Advise and help needed from fellas Capri

I'm a Gemini guy and I've known this Capri girl for few months back then. She's working as houseman in GH. We've know each other from social media and we agreed to meetup. We're from different states and would require me an hour drive to reach her.

Our 1st meetup turn out to be fine like went out for dinner and later movie and even sat down in a park and chit-chat. I can say we left both of us kinda good impression. Later on we continue texted each other for the following day. And this continue for the weeks, I would go to find her either to have dinner after her work or movie average on once every 3 days(upon she agreed to see me). For some time, she would suggest that to watch movie at her home. Sometime, we would chat till her sleeping time then I would only back home. Some time when she's on her way back home from work, she would suddenly call me up and talk till she reach home (even I told her not to talk over the phone when driving) or when I'm having OT, she would call me when I told her I'm bored at work from data analysis. So far things proceed very smooth and I guessed it's time for me take another step since we're both interested in each(what I assume after all those activities).

So on our last date which also when we watch movie together in her house, I hold her hand and nothing happen till I went home. So the next days onward, things started to change. She started to be cold to me till I ask is "there anything happened to you". She responded that I was too rush and freak her out and mentioned that we should stop see-ing each other. We talked this out and I stepped back a little but things turn to worse. She only reply to me once a day and later become once every 2 days. I get frustrated and talk with her trying to sort things out. End up I "scolded" her that "Are you trying to play with my feeling towards you". She would just say "Thing turns out to rush for me" and later on no more reply. So I tried to reduce my pressure on her by only text her once every 3 or 4 day. But she would only reply like after a week. I'm never so hooked to any girl till I met her and this is the place where I end up to look for advice. I am seriously want this girl but I'm so lost on what should I do? I don't wanna lose her 😢

P.S: Sorry for the long text

Posted by Foreverloveme
Either she's scared of her emotions and of opening up and being hurt. Or she's not interested.

How old is she?

Maybe tell her exactly what you wrote: hey, I like you, and want to take our relationship to the next level. I don't want to lose you, but I want you to be comfortable so I'll be right here when you're ready because I don't want you to feel rushed or pressured.

Then see where it goes from there.

After a few months I typically know what I want and where I want the relationship to go.

What I can only think of is that she's scared of her emotions and of opening up and being hurt like you mentioned.
If not interested, I would not agree to go out with me for so often and watch movie in her house right?
She's currently 24 years old and I'm 25.
Also, I actually told her I that I like her and want to be together with her only.
Might be the way I said not convincing enough.
Now the situation like so confused and hazzy.

What is a houseman op? Never heard of this job before...

Posted by Foreverloveme
Yes just be patient and give her time, and be there for her.

You're right she wouldn't invite you to movies at her place unless she was interested.

Could be a past hurt making her cautious as well.

Be there for her as in? And in this situation roughly would take how long?
Now I understand how patient is like hahaha
Now just wondering how long will take for her to open up to me 😢

Posted by LadyNeptune
What is a houseman op? Never heard of this job before...

Housemen is like training doctor.
Need 2 years of training to become a full-fledge doctor in my country.

Posted by zyuan24

Posted by LadyNeptune
What is a houseman op? Never heard of this job before...

Housemen is like training doctor.
Need 2 years of training to become a full-fledge doctor in my country.

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Training to become a doctor is probably really stressful, irregardless of what country your in.

Give her a little space and be understanding of her infrequent responses. Either things will progress or they won't. Let her set the pace though.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Training to become a doctor is probably really stressful, irregardless of what country your in.

Give her a little space and be understanding of her infrequent responses. Either things will progress or they won't. Let her set the pace though.

Yea. I understand the stress situation she in now.
But I need to know whether she's still interested in me or not.
I don't mind to wait and let her set the pace thou.
Sometimes she's online but don't reply me.
This get me really frustrated sometime.

Posted by Foreverloveme
I tried to message you. You have to turn your pm on for me to resend it.

Done

YOU SCOLDED HER BCUZ SHE'S BUSY WITH SCHOOL—!!!







.....then comes the slow fade from her, saw that coming....

Don't ever scold a Cap, especially when there isn't a title between you two. You don't have that right. You've gone on a few dates, and you're mad bcuz she's not jumping for you. Relax.

Posted by Greentea
YOU SCOLDED HER BCUZ SHE'S BUSY WITH SCHOOL—!!!







