@sweet_cancer
9 Years
What can I do? My sensitivity is making me lose hope in relationships!!
As a Cancer woman I'm extremely sensitive, especially in relationships.
This guy that I've known for a while confessed that he liked me. I never gave him a chance because I wasn't sure about him at first because I don't trust easily but now we chat every day. He seems cool so I decided to get to know him more.
We agreed on going out on a first date but the day before he cancelled because something came up. I was super sad and started having doubts about him. He apologized, took me out for another date and treated me like a princess. And he continued treating me very well every day and told me how much he liked me and wanted to be my boyfriend. He bought me chocolates, a rose, took me to the fair and it was really special.
We planned on going out again but he works on the weekends and has a busy schedule. So he messaged me telling me that he wasn't sure if he was going to be able to see me. I started getting emotional and sad again and now I have all these negative thoughts in my head. I told him "I really wanted to see you but I understand is not easy for you". So I pretended it was ok but inside I feel like shit. I'm sensitive to the point that I'd rather not risk loving a guy to get hurt in the end.
It might sound dramatic but I feel like I'm going to end up alone. Anything small like not seeing the guy I like makes me sad. Even if he has reassured me that he likes me and has done so much for me.
Am I normal? I don't know how to not let these stupid things affect me.
Yes you're normal.
The fact that you see the problem and understand your emotions is a good start. Many times ppl will make threads blaming the man for working to much and blah blah.. I've done it.
The best thing you can do in my opinion is find something positive to occupy your time. Do things that make you happy or something that you always wanted to do.
Improve yourself physically and mentally if you feel you need it.
Another thing you can do is take your time.. most men are overly nice and sweet during the dating stage.. so take your time to make sure you too are genuinely compatible. Don't be a b!!tch but don't give a man all of your power.
No bytch this isn't NORMAL get a life a hobby something
Bitch! Are you talking to me? Lmao
Yes, u are a normal healthy water sign.
They all do this
Yes, u are a normal healthy water sign.
They all do this
Yuck
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Stop acting like ur main hobby isnt kisses & hugs
Yes, u are a normal healthy water sign.
They all do this
Yuck
Stop acting like ur main hobby isnt kisses & hugs
I hate ppl touching me. What emotional vampires do u hang out with?
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The kind that want lots of kisses
Yes, u are a normal healthy water sign.
They all do this
Yuck
Stop acting like ur main hobby isnt kisses & hugs
I hate ppl touching me. What emotional vampires do u hang out with?
The kind that want lots of kisses
So you’re equally guilty of being an orally needy freak.
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I dont need kisses, but i love them 😊
Yes, u are a normal healthy water sign.
They all do this
Yuck
Stop acting like ur main hobby isnt kisses & hugs
I hate ppl touching me. What emotional vampires do u hang out with?
The kind that want lots of kisses
So you’re equally guilty of being an orally needy freak.
I dont need kisses, but i love them 😊
You're a softie
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Im just joking jeez
Yes, u are a normal healthy water sign.
They all do this
Yuck
Stop acting like ur main hobby isnt kisses & hugs
I hate ppl touching me. What emotional vampires do u hang out with?
The kind that want lots of kisses
So you’re equally guilty of being an orally needy freak.
I dont need kisses, but i love them 😊
You're a softie
Im just joking jeez
The secret is out
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I know how to love too
😈
No bytch this isn't NORMAL get a life a hobby something
Bitch! Are you talking to me? Lmao
are you debilitated cause a man has to go to work on the weekend instead of hanging out with you?
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No! Oh...that shit? No. Lmao
Yes, u are a normal healthy water sign.
They all do this
Yuck
Stop acting like ur main hobby isnt kisses & hugs
I hate ppl touching me. What emotional vampires do u hang out with?
The kind that want lots of kisses
So you’re equally guilty of being an orally needy freak.
I dont need kisses, but i love them 😊
You're a softie
Im just joking jeez
The secret is out
I know how to love too
😈
you're cute .
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I know 😊
Yes, u are a normal healthy water sign.
They all do this
Yuck
Stop acting like ur main hobby isnt kisses & hugs
I hate ppl touching me. What emotional vampires do u hang out with?
The kind that want lots of kisses
So you’re equally guilty of being an orally needy freak.
I dont need kisses, but i love them 😊
Hoe
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Your daddy
Oh my lord girl lol
I mean, you are too much. Hear me that, you will be fine. What I want you to do is to stop overreacting, like really. That loser I've been seeing, tried to bounce back after almost 2 weeks of silence, in hopes of getting laid (Imo)
After I suggested that he takes me out and we are gonna have a conversation about "us" - he bailed 😄 Pretended to be offended. Now do I give a damn?? absolutely not lol. That time off was really necessary for me, I see things lot more clearly now and until he changes his shitty behavior and comes to his senses he's not getting anything from me. Nothing and I mean N O T H I N G !!!
Why all that negativity in your head? Wake up girl, get a life and cut some slack to that poor guy, he's trying his best after all, smh
Ps: I just wanted to add.. if he starts acting like a fux n!!gga then treat him like one. You'll know when just use your crabby powers
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As a Cancer woman I'm extremely sensitive, especially in relationships.
This guy that I've known for a while confessed that he liked me. I never gave him a chance because I wasn't sure about him at first because I don't trust easily but now we chat every day. He seems cool so I decided to get to know him more.
We agreed on going out on a first date but the day before he cancelled because something came up. I was super sad and started having doubts about him. He apologized, took me out for another date and treated me like a princess. And he continued treating me very well every day and told me how much he liked me and wanted to be my boyfriend. He bought me chocolates, a rose, took me to the fair and it was really special.
We planned on going out again but he works on the weekends and has a busy schedule. So he messaged me telling me that he wasn't sure if he was going to be able to see me. I started getting emotional and sad again and now I have all these negative thoughts in my head. I told him "I really wanted to see you but I understand is not easy for you". So I pretended it was ok but inside I feel like shit. I'm sensitive to the point that I'd rather not risk loving a guy to get hurt in the end.
It might sound dramatic but I feel like I'm going to end up alone. Anything small like not seeing the guy I like makes me sad. Even if he has reassured me that he likes me and has done so much for me.
Am I normal? I don't know how to not let these stupid things affect me.