What's Your Offer

Our Site's pretty hot lately (A lot of things can be solved with COMMUNICATION), So I thought i'd start it here.

Most or A LOT of people (Take your pick) go on and on about what they WANT in a relationship, but when asked what they can GIVE, they clam up.

An individual wants 1234-20 from a potential mate. They get it wraped in a bow and glitter. Time for Give and Take. Their dreamthing gives them 1234-20 'till they get enough (Some don't). Then it's time for them to give, but they've come up short. You can guess what happens to the relationship from there.

Modern Love, maybe? Happens a lot. Do you think (HONESTLY) most people think of what they want to give to some one in return for what they get?

Think about it. When's the last time you heard someone say, "You know...I'd really like to be with [x girl/guy] so that I can make them the happiest person alive."

Speaking for myself, the last time was in a chick flick.

People think about how they themselves can benefit. Even in friendships...especially in friendships.

Well yes but I leaning more towards a give and take "I want this from them and in return i'll give that". Basically concidering what one has to give in the relationship, What they've got to bring to the table. What they've got to give to ANYONE really.

I agree with you, you should give and recieve from whoever you are with. But in reality, this is a known fact why relationships don't last and end in divorce. Everyone wants there needs met first, when if both parties hold their own, the relationship will last longer.

Relationships are funny...some one always winds up doing more for the other partner. They are never 50/50 no matter how hard you try. Some people's make up are just...different.

Even with friendships. I thought I went above and beyond for friends but I am finding that some of my friends go above and beyond for me. Maybe it's karma for all I've put out during the years. People are amazing though. When you leaste expect it.

I'm a Pisces - thought sequence goes like this: a. What do I want...b. What will make my partner (or friend, family member, co-worker) happy?

Generally when someone asks what I want or feel about something, I bring up both those things..."I want _______ but realize that maybe you want _____, so..." and then we usually go with the second blank.

Why? Because making other people happy sometimes makes me happier than I would've been getting what I originally asked for.