what are your thoughts on a girl texting first?

If you're a girl - do you ever text a guy first when you're just starting to see each other? For instance, you guys agree that Thursday would be a good day to hang out, would you text the guy first to say what's up?

What about if you know the guy likes certain type of activities, for instance, a band. You find out they are playing in your town. Is it weird to be like 'hey! that band is coming to town!' Not asking him out in the text, but just sending an informative message.

If you're a guy - what do you think about being texted by the girl first in the above types of situations?

I guess it could apply to calling too? But I dunno anyone who still calls each other anymore? The only person I talk to on the phone now is my mom haha.

I get impatient and excited and I don't get nervous about texting a guy first, so sometimes I have a hard time restraining myself from sending them. I am not really sure how it could affect their opinion of me. I'm not like begging them to hang out or anything.. But I wonder if I should stop? Does it affect a guys opinion of me and how?

before i answer, i have a couple of questions (kind of based on your username):
1. how old are you guys?
2. what is the nature of your relationship? you say you've just started seeing one another but on what level?
3. he's a crab and you are?

btw, you should never have to remind someone you are there...if they want to hang out, they will ask. period. crabs might be indirect, but if they are interested, they will pursue you.

Ok thanks guys.

Well, I am experimenting with a few different guys that I have met recently and just wanted to see if they weer different. My main guy is a Cancer that I was with for a few months, but he moved away. We are both like casually dating people in our own towns but keep in touch everyday. He and I are both moving to SF in the next 3-6 months, so we will see what happens. I usually am the one in the morning texting him random stuff, but if I don't do anything for a day or two, he will send me a text. Right now, it doesn't matter much cause we don't see each other, but when we are both in SF, I won't know if I should just keep doing what I'm doing. We've never lived closer than an hour away from each other, but when we are in SF, I hope we can get something started again. Only thing is, there's another ex-gf of his who lives in SF! I hope he is not planning to start things up with her too!

The other guys are Leo, and a Libra. They are just whatever casual people to me, so I figured I could experiment and see what happens. I don't know much about guys. This is the first time I've ever had options so I am just seeing what happens.

I am 24 and the guys are 28-30.

I am a sun/ascendant/mercury Gem, Virgo moon, venus cancer, pisces mars. The Cancer is sun cancer, Taurus moon, cancer mercury, cancer venus, scorpio mars.

As a guy, I love it when the girl does it first. My girlfriend now is the one who initiated the texting and if it wasn't for her doing that we would have probably never gotten together. The past girl I was seeing also initiated contact

So I'd say it works. Just be certain its to a guy who values commitment in a relationship I guess, and who's the type to be devoted to one woman.

I agree with Wineaux & SqtheO

Taurus moon? If he knows you're "experimenting" with guys other than him he's gunna turn around n walk away never to come.back again... You can kiss his tail buh bye!

By experimenting, I just mean flirting and hanging out with a lot of people. I have kissed/cuddled some people but haven't done anything below the belt. He, I'm fairly certain has slept with some of the people he's dated, while I haven't. He knows, or at least I told him I haven't slept with anyone (whether or not he believes me). I've told him that I've friendzoned all the guys I've hung out with, which is true. Sometimes I'll tell him I am feeling frisky, and instead of talking to me about it, he'll say, 'uh oh, sounds like someone in your friendzone might be in trouble!' like I am finally gunna go sleep with one of them.

We were very close when we were together, and like I said still talk to each other every day. Sometimes I have little outbursts and don't talk to him for a week or so when I hear about him hanging out with a girl. He has assured me that he likes me a lot. But he does have another fomrer lady friend who lives in SF and he told me that I would 'have to accept her.' Like I have to accept that he is gunna try to hang out with her or something. yuuuccccckkk. I told him it was no big deal if they were just friends, but if he is trying to like start things up with her like he sometimes does with me, then I told him to go enjoy himself and I wouldn't wanna be anywhere near that situation because I just can't handle it.

So, he knows I like him too. I don't think I need any advice necessarily, it is just stressful since I admit I am clinging on to him and have trouble controlling my jealousy when we aren't even an item.