what to do when a cancer woman is mad at you?

i noticed recently that when i do something that my cancer doesn't like (even if i do it unintentionally) she gets sort of mad at me and becomes passive aggressive at me... what should i do when she is like that? thanks in advance!

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Posted by scorpio04
i noticed recently that when i do something that my cancer doesn't like (even if i do it unintentionally) she gets sort of mad at me and becomes passive aggressive at me... what should i do when she is like that? thanks in advance!

you know ....your kind of ahead of the game.....you NOTICED! something that she didn't like something and your trying to correct it.....



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i noticed recently that when i do something that my cancer doesn't like (even if i do it unintentionally) she gets sort of mad at me and becomes passive aggressive at me... what should i do when she is like that? thanks in advance!

you know ....your kind of ahead of the game.....you NOTICED! something that she didn't like something and your trying to correct it.....



scorpios: 1 other signs: 0 🙂

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thanks! we've known each other for almost 4 years now and she has only been like that just recently. and she is consistent that way now, so i noticed. but i have never been in a relationship with a cancer before and i never experienced this before from her so i'm asking what should i do when she is like that. what i do recently is tell her that i forgive her and that i am not mad at her and just act normally as if nothing happened... am i doing it right?

Posted by younowho
I would make her laugh. Depending upon how mad she was ... i would wait for few days then text funny msg... expect no reply... again bombard with funny msg until she repliea and again continue ...get her to talk ... she will manipulate. ... turn back to her.... make fun of her ... she couldn't stay mad for too long. But it depends on what you did. Mine was always she being insecure. But like if the reason was you cheated on her than haha find yourself another woman .

But this works coz i am air sign .. you scorps are intense and serious so idk

thanks for your input! it is usually small things like i said something that hurt her feelings (i'm very very honest and i don't sugarcoat things, but i am trying to bite my tongue so that i won't hurt her again) or i didn't do something that she was expecting me to do because i didn't knew that she was expecting me to do it, or i did something that she didn't like because i misinterpreted what she said i should do... things like that...

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i noticed recently that when i do something that my cancer doesn't like (even if i do it unintentionally) she gets sort of mad at me and becomes passive aggressive at me... what should i do when she is like that? thanks in advance!

you know ....your kind of ahead of the game.....you NOTICED! something that she didn't like something and your trying to correct it.....



scorpios: 1 other signs: 0 🙂

thanks! we've known each other for almost 4 years now and she has only been like that just recently. and she is consistent that way now, so i noticed. but i have never been in a relationship with a cancer before and i never experienced this before from her so i'm asking what should i do when she is like that. what i do recently is tell her that i forgive her and that i am not mad at her and just act normally as if nothing happened... am i doing it right?

okay I have a couple of questions....are you guys in a relationship? or friendship? or?....
op are you a guy or a girl?
when you said she gets passive aggressive does she seem annoyed or genuinely upset/mad?
have you had a chance to ask her whats wrong? what did she say?

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are you guys in a relationship? --- sort of. we're not yet super officially in a relationship yet, but i already told her that i love her and she did too before. once. next time when we see each other and she is in a good mood that is what i will do -- make it official.
when you said she gets passive aggressive does she seem annoyed or genuinely upset/mad? --- she turns to other people... like if she is not getting something she is expecting from me she will start "clinging" if you will, to another person doing/saying things she says to me and i can feel the passive aggressiveness.
have you had a chance to ask her whats wrong? what did she say? --- not yet.
sometimes i know why she is like that....sometimes i don't yet, so i get confused and i don't know what to do. that's why i'm asking. thanks!

If you do something intentionally then make it right. For little silly things where miscommunication is the problem then push her to have better communication, but gently, and don't let her get away with immature behavior. She sounds a bit immature. Personally, I prefer blunt and honest aspect of Scorpio, but if it becomes mean I'll let that person know about it. Cancer has the bad habit of expecting others to intuitively read their minds because we do it so easily with others.

For in general bad moods with cancer just make her laugh.

