Aries and Capricorn

I'm an Aries woman, he is a Capricorn. Been talking for a few months.... It seems as every time we hang out he turns cold for awhile after. We have hooked up and especially since then he has been different. He says it's not me but he's not thinking about that kind of stuff right now and he's focused more on himself • not sure if that's just a cop out. We both recognize that we sometimes push each other's buttons but I really like him and I have yet to hear anything positive from him as far as feelings go. He still continues to text me though every day even just to say hi but usually chatting more than that. I don't want to read too much into anything anymore because I don't want to get my feelings hurt and I feel like that's the direction we are heading. But also unsure if I should just be patient? We are friends but he does hold me when we hang out and he's very touchy feely. He's the most confusing man I have ever had feelings for. I wish I knew how he felt but every time I ask him he gets annoyed with me being too emotional. But in my mind if he doesn't like me then just tell me?! Are aries and Capricorn an impossible match? Sorry if this is long lol

Aries women here.
Pushing each other's button is common in an Aries Cap relationship. I would say just be patient as patience is the thing which we (Aries) lack. you can ask him directly whether he want you to wait for him or move on but don't push him for a relationship if he isn't ready yet. Everything in this relationship will be on his own pace and there's very little that you can do about it.
Are Aries and Capricorn Impossible match?
I would say no but it requires lots and lots of compromise from both sides. I am an Aries women in relationship with a Cappy for almost three years and its still mostly ups and down. My suggestion for you is to keep your anger always in check.

What are the other placements in your's and his chart ?

well....I don't know it depends on your chart. I have four cap placements (rising, moon, outer planets) + juno in cap, but I still don't find myself attracted to cap men past the point of a platonic interaction. I think superficially aries+cap may have a connection, or a deep bond that is not romantic..... but nothing beyond that. I mean nothing is never impossible, but that's just my outlook on life, and my martian optimism. However, I personally don't think it would work out.

Aries are great! I love them to death.

However....living with them is hard. I've lived with one almost my whole life (my father and my son). These two cardinal signs are both very bossy and very pushy and yes, we push each other's buttons. Although we are close, I've always conflicted with my father and now, same with my teenage son. Seems like there's always a lot of tension and conflict. Oh, there are LOTS of good times, too, though. As much as I love them, respect and appreciate their good qualities, I don't think I'd want to be in a relationship with one. I like more peace than conflict.

I wonder if it's different when the male is cap and the woman is aries? Probably somewhat.

Posted by truecap
Aries are great! I love them to death.

However....living with them is hard. I've lived with one almost my whole life (my father and my son). These two cardinal signs are both very bossy and very pushy and yes, we push each other's buttons. Although we are close, I've always conflicted with my father and now, same with my teenage son. Seems like there's always a lot of tension and conflict. Oh, there are LOTS of good times, too, though. As much as I love them, respect and appreciate their good qualities, I don't think I'd want to be in a relationship with one. I like more peace than conflict.

I wonder if it's different when the male is cap and the woman is aries? Probably somewhat.

Aries women are definitely different species vs the male ram...but nah. Aries women are strong personalities. Don't think it's a good match up.

Posted by anna1
What are the other placements in your's and his chart ?

Him
Sun Capricorn
Venus Capricorn
Moon Leo

Me
Sun Aries
Venus pisces
Moon Scorpio

So an update. I kind of just came to the conclusion that he doesn't like me at all more than a friend. So I had told him that this guy we both know wanted to hang out and go dancing with me. So his reply was "do it do it." So I invited my cap friend and I told him I told the other guy I would be there. So me and cap danced a little and I had my sister there, so then the other guy shows up and he dances with me a little. Then cap guy completely ignores me and on top of that starts dancing with my sister and I'm just like... Wtf. I really liked him but he just wanted to be friends and told me to hang out with this other guy but then acts like that. So I text him and say "why are u dissing me" and his response "your busy enough" and then when we all left separately he text me saying How jealous I am bc I gave him a look when he was dancing with my sister. Um hello... Bc I tried to dance with you and you completely walked away from me and started dancing with my sister! And just saying how jealous I am lol. I don't even like the other guy but thought id give him a chance. Idk what to think... Could he have been jealous? Maybe he did have some feelings for me? I wish he could stop doing this to me because my feelings for him are strong. I wasn't trying to make him jealous, I really really thought he just had no feelings for me and I was giving up!

What was the point of bringing up the other guy? What was your motive? To get a reaction?

He probably thinks you told him about the other guy to make you jealous, so he may have said "do it" because he either thought you wanted the other guy or he called your bluff. Caps aren't ones to "compete" for affection and you will always lose the jealousy game with a cap. . He ignored you because he probably thought you were either playing games or didn't really want to be with him. The "you're busy enough" is the tell tale response from someone who feels that way.

I wasn't trying to play any jealousy games but I can see where it would look like that. My only "motive" was to dance and have fun. It wasn't to get a reaction. I told him about the other guy a day or two AFTER I confessed my feelings to him and his response was "oh I see." And nothing else. and I only told him bc I knew he knew the guy. I honestly thought the "do it do it" was coming from a "friendly" place. Like "yes, Leave me alone and go talk to someone else"

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Dude. Wtf are doing? You invite the guy you're banging and the guy who wants to bang you to the same "date" and then get mad when Cap dances with your sister? Grow up. Wait. How old are you?