.....then comes the slow fade from her, saw that coming....

Don't ever scold a Cap, especially when there isn't a title between you two. You don't have that right. You've gone on a few dates, and you're mad bcuz she's not jumping for you. Relax.

Not really scold but whine 😢
She not busy with school but with her housemen training.
Well, sometime would get emotional as since from the beginning, things was so smooth.
And suddenly like a bolt from the blue, is such a huge change in just few days.

Just give her time to think , as Cap I want to take thing's slowly as i need assurance of my feelings before committing.
you might just scared her off , still show her you care till she realize that your intentions is real

Posted by prettyCap01
Just give her time to think , as Cap I want to take thing's slowly as i need assurance of my feelings before committing.
you might just scared her off , still show her you care till she realize that your intentions is real

Hmmmm. Now am giving her space and time without texting her or anything. Hopefully things will make out.
Some time some day, I wanted to send her some funny video or share some stuff, I would re-consider as well.
Probably I think that it would annoys her like a buzzing fly flying around the head LOL

all the best !

gemini man and cap women don't work. gemini men cheat and cap woman are loyal period. as soon as the novelty wears off you'll get a rubber neck and be lookin around. gem woman cap man are better. its better this doesnt go forward.

Posted by KittenLaRouge
gemini man and cap women don't work. gemini men cheat and cap woman are loyal period. as soon as the novelty wears off you'll get a rubber neck and be lookin around. gem woman cap man are better. its better this doesnt go forward.

Well. Pretty much I got no idea how should I respond to you.
Are you based only on Gemini astrology to judge that Gem men cheat or you encounter one yourself?
But are you sure that all Gem men cheat?
I even seen Gem men who's loyal to their partner. They been together for so long and not like others in new relationship then break off and later on into new relationship again.
My ideas is if wanna fling around then don't be in relationship. If wanna in relationship then don't fling.
But then, let me ask you this. What if not only Gem men cheat but MEN cheat? Cap woman don't cheat?
There's lot of consider need to take into place for ones' personality before saying that 🙂

Just reading your posts, I can feel how impatient you are to hear her feelings. I'm sure in person that comes across even more so.
Don't be pushy. If you really like her, you'll give her time.

My experience with gemini is not good. There are a lot of core differences such as in temperament, approach to life, viewpoint, how they spend money, communication, consistency, reliability, dependability, etc.

It can work if the gemini is consistent and responsible and if the cap can learn to live life one day at a time. The cap needs humor and lightness that gemini provides and the gemini needs the stability that cap can provide. Cap can be too serious and gemini can be too inconsistent. Perhaps she feels these core differences.

Be patient. Don't push. She has to think things through fully before deciding to go to the next step.
You don't seem flaky, so that's a plus in your corner. 🙂

Posted by truecap
Just reading your posts, I can feel how impatient you are to hear her feelings. I'm sure in person that comes across even more so.
Don't be pushy. If you really like her, you'll give her time.

My experience with gemini is not good. There are a lot of core differences such as in temperament, approach to life, viewpoint, how they spend money, communication, consistency, reliability, dependability, etc.

It can work if the gemini is consistent and responsible and if the cap can learn to live life one day at a time. The cap needs humor and lightness that gemini provides and the gemini needs the stability that cap can provide. Cap can be too serious and gemini can be too inconsistent. Perhaps she feels these core differences.

Be patient. Don't push. She has to think things through fully before deciding to go to the next step.
You don't seem flaky, so that's a plus in your corner. 🙂

Indeed I think that I'm too pushy. So for now, I'll just give her time and follow the flow.
It's true that gemini have too much difference 😄 But for my case, I'll just listen to others advice and take in consideration come out with a reasonable and acceptable answer (like data analysis)
Well I think for the time being, I'll just wait for her to talk with me (if she interested). Am I right?

It really depends on if all the other planets line up. Can't go on sun sign alone.
I try to remember that.

I was married to a gem for 18 years and I know I can't compare every gem to that one. I try to be fair.

Posted by truecap
It really depends on if all the other planets line up. Can't go on sun sign alone.
I try to remember that.

I was married to a gem for 18 years and I know I can't compare every gem to that one. I try to be fair.

I didn't really go deep into about the planet lining up. So not really sure about it lol
Ohhh Sorry for kicking back your past. But I think sometimes, influences from people project major impact as well.

