Cap EX still lingering

So I was hoping someone could help me understand my ex's behavior because I seriously can't. Me and my ex were together for 3y until I found out the guy was living a double life and cheating on me the entire time, long story short the guy manipulated me into trying to make it work for 10 months, only to find out nothing changed and we was still doing the same crap with the same ex girlfriend etc... so in October I finally came to my senses and really dumped the guy only for him to propose to the girl 2 weeks after I broke up with him (in my opinion he probably had this planned the entire time), so now lets cut to January 2015. The douchbag decided to contact me and to find out how I am and blah blah blah. When all this first happen I was pissed still and let him have it, i mean wasn't the purpose of everything he did to rid me of his life?! What the hell is he trying to be friends with me? I would understand if we broke up on good terms but we didn't. The guy totally broke me. I'm normally such a confident, funny secure and just overall happy person, I live up to being a Sag and am well was always optimistic and could see the good in just about anything bad, but he totally ruined that and me and right when I was getting better things and saw a glimmer of healing and happiness again he decided to get in touch. The one good thing that came out of him contacting me was that I was able to release all the anger and resentment i has towards him and I feel much better. He still contacts me on pretty daily basis, but not in a romantic way more like a friend way but I am still baffled by his actions. He is engaged and chose her so why the hell do you want me as your friend, I don't think he is friends with any of his exes me on the other hand am friends with all my exes, but I also had respectable endings with all of them, I never did what he did. The only thing I can say for certain is now I actually feel as though he is remorseful for his actions, unless he is manipulating me again, but in the past he would never take responsibility for his actions would try to blame me for him cheating, now he tells me that it was all his fault and he knows that now and is deeply regretful and sorry. He hasn't tried to make any moves on me or anything and doesn't tell me that he misses me, so I still don't understand why he can't just let me go. I mean I am trying to date and move forward and I am not leading him to think I still care about him or anything because I don't, if an

if anything I am overly mean to him and tell him that I am upset with myself for allowing myself to have cared about someone who cared so little about me and treated people as crappy has he did, but he just takes it and says he deserves what I am saying, in the past he would have got pissed and threw a little fit like a kid and then attack me , but not now... Perhaps he realizes what he did was crappy, I don't know. So my question is: is this normal behavior, why does he want to be friends with me after he clearly did not want to be in a committed relationship with me and proposed to someone else (I should mention he proposed on the last day of a mercury retrograde Oct 26), is the guy just playing head games with me? I thought Capricorns could just move on or didn't remain friends with their exs, any advise if appreciated.--- thanks in advance

He knows he was wrong and wants your forgiveness. Which a Cap male usually don't do. You must be special to him some how. Tell him you forgive him and you don't see him in your future, if that is what you want.

I agree block him everywhere, you can even get a new number.

After what he has done, he doesn't deserve to be your friend. He is a d-o-u-c-h-ebag and I bet he will cheat on his new gf too. Some caps are just...retarded.

My cap ex kept calling and texting for a year. They have this obsession where everyone they know or they have known must have a use to them- as a friend or for sex etc

Take him COMPLETELY out of your life.

The bottom fell out in his other relationship and he's turning you into a back up. The shitty ones aren't known for being users for no reason.

He does not have residual feelings for you. Once a cheater always a cheater. Look at his current actions! Imagine the situation he's creating for his fianc?e- chatting up his ex girlfriend, who he cheated on, on a daily basis while he's ENGAGED to her.

Also, I agree with deleting/blocking on social media. The Capricorn in my life turned into some harassing douche, so I took him off of FB. But then he continued to hassle me via mutual friends' posts and the like, so I had to block him.

Best decision evar. You don't want to have to be so drastic, but sometimes you have to be.

Thanks everybody! I agree 100% that him trying to communicate with me is inappropriate and I'm thankful I'm not her because I could be her, but instead I actually get a chance to find someone who loves and deserves me. I'm not saying that when I text back I'm not at fault too or I don't feel bad because I do but the reality is, even if I told her because I think she should know, nothing would change. I mean she called me a week before they got engaged and I told her that I just ended things with him because he was seeing both of us still, and a week later she said yes to his proposal, so I know she doesn't really have respect for herself, plus I don't like Drama and dont want anything to do with her or him anymore. I'm just trying to move forward. I have told him that I forgive him, but I forgave him so I could move forward and no longer carry all the resentment and anger I was carrying, but he always reverts to acting like we're friends and everything is cool. I'm just confused by his behavior I have no idea why the guy just can't let me go. I've blocked him on everything including my cell, but he still texts, his text go to my spam folder and I don't respond. I won't change my number because I use it for wor as well and don't want to go through the hassle. The only thing I can think he may want to do is get me change my mind and believe that he actually cared or loved, because I told him I don't believe that was possible or his feelings were real, when he knowingly planned and cheated on me for 3y, there's just no way, people don't treat people they loved the way he treated me, so maybe it's all a game and that's his goal, he is very task oriented. Who knows, I just think it's mean and kinda selfish of him to keep lingering know how much he hurt me.

You seem like a nice person, and he realized that, however I honestly don't think he deserves your friendship.

Do you really think you can heal while talking to him daily?

I think you should look out for yourself and move on from this point on. He needs to sit with his behavior and actions, and learn a lesson and the best way to do that is remove yourself and let him have his thoughts. Obviously he's not happy, so let him marinate in his unhappiness.

I think you deserve much better.

I watched that reality show with the Sag, Tearra Marie, and she was with a Capricorn who did basically the same thing. It's hard seeing a persons spirit crushed over some dumb guy that didn't deserve that person in the first place. Cut him loose.

That's exactly what it is.

It's fucked and weird, but some people operate like this.

Don't entertain his shit anymore. I went through this with a Cap and the overall conclusion was that he's a very self absorbed douche with issues. No more time needed to be wasted on such an individual.

He's HER problem now. Think about the bullet you missed by having him removed from your life.

I agree and appreciate the feedback I just feel like I have to question everything because he totally ruined me. I don't trust myself or how I feel anymore because my gooddness how could I when I obviously lack good judgment at times taking how this guy was able to trick me for 3y, i almost quit my job and was going to move with him. Which is why I'm on this forum, I kind need reassuring or for someone to say hey dummy open your eyes don't fall for that crap again, so I do appreciate the responses!

No one has control over your life but you. I personally would never accept a cheater! EVER! Be her friend, maybe. But we are all different. I cannot tell you what to do. I can tell you what not to do.

Never give someone control over you. You and only you know whats right for you...

Looking for answers is the first part of the healing process.