I am an adult. and if you had read any of the previous posts you would have seen that I had *already* expressed myself the the guy that I was "banging" ( although we aren't "banging.") and he turned me down numerous times. We have been friends for a long time, but recently reconnected over the last few months. and this is not the first time we have hung out at the club together. Furthermore, acting disrespectfully on my post and asking "how old I am?" Is NOT what a grown up does, so my question to you is how old are you? Because the older I have become the more of a filter I have for myself and I'm able to stop myself before I respond rudely to someone.

Well, then why the reason for the question?

You confessed your feelings, got turned down. Obviously then, cap doesn't feel the same way. So go out with the other guy and don't worry about what the cap thinks.

You say they know each other.

Keep in mind that going from guy to guy in the same group gets you a slutty reputation. No where did I say you were, I just mean once the reputation gets labeled, it's really hard to unlabel it.

Yet, in your defense, you were only "talking" to the cap, so he owes you nothing and you owe him nothing and perhaps you won't have to worry about reputation.

As a grown woman, I am not worried about any "reputation" as I am free to do what I want and make any decisions I want. And just like it would be conceivable for a man to date who he wants, when he wants, I'm not sure why it would cause me to have a slutty reputation 🙂

And to the the question because obviously I do like cappy. But I just was confused since he had repeatedly told me he didn't share the same feelings but acted jealous? Was trying to gain some insight. Also, the only reason I did get jealous when he danced with my sister is because he was deliberately trying to make me jealous. But all I did was look at him. I didn't flip out In a jealous rage of some sort.

Hmmm....when I go out in a group, we all dance with everybody there. We dance with each other's spouses, each other's bf/gif, with each other....doesn't matter whom dances with whom. It's all about having a good time. No jealousies, no issues, just dancing and drinking and having a good time.

That's how mature people view it.

Of course, we don't "hump" dance with them...but we do all dance.

Posted by cheekyfaerie
If you were all there together, wasn't it less rude of him to dance with your sister instead of pull some rando right in front of you?

I talk how I talk. Respond or don't.

If I were trying to make someone jealous - I don't play that game, but if I did, I would find some random person to do it with, not someone's brother/sister.

Posted by truecap
Hmmm....when I go out in a group, we all dance with everybody there. We dance with each other's spouses, each other's bf/gif, with each other....doesn't matter whom dances with whom. It's all about having a good time. No jealousies, no issues, just dancing and drinking and having a good time.

That's how mature people view it.

Of course, we don't "hump" dance with them...but we do all dance.

He was "hump dancing" my sister. And I wasn't jealous, I was mad that he deliberately tried to make me jealous. I wasn't trying to make him jealous. As far as I knew. He had no feelings for me and why would he be jealous? But I was ad that he refused to acknowledge my presence and humped my sister on the dance floor. 🙂

Posted by Dreamer16

Posted by truecap
Hmmm....when I go out in a group, we all dance with everybody there. We dance with each other's spouses, each other's bf/gif, with each other....doesn't matter whom dances with whom. It's all about having a good time. No jealousies, no issues, just dancing and drinking and having a good time.

That's how mature people view it.

Of course, we don't "hump" dance with them...but we do all dance.

He was "hump dancing" my sister. And I wasn't jealous, I was mad that he deliberately tried to make me jealous. I wasn't trying to make him jealous. As far as I knew. He had no feelings for me and why would he be jealous? But I was ad that he refused to acknowledge my presence and humped my sister on the dance floor. 🙂

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Okay. But how do you know he was trying to make you jealous? Maybe he was just dancing.

You have to realize too that your sister allowed it.

Good job, Eva.

Posted by evalani290

Posted by Dreamer16
So an update. I kind of just came to the conclusion that he doesn't like me at all more than a friend. So I had told him that this guy we both know wanted to hang out and go dancing with me. So his reply was "do it do it." So I invited my cap friend and I told him I told the other guy I would be there. So me and cap danced a little and I had my sister there, so then the other guy shows up and he dances with me a little. Then cap guy completely ignores me and on top of that starts dancing with my sister and I'm just like... Wtf. I really liked him but he just wanted to be friends and told me to hang out with this other guy but then acts like that. So I text him and say "why are u dissing me" and his response "your busy enough" and then when we all left separately he text me saying How jealous I am bc I gave him a look when he was dancing with my sister. Um hello... Bc I tried to dance with you and you completely walked away from me and started dancing with my sister! And just saying how jealous I am lol. I don't even like the other guy but thought id give him a chance. Idk what to think... Could he have been jealous? Maybe he did have some feelings for me? I wish he could stop doing this to me because my feelings for him are strong. I wasn't trying to make him jealous, I really really thought he just had no feelings for me and I was giving up!

He started to dance with your sister after you started to dance with that other guy. You didn't liked the other guy but you thought about giving him a chance.
And now you're mad because your friend danced with your sister but not because you're jealous,because you think he wanted to make you jealous and with your sister on top of that.

He likes you but if you don't have the patience and if you're impulsive you're gonna push him away. Your words don't match your actions and he won't show you nothing until he's sure of you. Please listen and try to see this from his perspective,detach for a minute from your feelings,you'll have a better view and you'll understand him.

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Thank you Eva. That's really good advice.

I fully Agree with evalani. Some good advice here OP