Cap Men and Taurus Women (Page 3)

MyCap~ Yea...I think I will just do what I want and send him the text. I hate holding grudges and I know his bday is a big deal to him. (Mine is to me. I'm sitting here today on my bday, just waiting to see how long it takes my own mother and father to call, and I'm getting angrier w/ each hour that passes. Sad to say, but I am duly noting this as far as those close to me who are mindless and forgetful.)

I know the Cap. and I had/have a connection, and that he's just too messed up or carefree (venus in pisces) about love to be tied down. So, screw the fear and the games, and I'm just going to shock and surprise him on the 16th if I feel like it.

When is the last time you spoke to him?

Oh my God, I just got back to town and almost had a heart attack reading about mycaps last week! I wish I was there through it!!!! This is huge!

He calls you out of no where, wants you here and now (cappy control freaks), makes love to you like there is no tomorrow, wants you to stay at his place until he gets back (good move on leaving), pulls away...mmmmm
My advice girl is to hold back until he gets serious about you, serious to a cappy is telling mom and dad, taking you out to eat and introducing you to his friends, you can not be his inhouse call girl (no offense but they have a habit of trying to make woman into their personal playtoys).



This is also total cappy behavior. Mine picked me up at the airport, he was waiting even before my flight landed (he was also gone for 2 weeks). I could see in his eyes and in his touch that he missed me more than anything, but did he say anything? NO of course not! So mycap, this is the way of the cappies, they love/like you but they can't tell you, instead they hunt you down, make sweet love to you and then crawl away into their caves to "think" or whatever the hell it is they do.

-Take time for yourself
-Take it one day at a time
-Anything serious that needs to be said should be done face-to-face never, never, ever over IM, txt, or email.
-Call them on their bad behavior and tell them is not right and will not be tolerated
-Ignore them 99% of the time when they talk about other woman, they are just trying to get your 'goat'

For the record ladies, it is possible for cappys to let you into their personal life, mines parents all know about me, and he shares very personal details aspects of his life with me, he also takes me out to dinner and show open public affection BUT he also can disappear or make me do all the phone calling work, so there is no perfect relationship with a cappy.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CAPGIRL!!!!


love, GEG

ha ha ha h my cap has venus is Pisces as well lol !!

Happy Bday CapGirl...I'm sorry you're angry, but just know we are here with you to celebrate ur bday. Does ur Cap know it's ur bday today? I do believe u should just text him on his bday, it won't do any harm.

Ok ladies...I have finally talked to my Cap again. He's so strange. But let me tell you I was patient and he came around again. Everything you said, wheretomylady, is right. IT's crazy! Well I talked to him Sun nite for a few mins and then nothing monday or tues. So yesterday I told myself to stop thinkin about him, just do my own thing. What do you know I hear from him last nite. He didn't get off work til later, and he asked me to come over. I didn't really just want to go over to his house (just like you said wheretomylady) but I wanted to see him. So I did, and we had a very good conversation. WE were talking about us and he was like tell me what ur thinking, I said no and then he said, man u r better at writing an email and telling me how u feel than you are in person. I said yeah I know, that's why I sent u that.

He's not labeling us, and I really just don't think he wants someone serious right now with his crazy work schedule and all that. But then again it's not fair to me to always be there when 'he' has the time.

If it isn't one thing, it's another. But with the attitude that I have gotten since our breakup, I feel that I will just wait it out, if it happens, it happens. I just wish things could be different. But at least we r keeping in contact.

Great job, on not going **there** though, MyCap! And that was all done on your own intuition and good sense. Like I said, you seem to know what you're doing and how to handle them. I think my text will say, "Happy birthday loser" He will get a kick out of that-

Thanks for the bday wishes all. I'm taking tomorrow off (couldn't today), and getting a facial and pedicure and going bar-hopping with a bunch of girls. I found a hot black [subtly] sparkly camisole-top to wear, under a black pant suit. (This conservative Cap. isn't comfortable baring all that cleavage and needs the security of the jacket! lol )

CapGirl,

That text made me laugh, I think he will get a kick out of it!

Well you have fun tomorrow, and don't think about him once while ur out, just have a blast! You deserve it!

