but she doesn't want bob. I think she looks at bob like a friend. But I do think she was hurt and she was giving into bob when she felt you were giving into your friends. The same way you feel about her and bob is the same way she feels about you and your friends. And that's why she doesn't trust you. It might not seem logical to you but women can be sneaky AS HELL AND PSYCHOTIC and sometimes they just want to ruin a good thing going so she probably got insecure because of it. Especially if your friends are you're age and she has insecurity because of the age difference. She might think you see her as a immature little kid that you just want to fuck from time to time instead of really commit to and spend your time with. I doesn't loon like she's fucking anybody but she's probably exploring but she probably can't get over you so now it's a a relationship with deep love but no trust. Me and my ex had about a 10 year difference and we started talking around when she was 18 and it was wild at first because she was young and wild and I didn't know how to deal with it but I reacted off it by acting like a ass and she eventually stopped looking at me romantically. But when I learned to talk to her on a friend level I learned she wasn't as wild as I thought. She was wild but not wild with as many people as I thought. Looks are deceiving. When I thought she was partying every night back in college it was stressing me out. S

Looks are deceiving. When I thought she was partying every night back in college it was stressing me out. She really wasn't. She was studying consistently and working on her nonprofit-that she never told me about till later-and only wildin out on weekends. Because of all her admirers I always thought she actually gave all these people the time of day. But when i put myself in the never date or take seriously list I got to see what all her admirers got from her--only little snap conversations on social media or out a parties here and there but never a actual date or actual sex or actual hanging out. She only gave that privilege to some and just left a string of hurt admirers always thirsty for her attention. I thought she acted like this because she was immature and vindictive. But when she opened up to me when she was more comfortable with me as a friend instead of a lover I can see it was because she was naive and didn't know how to tell her admirers-no ahe don't want and never will date them or have sex with them. Instead she just trying to be polite and that used to always get her into shit with pushy men. Still does. Especially older men. But maybe you can introduce her to the friends or give her more reassurance. I wish I could go back in time and know what I know now back then.

Did you have sex yet?

Lol yea I did always do. But least I'm trying to give real advice. People come on here looking for you to give advice from looking at their whole story. I look at the whole person and I use my ex as a reference.

Lol. If I get least 10 people to tell me to stop I will. I'm just going through a depression right now.

KODAK 😉 standing ovation!!! bravo!!!

JEEZUS FUCKING CHRIST!!!!

Seriously you grown ass 27 year old man has his balls in a bunch over an 18 year old?
Man leave this child alone.

You will always be confused by a teenage girl.
Their mind works differently and is less evolved than a grown woman.
Find yourself a woman closer to your own age and stop dipping from the playground.

Well Jmoney3939, Speaking as a cancer female she is young and I think is intimidated by your age. you can try to prove yourself over and over that you won't hurt her, and she wants to believe it but she can't, she's afraid of being played. With that being said I'm a cancer but she is crazy! She needs a lot of growing to do. However, I do get her jealousy because I get the same way when I see my man talking to some other girl.even if they are platonic friends I still feel a little jealous and possessive. I digress, coming back to you,Jmoney3939 your cancer girl doesn't trust you. But these things take time. You're very analytical btw. Relax.

Posted by Kodak375
Give him a break, hes a hopeless romantic! lol The crab women are tough cookies

Sometimes tough love is the best love.
Sounds like a frustrating relationship.
Just trying to save him the trouble.