The best way to get a Cancer to leave you alone?

I had dated a Cancer back in the fall. Thought I broke up with him, but he's calling again. How is the best way to get him to leave me alone without hurting his feelings. I tried being honest, but he doesn't seem to listen or doesn't believe me.

He's a nice guy, just not for me. He's whiny and pouty, though.

I don't want to resort to the Cap cold shoulder.

Maybe you should just tell him flat out that you'd just prefer it if you stayed friends? Make sure you emphasize the word "stay."

Tell him you just want to be friends. Or say dude buzz the fook off and leave me alone.

I've tried telling him I just want to be friends. He knows the reasons. He just won't accept them. So I guess I'm going to have to be rude. 😢 Hate that.

Just being a capricorn should be enough, but a good alternative would be to tell him you don't want to be bothered you don't want to be friends, or anything period. Even that you have a new man already.

Here is a simple solution tell him the positions of friend and boy friend have been filled, and if that doesn't get it get a restraining order 🙂 .

Thanks guys! I appreciate it.

Post to DXP about him.

Typing "HELP!!!!!!!" also seems to be effective.

Post to DXP about him.

Typing "HELP!!!!!!!" also seems to be effective.

Its your right as a woman to get bitchy, If he aint getting the point.. Tell him "Look i dont like you,your a whiney ass bitch,and i am not interested! Now go away before i throw a restraining order on your ass!" Or you can be gentler... When i am done i am done, although i just plain ignore them and block them from any social network, including my phone.. eventually they will go away

I'm just trying to ignore him, mostly. I was out with someone else and he was there (which he has a right - it was a local, public place). I never saw him. In the middle of the night I got a nasty text. Ignored it. Got another one next morning. I just said I don't have to explain myself to you. Should have still ignored it, but it ticked me off. What gets me is he left me alone for three months and is now starting this up.

I have told him I didn't want to see him anymore and why.

Posted by LeoVirgoGirl

?_ Please note: cancers are just genuanly nice and carring. Sometimes people mistake cancers kindness and carring for attraction.

So true! I am genuinely nice to anyone i meet, and sometimes people think i am hitting on them ..I'm like, uh no, i am just being nice, if i wanted you, trust me.. you would know it! LOL

Posted by CancerianGoddess

Posted by LeoVirgoGirl

?_ Please note: cancers are just genuanly nice and carring. Sometimes people mistake cancers kindness and carring for attraction.

So true! I am genuinely nice to anyone i meet, and sometimes people think i am hitting on them ..I'm like, uh no, i am just being nice, if i wanted you, trust me.. you would know it! LOL

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+1 mil , annoying isn't it?! lol

Also truecap, ignoring me only infuriates me and makes things worse. People either want me in their lives, or they don't. Once I'm done-done with you, it's ice from here on out. A lot of people don't realize that will happen, or expect for it to last but it does, and they realize it real quick when we're not our sweet and caring selves, and become ice queens or dicks.

Just be honest, and talk to him again. Find out what it is he is thinking, and what he wants. Go from there. But if you ignore him or treat him like nothing, you may not like what you get in return once he HAS backed off. But you have to be firm, and if he doesnt take to it or like it then you turn into a jerk and tell him to either get it, or take a jump.

Stop telling him you want him as a friend and start telling him you have a man already!

Casually talk with him, go along with him, out of nowhere as he's professing how much he wants another chance, say okay because I really am ready to get married and start a family or have more babies if you already have a child/kids, I always admired the woman from 19 kids and counting and dreamed of having a 5 carat ring, 1 diamond for each child, let's go look at rings this weekend and set the date hmmm 3 months from now and make arrangements with your family to contribute to our wedding, I'm so excited weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee and you can be sure he'll hang up never to call again ever.

Posted by tiki33
Casually talk with him, go along with him, out of nowhere as he's professing how much he wants another chance, say okay because I really am ready to get married and start a family or have more babies if you already have a child/kids, I always admired the woman from 19 kids and counting and dreamed of having a 5 carat ring, 1 diamond for each child, let's go look at rings this weekend and set the date hmmm 3 months from now and make arrangements with your family to contribute to our wedding, I'm so excited weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee and you can be sure he'll hang up never to call again ever.

Do NOT follow Tiki's advice here ^^^^ lol

@tikki, if he's a persistent cancerian he will do it anyway, so yah don't follow tiki LOL

LMAO!!

And to top it off, call him morning, noon and night, beg for his love, tell him you neeeeeeeed him to make you feel happy because you don't feel happy unless he's DOING things for you all the time please please please I need you desperately, 7 days a week and make sure to throw in a 3am wake up call too, don't forget to send him emails with pictures of you holding babies and your dream house and as an added bonus send him pictures of rings via text and email to ensure he get you EXACTLY what you want.

Lol Tiki! I think he would jump at the chance.

Guys, i have told him "I can no longer see you because of ...specifics...."

He argues with me "its the crappy birthday present I got you".... I said No, that was perfect. BUT, I can't see you because of ....specifics (its complicated, but I told him flat out). He brings up every silly reason, but refuses to aknowlegdge what I'm telling him.

@LeoVirgoGirl - The text was rude and vulgar, i won't say what it is, but it has to do with comparisons between the two of them...

I really, really appreciate yalls advice. I will tell him one more time EXACTLY why I can't see him. I don't want to see him and there will never be any future in it for us. And, because he acts like this, I don't even want to be friends with him.