Cancer Males and "stalking" tendencies?

Are they prone to do this? Like through social media, phone calls with weird numbers? Curious to know cause some pretty interesting stuff is starting to happen, lol

WTF!

Posted by incandescentcancer
WTF!

Whaaaaaaat?! 🙂

I'm just asking a question, not being mean or anything, or trying to make a jab at Cancers... I need to know!

Posted by iPootMagic

Posted by incandescentcancer
WTF!

Whaaaaaaat?! 🙂

I'm just asking a question, not being mean or anything, or trying to make a jab at Cancers... I need to know!

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What sign are you?

Idk about other cancers, but i know few cancer men who did those kind of stalking thing through my social media and such.
One of em did it in a creepy way. But they admit it eventually

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Posted by incandescentcancer
WTF!

Whaaaaaaat?! 🙂

I'm just asking a question, not being mean or anything, or trying to make a jab at Cancers... I need to know!

What sign are you?

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I am a NICE ... sweet and innocent baby jesus taurus.... 🙂

This thread literally plumbed the depths of idiocy. So, if there is a sag serial killer, one must assume it's a sag trait.

Posted by aquaglass
Idk about other cancers, but i know few cancer men who did those kind of stalking thing through my social media and such.
One of em did it in a creepy way. But they admit it eventually

Yea, it's not really in the creepy way. The status updates on the page are if "he's" trying to speak or reach out to me, lol....it's weird and hard to explain, but it definitely smells like him.

I mainly asked cause I know they have a hard time letting go. I didn't break up with him, he did with me a couple months back. And it wasnt because of anything bad or horrible. In order to heal though I havent been talking to him though he reached out a couple times. I want to, but...

Anyway. This thread wasnt meant in the negative tone that some might perceive it to be in.

My bad if it seems that way. 😢

Jusy like I associate indecisiveness with libra placements, I associate stalking behaviour with cancers.

They stalk but not in a scary or in a psychotic way. It's more done to keep you in their life indirectly even if they aren't interacting with you everyday or have disappeared from your life. It has something to do with nostalgia and holding onto things from the past or present if you mean something to them (because at some point the present will become the past)

Every cancer dude has tried to keep me in their life through social media outlets. They use your last seen status, pics, Facebook status to assess what's going on in your life and if you're doing well and that you're alive and well. Whether or not they talk to you, your silent presence on their media outlet serves as a way of them having you in their life.

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Posted by aquaglass
Idk about other cancers, but i know few cancer men who did those kind of stalking thing through my social media and such.
One of em did it in a creepy way. But they admit it eventually

Yea, it's not really in the creepy way. The status updates on the page are if "he's" trying to speak or reach out to me, lol....it's weird and hard to explain, but it definitely smells like him.

I mainly asked cause I know they have a hard time letting go. I didn't break up with him, he did with me a couple months back. And it wasnt because of anything bad or horrible. In order to heal though I havent been talking to him though he reached out a couple times. I want to, but...

Anyway. This thread wasnt meant in the negative tone that some might perceive it to be in.

My bad if it seems that way. 😢

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you are definitely not imagining things.

No, it doesn't seem that way. If someone was offended that's their problem. Cancers may act differently, but some of them act exactly the same.

Case in point: What you are talking about is happening to me right now. lol

My Cancer takes time off from talking to me, then "peeps" at me (I say that instead of stalking) through FB messenger. He used to post Snapchat stories (which everyone can see) that were specifically meant for me, but I got annoyed at that nonsense and stopped looking at them because they weren't DM's. He picked up on that quickly and stopped posting stories, and went back to direct Snaps and regular texts. Last night I was sending him a Snap and the icon turned blue and made that weird noise it makes when someone is writing to you at the same time... like for chat... he freaked and disappeared.

I mean, this is a man who will text me for one week straight and then just drop the convo and four days later act like nothing happened... all the while keeping tabs on me through social media.

We didn't speak for almost two months over the summer. Twice he put up private joke FB posts that were intended solely for me to know he was thinking about me.

I think you have to be pretty intuitive to know, but if you are, you will definitely see how they go sideways to get your attention.

This is not a young guy I'm talking about, either.

I had a Cancer friend do this, it was while we weren't talking. We were friends again and he said "I saw a pic of you w braces you looked cute etc" and pretty much let it slip lol. I only have those pics on my facebook wouldn't be surprised if he still checks now

^I disagree with that...cancers have super round about sideways ways of doing things..and its way easier to keep tabs secretly thru social media than be a grown up and do it for real.

