Cap placements or Scorp Rising?

I got told last night that I had a bitchy person and was intimidating. I was told this by a young adult I practically helped raise, she is a second daughter to me.

She said she knew I wasn't bitchy but I had that demeanor about me and I intimidate one of her friends who is a cashier at our local grocery store.

It didn't bother me. My knee jerk response was 'well at least people don't run on me'. We laughed. She said no, they don't, but I know you're just a sweetheart in disguise.

I wonder if the blame goes to my scorpio rising, combined with the no-nonsense cap sun and moon?

I don't like thinking I intimidate people and I've had people tell me they were glad they got to know me because I seemed unapproachable at first, but they know better now.

Any other cap placement women or scorpio rising women experience this kind of feedback?

I suppose I need to learn to smile more, but I don't know how to be any other way than I am.

*persona*

I seem to intimidate people everywhere I go. They just stare. Don't know if it's intimidation or curiosity. But when I look at them, they look away. And I'm the coolest motherfuuuka in the world. lol

Hard exterior, soft interior = Capricorn (At least that what the horoscopes say)

It's a combination of both imo...but somehow I'm leaning more towards the Cap side. Caps are so strong because they can persevere through the hardest times without being emotional** That's intimidating.

I don't actually think Caps are "soft", maybe just secretly insecure about themselves. However, when it comes to others, there's not too many excuses that are good enough for them. At least they hold themselves to those high standards too 🙂

Oh yes. For years, a "joke" name for me at the place I worked was "the bitch". It went on for so long that eventually it really started getting to me. I had to take my boss aside and actually ask her to stop. Even though I knew it was a joke and that they knew deep down that I wasn't, it hurt me quite a bit.

I've had many people tell me that before they got to know me, they didn't like me. I am pretty serious most of the time and my sense of humor is pretty sarcastic. I don't smile a ton, either. I've tried to change my outward expression, but it feels forced and awkward. I'm in a very public-facing profession so I can turn it on when needed, but I can only sustain it temporarily.

If anyone's into the MBTI test, I consistently test as an INTJ.

Posted by sultrykitty

I've had many people tell me that before they got to know me, they didn't like me. I am pretty serious most of the time and my sense of humor is pretty sarcastic. I don't smile a ton, either. I've tried to change my outward expression, but it feels forced and awkward. I'm in a very public-facing profession so I can turn it on when needed, but I can only sustain it temporarily.

This exactly describes my situation sultrykitty's moon is in Capricorn too. So OP may be its has something to do with moon in Capricorn.

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Well, at least I'm not the only one who gets this. lol!
I feel a lot better now. 🙂

I've gotten that too. But I think people respect my demeanor of kindness to them though. I try not to be too intimidating. I don't see a reason to smile unless there is one.

Posted by TarsierdeSmokeyeye
Hahaha, as far as I'm concerned, people with major Scorp/Cap placements usually radiate warmth and I feel especially at ease around them irl. But yes, I notice that other people outside of me don't necessarily get that super pleasant instant impression from these same Cap/Scorp folk, which I find really puzzling.

I remember getting tickets once, and I was accompanied by a Scorp sun Cap rising close friend. I'm not very good at interaction with other humans in general and will always somewhat dread having to do stuff like that. But the cashier I thought was very nice that time, so I was really relieved and came away beaming and was like YAY! THAT WENT WELL! WHAT A NICE PERSON. My friend looked at me like I was whack and said : 'That man looked like a serial killer, wtf'. Then she paused, smirked and said : 'Oh. Bet he's Scorp.'

I don't know why most other people don't read that demeanor the same way I do. It's particularly reassuring to me?

I wonder how Cap/Scorp people see other Cap/Scorp people (I've read the thread so far and it's been mentioned in passing, but if anyone wants to elaborate further... Just curious)?

Maybe there's something in your chart that connects with it.

Once people get to know me, they see the warmth, but people that don't know me can't because I don't show it, I suppose.

I think your pisces and cancer placements tend to look for the good in people, you read their good vibes. And they sense that so they give you a warmer vibe in return, you're not a threat. I can relate to new people easier when I don't see them as a threat, but a more cynical persona makes me more suspicious. It's like a more cynical person meets you and reacts subconsiously to your warmth and they feel easier. Probably your warmth is genuine.

I feel like I'm rambling in circles. Hope what I'm saying makes sense.

And you're right, too friendly makes me more suspicious. I think surely people that friendly are fake, like a pretend friendly.

Caps are just scary be default.