Well... I didn't have to decide on the whole bday text. The Cap. IM'd me tonite, and I know now that he's got me on his buddylist. I decided to just talk to him- I tried not to be too mean and sarcastic but that's how I get when this happens. I don't think he got what he was looking for, bc. after a half hour of talking, he said he'd be right back in a second and never came back after an hour. I'm sure that's not the last of him, so I'm really not upset at all. I was just numb and not feeling too affected by him. Disappearing for basically 3 months destroys feelings, that is for sure. I at least got the chance to tell him that I don't do "friends with benefits" and am too serious about my life and future for that nonsense. I asked him why he went cave-dwelling and avoided me for weeks... and I said you want a birthday present? pathetic! And his answer was that it was probably finals and he got busy with that. I said, lame answer.

It's basically dwindled, my feelings, and it's not as intense as it was for me, which is probably what he wanted, as they can't handle it. I don't know that he's a bad guy... He's not. Just really sloooow and cautious. He kept talking about being friends and that he considers me a friend; and I said, "friends don't want to tear each other's clothes off. there's a difference in my mind." haha--(He calls every girl he knows "a friend" so this was of little significance to me.)

I'll still now wish him happy bday next week- no problem. I'm not chasing him though... Weird twist of events!

capgirl,
guess what? my cappy also calls all women friends as well, it drives me crazy! Hope you had a great birthday!
If I was iming with a guy and he said "right back" and disappeared I would want to kill him! My cappy cancelled plans on me twice a couple months ago and I gently stormed over to his house and told him that wasn't cool or appropriate behavior. He has never done it again. I am guessing if you two are "just friends" you could tell him that leaving people hanging isn't very nice nor very friendly....if you want. It sounds like you might be over this guy...us earth signs can only take so much siht from guys.

Girls,

Ya'll are getting me thinking right now. For one, time apart does change feelings, and just as wheretomylady said, us earth signs can only take so much siht, and she's right because even tho I'm sort of back with my cap, I can see a change in my feelings towards him. When he does the stuff he used to do before, I can see my change in the way I react towards it. I react like I don't care as much, and thats just the truth. I also call him out on the things he does that I don't like (thanks to wheretomylady for that advice!). Him going into his little cave dwelling act and then coming back really changed me, and I should thank him for doing that! Gave me a different perspective of him and the whole situation.

Man, capgirl, I'd be mad if he said I'll be right back and never came back. I would have let him know that that isn't cool at all. I remember once my cap told me he'd call me right back and didn't. I called him til he answered (yeah maybe that was a little crazy on my part), but needless to say he never did that again...lol

Well at least you FINALLY heard from him capgirl, even tho he was being like that. These guys, just in my opinion, would rather be friends with benefits than get serious. They hate all that serious stuff. Mine refers to his 'girl' friends as just 'friends' also. I don't get this. I was probabl referred to as a 'friend' the whole time I was with him.

MyCap~ That's exacting what he was looking for though-- was for me to get mad and call him, when he didn't return to the chat after 2 hours yet remained available online. And if I did that, he would have just lied and claimed he was on a long phone call or stepped out, blah, blah, blah. I know how it would have played out, and I'm SO tired of the nonsense. So, I no longer react. Kind of like what you were saying... I'm just de-sensitized to it and it's not getting to me anymore.

But I'm sending him a little bday card that says..."I think you will probably always annoy me, but I still adore you." hehe- (I've told him both of these sentiments before- annoy and adore- so it's nothing new.) Figure I'll drop a little bait and see if he comes back tugging... haha!!

Be careful, MyCap. Try not to take them serious, and let them see that you don't take them serious and that you have a life that's not centered on them, until they start proving themself through reliability, availability, etc. That's my mindset, for this month anyway!! LOL

Yeah I know never to take them serious anymore. I'm tired of dealing with all that! U r right, he probably wanted u to get mad and call, and I'm glad u didn't. That showed him that you could careless that he didn't come back (which is good). They like a challenge anyway.

mycap, I have learned and it totally works, don't take any crap from these guys. The seocnd he does something I don't like I react, and let him know I am not happy. It works! I was such a door mat for the first 2 months...no longer. My theory is to give 90% of yourself but always hold alittle something back just for yourself.

Ok girls, I had a bunch of drama this wknd...

