@coldwater
13 Years
Is your cancer a workaholic?
Is Your Cancer Partner a Workaholic
Cancers are often dedicated and caring but can become workaholics if they overcommit. Their desire to provide and nurture may lead them to work excessively, sometimes neglecting personal needs and relationships. Recognizing their need for balance is key to supporting their well-being and maintaining healthy relationships.
Posted by Acrab
This is a problem because—
+1
There will always be something to complain about when it comes to men. He works too much or he doesn't work enough. He's good with money or he's bad with money. It's always going to be either something or the other thing. In the grand scheme of things, this isn't a "bad problem" to have.
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Posted by Acrab
This is a problem because—+1
There will always be something to complain about when it comes to men. He works too much or he doesn't work enough. He's good with money or he's bad with money. It's always going to be either something or the other thing. In the grand scheme of things, this isn't a "bad problem" to have.
If there is one thing I learned it's this.. when women complain. your doing something right. when they say nothing your fucking up big time. ALSO another thing is never ask woman for advice on other women. And lastly in order to have a woman you need money and if you dont have a woman then you will have a lot more money. nuff said what what.
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"You will always lose money chasing women. You will never lose women chasing money"
careful though, women tend to snap very quickly. I would say having that attitude 70% -80% of the time would be good enough, having it 100% is when shit will hit the fan.
Yes....we finnally got a day after two weeks of him in and out. I got up showered, washed my hair, deep conditioned my hair, trimmed my hair, blow dried my hair, style d my hair, found a sexy winter outfit, switched purses, climbed thru my closet to find the perfect shoes, sprayed myself down and then woke his ass up because he had just came back from work last night. So we make plans and then head to the ATM. His boss calls and asks him if he can come back because the other guy never showed up. Now on his defense, he did tell his boss that he was gonna have lunch with me first and then come in because he never gets to see me. We had made plans for lunch and the fair. I just shake my head.....
I told him I was gonna go back on the forum and talk about him some more.
So now im sitting here, on a saturday, spent a whole of two hours with him and missing him already. He wont be home until tomorrow morning sometime. Later that same day, he will leave for two days and then return in the morning. That same night he goes back until the next morning. Then he leaves for another two days. Then friday morning hes supposed to be done. I had put his ass on a schedual, but I swear its part him part his job. "omg baby...baby...guess what happened. They have noone to cover this shift...I hope his damn ears are burning.
But I bet you this....I bet his ass came running home when I told him my taurus neighbor guy was bringing over stove top pizzas, home made lasagnes and spending over a hundred dollars on a crab boils. I swear I was waiting for the front door to get knocked down when I was in the shower and he got up to answer the door. Who was there? Mister taurus...with a arm full of crabs, potatoes, corn, sausage, shrimp, chicken,... saying how he just happened to cook extra and didnt want to waste the leftovers.
And for the record, he was sending these things thru my dad. I would come from work, thinking my dad had cooked or bought these things. Then he tells me...oh the neighbor brought this over.
Yes, im trying to adapt. I know he likes to work. He feels good when hes working. I just want him to tone things down a little. We havent been dating a long time, so I am working on a learning curve here. He does "try" in his way. He worked alot when I met him, so I cant expect him to just change overnight. I really dont want it to hinder our relationship which is why I came here to see if anyone else was having the same issue. I hope he can indeed, thru time, learn theres more treasure than a full pocket.
Posted by coldwater
But I bet you this....I bet his ass came running home when I told him my taurus neighbor guy was bringing over stove top pizzas, home made lasagnes and spending over a hundred dollars on a crab boils. I swear I was waiting for the front door to get knocked down when I was in the shower and he got up to answer the door. Who was there? Mister taurus...with a arm full of crabs, potatoes, corn, sausage, shrimp, chicken,... saying how he just happened to cook extra and didnt want to waste the leftovers.
Ehhhh, are we sure Mr. BakermanTaurus isn't the better option— 😛 What's your sign?
Far From insecure, im way too headstrong and secure to be anything like that. I dont have a need either to control anyone nor dictate how anyone runs their life. He APPROACHED ME. Now, when a man approaches a woman I am assuming that they want a relationship with her especially if said man asks her to be his gf. Now if he wanted to work himself into oblivion, well fine...but do that before you involve others, i.e kids, gf, wife, etc. Once you enter into a relationship, its not all about you anymore, but you are saying you wanna have a relationship...meaning two people who work together. Thats what I meant when I said I knew he worked alot. Now, me being his girl. I get it. I know when you work it makes you feel good. You feel like a man. I get it. All Im saying is I want to feel like a woman and better yet, a woman in a relationship, when infact I am in a relationship. I dont think Im asking alot here. Shoot if I could go to his job and help him just to spend more time right now, I would. I dont hound him about this either. Im not in his ear all day and night about it. I dont wanna stress him out about something I know makes him feel good.
