Why did this Cancer woman take offence?

Recently I joined a dating website and have been trying hard to get a new girlfriend (no success yet, though!) As a Virgo guy I tend to find Cancer women irresistible so was particularly pleased when a very friendly and attractive-looking Cancer woman contacted me out of the blue and we had a really friendly online chat. Then after that I didn't hear from her for quite a few weeks then when she contacted me again she said she had been ill. I was very pleased that she had got back in touch and we started chatting again, but then I seemed to offend her big-time and I still don't know why (and she won't contact me any more). What happened was that I was just asking about her family background etc: I asked her if her parents were still alive and she said no. Then what seemed to cause the offence was that I asked her what her father used to do for a living - for some reason she didn't seem to like that question at all and for some reason that seems to be what has caused the rift between us! I mean, perhaps her father was a criminal or something like that, but even if he was firstly I wasn't to know that and secondly that's not her fault. So I really don't get this. I wonder if she might have some kind of general reluctance to talk or think about her father because it seems to me that Cancer women have often been sexually abused by their fathers (and so trust only their mothers!) Do you think it could be that?

Whatevs. Move on. If she's gonna get her panties in a twist over that question, imagine what it'll be like later on. Sheesh.

In reply to MoonMan, I know it's speculation on my part at the end but that's just something I have come to realise over the years as have been interested in astrology since the age of about 12! If not sexual abuse often alcoholism or something like that that has made the father seem weak/untrustworthy/shameful. Unfortunately this lady lives 150 miles away from me and anyway as I say she seems to have gone into a big Cancerian sulk now for some (or for no) reason, so I guess I can't get her out of her shell but the thing is that I often seem to have this trouble with Cancer women: everything seems to be going great, then suddenly I unknowingly cross some invisible "red line" and that somehow seems to blow everything out of the water and I will not be forgiven for whatever it is that I have done! 😢

Well...I'm creeped out reading your first post because of you jumping to that sexual abuse conclusion. Maybe that came across in your written conversations.

The first time I agree with MoonMan. Best to stay clear of internet dating, too many weirdos and a long distance internet romance just isn't healthy. I've tried and it was entirely dissatisfying. Try a real woman. I know as a Cancer woman I don't like people asking me a question and if I don't answer it right away or to their liking they start making assumptions and answering the question for me in a snide rude manner. Not saying this is what you did but it could have been taken that way. If she doesn't want to discuss her fathers career why did you not change the subject and talk about something else?

I had a similar issue with a Taurus I was asking about his siblings, how many and he shut down on me saying it was complicated. I didn't push it because from what I got out of it, some of his siblings came from an affair and some died young. This is tough for some people to talk about. Not all Cancer women are this touchy.

I did try to change the subject but it was too late and she has hardly had any contact with me since (and none at all recently): I don't suppose she will again (?)

Posted by virgodog58
I know it's speculation on my part at the end but that's just something I have come to realise over the years as have been interested in astrology since the age of about 12! If not sexual abuse often alcoholism or something like that that has made the father seem weak/untrustworthy/shameful.

I think she just got a whiff of this^^^^^ your "observations".

2 posts and I already think you're a bit of a whack job

I don't know why you say that: as I say I have been interested in astrology for many years and I have come to observe certain patterns applying to certain signs, even if it doesn't say it in the books. You people seem to think that I said or insinuated something to her about my suspicions but I can assure you that I did not so it wasn't that. I guess you are all just defending "one of your own" here!

Oh dear to much read into it I think. In my experience with online dating I would be thinking she just got bored with the conversation and just didnt reply. Nothing more nothing less. Quite simple really

Yes thats it!! All that charm sent her scuttling back into her shell

Scuttling back in to her shell to cook him a romantic dinner for two. Shes lighting the candles as we speak

Ummmmm yes. I mean really some of the shit on here blows me away but very amusing and a great way to kill time dont you agree

I didnt even see what he wrote as cruel, i just seen it as a load of crap.Lol But without people like this your right we wouldnt be chatting now and this thread would have died of natural causes. I say we let it die now R.I.P

It just seemed a strange and exaggerated reaction so I wondered why.

Maybe she felt no need to further continue the conversation and became bored. I am unsure as to why she would have a reaction of that sort other than the reason I just stated above. I think cancer and virgo go very well together. My boyfriend of two years is a Virgo. Perhaps you should just forget about the whole situation if she is refusing to talk to you. :/ I'm sure you can find another cancer.

Im a female (scorp) and my best friend is a (cancer). In my opinion I say if she left and hasn't returned to continue conversing with you. Accept it and leave well enough alone. Everyone is not into sharing their whole life story to complete strangers via the internet. The cancers I know including my boyfriend does not open up with personal information until trust is built in the relationship/friendship. And scorpios are the same way. I say lock the door on this one and throw away the key because that one won't be coming back.


Idk......just my two cents 😉

Posted by MoonMan

Posted by LunarMaiden
The first time I agree with MoonMan. Best to stay clear of internet dating, too many weirdos and

Yeah but....you have misrepresented my comment.
I didn't say to stay clear of internet dating, or there were too many weirdos, just that there are some 'mixed up' folk (emotionally), and that it can be a challenging way to go about it sometimes also that you need to be aware of things and not have high expectations, just take it casual.

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No MoonMan, I understood you perfectly. It is MY opinion that internet dating is a waste of time.