@Shaniajam
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PLEASE HELP!
Posted by Shaniajam
Checked cancer Facebook (yeah I do it twice a day) check Taurus traits for breakups and since I'm double sun and moon Taurus I'm a stalker until I get over it. Don't judge me cause I'm still healing and I've minimized it to once a day now so it's getting better. Well I'm sure cancer knows I check it. So the 8 months one posted:Sometimes I sabotage my relationships because I'm scared or getting hurt again. You be in your feelings and I be out my body.
I almost liked, and texted him. I know he's trying to reel me in!!! I'm on 30 day no contact (14 days passed) but I'm not trying to play games I also don't want the same thing happening again. Should I just wait till he contacts me? I'm still healing and focussing on me and not following his mood. I'm sure he's watching me. HELP!
Oh this is after I posted that I hate that I'm so picky in relationships and the way i carry myself and I can take the easy way out and fuck up my name but then I think to do it the right way. I think he was stopping me but I was only deep in thought. Seriously.
You know I like the stalkerish types. Can you cook? Wait you're a taurus, dumb question. Can you share food with others? lol
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Lmaooo anything but my fries ‚‚‚ and that didn't help lmaoooo...now I'm hungry lol
Posted by Arielle83
Are you an obsessive person?
No.
Possessive? Yes but because I know I do it I try to ease off...it's not always easy. However I've never been this intense with any lover until him. No idea why.
OMG. Shan, I think you have to help yourself. If that is taurus moon issues. well, I don't know how to help you. I see Stihl46 in you - cancer sun with taurus moon. 😆.
I am glad I have cancer moon. lol. My cancer man has a cap moon. We are good.
Posted by Arielle83
You must know why?Is he indifferent?
Vague?
Good sex?
Good looking?
Good job?You have to know!
Yes he's handsome yes the sex is great like an unspoken language...we have the same beliefs he gets me ..he knows what I'm thinking and if in ok or not without telling him. He watches me... I've caught him and then he looks away...his mood makes me chreeeeeeese. His silence makes me humble. I've met him in my dreams but thought he didn't exist... I know it sounds crazy but never have I felt that now o wonder if I was ever in love until now? That is all.
Posted by M143
OMG. Shan, I think you have to help yourself. If that is taurus moon issues. well, I don't know how to help you. I see Stihl46 in you - cancer sun with taurus moon. 😆.I am glad I have cancer moon. lol. My cancer man has a cap moon. We are good.
I swear sometimes I was meant to be a cancer. Lol too much emotions sh i t lol
Posted by Arielle83
You must know why?Is he indifferent?
Vague?
Good sex?
Good looking?
Good job?You have to know!
Yes he's handsome yes the sex is great like an unspoken language...we have the same beliefs he gets me ..he knows what I'm thinking and if in ok or not without telling him. He watches me... I've caught him and then he looks away...his mood makes me chreeeeeeese. His silence makes me humble. I've met him in my dreams but thought he didn't exist... I know it sounds crazy but never have I felt that now o wonder if I was ever in love until now? That is all.
Ya you want all of the above. Get off social media and tell him to get in your bed.
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Lmaooooo. Damn. ‚‚‚‚ thanks
ok. what is his moon?
Posted by M143
ok. what is his moon?
Leo moon
Posted by Arielle83
You must know why?Is he indifferent?
Vague?
Good sex?
Good looking?
Good job?You have to know!
Yes he's handsome yes the sex is great like an unspoken language...we have the same beliefs he gets me ..he knows what I'm thinking and if in ok or not without telling him. He watches me... I've caught him and then he looks away...his mood makes me chreeeeeeese. His silence makes me humble. I've met him in my dreams but thought he didn't exist... I know it sounds crazy but never have I felt that now o wonder if I was ever in love until now? That is all.
Ya you want all of the above. Get off social media and tell him to get in your bed.
Lmaooooo. Damn. ‚‚‚‚ thanks
How else you going to satisfy your craving.
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I do crave him though ³³©‚‚
Posted by M143
ok. what is his moon?Leo moon
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Oh no. Fire and Earth. I don't think it's compatible. Do you have cancer placement in your chart? or him taurus in his chart?
Find water moon. You don't find yet your soulmate. I had ex taur with virgo moon so far he is into me - water and earth moon. good match though.
I find taurus folks hard to move on. Specially you Shan. It's killing you. double taurus with a taurus moon. arrggh. heavy.
I make myself guilty of sometimes checking Linkedin to see if he switched jobs. Now he even posted there "looking for a greater challenge - position 1, position 2, etc" = "help me i need a new job"
Posted by M143
I find taurus folks hard to move on. Specially you Shan. It's killing you. double taurus with a taurus moon. arrggh. heavy.
It's true.. Which is why I put the No contact in place. Before diving into moons I was going off of Suns or I probably wouldn't have fell.
Posted by BlackMamba
Who stopped contacting who? A Leo moon will never ever call unless they really must, but generally we don't. Fear of rejection. Pride.
I know. I broke it off after he said he didn't want a relationship! I know he was lying but he just explained it now in a message. He has told me he's in love with me. If I contact first...then I'm running back again. Maybe it's just time to let go. I can't bring myself to make that contact after he hurt me this time.
Posted by BlackMamba
I did all that stupid sheet for a month Virgo never came back. Five months later I was still obsessed. I finally called him. Or texted he repliedI wish I contacted him sooner! Six months of wasted time.
I understand. But I'm hurt. I poured my heart out but in a yelling emotional way and he shut down and I'm still waiting on an explanation if he'll ever care about my feelings. Has he went back and read it? Does he care to change any of it? I can't go back and go through this again it hurts too much..this time the pain is more than before. So maybe we both will never know.
