What to do when a Cancer gets too close, ignores, then explodes ?

I am learning about this currently with a Cancer Man. They were so far up my butt for months via social media. Very personal stuff being shared to me. Met and was great. Then two days later "wasn't sure yet, wants to deal with their issues so not ready for anyone, so let's be friends and maybe f-buddies. but I really like you a lot". Fine.

Went all silent and barely spoke to me for a week even though I was friendly and asking how they were/small talk. Being very evasive when talking to me when did (only answering some of what being said, stopped speaking up any sort of personal things vs before when he couldn't stop doing it.

Caught him bitching on social media about what I "thought was about me". Told him to unfollow me and leave me alone, that I didn't deserve that treatment. Well he exploded and said that I can't yell at him and not hear him yell back, doesn't work like that. He won't unfollow me. Says I can't be allowed to screw up my shot and it wasn't about me, but now I am on mute "for now" because he considers it "creepy and abusive to have called him 3 times before leaving a message"- it never rang the first 2 times (went straight to voice mail) and 3rd time I left a message. He decides to only say this via dms. Then turns around and without mentioning my name, starts talking passive crap on a few tweets.

I found out he had been flipping out at everything the days before. So IDK what to do. Wouldn't an angry ass person who wants nothing to do with me just unfollow me, rather than ignore or is this a case of him working things out in his mind and then coming back? He's bitched about me but not directly since.

Yes, he has a lot to fix about him self before being in a relationship. I am trying to understand and be there for him as a friend. I am a Scorpio btw. Seems like as soon as he knew he had me locked in, he ran. He did warn me that he does that, runs far away. But I was never sure exactly what he wanted from me to begin with.

What would a cancer do on twitter if he was done vs needing time? I just don't want to give up the friendship we established. I don't get the not unfollowing part if he is so angry at me for what he pretty well caused anyways by ignoring me and shoving me away. He decided to stop working for a while now to redo his basement that was left undone many years ago. So many personal issues he has been dealing with (uncomfortable with self on everything, including not 100% done transitioning-He's only got one thing left to do.) and keeps changing mind frequently/impulsively. I feel it is pretty simple, if you don't unfollow, you are hanging on still and just not ready to jump in/got scared away. If he unfollows then it is done. What does everyone think?

I am just concerned that he won't be honest with me and try to keep me hanging for no reason. The guy who can't be honest?

Why is he doing this/ handling it as the such?

Update. He randomly texted me yesterday to ask a question he already knows. I answered. Then maybe a half hour later he starts dming me on and off for 5 hrs. Kept it more along the lines of things we both had seen on the net that bothered us. Still was nice to have that communication. He could have picked anyone to talk to and finally gave in to ask me. I've kept it cool and only answered him. Then finally said was going to sleep. Didn't contact him today because now that I have a greater understanding of how Caners are, I am going to let him work for my attention. He'd probably work harder if he wasn't able to read my twitter or other mutual board posts. At least I know he is thinking of me first to call and is likely thinking of me when isn't but they are so dang scared. Plus feeling me out. I am a Scorpio, we already felt each other out for 3 mns. Nothing to struggle about, are you in or out? Since I know now how Cancers are, I am keeping it friendly but not reaching out. I didn't speak to him today but I know he looks at anything I put on the net alot. lol.

Should I continue on my journey of letting him come to me and answering/being welcoming?

The better question is, why are you into someone who treats you poorly?

"Met and was great. Then two days later "wasn't sure yet, wants to deal with their issues so not ready for anyone, so let's be friends and maybe f-buddies. but I really like you a lot". Fine.

Went all silent and barely spoke to me for a week even though I was friendly and asking how they were/small talk. Being very evasive when talking to me when did (only answering some of what being said, stopped speaking up any sort of personal things vs before when he couldn't stop doing it."

So you start talking to the guy, then after telling you that he didn't know what he wants, he starts to pull away. That's a red flag.

"Caught him cookiemonstering on social media about what I "thought was about me". Told him to unfollow me and leave me alone, that I didn't deserve that treatment. Well he exploded and said that I can't yell at him and not hear him yell back, doesn't work like that. He won't unfollow me. Says I can't be allowed to screw up my shot and it wasn't about me, but now I am on mute "for now" because he considers it "creepy and abusive to have called him 3 times before leaving a message"- it never rang the first 2 times (went straight to voice mail) and 3rd time I left a message. He decides to only say this via dms. Then turns around and without mentioning my name, starts talking passive crap on a few tweets."

This all sounds dysfunctional. This guy is freaking out on you and you're wondering why he won't unfollow you? Here's a question, why are you playing the victim? Why don't you just block him? Also he said that he won't allow you to "screw up (your) shot"...what does that even mean? He's trying to blame you for his own outlandish behavior. Don't fall for that.

"I found out he had been flipping out at everything the days before. So IDK what to do. Wouldn't an angry ass person who wants nothing to do with me just unfollow me, rather than ignore or is this a case of him working things out in his mind and then coming back?"

Him flipping out on everything only makes this situation more ridiculous. It explains nothing about his behavior towards you. Again, why haven't blocked this guy already? He sounds like a lunatic.

"Yes, he has a lot to fix about him self before being in a relationship. I am trying to understand and be there for him as a friend. I am a Scorpio btw. Seems like as soon as he knew he had me locked in, he ran. He did warn me that he does that, runs far away. But I was never sure exactly what he wanted from me to begin with."

He needs to fix his own problems on his own time. You can't help him do that, so trying to understand it won't help you either. He even TOLD you that he does this, so I'm not sure why you're still even trying to talk to this lunatic. Are you expecting things to get better? There's practically a guarantee that this will all get MUCH worse.

"What would a cancer do on twitter if he was done vs needing time? I just don't want to give up the friendship we established. I don't get the not unfollowing part if he is so angry at me for what he pretty well caused anyways by ignoring me and shoving me away. He decided to stop working for a while now to redo his basement that was left undone many years ago. So many personal issues he has been dealing with (uncomfortable with self on everything, including not 100% done transitioning-He's only got one thing left to do.) and keeps changing mind frequently/impulsively. I feel it is pretty simple, if you don't unfollow, you are hanging on still and just not ready to jump in/got scared away. If he unfollows then it is done. What does everyone think?"

Sounds like you are making excuses for him. He's treating you poorly and you're wondering why? The answer is, because he has problems. You can't fix him or his issues. You need to back away and find someone less explosive. Stop obsessing about why he won't unfollow you, that's entirely unimportant when compared to the fact that he's treating you like trash.

Your friendship was over when he started exploding on you. Make peace with that and move on to someone new. Don't try to dig deeper and find some secret behind him that isn't there. Don't go looking for the reasons behind his darkness, you'll only wind up wasting your time and getting hurt. Block him.