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And never ask for forgiveness if u haven't done wrong. They are master manipulaters. Try making jokes to dodge that bullet. She will respect you ( even if she disagrees at face)

I dunno know about this one....just cause it can get sticky sometimes...of course no one shouldn't ask for forgiveness if you haven't done anything wrong ...but usually when I'm mad and I have hurt someone .....I either won't admit I'm wrong ...or I will refuse my part in the problem---like all the other signs...I say try be objective about this one...and not just for cancers anybody really....

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when i know that i am wrong, i try to apologize to her (like right now i want to apologize to her for what i said before about her -- i think she feels that it was a criticism --- that probably hurt her feelings) but if she is at fault, what she does is she plays dumb... sometimes it hurts me when she doesn't apologize, but i always pray to god to help me let it slide and love her anyway... i've never been angry with her not even once... but she has been angry with me a lot of times, and i just say i forgive her and i'm not mad at her.. i can feel that she is testing me sometimes (of how nice i really am i guess?)

i think that she is mad at me now because i didn't do what she was expecting me to do last week, but i will make up for it tomorrow (i will do what she was expecting me to do last week, tomorrow) and i made a comment at her page the other day that i think she thought was boastful (she got passive aggressive about it) so, i guess she will be mad at me tomorrow... she always had this idea that i am boastful, but i am just honest and being myself the entire time... what a difference a week/a day makes in her mood! *whew*

what i also noticed from her is when i tell her something (my plans, dreams, what i am doing, etc.), she wants it to happen right away (like right now), but in my part, the mere fact that i was telling her was already a big deal (because i am very very private) for me i'm not expecting what i say will happen right away, but it will happen eventually... i think that when what i say those things to her doesn't happen right away (like what she wanted) she thinks that i'm lying about it... right now i decided not to tell her anything anymore because of that... but i am still nice... we've never talked about it before yet...

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what i also noticed from her is when i tell her something (my plans, dreams, what i am doing, etc.), she wants it to happen right away (like right now), but in my part, the mere fact that i was telling her was already a big deal (because i am very very private) for me i'm not expecting what i say will happen right away, but it will happen eventually... i think that when what i say those things to her doesn't happen right away (like what she wanted) she thinks that i'm lying about it... right now i decided not to tell her anything anymore because of that... but i am still nice... we've never talked about it before yet...

what? no? she is cardinal-unstoppable force and you are a scorpio-fixed unmovable object

cardinal signs like to get thing started ...we want go ahead get things going ....thats all the cardinal signs aries, cancer, libra, and capricorn and fixed signs are slow to get things going but they usually finish whatever they start on...
I'm sure she doesn't think your lying....

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yes, i hope so... what i also noticed about her is that when she doesn't know about something, she thinks that it is not there/it's not happening... like right now i am not telling her my progress on my goals, dreams and what i am doing, so i feel that she thinks that i am not doing it and she's harsh on me about it (that she thinks that i'm not doing them) it's hard when she's harsh, but i try to brush it off because i know that she doesn't know me yet... and we haven't talked about it yet... i also don't tell her about my problems because i don't want to burden her with my problems...

So I went through this with my ex who is a Scorpio and also my mother is a Scorpio. Cancer and Scorpio can hurt each other badly if they don't communicate properly. Both of us are pretty intuitive and both understand emotion well. Both know how to manipulate others. Both can hide their feelings if hurt. The most important thing you need to do is sit down and have a serious talk. Don't hide your feelings or pain. She needs to know she is hurting you. Also don't let her get away with the crawling back into her shell and not talking about what is bothering her. If you can have a very open and honest conversation about the obstacles in your relationship you could go far. That is the best advice I can give. Communication. Transparency. Honesty. I hope it works out for you both

Never dated one, but I just give them space and show them whatever they are mad at you bout has been improved. Then talk to them like nothing happened.

Posted by scorpio04
i noticed recently that when i do something that my cancer doesn't like (even if i do it unintentionally) she gets sort of mad at me and becomes passive aggressive at me... what should i do when she is like that? thanks in advance!

give her a nice hug and hold her and watch her mood change

Well she is upset because cancers think every can read their minds...

