availability

How do you become available to yourself and to others? I'm an overall extreeemely neglectful person, to everybody including myself. As if there's no time or real interest in anything or anybody.

One day I'd like to be in a relationship, but I'm not sure if I'll get to a point where I'm deeply interested or invested in a person. I'm that way with myself too.

How can this be fixed?

Posted by scorpx3
There's nothing to fix. You are who you are. The different life experiences you undertake and the way you react will determine whether or not that quality of yours changes. Otherwise, stay as you are.

I know this is the Cap forum but...seriously...

I don't mind other signs answering.

It is how I am, and usually I'm the type that believes in being true to how you are, but I I've even managed to neglect what I want out of life, from myself, from others etc.

Like tonight, I'm scrolling through facebook seeing pics of friends and family. I realize I would like to have a relationship....I would like to talk to my best-friend more...I would like to talk to my brother...I would like to see and meet my little niece...talk to my cousins...talk to my gradmother more etc etc etc. It was like a never-ending list of people and things I'd like to do and it's sad.

Posted by lnana04
I don't mind other signs answering.

It is how I am, and usually I'm the type that believes in being true to how you are, but I I've even managed to neglect what I want out of life, from myself, from others etc.

Like tonight, I'm scrolling through facebook seeing pics of friends and family. I realize I would like to have a relationship....I would like to talk to my best-friend more...I would like to talk to my brother...I would like to see and meet my little niece...talk to my cousins...talk to my gradmother more etc etc etc. It was like a never-ending list of people and things I'd like to do and it's sad.

So what's holding you back from calling the people who you care about? Reach out and those people will reach back.

If you're cool and standoffish in general then maybe they haven't wanted to bother you.

This evening for example, I was pretty tired, but I forced myself to pick up the phone and call a cousin, then a friend. (I'm not much of a phone person BTW). I was happy I did, and I could tell that they were too.

My mars is in Libra, no idea what house it's in lol.

I guess I'm pretty standoffish in general. I've always been that way, but Ive never felt THIS distant from everybody, and I know it doesn't help not being on social media or having a facebook(I occasionally use my sister's). For months I didn't even had a phone. I do think my ways have turned a lot of people off from me.

Posted by lnana04
How do you become available to yourself and to others? I'm an overall extreeemely neglectful person, to everybody including myself. As if there's no time or real interest in anything or anybody.

One day I'd like to be in a relationship, but I'm not sure if I'll get to a point where I'm deeply interested or invested in a person. I'm that way with myself too.

How can this be fixed?

You are perfect. It is very normal - how you are. Infact, I find people like you only normal

I am like this also. Time is too short even for myself.

How it can be fixed?

Well...you'll find answers when a relationship comes your way ‚ ..right now you feel like this, in future when someone is worthy of your time and energy - you may give yourself to it also 🙂 dont worry, relationships are just smaaaaall part of life. ✌

Posted by lnana04

Posted by scorpx3
There's nothing to fix. You are who you are. The different life experiences you undertake and the way you react will determine whether or not that quality of yours changes. Otherwise, stay as you are.

I know this is the Cap forum but...seriously...

I don't mind other signs answering.

It is how I am, and usually I'm the type that believes in being true to how you are, but I I've even managed to neglect what I want out of life, from myself, from others etc.

Like tonight, I'm scrolling through facebook seeing pics of friends and family. I realize I would like to have a relationship....I would like to talk to my best-friend more...I would like to talk to my brother...I would like to see and meet my little niece...talk to my cousins...talk to my gradmother more etc etc etc. It was like a never-ending list of people and things I'd like to do and it's sad.

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Just reach out every now and then. Send a text saying hi, how are ya? Call them on the phone. Send a facebook message. If they're on-line initiate a chat.

it's hard at first, so challenge yourself to reach out to one person a week. Truthfully, they're probably going to be glad to hear from you and you'll feel good about doing it.

Posted by lnana04

Posted by scorpx3
There's nothing to fix. You are who you are. The different life experiences you undertake and the way you react will determine whether or not that quality of yours changes. Otherwise, stay as you are.

I know this is the Cap forum but...seriously...

I don't mind other signs answering.

It is how I am, and usually I'm the type that believes in being true to how you are, but I I've even managed to neglect what I want out of life, from myself, from others etc.

Like tonight, I'm scrolling through facebook seeing pics of friends and family. I realize I would like to have a relationship....I would like to talk to my best-friend more...I would like to talk to my brother...I would like to see and meet my little niece...talk to my cousins...talk to my gradmother more etc etc etc. It was like a never-ending list of people and things I'd like to do and it's sad.

click to expand

Just reach out every now and then. Send a text saying hi, how are ya? Call them on the phone. Send a facebook message. If they're on-line initiate a chat.

it's hard at first, so challenge yourself to reach out to one person a week. Truthfully, they're probably going to be glad to hear from you and you'll feel good about doing it.