I sent a message about a phone we have together waiting for response. If he does and we talk I'll propose friendship as I'm too hurt to do anything else right now. Will update if he responds. If he doesn't, this will be validation for me to move on.
Posted by Shaniajam
I sent a message about a phone we have together waiting for response. If he does and we talk I'll propose friendship as I'm too hurt to do anything else right now. Will update if he responds. If he doesn't, this will be validation for me to move on.
He replied with a no problem... Also posted more statuses that is almost coming forward and acknowledging his mistakes. ³³³ since they live in the past I'm not assuming that's for me... I'm continuing on until he reaches out now. Just glad he replied and pleasantly,
You're doing so good. Fight it!
Wait Taurus Mooners are stalkers? I'm slacking. Bahaha!
Posted by Shaniajam
Checked cancer Facebook (yeah I do it twice a day) check Taurus traits for breakups and since I'm double sun and moon Taurus I'm a stalker until I get over it. Don't judge me cause I'm still healing and I've minimized it to once a day now so it's getting better. Well I'm sure cancer knows I check it. So the 8 months one posted:Sometimes I sabotage my relationships because I'm scared or getting hurt again. You be in your feelings and I be out my body.
I almost liked, and texted him. I know he's trying to reel me in!!! I'm on 30 day no contact (14 days passed) but I'm not trying to play games I also don't want the same thing happening again. Should I just wait till he contacts me? I'm still healing and focussing on me and not following his mood. I'm sure he's watching me. HELP!
Oh this is after I posted that I hate that I'm so picky in relationships and the way i carry myself and I can take the easy way out and fuck up my name but then I think to do it the right way. I think he was stopping me but I was only deep in thought. Seriously.
I would probably try not to post too much emotional stuff...especially something that almost puts yourself down. If I read that, I would think to myself "ok you are aware that you're doing something wrong, you're voicing that you hate that you do it, so then stop doing it!"
Passive aggressiveness is never good. If you MUST use social media, do it to present a happy, fun life. Pictures out with your friends or doing something you love doing. Avoid public displays of weak emotion...you're allowed to feel those things, but no need to air it out.
If a man is going to come back into your life, he will do so when he sees a happy, smiling woman who is content on her own with her own life. No shrinking violets!
This is not healthy for you, don't go on his Facebook. I agree with other comments, you need to heal and there is no point to no contact if you still keep tabs.
Also i've never stalked (Cancer Sun, Scorp moon but Venus high degree in Gemini), I wallow in sadness and isolate myself but I never check.
Posted by Shaniajam
Checked cancer Facebook (yeah I do it twice a day) check Taurus traits for breakups and since I'm double sun and moon Taurus I'm a stalker until I get over it. Don't judge me cause I'm still healing and I've minimized it to once a day now so it's getting better. Well I'm sure cancer knows I check it. So the 8 months one posted:Sometimes I sabotage my relationships because I'm scared or getting hurt again. You be in your feelings and I be out my body.
I almost liked, and texted him. I know he's trying to reel me in!!! I'm on 30 day no contact (14 days passed) but I'm not trying to play games I also don't want the same thing happening again. Should I just wait till he contacts me? I'm still healing and focussing on me and not following his mood. I'm sure he's watching me. HELP!
Oh this is after I posted that I hate that I'm so picky in relationships and the way i carry myself and I can take the easy way out and fuck up my name but then I think to do it the right way. I think he was stopping me but I was only deep in thought. Seriously.
I would probably try not to post too much emotional stuff...especially something that almost puts yourself down. If I read that, I would think to myself "ok you are aware that you're doing something wrong, you're voicing that you hate that you do it, so then stop doing it!"
Passive aggressiveness is never good. If you MUST use social media, do it to present a happy, fun life. Pictures out with your friends or doing something you love doing. Avoid public displays of weak emotion...you're allowed to feel those things, but no need to air it out.
If a man is going to come back into your life, he will do so when he sees a happy, smiling woman who is content on her own with her own life. No shrinking violets!
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I needed that... Thank you I will definitely start that in motion.
Posted by CG04
This is not healthy for you, don't go on his Facebook. I agree with other comments, you need to heal and there is no point to no contact if you still keep tabs.Also i've never stalked (Cancer Sun, Scorp moon but Venus high degree in Gemini), I wallow in sadness and isolate myself but I never check.
Thank you I will try you are right it's not healthy
Posted by kissmygrits
You're doing so good. Fight it!Wait Taurus Mooners are stalkers? I'm slacking. Bahaha!
Lmaoooo
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Checked cancer Facebook (yeah I do it twice a day) check Taurus traits for breakups and since I'm double sun and moon Taurus I'm a stalker until I get over it. Don't judge me cause I'm still healing and I've minimized it to once a day now so it's getting better. Well I'm sure cancer knows I check it. So the 8 months one posted:
Sometimes I sabotage my relationships because I'm scared or getting hurt again. You be in your feelings and I be out my body.
I almost liked, and texted him. I know he's trying to reel me in!!! I'm on 30 day no contact (14 days passed) but I'm not trying to play games I also don't want the same thing happening again. Should I just wait till he contacts me? I'm still healing and focussing on me and not following his mood. I'm sure he's watching me. HELP!
Oh this is after I posted that I hate that I'm so picky in relationships and the way i carry myself and I can take the easy way out and fuck up my name but then I think to do it the right way. I think he was stopping me but I was only deep in thought. Seriously.