Ok as I said in a previous post on here my cap had a bad day last week, well I contacted him and asked him if he wanted to get together this wknd to get his mind off it, and he said that he wasn't good company right now. I didn't give him a hard time bout it, just let it go. So this weekend (Sat) just thought Id drop by his place to see how he was doing, etc. Guess what? That chick he started dating whenever we were broke up those 2 wks was at his house. I was pissed!! Wouldn't u be?

So I text him, tell him he's a liar. He replies and says that he's been thru hell these past couple of days, and he doesnt need to deal with this right now then he shut his phn off. So what did I do? Went to his house, up to the door, and knocked on it. He came out, talked to me. He wasn't exactly mad I showed up. He tried to say that she called him that day and said he needed to get out of the house and they should go get something to eat. I texted him the same thing on Fri, but he said no to me. He then proceeded to tell me I need to leave, it was being rude to her, etc.

I kept asking myself why he came back and wanted to get back together with me after we were apart those 2 wks and now he's doing this sh1t. I don't understand. Well he told me he'd call me today. He did.

The conversation was opposite of what I thought. i thought he'd say never to contact him again, etc. He said it showed him how much I felt for him (in a weird way). He told me he went back in last nite and explained to that girl about us and said that he pretty much wouldn't hear from her again cause he told her how much he felt for me (which suprised me). So we talked about us. It was the weirdest thing. But he really, truly knows how I feel about him now. I proved it to him with my actions. Even tho I said I told him how I felt in that email. He said they were just words, actions speak louder. So he's cool now with it. We r talking about becoming really exclusive now. WEird how things work.

Holy cow-- I always believed these guys like and need the drama... Like mine has instigated for a reaction alot before, and I refused to respond. Well, I'm happy for you! This is really interesting insight... Just bad for me, bc. I cannot be that emotional and reactive. I hope this is the start of something great for you!!! ; )

Thanks Capgirl...I hope it is too...or I'm praying for it to be anyway. They do like drama just like us and he told me that he likes the challenge too...it's crazy!

I am so proud of you Mycap for going straight to him and telling him what was on your mind, we need to stand up for ourselves! They do like a bit of drama but tell them you don't (unless you do). i told my cappy I need things to be consistant and straight forward, and he is...now.
Anywho I have good news (fingers crossed) my cappy is being wonderful, we are really getting into things, while still respecting each others independence.

That's great to hear wheretomylady, doesn't it makes things so much easier when ur getting along and not having to deal with all the ups/downs! I hopeit keeps up for ya!

I'm really glad I stood up for myself also. I thought by doing that that I would have gotten him to hate me forever, but it w as the opposite, which I'm glad of. His bday is today. He has to work, which is a bummer. So i can't take him out.

MyCap~ I'm responding to you here, on the other. You'd have to run natal charts on astro.com for each of you, to get moon/venus/mars placements. It's free.

Wheretomylady...That's great! I knew you were probably busy living life w/ the Cap. 😉 I sit... and wait... bc. I'm too stubborn to do anything else but. haha If I count the ups/downs over 15 months, it has been... 5 or 6 of them! Sometimes I think we have too many squares in our synastry for it to work...

Hello Ladies,

I got a call this morning and it went like this...."What your contract like" (Me)"my contract", "where you live" (Me)"1 Year" why, "I might be moving, and I don't want to break my lease" (Me)"so you want me to stay in your apartment?, "Yea" (Me)"where you going" "Atanta" (Me)"why", "to work" , (Me)"No, your rent is higher then mines", "Ok bye". So when I got to work I called him and asked him did he have a minute, he said he will call me back. So when he called me back. I will be telling him that I will be moving on with my life, I will tell him that, the comment about moving lead me to believe that we will not be continuing on with this friendship. While I was typing this he called and I told him, his only comment was when am i going to get my things and I told him that I was not waiting around to see him I was waiting for him to call me to bring it to him and he said alright as if it meant nothing to him and I said take care of yourself bye, and I hung up so as of today this is most definitely over with. I don't know how he is going to take it but I know I will not be hanging around hoping that he calls me and he is in Atlanta somewhere and I never knew he left. I will not allow myself to be left in the cole like that...I might have mad a mistake but it was for my own emotions and feelings, honestly we never know when we will be seeing them when they do this they my not come back for a year and within that time we are still waiting for them well this sista is not like that...I would be a bigger person and say goodbye...when I feel it is over.