Your behaviors that are bother-some to her are disrepectful, in her mind, she feels mistreated or unappreciated .. because naturally she believes you should Automatically know this.

She is being childish and immature. Let her cry like a baby and she will get over it.

thanks guys for all your guys support... i really appreciate it a lot! me and my cancer just met earlier. and unfortunately i was right: she was mad. she kept on walking fast and when i try to talk to her, she doesn't answer me... i said "are you mad?" because i want to know why she is mad, but she never answers and just kept on walking fast... when i tried to carry her bag for her she refused and didn't give it to me. she dropped some of her things while walking fast... i picked them up and gave it to her... still i'm not mad at her for it... i feel that whatever her reasons for doing these things are still not big issues: i feel that it is maybe both a misunderstanding and that because she doesn't know me yet... but i don't know what they are yet because she hasn't told me...what should i do?

what i did earlier is i just left (because i think that's what she wanted... so i gave her what she wanted) ...she was walking really fast, i wasn't able to keep up with her.

Posted by missrose
Well she is upset because cancers think every can read their minds...

Your behaviors that are bother-some to her are disrepectful, in her mind, she feels mistreated or unappreciated .. because naturally she believes you should Automatically know this.

She is being childish and immature. Let her cry like a baby and she will get over it.

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what i did earlier is i just left (because i think that's what she wanted... so i gave her what she wanted) ...she was walking really fast, i wasn't able to keep up with her.

😢 😢 😢 that stinks what happened...

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yeah... but i'm not mad at her though... it was not the first time. the first time we had something like that was november last year when she walked out on me but i tried to grab her hand and she kept on walking and pulling away... the next time we saw each other after that we were okay as if nothing happened. i guess i am used to this kind of treatment from her... especially if i intuitively feel (as a scorpio) that whatever it is, it's nothing... although it is intriguing me why this is happening... i was hoping that she would appreciate how i genuinely tried to be nice to her despite what she was doing... would she?

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what i did earlier is i just left (because i think that's what she wanted... so i gave her what she wanted) ...she was walking really fast, i wasn't able to keep up with her.

😢 😢 😢 that stinks what happened...

yeah... but i'm not mad at her though... it was not the first time. the first time we had something like that was november last year when she walked out on me but i tried to grab her hand and she kept on walking and pulling away... the next time we saw each other after that we were okay as if nothing happened. i guess i am used to this kind of treatment from her... especially if i intuitively feel (as a scorpio) that whatever it is, it's nothing... although it is intriguing me why this is happening... i was hoping that she would appreciate how i genuinely tried to be nice to her despite what she was doing... would she?

but what happened ....did you get into an argument? an off color comment? could she be jealous 😏

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i guess i did something that she didn't like again? i'm faithful to her... she is my one and only. it's just that i am consistent with what i do and then i get different reactions from her when i was doing the same thing... so i don't really know what is actually wrong because there was a time that i did the same thing before but it was never a problem... i think something changed on her part of the equation that is maybe why she changed all of a sudden... even when i was doing the same exact things... that is my scorpio hunch...

Posted by sunkisses26
text her ...right now? ask her if she is upset /mad at you? my guess...she is upset/mad but it doesn't have anything to do with you...maybe something that happened during the day...that put her in a poor mood....

thank you for your input. i appreciate it a lot!

after thinking about it, i think i have an idea of what the situation is with us earlier... she was using her body language to communicate with me... most of the times i was able to obey what she was saying via her body language, but when later on i disobeyed what she told me the first time via her body language, that was the time that she walked fast in such a way that i wasn't able to caught up to her anymore and then i left after that (because i couldn't find her)... i wonder if she wanted me to leave or catch up to her again like what i did the 1st time.... (thinking out loud) ... and something inside of me is saying "yes she did."

Posted by Arielle83
Ok I take what I said back.

She sounds very difficult.

Wow dude.

I love direct communication.