Posted by GalOnTheCusp
No, it doesn't seem that way. If someone was offended that's their problem. Cancers may act differently, but some of them act exactly the same.

Case in point: What you are talking about is happening to me right now. lol

My Cancer takes time off from talking to me, then "peeps" at me (I say that instead of stalking) through FB messenger. He used to post Snapchat stories (which everyone can see) that were specifically meant for me, but I got annoyed at that nonsense and stopped looking at them because they weren't DM's. He picked up on that quickly and stopped posting stories, and went back to direct Snaps and regular texts. Last night I was sending him a Snap and the icon turned blue and made that weird noise it makes when someone is writing to you at the same time... like for chat... he freaked and disappeared.

I mean, this is a man who will text me for one week straight and then just drop the convo and four days later act like nothing happened... all the while keeping tabs on me through social media.

We didn't speak for almost two months over the summer. Twice he put up private joke FB posts that were intended solely for me to know he was thinking about me.

I think you have to be pretty intuitive to know, but if you are, you will definitely see how they go sideways to get your attention.

This is not a young guy I'm talking about, either.

interesting. I used to get game requests from this crab inspired man. Sometimes 10 a day. For him it was easier to communicate like that.

Then I blocked them and hes found a new way to make himself known.

Posted by Scruffles
Unless he's directly addressing you, it would be unwise to assume every post, picture, quote, song etc. he posts on any social media outlet is about you. It isn't.

Men - Cancer or otherwise - aren't like women. They don't give "hints" and speak in riddles. If a man wants to contact you, he will do so. Similarly, if a man wants you, you will know it.

Yea, I agree. I'm not going off the rails and assuming stuff like that, but this is pretty much dead on with him. On the FB page there's only been 3 stat updates. They started when I accepted the friend request, and stopped when I deleted, this was all in a matter of a day or 2.

I know it's him, lol. The stat updates are about "missing someone" and "sadness". It's like they are talking in 3rd person...it's cute and weird at the same time. But the things that are being said sound just like him. He's too old to be doing this, lol.

He has been contacting me, I just haven't been responding. He tells me he really misses me, all kinds of stuff. You can miss someone but it doesnt mean they want you back - I'm just not ready to find out what all that means. 😢 It's been almost 6 months now.

Your last statement is something I really believe in, so I guess we'll see what happens.

Posted by GalOnTheCusp
No, it doesn't seem that way. If someone was offended that's their problem. Cancers may act differently, but some of them act exactly the same.

Case in point: What you are talking about is happening to me right now. lol

My Cancer takes time off from talking to me, then "peeps" at me (I say that instead of stalking) through FB messenger. He used to post Snapchat stories (which everyone can see) that were specifically meant for me, but I got annoyed at that nonsense and stopped looking at them because they weren't DM's. He picked up on that quickly and stopped posting stories, and went back to direct Snaps and regular texts. Last night I was sending him a Snap and the icon turned blue and made that weird noise it makes when someone is writing to you at the same time... like for chat... he freaked and disappeared.

I mean, this is a man who will text me for one week straight and then just drop the convo and four days later act like nothing happened... all the while keeping tabs on me through social media.

We didn't speak for almost two months over the summer. Twice he put up private joke FB posts that were intended solely for me to know he was thinking about me.

I think you have to be pretty intuitive to know, but if you are, you will definitely see how they go sideways to get your attention.

This is not a young guy I'm talking about, either.

Thanks for that! 🙂

Yea, I'm pretty intuitive and I know I need to trust that more. I know things will be fine, I just choose to live in misery I guess, lol.

Are you guys friends or more?

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Posted by GalOnTheCusp
No, it doesn't seem that way. If someone was offended that's their problem. Cancers may act differently, but some of them act exactly the same.

Case in point: What you are talking about is happening to me right now. lol

My Cancer takes time off from talking to me, then "peeps" at me (I say that instead of stalking) through FB messenger. He used to post Snapchat stories (which everyone can see) that were specifically meant for me, but I got annoyed at that nonsense and stopped looking at them because they weren't DM's. He picked up on that quickly and stopped posting stories, and went back to direct Snaps and regular texts. Last night I was sending him a Snap and the icon turned blue and made that weird noise it makes when someone is writing to you at the same time... like for chat... he freaked and disappeared.

I mean, this is a man who will text me for one week straight and then just drop the convo and four days later act like nothing happened... all the while keeping tabs on me through social media.

We didn't speak for almost two months over the summer. Twice he put up private joke FB posts that were intended solely for me to know he was thinking about me.

I think you have to be pretty intuitive to know, but if you are, you will definitely see how they go sideways to get your attention.

