Capricorn Man... WTF?

Scorpio Woman meets Capricorn Man. Falls hard only to find out he is not what he seems... Why is this man like this? Hot and cold. Present then disappears. Attentive then aloof. Damaged goods, but on a good day, he is the most wonderful person alive. Glimpses of how great he can be. Then back to being the crazy maker. I refer to him as Dr. Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde🙂. I wish I could say I hate him... but I hate myself more for not being able to just tell him to go back to where he came from. He has me questioning myself. "I am a simple man, actually." What a joke.... My weakness, my sickness...addicted.

Capricorns are very moody. My mother dated a Cap and she would joke that he would be in a good mood, laughing and joking, and he could do something as simple as walk into the restroom and come out, within minutes, like he was mad at the world LoL.

I struggle at work everday with different mood swings, riding all types of emotional rollercoasters for no specific reason at all. I be sitting there alone laughing to myself one minute, then tears forming the next.

Unfortunately its just something you will have to deal with if you really like him.

Posted by CapGal
It is more than just moodiness Inana,being a cap I certainly know about moodiness but can and will adjust that mood to accommodate others. Cap men don't do that as they are too consumed by their fears,gloom and all the other emotions present. Cap men really need to be a little more selfless. 1111, these guys will wear you out to the point where you have to create a safe distance to maintain your sanity, especially if you've fallen for them. Read the topics here on cap men and you'll see how familiar they all are

I've never dated a Capricorn male, but I've been surrounded by many. The moods don't bother me because I understand the need to be alone with your thoughts and feelings nd process what you need to on your own. Possibly they could be a bit more selfless, but that's just who they are and will probably always be. I think telling a Cap male he needs to adjust his moods or feelings is equivalent of telling him he needs to be fake or pretend.

Its definitely true that they will wear a woman out. I've seen it happen over and over again. This all ties into the insecurity. I think they/we know it takes a lot to deal with us.

What would I like? I don't know if he is just like this, or like this to me... Most often common courtesy prevails. But sometimes it takes two days to return a text. Goes several days without communicating. This, to me, is just rude. Capricorn rude, or rude to me? It's not really moodiness..is he just not that into me or a typical capricorn? I know cap women( mom and best friend) but NO cap men!! I have been reading up on them though...I give him space, don't question or complain ( too soon) but he pulls a disappearance, then "blah blah ...don't be angry with me.." He is 50 years old but acts like a silly boy.I CANNOT read him, my instinct tells me he is no good for me, but I have never wanted anyone more. Hence the sickness,weakness.

Yes you are so right amethyst...I have no right to complain. So I won't.🙂 I am just trying to figure out this man. I am usual very good at figuring people out. Men, women...intuitive we are (scorpios)...this one though is driving me looney...say what you mean and mean what you say. Generally my cap mom- her yes's are no's and no's are yes's. Are they all so cryptic.Very strong and self-sufficient. I don't need anyone attitude.??

My yes is yes and no is no. I'm not sure what that is about. And as far as him, I agree that he should atleast call daily if the two of you are serious. That, imo, is rude.

It seems though that you are approaching him as a puzzle, and when I read posts like these, I get the impression that the puzzle will be boxed and put away when solved.

Maybe its a scorpio thing, but I've never been interested in trying to figure someone out. That's impossible to do with anyone, not just a Cap imho. If that's what is driving your interest in him or this relationship then its probably best that you step back, especially if your gut is telling you he's no good for you.

You (scorpio) have pride and this sort of behavior is not feeding your ego and perhaps you should realize that you may just want him because you can't have him...

Honestly, it is not that...but my ego has been bruised, I must say. He has professed quite a bit, I love you's..you are one of the most important people in my life...BUT his actions are different than his words and my suspicious nature leads be to believe what he does is more important than what he says. I don't believe him🙂) The only people I don't get back to in two days are unimportant people in my life. Be as busy as you are...a text takes 30 seconds.

1111, off topic: is that you birth date?

On topic: Leave him alone. Let him miss you. No games, just life -- and yours goes on.

You don't need his approval or a relationship with him. Get what you want or remain alone until you do. He is not the only man out here or the only thing in your life.

November 11, yes..you are right. If he cared, I doubt I could keep him away.

I have recently gotten divorced and it has been quite a while since I have dated. Things have changed🙂. While I believe if someone truly is interested, they wouldn't wait two days to reply, I am not sure how things work now. Especially with this cappy. Are the like this or is he just like this to me because he is not so interested.I am very patient but I don't want to waste my time. I wasted a lot of time during separation/divorce period- years😢 and now I feel everyone of my days are valuable🙂... Almost a year now with him .. people don't really grow on me..it is either there or not there, either yes or no . Caps are slower from what I understand but he either cares or he doesn't. To answer your question, I have mentioned the actions and words contradiction but I haven't complained yet about the delay in text responses. I don't want to seem to clingy...don't they need their space? Please be patient with me is what he says.

if i havent hit a woman up it either means i just dont feel like hitting her up. meaning at the moment though i like you i just dont feel like talking much right now and if i hit you up i know your gonna wanna talk talk and talk or they either did something to make me question their motive and potential

1111, I know a cap who is exactly the same way, and I feel exactly like you do -- I think it is RUDE. I'm a cancer and can have mood swings also, but if he texts me, I return it as soon as I see it. He was extremely attentive at first and if I didn't answer him right away he was asking me where I went, did I go to bed, etc. I've confronted him several times and all he can say is that he likes talking to me and wants to stay in touch with me... it's funny though, on blackberry messenger you can see when someone has read your messages. He'll read them and not reply. Honestly, I find it extremely annoying. I confronted him again this morning and when he replied I was busy at work... and guess what, he got annoyed that I didn't reply right away. Double standard—

I figured the Cap mood swings are because they're not fully Earth & not fully water. The goat-fish is half-earth/half-water:
http://www.colorsmith.com/lgimages/Capricorn65.jpg<BR> So, they're not all logical like a Virgo & Taurus AND they're not all emotional like the scorpios, cancers & pisces. Unlike them, Caps get pulled at by both directions - sometimes emotional & sometimes logical.

Truth is, as a Scorpio, this behavior intrigues you because you can't quite put your finger on him.

Personally, I hate texting. My cappy will text and I send something completely off the wall...

Cappy: GM! How was your meeting?

Me: Hey you...meeting blah! I was thinking about that CD collection of yours, will you categorize and alphabetize for me so I can peruse much quicker...maybe even a typed out index is in order. Have a great day.

Cappy: That's easy, everything will be under W for who cares. I'll call you or swing by tonite.

And that's how I get him to come see me or call me...screw that texting crap!

1111, get ready for 11/11/11. It will be a totally life-changing day. This hasn't happened in 1,000 years. It will happen again on 12/12/12. These are called millenium days. Prepare for yours.

🙂

Oh yeah...TV is definitely not 'our' thing. Cappy and I sit around listening to music more than anything ('er almost anything) else 😉

We burn that ipod up...CL, I'm sure my neighbors hate me too and they definitely know when my Cappy is visiting, the volume goes up a few more decibels!

We are all hurt people...damaged is another story, damaged just cannot get over it AND as u say, damage others.

Posted by ellessque
I was also told....

"texting is a very powerful tool. you can say a couple words that leaves a person in a complete tailspin for an entire day. you can change a point of view, an opinion, leave someone thinking, end something, begin something....all with a couple words. Then you can sit back and watch them run in circles. It can be quite amusing."


Yes,yes,yes....