This whole passive aggressive thing is making you work!!

Where's her mercury? And yours?

yeah...unfortunately i don't know about our mercury...

Wow.. Clap clap.. U r amazing

Make her laugh by doing something silly right away. It doesn't have to be much, just don't wait and do it right away. My Cappy ex would do exactly that in these situations and I always gave in and laughed. Just don't wait and let her disect it in her mind, do it spur of the moment!

Don't act 'disinterested' when she's talking about her feelings (even if you don't even know why you're in trouble). If she shuts down, ask her what's wrong. If she sighs and goes into the other room, go in there and hold her for two minutes (trust me). If she snaps at you, apparently you're already supposed to know what's wrong. If she's pregnant, these feelings will be magnified by 100.

My wife is a Cancer and 8 months pregnant.

-Jack

I agree, but she's pregnant so I just do what she wants lol easier that way

As a Cancer woman, if I'm nitpicking some small stuff there is probably something bigger you've done that has irked me or you've done something to make me feel insecure with our relationship and I now have you under a microscope.

For me, you can approach this a few ways...

1. I saw one of the posts above said to be funny. I had a bf once that handled me so well when I'm upset. He'd let me blow my fuse, he'd remain calm and rational, then later he'd replay how I acted in a way where I could laugh at myself lol it was great. though, the main thing for me is do NOT act as if the problem she is upset over is funny!! It makes her feel as if it unimportant to you how she feels.. See she can laugh at how she acted but not probably at what she was upset over. Because we obsess over things which is what she is doing I'm sure and the longer you let it stir.. The madder she is going to be.

2. Just ask her and be supportive. Recently I dated a Capricorn male and trying to communicate with him when something bothered me... Was so impossible and it was the only time his tongue was sharp with me and it through me all off. It's like we got into a battle of who was a better person. Lol if he would have just said, You're more important to me than this dumb fight or told me his intentions weren't to offend me or something pseudo sweet I would've bounced right back.

3. Start doing things to ensure her security within your relationship. Take her on a date or make some sort of romantic gesture to show her you care.

Posted by Smilebhappy0715
As a Cancer woman, if I'm nitpicking some small stuff there is probably something bigger you've done that has irked me or you've done something to make me feel insecure with our relationship and I now have you under a microscope.

For me, you can approach this a few ways...

1. I saw one of the posts above said to be funny. I had a bf once that handled me so well when I'm upset. He'd let me blow my fuse, he'd remain calm and rational, then later he'd replay how I acted in a way where I could laugh at myself lol it was great. though, the main thing for me is do NOT act as if the problem she is upset over is funny!! It makes her feel as if it unimportant to you how she feels.. See she can laugh at how she acted but not probably at what she was upset over. Because we obsess over things which is what she is doing I'm sure and the longer you let it stir.. The madder she is going to be.

2. Just ask her and be supportive. Recently I dated a Capricorn male and trying to communicate with him when something bothered me... Was so impossible and it was the only time his tongue was sharp with me and it through me all off. It's like we got into a battle of who was a better person. Lol if he would have just said, You're more important to me than this dumb fight or told me his intentions weren't to offend me or something pseudo sweet I would've bounced right back.

3. Start doing things to ensure her security within your relationship. Take her on a date or make some sort of romantic gesture to show her you care.

This!

as a cancer i agree 110% with this post. go the extra mile when shes upset, cancers are very easy to communicate with even when they are having an issue so long as its brought up by you in a non defensive way...."look i feel distance between and im not sure if its because of ....but i want to make it right because you are important to me...." a cancer will stew on things that havent been discussed. its better to talk about them quick because each disappoint is a burned tally mark in her mind.

Since you recently confessed of love and your relationship is growing... She's probably just expecting more from you... Sometimes more than realistic... I had the same problem with my boyfriend but only because my love for him grows... Don't worry just confront her gently and assure her your love and that it wasn't intentional... It worked for us and I found myself maturing with my scorpio Bf than I ever did before.. It's a healthy relationship when you share openly and gently and assure support and unity with each other