Understanding A Cancer Man (Page 2)

Posted by rakac
Don't sen apology text,show him that you're sorry, go to his place, give a sincere apology,show you're sorry, put in effort in this, everyone can message, this doesn't prove anything, actions speak louder than words,goodluck 😉 Write a letter maybe if you're so afraid to see him, it's way better, more kind and more meaning having thing than texting a message. 😉

That's a bad idea. I'm a cancer & I won't answer if u come over uninvited even if your my mother. I went by my cancer man's home & he didn't confirm (mon he told me to come on fri) so when I got there he blew up & said hurtful crap but bc I know him I kinda laughed it off & text sorry when I left. He text me right back & was sweet. I think he realized he was an idiot.
Long story short it's very rare that popping up on a cancer will work.

If he's texting you he has some level of interest. He is also going into detail. EVERY cancer I kno men & women & myself will ignore you NMW!!!! If I so much as send back one word texts then I'm still letting you in.
It's going decent. Just not how you want

Posted by CalmCrab22

Posted by rakac
Don't sen apology text,show him that you're sorry, go to his place, give a sincere apology,show you're sorry, put in effort in this, everyone can message, this doesn't prove anything, actions speak louder than words,goodluck 😉 Write a letter maybe if you're so afraid to see him, it's way better, more kind and more meaning having thing than texting a message. 😉

That's a bad idea. I'm a cancer & I won't answer if u come over uninvited even if your my mother. I went by my cancer man's home & he didn't confirm (mon he told me to come on fri) so when I got there he blew up & said hurtful crap but bc I know him I kinda laughed it off & text sorry when I left. He text me right back & was sweet. I think he realized he was an idiot.
Long story short it's very rare that popping up on a cancer will work.

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Don't think all crabs are the same ,everyone is different,i might be wrong, but i'm sayin my thoughts on this story, as a cancer guy i might be more accurate 😉 Only sincere thing will work,if you have to force it,don't do it, he will feel it and it will not be nice 🙂 I always like to hear in person and to talk in real life,or receive some kind of letter rather then text message, i deserve that much, if someone texted me sorry i just would get pissed and wouldn't reply or would reply if you want to say something come and see me. So yeah, all cancers are different and it's your choise how you deal with it, but atleast when you go to him and do what you want you give all you can,sincere apology,and if he doesn't care or doesn't forgive or doesn't want to be with you,you will atleast know you did what you could and had courage to say it to his face and not be a puss and write a text message, he might not trust you or love you then, but you will have hi's respect, and he might become a friend when he heals ,goodluck 🙂

Posted by CalmCrab22
If he's texting you he has some level of interest. He is also going into detail. EVERY cancer I kno men & women & myself will ignore you NMW!!!! If I so much as send back one word texts then I'm still letting you in.
It's going decent. Just not how you want

Hi. Thanks for your input. I feel the same way about the texts. He could easily choose to keep me blocked out and refrain from communicating with me. But at least now i got a feel of what bothers him and that he is still deeply affected by what i did. So i am not going to text him again. I dont want to pressure him. I might just wish him good luck for his exams and thats about it. If he sees it and says thank you, then maybe it is getting slightly better. He is allowing me to communicate with him. Better a tiny bit of communication then none at all.

What do you think? If not, what other method can i try?

Posted by rakac

Posted by CalmCrab22

Posted by rakac
Don't sen apology text,show him that you're sorry, go to his place, give a sincere apology,show you're sorry, put in effort in this, everyone can message, this doesn't prove anything, actions speak louder than words,goodluck 😉 Write a letter maybe if you're so afraid to see him, it's way better, more kind and more meaning having thing than texting a message. 😉

That's a bad idea. I'm a cancer & I won't answer if u come over uninvited even if your my mother. I went by my cancer man's home & he didn't confirm (mon he told me to come on fri) so when I got there he blew up & said hurtful crap but bc I know him I kinda laughed it off & text sorry when I left. He text me right back & was sweet. I think he realized he was an idiot.
Long story short it's very rare that popping up on a cancer will work.

