So into a CANCER Man. What does all of this mean?

Hi!

I need your analysis based on the fact he is a CANCER Man + Age 30

I met this guy this summer. We live in the same city and he is a coach at the gym I go to.
To start from the beginning, we went on a few dates, we ended up having sex at his place twice, it was amazing for the both of us. He would even always drive me back home after our dates. There is a serious physical attraction between us, whether we are alone together or in public (in public we are being so discrete because it's at his workplace). Then, I started getting so attached. He is a very busy man, so focused on his work and tasks and he did honestly tell me he was having a hard time organising and managing all the tasks he had to get done (work, home, taxes,...). Days past and he never had time for us to meet up again. He finishes work late, never before 9pm and earlier on the weekends, but he probably also needs free time for himself (he is also a personal coach and has another work career). So the problem started when I was contacting him too much but in a sweet way, I never realized it looked pushy. I really wanted to see him before going on holidays (it was just the beginning and I was gonna be gone for a month and a half). I may have texted him too much and he got mad. It froze me and I didn't answer back. I travelled, a month and half passed by and no news from my side or his. When I was back I tried to break the ice and make it right, which was a great idea. The only thing is now he is so into me sexually but wants casual hooks ups. He said to me "Listen I don't want to be with someone, but if you ever wanna meet up for casual hook ups, I would love to take care of you". Honestly, I loved that because I do want anything from him, to get a piece of him. And I had, myself came out of a very serious relationship 6 months ago (and little disappointing stories after my ex), so to me it sounded like an exciting plan! We haven't gotten the chance to meet up yet. We occasionally bump into each other at the gym but he still hasn't decided on a day. He has a lot to do and tasks are adding up. He did go out once or twice this week though. Does he want us to meet when he is not so exhausted to really enjoy our moment together, so he is waiting for the right time?
I send him sexy photos of me from time to time to spice things up and he loves it.

About his behaviour when I'm around at the gym. He always notices me wherever I go. He knows where I am, whom I'm talking to. The thing is he doesn't like anyone knowing about his personal life (he had told me that before). Our eyes always meet, we smile at each other. I go to him and we kiss to say "hi how are you?" acting so casual in front of everyone. He is constantly on his phone texting. When we are standing close with people around he would never make eye contact. Does it have to do with his attraction towards me? Scared to get caught? Or could it be another reason?
He is a cold person, probably shy too, doesn't talk much but at the same time likes having people around. He is sociable. I am so into him! I think of him every single day. I want to talk to him all the time. I'm stuck in my feelings for him.

Whenever another guy talks to me or stares a me at the gym, he is so aware. He would try to be discrete but I can see he is looking this way. There is one thing that got me thinking a lot this week. I was working out and there was this guy who kept looking at me, he couldn't get his eyes off me. He was actually being coached by my crush who stepped away for a few minutes (on his phone texting and waiting). Suddenly, my crush realized that the guy was staring so much he looked to see who the guy was looking at and when he saw it was me, he stopped texting and went straight to him. I kept on going with my workout but was really wondering what my crush was telling him. What do you think he was telling him? What could his sudden reaction mean?

His texting habits. I always initiate, he doesn't... probably because I don't give him time to miss me? So I decided not to text him every day. My messages aren't annoying and I never lecture him about anything. He has his freedom, he reads my messages, sometimes answers right away or after he is done with work, sometimes reads and doesn't answer when there's no question asked. It depends...

I could not tell if he's just so into me physically or he actually likes me more than that but doesn’t want the hassle of dating, was heartbroken before, disappointed before, or just doesn't have time or energy to give me more than just sex? or could he himself be confused and not really know what exactly his feelings are for me? other than the sexual part...

I would love to have your feedback and advice 🙂 I just really want to be with him whether for fun or anything else. I'm not in a hurry to settle down with anyone so I don't mind going with the flow. It’s just that I really like him and I think about him all the time.

I really like this guy and I know he does too but I’m getting mixed signals. His looks sometimes say “I want you” and other times “I like you”.
Could a Cancer man be avoiding a relationship by putting himself in that position (sex but no dating), to protect his feelings?


Thanks!

I have stopped texting him for 2 days now and have been focusing on myself. I feel great and productive! My phone is away and I only check it when I'm free.
I bumped into him yesterday, he gave me those beautiful smiles. And he made sure I noticed him before he left the gym.

@M00Nchild I love your analysis on Cancers. What can you tell me about this situation? 🙂

(knowing that no matter what he does I always remain smiling and joyful, sweet and polite)

"I just really want to be with him whether for fun or anything else. "

You answered yourself/ You'll be with him at least for fun. Cancers when don't care always choose fun but beware here as he'll choose to be with you for fun when it's convenient to him.

If you don't want this guy for fun .... then I'm not your adviser here as I failed myself with the cancer I know. He obviously wanted just fun, nothing else.

He doesn't want to acknowledge your sexual relationship when he's at work because it's where he pulls other women.

If he is overly friendly towards you it'll give the impression that your together and hurt his chances of getting hookups from other women.

@LadyNeptune that's what I thought but his attitude isn't that of trying to impress other women. He's always working out with the guys in the heavy weight section and coaching them, if not doing his own workout

@TaurusMarine thanks! 🙂 yeah it's hard to be in that kind of situation. For now I'm trying not to text him. I have no idea what the next step is gonna be...

Posted by Jane30
@LadyNeptune that's what I thought but his attitude isn't that of trying to impress other women. He's always working out with the guys in the heavy weight section and coaching them, if not doing his own workout

@TaurusMarine thanks! 🙂 yeah it's hard to be in that kind of situation. For now I'm trying not to text him. I have no idea what the next step is gonna be...

At least don't initiate yourself. Make yourself unpredictable and seasoned lol!

I think you are clinging to any sign you can that he might be interested/getting jealous and neglecting to accept the MAJOR signs that he is probably not to be taken serious. He sometimes responds to your messages, sometimes doesn't, he never initiates contact, he told you he doesn't want a relationship, only sex...and yet he is constantly on his phone texting. 30 year old men don't spend that amount of time texting their buddies (usually), so it's safe to assume it's another chick.

If a Cancer likes you, he will pursue you...it can be quietly, but you will know. They can be very insecure and sometimes that will come off as them not caring/brushing you aside, but I think your Cancer asserted himself already in telling you what he wanted from you, so the insecurity thing doesn't seem to be the case here. There are no mixed signals being sent, you are just translating them wrong.

I don't mean to be harsh, but he isn't interested. I wouldn't even attempt to try and change his mind about it, it's a waste of time. Maybe he is possessive and doesn't want other dudes to look at you, but it seems in this case it's more along the lines of "I don't necessarily want her but I don't want anyone else to have her either."

Find someone that deserves your sweet time and attention.