ScorpionLady... this sounds fishy. You're sure he's already taken the job and/or is in Atlanta? Normally there's provisions in a lease to let you out of it if you move. To me, it seems like he was testing you on some level, to get a reaction, to see where you're at w/ things. Maybe he is sincere about moving to Atlanta, but that's pretty ballsy to call you about taking over his place. I see ulterior motives.

I don't think he is going...My friend who has 14 years of experience with a Cappy said that he was probably testing me, because I have not been calling him to see what I was going to do.....she said he probably is contemplating on moving but I don't think he is ...because they are like that...she also told me that when it comes to work they arent's cautious about work they take it and end up being taken advantage of because they don't think all they see is money she also said that her ex is going through a big money mistake as we speak. Well you saw what I did so.......After I told him goodbye I went to tell my friend what I did and she said that he is not going to call me for his stuff because that is his way of keeping in contact with me...but I was like he got me twisted I will take the stuff and drop it off at his front door she said that will really blow his mind. He only lives 3 min from me and don't you know she said that he probably has been driving pass my house to see if my car is outside I have not been no where near his house...My friend also said that it is messing him up right know that I did that....and if I drop his stuff at his house it will really f with him...LOL....so as of today I will not be answering any calls...My thang is all these test he trying to pull is not going to work......I am flipping the script...he will not get the answer he is looking for...this is not about test....this is about him being a man...I am women enough to except that this may be over....if he go so why not leave know to make it easier on myself. But my friend said it was not over DAMN.........

And you can look at it this way...what if I did move in and then he comes back and I have to leave...I am azz out...with no where to stay...If he is trying to set me up all his test and plans has just backfired in his face.

Yep... I am a Cap. and have done this test, although not as severe. I just threw out in an email that I had put in for a job transfer, coincidentally to Atlanta (!) but that it could take several months. It was for real but I was still undecided that I would actually do it, yet I wanted to start a fire under my Cap's azz and get him to take some action. Didn't work-

And HE has pulled that keeping things nonsense on me- He held onto a formal party invitation I had given him and wouldn't return it for weeks. Even after I told him I found someone else to go, he kept it for several more days, making me call him for it. I know how he was thinking... he/they want it to continue and use the "things" to maintain the contact, just like your friend said.

Yikes... I don't know... you really want to push the envelope further w/ dumping his stuff at his doorstep? I guess it could fit w/ the circumstances, but I've seen one of my Taurus friends drive a Cap. away it seems bc. of acting too rashly, too cut-throat.

SL~ I know you are sooooo frustrated with his behavior... but you have to have PATIENCE and faith.... these men are the KINGS of testing...lol although you had better not try to test them..as it will BACKFIRE! If i were you if you still LOVE him and are hoping for something I would not drop his things off... but it this is it and you are ready "really" ready to move on... do it!!! Good luck sweetie!!


LOVE, GEG

I am not frustarated...My feelings are so surpressed right know. Whether he leaves or stay is ok with me...although during this time I was seeing other guys but I was not sleeping with them, because when I said to him that this has to be over for me sleep with someone else although I new it was not over I needed to say it is over so that I don't go back on my word. I have needs and I am not waiting on him anymore where my needs are concern. He has been sleeping with another women am not stupid to think that all this time he was'nt..I am not going to put his stuff at his door step...I will not accept any calls for a couple of days...and whether this was a test or not...me telling him the way I did should let him know that I am not press or waiting for him I am not scared of losing him....there are other men out there is what yall are forgetting yall talking like I should be afraid to do anything for fear of losing him....as far as I am concerned this is over in my eyes...I said the words I have to stick to it...He is not going to Atlanta but if he does.....then I would have done the right thing by ending it before he goes and continueing on with my life then finding out months down the line thinking he is comeing back still living down the street when in reality he is not....because he left and never said anything ....I would then be looking and feeling like a fool..this way if he goes or stays....I will not be looking like a fool not matter what happens.....this is not about his feelings or what he might do..this about protecting my feelings...and I guess this is what they mean when they say it takes a Scorpio and A Capricorn a long to get to gether.....this brother as met his match and I don't back down from no one...I do love him but that can go away...Do yall fell me

Yes I feel ya girl! U r doing the right thing because u r doing what is best for yourself! I'm sorry that ur having to go thru all this, but I can see that now u r definetely at the point of letting it go and getting on with ur life. As hard as it is, I know u can do it, or actually u r in the process of doing it.