If you have some earth, and she has some air - it could work out really well. 🙂

Posted by truecap
If you have some earth, and she has some air - it could work out really well. 🙂

Not sure whether we have that or not thou

Well peeps, I got some update here. Yesterday I brought her some famous dessert drinks from my day trip event and hanged it on her door with a small paper note as she was not around. Today I got her message saying that "You don't treat me so good 😐 ". What does that means? Hmmmm

Ask her!

Posted by lnana04
Ask her!

Posted by Foreverloveme
^This.

+ ask how'd she like to be treated & how you can make things better...just a thought

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Yep. Definitely will ask her.

Is it possible that she's trying to keep me away?

Posted by Foreverloveme
Maybe, I think it's unlikely. If I don't like them I let them know in a polite way without leaving room for uncertainty or I ignore them completely if I'm angry & want them to go away.

That's true. Might be she's still hesitating and unsure.

I think just have to wait for her to open up.

Well then, she replied me "No need to treat me so good", this one sentence. Not really answer to my question. I guess that's a straight-forward answer?

Posted by zyuan24
Well then, she replied me "No need to treat me so good", this one sentence. Not really answer to my question. I guess that's a straight-forward answer?

What exactly did you ask her?

If you still don't understand ask some more what she means by that until you are clear. She shouldn't bite lol.

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Posted by zyuan24
Well then, she replied me "No need to treat me so good", this one sentence. Not really answer to my question. I guess that's a straight-forward answer?

What exactly did you ask her?

If you still don't understand ask some more what she means by that until you are clear. She shouldn't bite lol.

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I asked her "why don't treat you good? How I can make things better".

And her answer was "No need to treat me good"

Something like that.

Yep. I know she won't bite 😄

Right now, I think the situation is something like "I don't know and I don't know what to do kind" lol

I honestly think she's not interested and hopes you will go away on your own. Maybe she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. If I was apprehensive about a guy but liked him, I would see where it goes. My curiosity would get the best of me especially if he treated me well.

Posted by miimii
I honestly think she's not interested and hopes you will go away on your own. Maybe she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. If I was apprehensive about a guy but liked him, I would see where it goes. My curiosity would get the best of me especially if he treated me well.

I pretty much agree with you.

Now I'm in dilemma between red light and green light, but still I don't feels like giving up 😢

Posted by applaud47
Most girls are introverts. This is one of those. You might be a introvert too but as a man we're forced to balance being an extrovert and an introvert. The more extroverted you are though, the more annoyed she's going to get so take it easy. It's like making a bully feel comfortable.

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Yep. As a man, we're pretty much force to balance between extrovert and introvert.

But how to be introvert towards her?

I meant like I'm being really patient with all this while even I surprised by myself.

Posted by applaud47
Introverts have a default mode which is glumness so extroverts tend to annoy them because they like to smile in they face all the time and it gets annoying to them. So I suggest you get on her level but know when to cheer her up on some extroverted shit because introverts admire the way extroverts are cheerful but in moderation. pretty much girls like drama and like to play push pull games which I personally think is weak and immature but to each it's own. Just telling you my perspective.

Hmmm. The tricky part is that she seldom seldom talk with me nowadays.

It's more like haven't open up to me yet.

But will try to figure it out. Hopefully things will sort out *finger crossed*

Posted by Foreverloveme

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Posted by applaud47
Introverts have a default mode which is glumness so extroverts tend to annoy them because they like to smile in they face all the time and it gets annoying to them. So I suggest you get on her level but know when to cheer her up on some extroverted shit because introverts admire the way extroverts are cheerful but in moderation. pretty much girls like drama and like to play push pull games which I personally think is weak and immature but to each it's own. Just telling you my perspective.

Ever thought it's unintentional drama? I don't like push pull. It takes a lot for me to deal with my own emotions. If I want you it's solid & if I don't it's solid...if I'm still deciding then I could see how there could be confusion.

I feel you but if you don't want him then don't lead him on.

I don't that's why I said it's solid. I try to be as straightforward and honest with people because I appreciate the same respect in return.

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Actually I felt there's no right or wrong perspective in this.

Some people might afraid of getting hurt and unable to move forward, like how I was previously till I met her.

As we unable to foresee what's goona happen in future and in the end mostly lead to think of like "what if I accept him/her then later we break up again, how am I gonna accept this" situation

Some just brave enough to take up the challenge and accept the result no matter what.

Just my thought