Why am I jealous?

Same cancer guy from my last post. I text him all the time and we talk about random things. We haven't hung out in weeks. We were just texting yesterday and he told me he was going to Cali with a friend. A guy but, he posts a snap with a chick and she's hot at the beach. He's obviously not into me yet I still give in and now I'm jealous?!!! Egh

I sent him a long drawn out text saying that's idk the expectations but the things I share with him are private and personal and o felt like he would respect me enough to tell me if he was seeing other people and his response was: she's just a friend,chill.

I didn't respond I really don't know what to say at this point—

Why— I try so hard to not emotionally act on things and now boooom. It happened.

A guy that really likes you will make time to be with you in person. you shouldn't have to fight for a place in his life.

If all you do is text and rarely see each other, he's e-tethering you.

You need to decide if you are ok with being an just option for him. If not, walk away.

You are insecure

After his response I waited a few hours to get her my thoughts and responded by saying I apologized for reacting, I had no reason to and that I no longer wanted to see him that way and I unfollowed him on snapchat.

I do feel like I had a right to say something considering the fact that he knows I don't sleep around and we've been sleeping together and the fact that we have known each other so long platonically to where it's like you could say you are seeing someone and I will respect that 100% and his reaction is: " she's just a friend,chill" like I was supposed to be assured of something.what is he thinking??

after he said that I did apologize and said I had no reason to say anything and that I just can't do the whole fwb thing anymore. I'm sure he thinks I'm crazy. Lol

Posted by Saggyjgal
I do feel like I had a right to say something considering the fact that he knows I don't sleep around and we've been sleeping together and the fact that we have known each other so long platonically to where it's like you could say you are seeing someone and I will respect that 100% and his reaction is: " she's just a friend,chill" like I was supposed to be assured of something.what is he thinking??

after he said that I did apologize and said I had no reason to say anything and that I just can't do the whole fwb thing anymore. I'm sure he thinks I'm crazy. Lol

Wait a minute, so are you guys dating or official or are you just sleeping with him without exclusivity?

Just sleeping but I don't just sleep with people and if I do I like to be assured that it's just me your sleeping with and he knows this. I've known him for so long and he knows I'm not the type to sleep with hella people and he just sleeps with hella women and be okay with it. Plus I'm just 21.

Stop sleeping with him. . And start keeping distance from him from now on. This is going nowhere unless he will be your sugar daddy maybe or some othher separate purpose. You can not continue this. It has to change. He may show real interest in you in the future but only if you distance yourself atleast for 6 months. Even one year. Let him sleep for a while with others. This is not gopd for your mental health and you have allowed it. You may need to go to aaa meetings or there must be an issue from your chidlhood that s unresolved that you need to pay attention as what you doing is a symptom of such. Did u have an absent or drinking dad ? Stop sleeping with this man right away.

I apologize for my comment above. I just read that you have told him you can't see him any more. That s great. You are.not crazy you are being healthy.

Posted by Sagittarius16b
I apologize for my comment above. I just read that you have told him you can't see him any more. That s great. You are.not crazy you are being healthy.

Why would I gave dad issues?

I waited 3 months to have sex with him. We made out but never sex. I don't want a relationship I just assurance that we are only sleeping with each other but I ended already

Good thing.

Posted by Shellyd238
A guy that really likes you will make time to be with you in person. you shouldn't have to fight for a place in his life.

If all you do is text and rarely see each other, he's e-tethering you.

You need to decide if you are ok with being an just option for him. If not, walk away.

Agreed!!

No man ia going to make the woman that he likes feel less than, unless hes a complete idiot

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Posted by Illuminati
You are insecure

Not true... Someone can be very confident and secure with herself, and she can still become jealous (as I do).

I think Louise put it best in this comment:

Posted by PrincessLouise
It's natural. Maybe it's that you like him a lot.

Maybe it's that you want to be in love at the beach with someone yourself. Maybe you wish you had a cool beach date too.

Maybe you fear you don't mean what you wish etc to him or you might lose him.


Maybe seeing them together makes you look at the talks you have with him as being less important and his mind is with this person. And that makes you sad or something and question the value of it.

But if you have been talking etc he probably wishes you the same. Lots of happiness.

Maybe you do look at the girl and go oh she is so gorgeous etc. But you are you and you will have you forever.

It's ok to be jealous or a little bit hurt.

Don't worry about it and enjoy the summer :-)

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Control freak? You are a Scorpio. Enough said

Posted by Saggyjgal
I waited 3 months to have sex with him. We made out but never sex. I don't want a relationship I just assurance that we are only sleeping with each other but I ended already

be careful how you word yourself as you made it sound as if you already have been Intimate with him . You sound like a great woman keep it up. But in this last case he may really had tried to get out more out and with you by showing off with other women. Though may be he already was hurt by you rejecting him somehow he may have felt that way though he sounds rather bosterous🙂. Doesn't exclude a sensitive heart though. He may actually be really into you somehow. I don't know. The " daddy " issue was apparent by reading your original post and one after when you aplogized to the man.

Posted by Sagittarius16b

Posted by Saggyjgal
I waited 3 months to have sex with him. We made out but never sex. I don't want a relationship I just assurance that we are only sleeping with each other but I ended already

be careful how you word yourself as you made it sound as if you already have been Intimate with him . You sound like a great woman keep it up. But in this last case he may really had tried to get out more out and with you by showing off with other women. Though may be he already was hurt by you rejecting him somehow he may have felt that way though he sounds rather bosterous🙂. Doesn't exclude a sensitive heart though. He may actually be really into you somehow. I don't know. The " daddy " issue was apparent by reading your original post and one after when you aplogized to the man.

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I have already been intimate but I waited quite a while. We went out at least on 4 occassions between 3 month period before we became intimate. I definetly didn't make it easy. I made sure that he liked me in that way before.

I texted him to see if we were still cool and he told me I was being a typical girl making an assumption. We got into a small argument. He def let me have it. I told him I didn't want to fight with him.

He also said he ignored me for a week because he didn't feel the need to cater to me because I felt some type of way about a situation I knew nothing about.