He probably is testing you. Even if he isn't I guess that isn't the case because u could care less. These men try and try to test us, but sure enough if we tested them, it would backfire as someone has already said. I've done that before. But ur right, don't throw his stuff on his doorstep, and don't talk to him for a while. Ur on the right track! Good luck!

Ok, I have also tested someone like this...just like capgirl...I am a taurus though...I must say that it worked. ooopppps. Ignore almost every word a cap says, just ask them straight up to cut the crap and tell you what they want...this is a great way to a. advoid games and b.earn their respect, which frankly they should already have!!!!

wheretomylady, I'd have to admit that I've tested before too, and it's worked (taurus also). I've actually told a guy that I was thinking about moving away too. It did work, I had him going. Actually to the point where I said I had already told my family that I was going to move. It made us closer, and then I just decided not to move...lol. Never planned on in the first place. I've actually tested a lot, some worked, some didn't. It was kind of fun...but it shouldn't be done tho!!

Don't be sorry, I know you and the other ladies are concerned or care about what happens. All I know that if I don't ever hear from him again (but I will) I know that it was never meant to be and will say to myself like I always do when I leave someone or they leave me "HIS LOST SOMEONE ELSES GAIN" that is what I live by.

I thought of trying to stay off this board, just bc. it keeps him in my mind by being on here, but it's like an ongoing soap opera so I can't stay away!! LOL My other site/Cap. board has died it seems (bridgettwalthers). There were at least 5 other women, just like on here, who had been posting for months. I only know of 2 who were in actual relationships w/ the Cap. and were still trying hard to understand and be patient w/ him. I will never take on another Cap., I swear to thee! And this dude came after ME! Grrrrr....

CG~ its so funny that you said that cause this morning I woke up and thought you know? If i spent more time focusing on my tasks at hand Brian probably would not be on my mind as much!!!And my days would go by quicker!! LOL But here I am peeping through every ones stuff....stuck waiting for some amazing break through...he he But I think I will take a break from posting maybe come and read sometimes....but not let it consume me. We are all in the same boat except for MC and I am so happy for her...and my advice to go with the flow...enjoy all the wondrful moments the two of you share and....when he does not call dont worry...... cause in your heart... you know where you stand with this man 😉 he will call you he knows how you are. Well my loves I will check in, in a few days!! hope you have a wonderful rest of the week...and keep smiling!! LOVE * PATIENCE *

love, Brandy aka GEG

I know how u feel chicas! I was the same way when me and my cap were not together, it did keep me thinking about him. It's really not healthy to think about them all the time because then u keep giving urself false hope if it doesn't work out the way you want it to and so on. Thanks for being happy for me. I'm glad it worked out like this, and for all u who are wanting ur cappy to come back, I hope u get what u want. U all are great ppl and u deserve someone who cares about u!

Please stay in touch on here tho. I like hearing from u ladies!

Ladies I think that all men can be troublesome, as can women. What we need to be is smarter and stronger than them, cappies throw us for a loop because one second the can be lost in their thoughts, yet open, shy and loving in the next. I have to admit that I never, never, expected my cappy to be as open as he has became in the last month, so there is hope....

Okay... I'll try not to be angry and negative. I wonder if SL dropped off the mother-load yet?? haha (on the doorstep!) Ya'll know that Jude Law and Orlando Bloom are Caps....? Hot, hot, hot.

No I did not drop it off...he is supposed to coming to pick it up this weekend. I don't want to see him...I spoke with him last night and clarified a few things as to why I broke it off...one of them was that he won't talk to me and he said He respected that and then said that he is to busy right know and don't have time to spend with me right know and I said that was all you had to say. I still want this to be over and he said can we still be friends and I said yea, but when I think about it I don't want to be his friend either he is not worthy of my friendship. My friend told me that it is still not over with that he will be back and when he comes back he will come back strong as in very romantic etc. She said that he really does love me and the ones they love are the ones they pull away from because they don't know how to communicate to them that they are busy right know. And I understand that and I am ok with it.