This is not a young guy I'm talking about, either.

Thanks for that! 🙂

Yea, I'm pretty intuitive and I know I need to trust that more. I know things will be fine, I just choose to live in misery I guess, lol.

Are you guys friends or more?

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I have no idea what we are. We're two people who met and had a strong connection. The physical pull I feel to him is off the charts. Haven't seen him since spring.

I have my tarot cards read a lot; he keeps coming up and coming up as someone that is going to be significant in my life - I don't even mention him! But they've all continually said it will be a painfully slow process of "getting" there. It has been painfully slow, I will say that. I don't let his antics stop me from doing anything, and I don't believe we're "fated" or anything, but I will say it's enough to mess with my head. Hard to stop thinking about him when he's here then gone, here then gone... and like I said, all the while keeping tabs on me.

I see where you're trying to go, but no, not necessarily. But I deleted friend request and since deactivated my profile again - so definitely not obsessing.

But if their activity shows up on MY newsfeed, it means I can see it, no following/stalked needed. I know some people would further "investigate" and do all kinda other stuff to find out things and stalk and assume every word is about them, lol.....but I don't have that kinda time. I just go with my gut and smile about it 🙂

Yes, they do. I caught the Cancer man who broke my heart actually logging on to my Facebook account multiple times; no doubt snooping through my messages and such because he has trust issues. When they dig you, they'll follow you on social media very closely, and even Google you. For many people this kind of behavior may seem very creepy, but that isn't the Crab's intention. Cancers are often obsessive. This doesn't refer solely to people. Cancers can obsess over thoughts, past experiences, and/or every possible scenario to something that hasn't even happened yet. You name it, Cancers can obsess over it. Cancer isn't exactly the most realistic and practical sign, which isn't hard to imagine given it's the opposite sign of Capricorn, which is the most logical and practical sign. Cancers are intense. Not in the same way as fire signs, but "passionate" is one of many good descriptive words to describe the Crab.

Posted by M00Nchild
Yes, they do. I caught the Cancer man who broke my heart actually logging on to my Facebook account multiple times; no doubt snooping through my messages and such because he has trust issues. When they dig you, they'll follow you on social media very closely, and even Google you. For many people this kind of behavior may seem very creepy, but that isn't the Crab's intention. Cancers are often obsessive. This doesn't refer solely to people. Cancers can obsess over thoughts, past experiences, and/or every possible scenario to something that hasn't even happened yet. You name it, Cancers can obsess over it. Cancer isn't exactly the most realistic and practical sign, which isn't hard to imagine given it's the opposite sign of Capricorn, which is the most logical and practical sign. Cancers are intense. Not in the same way as fire signs, but "passionate" is one of many good descriptive words to describe the Crab.

Wow....so when do they stop?

I know things will be ok with us soon, I just think we have things to deal with right now, seperately.

Who says they do?

Posted by M00Nchild
Who says they do?

Wow, damn! Really? Thats interesting

Well, my friend does this.

It annoys me because to me it achieves nothing. NOTHING.

I'm very direct and to the point. If he intends on reconciliation, I want him to say it to my face. But all he does is checking me up on WhatsApp, bumping into me on the street 'accidentally' 3-4 times (but acting like he doesn't see me), and making some phone calls from unregistered numbers (he works for a company that has a lot of these) but not saying anything.

I can't read his mind. I don't know what he wants with these non-actions. All I know is that it doesn't improve our already fractured friendship.

Posted by dxgarten
Well, my friend does this.

It annoys me because to me it achieves nothing. NOTHING.

I'm very direct and to the point. If he intends on reconciliation, I want him to say it to my face. But all he does is checking me up on WhatsApp, bumping into me on the street 'accidentally' 3-4 times (but acting like he doesn't see me), and making some phone calls from unregistered numbers (he works for a company that has a lot of these) but not saying anything.

I can't read his mind. I don't know what he wants with these non-actions. All I know is that it doesn't improve our already fractured friendship.

I understand and def can relate to that. I just wonder sometimes if they have it in them to just "fight" for what they want, I know they aren't direct.
It's cool though, time will tell.

Posted by iPootMagic

I understand and def can relate to that. I just wonder sometimes if they have it in them to just "fight" for what they want, I know they aren't direct.
It's cool though, time will tell.

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I just realised that your cancer seems to be doing the same thing as well. What is it with them and weird phone numbers? What's the point? If he wants me to approach him again, well, I tried to reach out to him for the past 6 months and all I got was cold shoulder. How am I supposed to know that this time around things will be different? Because these weird phone calls, these WhatsApp time stamps etc means nothing to me. I can't read minds. If he had said "Hey, are things still okay between us?" or at least see me face to face then at least I know what he wants. But I'm not going to go out on a limb again when my attempts to do so in the past 6 months have been nothing but a waste of my time.