Yes our relationship is new. But everyone in an relationship was new at one time. And being in a relationship youwill face many challenges. So just because you have been with someone forever, doesnt mean you wont face "new" situations together. Balance, balance, balance is the key. Trying to find it here. I am an Aquarian by the way.
Although Mr. Taurus was alot more available, I want my Cancer man. The pizza was store bought and my dad said he was a little heavy handed on the salt. I guess what Im asking is does a workaholic ever calm it down a little? When you get all the money in the world do you then sit down and rest a little? Because if so, Ill help him acheive his goals so we can sit down together.
Posted by coldwater
Although Mr. Taurus was alot more available, I want my Cancer man. The pizza was store bought and my dad said he was a little heavy handed on the salt.
Keep dangling Mr. Taurus in Mr Cancer's face... and you may not need to make a choice.
You're an Aqua, right? I like Aquas as friends.. they have a lot of acquaintances that are actually just that, acquaintances. But Cancers can be a bit jealous, especially in the beginning stages of a relationship and may react to your attempts of getting attention thru showing how desirable you are to others... by dumping your ass
Don't be jel, jel of the work ethic. My ex Aqua was kinda like that... hated that I worked so hard cause it made him feel guilty for being so lazy. ha!
not saying that's you, of course...
Perhaps you guys should plan a vacation together.
Then you can have him all to yourself.
No dangling here. I dont need to grab his attention by dangling other men in front of his face. I didnt have to go that route to get him and I dont need to go that route to keep him. I simply told him what was going on while he was off working. As ive stated before, my dad said it was salty, meaning I didnt eat it. I am very honest with him as I am sure anyone would be with their mates. Id tell him if his best friend was coming over too while he was away. I did have a talk with Mr. Taurus and my dad about things. I just cut the conversation short when he insisted on cooking the crabs or giving me money to help out.
I think the vacation idea is a good one. He just got home this morning and has to go out tonight. Im gonna go lay with him in the bed just to spend some time with him. Hell be sleep because hes tired but sigh...its time.
I told him I was gonna come on here and talk about him. He is interested in the comments and peoples views on it. I think it helps too defuse the situation and sets up a good tone in our relationship. It opens up our communication. Some of you guys might say things that he himself might be scared to bring up. He can also see it from my point of view too and see its not just me or my way of thinking. On his way back to work we can discuss the different ideals.
Posted by coldwater
But I bet you this....I bet his ass came running home when I told him my taurus neighbor guy was bringing over stove top pizzas, home made lasagnes and spending over a hundred dollars on a crab boils.
^^^^^^^ this isn't dangling? come on... not even a little?
I told him I was gonna come on here and talk about him. He is interested in the comments and peoples views on it. I think it helps too defuse the situation and sets up a good tone in our relationship. It opens up our communication. Some of you guys might say things that he himself might be scared to bring up. He can also see it from my point of view too and see its not just me or my way of thinking. On his way back to work we can discuss the different ideals.
Cool! I'm such a voyeur...
Promise to be honest and tell us what he really says? We'll know if you're lying.. mmmmhuuuwwaaaaaa!
So im in the car talking to him and reading these posts and we get to the one i talk about my hair. The one i desribe me getting ready for our date. Hes like why u keep talking about your hair? You spend fifty sentences describing your hair. Im no where in this post. I said yes u are in the last few sentences at the bottom. Hes like u spend fifty sentences on yourself. Im like huh? Hes like this is supposed to be about me. Huhhhhh
why are you telling us about your hair? if it isn't about this thread... who cares?
Sorry I was on my phone. Yes i was reading him the posts. I got to the one where i was saying i was getting ready. Aurora was right...i wrote that to paint a pic of the time i put in for prep. He totally missed all of that, the whole meaning of the posts. All he got stuck on was why you spending so much time talking about your hair.
So I stopped after that. He got so sensitive. Hes like this is about me and all you are talking about is your hair. So i asked him what his point was, was he calling me shallow? Hes like no im just saying you spent fifty sentences talking about your hair.
I guess its not necessary to share everything. I can imagine getting to the other posts. Dear goodness.