Don't think all crabs are the same ,everyone is different,i might be wrong, but i'm sayin my thoughts on this story, as a cancer guy i might be more accurate 😉 Only sincere thing will work,if you have to force it,don't do it, he will feel it and it will not be nice 🙂 I always like to hear in person and to talk in real life,or receive some kind of letter rather then text message, i deserve that much, if someone texted me sorry i just would get pissed and wouldn't reply or would reply if you want to say something come and see me. So yeah, all cancers are different and it's your choise how you deal with it, but atleast when you go to him and do what you want you give all you can,sincere apology,and if he doesn't care or doesn't forgive or doesn't want to be with you,you will atleast know you did what you could and had courage to say it to his face and not be a puss and write a text message, he might not trust you or love you then, but you will have hi's respect, and he might become a friend when he heals ,goodluck 🙂

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Alright thanks for your input on this. I dont know if going by right now would be a good choice cause i dont know his timing and i dont want to push it too fast. He needs to know that i respect his wishes and he did say not to come by his house. So i need to show him that i respect what he says.

Posted by Phenjx

Posted by CalmCrab22
If he's texting you he has some level of interest. He is also going into detail. EVERY cancer I kno men & women & myself will ignore you NMW!!!! If I so much as send back one word texts then I'm still letting you in.
It's going decent. Just not how you want

Hi. Thanks for your input. I feel the same way about the texts. He could easily choose to keep me blocked out and refrain from communicating with me. But at least now i got a feel of what bothers him and that he is still deeply affected by what i did. So i am not going to text him again. I dont want to pressure him. I might just wish him good luck for his exams and thats about it. If he sees it and says thank you, then maybe it is getting slightly better. He is allowing me to communicate with him. Better a tiny bit of communication then none at all.

What do you think? If not, what other method can i try?

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You're on the right track. Leave him alone for a bit. We don't react well to pushing. If you go a week with no contact there's nothing wrong with just saying something short but not manipulating him to respond. For example: "miss you" or " thinking of u" maybe a pet name or emoji... Not "do you miss me"? "When are you going to open back up"?. Pretty much no questions just simple reminder that you care & ypurpbeing patient.
However, we can turn this into a tool for our enjoyment of seeing how long you'll play the game. So don't send more than 2 simple texts spread over a week or so period of time. After that, if you don't get a response CEASE contact & wait for curio crabby to creep from his shell and look for you.

Posted by CalmCrab22

Posted by Phenjx

Posted by CalmCrab22
If he's texting you he has some level of interest. He is also going into detail. EVERY cancer I kno men & women & myself will ignore you NMW!!!! If I so much as send back one word texts then I'm still letting you in.
It's going decent. Just not how you want

Hi. Thanks for your input. I feel the same way about the texts. He could easily choose to keep me blocked out and refrain from communicating with me. But at least now i got a feel of what bothers him and that he is still deeply affected by what i did. So i am not going to text him again. I dont want to pressure him. I might just wish him good luck for his exams and thats about it. If he sees it and says thank you, then maybe it is getting slightly better. He is allowing me to communicate with him. Better a tiny bit of communication then none at all.

What do you think? If not, what other method can i try?

You're on the right track. Leave him alone for a bit. We don't react well to pushing. If you go a week with no contact there's nothing wrong with just saying something short but not manipulating him to respond. For example: "miss you" or " thinking of u" maybe a pet name or emoji... Not "do you miss me"? "When are you going to open back up"?. Pretty much no questions just simple reminder that you care & ypurpbeing patient.
However, we can turn this into a tool for our enjoyment of seeing how long you'll play the game. So don't send more than 2 simple texts spread over a week or so period of time. After that, if you don't get a response CEASE contact & wait for curio crabby to creep from his shell and look for you.

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haha... I like the way you said "curio crabby to creep from his shell"! Thank you for helping me through this time and him. Much appreciated 🙂

It's time to wait...anything you do now would be "pushing" it, pathetic and desperate. Not attractive. Aren't you in the same school? Don't you know where he's taking his exams. I mean, you could just flaunt yourself around where he's having his papers, make sure he sees you but say nothing.

You need a new friend too, laugh like you're extremely happy...He's playing a game now, win it and you'd have more hold on him.

Posted by Namy
It's time to wait...anything you do now would be "pushing" it, pathetic and desperate. Not attractive. Aren't you in the same school? Don't you know where he's taking his exams. I mean, you could just flaunt yourself around where he's having his papers, make sure he sees you but say nothing.

You need a new friend too, laugh like you're extremely happy...He's playing a game now, win it and you'd have more hold on him.

Yea I am going to wait for another 2 weeks, not counting this week to contact him again. I use to be in the same school. I have already graduated. Me going to school now on his exam week would be too obvious, and that would make me look desperate. I was thinking of wishing him good luck for his two exams.

What do you think?