I want to tell him to "grow some balls" but I know he'll be offended. But at the same time, it's something he needs to know. I think what you said is the root of all their problems: they never fight for what they want. They expect the other person to do it for them. As a result, any sane person with a decent self-esteem and a desire for reciprocal appreciation has no choice but to leave them. Eventually all they'll be left behind with are doormats and yes-men who'd never challenge them.

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I understand and def can relate to that. I just wonder sometimes if they have it in them to just "fight" for what they want, I know they aren't direct.
It's cool though, time will tell.

I just realised that your cancer seems to be doing the same thing as well. What is it with them and weird phone numbers? What's the point? If he wants me to approach him again, well, I tried to reach out to him for the past 6 months and all I got was cold shoulder. How am I supposed to know that this time around things will be different? Because these weird phone calls, these WhatsApp time stamps etc means nothing to me. I can't read minds. If he had said "Hey, are things still okay between us?" or at least see me face to face then at least I know what he wants. But I'm not going to go out on a limb again when my attempts to do so in the past 6 months have been nothing but a waste of my time.

I want to tell him to "grow some balls" but I know he'll be offended. But at the same time, it's something he needs to know. I think what you said is the root of all their problems: they never fight for what they want. They expect the other person to do it for them. As a result, any sane person with a decent self-esteem and a desire for reciprocal appreciation has no choice but to leave them. Eventually all they'll be left behind with are doormats and yes-men who'd never challenge them.

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Yea, I feel you. Don't stress about it though, I don't. Whatever is meant to be will def be. Maybe that's their own little personal challenge in this life is to take chances, and/or "fight" for it or whatever it is they want, lol....idk. But I know not all Cancers are like this.

All will be well though. 🙂 I just smile at all these things he's doing, and continue to silently root for him through it all. 🙂

Posted by queencancer
I'M WATCHING YOUUUUUU. ALLLLL of you. Lol.

🙂

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I understand and def can relate to that. I just wonder sometimes if they have it in them to just "fight" for what they want, I know they aren't direct.
It's cool though, time will tell.

I just realised that your cancer seems to be doing the same thing as well. What is it with them and weird phone numbers? What's the point? If he wants me to approach him again, well, I tried to reach out to him for the past 6 months and all I got was cold shoulder. How am I supposed to know that this time around things will be different? Because these weird phone calls, these WhatsApp time stamps etc means nothing to me. I can't read minds. If he had said "Hey, are things still okay between us?" or at least see me face to face then at least I know what he wants. But I'm not going to go out on a limb again when my attempts to do so in the past 6 months have been nothing but a waste of my time.

I want to tell him to "grow some balls" but I know he'll be offended. But at the same time, it's something he needs to know. I think what you said is the root of all their problems: they never fight for what they want. They expect the other person to do it for them. As a result, any sane person with a decent self-esteem and a desire for reciprocal appreciation has no choice but to leave them. Eventually all they'll be left behind with are doormats and yes-men who'd never challenge them.

Yea, I feel you. Don't stress about it though, I don't. Whatever is meant to be will def be. Maybe that's their own little personal challenge in this life is to take chances, and/or "fight" for it or whatever it is they want, lol....idk. But I know not all Cancers are like this.

All will be well though. 🙂 I just smile at all these things he's doing, and continue to silently root for him through it all. 🙂

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I feel like saying the same thing... fight for me! This whole thing is going at a snail's pace. We talk for a week, he disappears because I've maybe called him handsome or said he looked sexy in a picture or something. I mean he freaks. He even admitted to it - he said, he thinks I don't mean it, but then if I didn't mean it, I wouldn't say it... etc. Usually I wake up the next day or a few days later to a Snapchat or text. Whenever I post something on FB, he 'happens' to log in anywhere from two to five minutes later. I think he gets notifications of my posts. He asked this summer if I did, for his posts, and I answered honestly... no. He didn't text me back after that! It's like a hamster wheel sometimes.

I know people say it can take a while but uh... my idea of

I have done all the things mentioned in the op. It's not stalking. It's detective work. We only do it because we love ourselves. It's not that I don't trust you...I don't believe you.

Posted by thecontender
I have done all the things mentioned in the op. It's not stalking. It's detective work. We only do it because we love ourselves. It's not that I don't trust you...I don't believe you.

But why do it after the breakup (he broke up with me)? I can see during or before the relationship...

Interesting.