Posted by aurora
It takes time to do all of those stuff she mentioned about here hair. And time is the topic so... 🙂
really? oh snap.. guess I missed it too, lmao!!!
Yes, so I guess aquarians and cancers are very different. I like to have a friend and mate all in one. I guess sometimes it is easy to forgot they are the opposite sex. I like to be able to sit down and have intense, open and honest discussions and allow freedom of expression.
No I dont think he has dated alot. Hes been in two long term relatiionship. He got married young.
Posted by coldwater
I like to be able to sit down and have intense, open and honest discussions and allow freedom of expression.
i am a woman! i swear,lol! but i guess there is a reason i seem to 'get' guys and generally have good communication with them
The thing is Aqua, you were not being open and honest. You told your bf that the thread was about him... when HONESTLY you wanted to talk about you and the effort you put into doing your hair.. FOR him. I think there is a difference there and a Cancer will pick up on it.
This iss soooo not about my hair.
A relationship brings about changes. Who wants to be in a relationship where someone is stagnant and non changing. Nothing remains the same. Being in a relationship means you are inviting someone from another walk of life with different experiences into your life. That right there is a change because you are moving from single to non single. Dont be afraid of change, embrace it. Now you can try to change things at your own pace. Maybe you and your partner can dictate how fast you change. i.e grow together. Being stuck and rigid will get you nowhere but alone.
I appreciate his work ethic I really do. I am looking out for him too. If he gets sick, or falls asleep driving home or something else what then? Id feel bad if I didnt at least tell him, look you need a break. Nothing is worth your life.
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Time unknown
Sun Cancer 27.13
Moon Virgo 10.09
Mercury Leo 17.13
Venus Gemini 14.34
Mars Gemini 1.41
Jupiter Gemini 23.56
Saturn Leo 17.20
Uranus Scorpio 7.41
Neptune Sagittarius 13.43 R
Pluto Libra 11.39
Lilith Gemini 9.48
Asc node Libra 18.51
I dont know the time he was born
Posted by coldwater
This iss soooo not about my hair.
I sooooo know that. Then why don't you tell me what was the significance of showing that thread to your bf and telling him it was about him?
Was it not to demonstrate the time and effort you put into looking nice for him? That is about you, is it not?
It is just different communication style s but please don't try to tell me I am missing the point, then fail to tell me what the point is..
may I ask what your mercury is?
Pluto in Capricorn ?
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Aquarius 13.22 Ascendant Virgo 26.46
Moon Pisces 15.17 II Libra 22.37
Mercury Capricorn 23.22 R III Scorpio 22.51
Venus Capricorn 9.35 IV Sagittarius 26.16
Mars Gemini 15.45 V Capricorn 29.49
Jupiter Aries 19.28 VI Pisces 0.23
Saturn Cancer 28.24 R VII Pisces 26.46
Uranus Scorpio 7.06 VIII Aries 22.37
Neptune Sagittarius 13.30 IX Taurus 22.51
Pluto Libra 11.37 R Midheaven Gemini 26.16
Lilith Aries 10.25 XI
Heres mine
I was reading the posts for him starting from the beginning. When i got to the one the referenced my hair is where I lost him. I had to stop reading at that point because all he could focus on was my reference to my hair.
My mercury is in capricorn
Gonna ride with him to work....ill be back.
What do you think of my idea about taking a short vacation? Even if it's at a B&B downstate.
I think its a great idea. Ill start with a nice one day excursion. He wants to get his christmas shopping done so nothing too over the top. Id just be content with a quiet day together. When i plan this he will need to tell his job hes doing somethings on his days off. I know it sounds ridiculous but for now its the way towards compromise.
^^^I understand hair drama!
That explains a lot. I am obsessed with my hair. And other peoples too.
It's thick, long and hard to tame too.
You should see all the products I have bought over the years.
I've even created and now sell my own haircare products. LOL
Thanks. Im sitting here surfing the net. I asked him for some sweats, teeshirt, and socks to wear while he is gone. I even lifted some of his cologne. Not only do I look like a man now, I smell like one too. All this freedom of movement and room....could get used to this. Hes back at work, but I'm ok.
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My workaholic cancer boyfriend just left for work..... again!!! The man doesnt know how to work one job like normal people. He actually only has one, but the time he puts in it still counts as two. He cant say no to overtime. Whahhhhhh...I wanna cuddle. If you get some downtime and happen to see this at work babe, bring your ass home.
P.S. stop and pick me up some turtles on your way home.