should i feel betrayed or should i feel sorry for him?

I've loved for 8 years a cancer guy.(I'm an Aries)It was the best time of my life,we were the role model couple everyone envied.Last 3 years frustrations kicked in from not knowing what we want in life,sex was bad,he was hiding I would nag him.We both ended up depressed blaiming eachother.We made plans to work abroad,I left,he stayed home depressed and even more angry.I thought at that time that I tried everything I could to help him but I failed.But in our hearts we always knew we would grow old together because it was us and then the rest of the world.Recently I found out that he has been hiding a relationship with our business coleague for over 2 years.I had a hunch but I thought he couldn't do this to me.I was devastated,I know he felt lost and confused and she was there smiling giving him free pussy.As soon as I detached from this toxic environment he cried out for my attention,he can't let me go,telling me that he only wants to fuck her,and in a few years marry me.This girl still has a long relationship with one of our best friends,all this time she was always rude to me,and now she's putting bad ideas about me into his head,which he believes most of the times.He has now very low self esteem that he can get so low to be 'the other guy',this girl is very selfish and will never give him the support he needs.I know he s a child.I'm so confused,I felt betrayed and now I feel sorry for him but I still don't know how to help him.I tell him these things,he cries and says I'm right and he will change but he never does cuz it s so comfortable to be stuck in that moment.Please shed some light into this soap opera,how do I make him realise he s in a very bad place?I just leave him hit his head?

I've loved for 8 years a cancer guy.(I'm an Aries)It was the best time of my life,we were the role model couple everyone envied.Last 3 years frustrations kicked in from not knowing what we want in life,sex was bad,he was hiding I would nag him.We both ended up depressed blaiming eachother.We made plans to work abroad,I left,he stayed home depressed and even more angry.I thought at that time that I tried everything I could to help him but I failed.But in our hearts we always knew we would grow old together because it was us and then the rest of the world.Recently I found out that he has been hiding a relationship with our business coleague for over 2 years.I had a hunch but I thought he couldn't do this to me.I was devastated,I know he felt lost and confused and she was there smiling giving him free pussy.As soon as I detached from this toxic environment he cried out for my attention,he can't let me go,telling me that he only wants to fuck her,and in a few years marry me.This girl still has a long relationship with one of our best friends,all this time she was always rude to me,and now she's putting bad ideas about me into his head,which he believes most of the times.He has now very low self esteem that he can get so low to be 'the other guy',this girl is very selfish and will never give him the support he needs.I know he s a child.I'm so confused,I felt betrayed and now I feel sorry for him but I still don't know how to help him.I tell him these things,he cries and says I'm right and he will change but he never does cuz it s so comfortable to be stuck in that moment.Please shed some light into this soap opera,how do I make him realise he s in a very bad place?I just leave him hit his head?

Mmmm I'm not sure I follow you,you mean be all cute and cuddly,fuck him and then tell him goodbye?

I get lost sometimes.I know I need to focus on me. Thank you it s so good that I opened up

Posted by paloma
Mmmm I'm not sure I follow you,you mean be all cute and cuddly,fuck him and then tell him goodbye?

No, he literally means that you should take a dump on his porch.

Funny,it takes.a while to come down to earth

Posted by paloma
Funny,it takes.a while to come down to earth

On a more serious note, the guy sounds like an idiot, find yourself a proper man. I have had fantastic relationships with Aries women, there is some other guy out there who is better for you than this douche.

For fuck's sake you better feel betrayed. Feeling sorry for somebody who is getting round house kicked by Karma is a nono as well.

Leave with your head held high and your middle finger in the air.

Yeah he's not going to change for you. He need story work on himself before he can even give to a relationship. Dont feel sorry for him. Damn right he should be crying. He ruined a good thing

Posted by BlackMamba

Posted by paloma
I get lost sometimes.I know I need to focus on me. Thank you it s so good that I opened up

Girl you know better! You're not his therapist and fuk him and his excuses. Worthless.

I'd have run him over

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LMBO!! are feisty just like busy88 your post always cracks me up

you are*

Posted by BlackMamba

Posted by paloma
I get lost sometimes.I know I need to focus on me. Thank you it s so good that I opened up

Girl you know better! You're not his therapist and fuk him and his excuses. Worthless.

I'd have run him over

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EIGHT years and still didn't marry you and then you find out he's cheating. Wow, ultimate betrayal. I'd run him over too.