Capricorn Woman Suddenly Cold or Ignoring me.

So I like this cap woman but she doesn't know yet, we text constantly, we do long phone calls, we would go home together (2 times), she would share personal stuff about her, we're honest towards each other, like she would tell me if I offended her or something, I tried asking her our but she didn't said yes in any invitation.

Last week she invited me to follow her and office mates in their field work in a province, because they're planning to visit this beach. So I went there and stayed for 5 days with them, during those days nothing major happened, I tried to make a move on her but we're in group so I can't have her solo. When I was in the airport we were texting each other and she asked me if I enjoyed my stay there so I answered 'Yes of course, because I'm with you guys, and I'm with you." After answering that she became cold, her texts became one liners or even sometimes none, I felt she became distant and cold towards me. Even when they got back here in the city, she would ignore my texts and she wouldn't answer my calls, last Monday she was back in the office, still cold and distant, I asked her if she's okay, If I did something to offend her unintentionally she said no, she just felt drained, then I was like okay, but during lunch time she went to my work station with her friends, which are my friends too; I saw her very energized and laughing hard with them, and when I started talking with our friends she became silent not reacting much. Until now she's still very cold, I don't know. It's like something changed.

I don't know what to do, I need your advice on this Capricorn Ladies. How can I make her closer again? Why do you ignore or become cold to someone? What should I do? I really like this girl, and I'm very patient with her, that's why I'm trying to take it slow with her, trying to befriend her first, is that ok? Thank you so much in advance. 🙂

p.s. I'm a Cancer Guy.

ROFL....I am sorry, please see my 265 post saga of a thread involving moi (cancer guy) and a Cap girl.

Btw, this combination is the flavor of the season, if you go to the Cancer board, it's full of cap women who can't understand the Cancer man.

I think you told her you like her too early, now she's thinking over the nature of your relationship and analyzing if it works for her.

Posted by incandescentcancer
ROFL....I am sorry, please see my 265 post saga of a thread involving moi (cancer guy) and a Cap girl.

Btw, this combination is the flavor of the season, if you go to the Cancer board, it's full of cap women who can't understand the Cancer man.

How can I see it? haha!

Posted by BlackMamba
Read the book she's just not that into you.

No, I haven't told her yet that I like her

Posted by BlackMamba
Read the book she's just not that into you.

Thanks 😢

Posted by CrabMan13

Posted by incandescentcancer
ROFL....I am sorry, please see my 265 post saga of a thread involving moi (cancer guy) and a Cap girl.

Btw, this combination is the flavor of the season, if you go to the Cancer board, it's full of cap women who can't understand the Cancer man.

How can I see it? haha!

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https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/make-your-way-up-the-mountain-cappies-5825789/

Posted by CrabMan13
So I like this cap woman but she doesn't know yet, we text constantly, we do long phone calls, we would go home together (2 times), she would share personal stuff about her, we're honest towards each other, like she would tell me if I offended her or something, I tried asking her our but she didn't said yes in any invitation.

Last week she invited me to follow her and office mates in their field work in a province, because they're planning to visit this beach. So I went there and stayed for 5 days with them, during those days nothing major happened, I tried to make a move on her but we're in group so I can't have her solo. When I was in the airport we were texting each other and she asked me if I enjoyed my stay there so I answered 'Yes of course, because I'm with you guys, and I'm with you." After answering that she became cold, her texts became one liners or even sometimes none, I felt she became distant and cold towards me. Even when they got back here in the city, she would ignore my texts and she wouldn't answer my calls, last Monday she was back in the office, still cold and distant, I asked her if she's okay, If I did something to offend her unintentionally she said no, she just felt drained, then I was like okay, but during lunch time she went to my work station with her friends, which are my friends too; I saw her very energized and laughing hard with them, and when I started talking with our friends she became silent not reacting much. Until now she's still very cold, I don't know. It's like something changed.

I don't know what to do, I need your advice on this Capricorn Ladies. How can I make her closer again? Why do you ignore or become cold to someone? What should I do? I really like this girl, and I'm very patient with her, that's why I'm trying to take it slow with her, trying to befriend her first, is that ok? Thank you so much in advance. 🙂

p.s. I'm a Cancer Guy.

Talk to her in private not in front of every one, its embarrassing we don't like to share our selves with every one.

Posted by BlackMamba
do any of the other coworkers like you? maybe she's jealous

I don't know. but during our beach trip there's this girl officemate who is having a hard time with her feet because it got sprained, so I'm the one who volunteered to carry her bags for her. And the Capricorn woman I like was the one who helps her in walking. This sprained ankle girl and I would laugh the whole time too during our trip, but this girl has a bf, plus the three of us are friends. What do you think?

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Posted by CrabMan13
So I like this cap woman but she doesn't know yet, we text constantly, we do long phone calls, we would go home together (2 times), she would share personal stuff about her, we're honest towards each other, like she would tell me if I offended her or something, I tried asking her our but she didn't said yes in any invitation.

Last week she invited me to follow her and office mates in their field work in a province, because they're planning to visit this beach. So I went there and stayed for 5 days with them, during those days nothing major happened, I tried to make a move on her but we're in group so I can't have her solo. When I was in the airport we were texting each other and she asked me if I enjoyed my stay there so I answered 'Yes of course, because I'm with you guys, and I'm with you." After answering that she became cold, her texts became one liners or even sometimes none, I felt she became distant and cold towards me. Even when they got back here in the city, she would ignore my texts and she wouldn't answer my calls, last Monday she was back in the office, still cold and distant, I asked her if she's okay, If I did something to offend her unintentionally she said no, she just felt drained, then I was like okay, but during lunch time she went to my work station with her friends, which are my friends too; I saw her very energized and laughing hard with them, and when I started talking with our friends she became silent not reacting much. Until now she's still very cold, I don't know. It's like something changed.

I don't know what to do, I need your advice on this Capricorn Ladies. How can I make her closer again? Why do you ignore or become cold to someone? What should I do? I really like this girl, and I'm very patient with her, that's why I'm trying to take it slow with her, trying to befriend her first, is that ok? Thank you so much in advance. 🙂

p.s. I'm a Cancer Guy.

Talk to her in private not in front of every one, its embarrassing we don't like to share our selves with every one.

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Yes, I asked her in private but she's still cold, she said I didn't offended her or something, she just feels drained.

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Posted by incandescentcancer
ROFL....I am sorry, please see my 265 post saga of a thread involving moi (cancer guy) and a Cap girl.

Btw, this combination is the flavor of the season, if you go to the Cancer board, it's full of cap women who can't understand the Cancer man.

How can I see it? haha!

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/make-your-way-up-the-mountain-cappies-5825789/<div class="bqfade">click to expand

Thank you!!!

@CrabMan13

I think she is just trying to figure out how you feel about her. We are quite sensitive and protective of our hearts so we very slow at the beginning of relationships because till we learn to trust you. She will need more time and more reassurance before she opens up to you emotionally. We are old fashioned and liked to be chased/wooed.
FYI loyalty and respect is big thing to us, any sign of disrespect or ulterior motives she will walk away.

Oh I forgot to add. I'm 4 years younger than her.

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@CrabMan13

I think she is just trying to figure out how you feel about her. We are quite sensitive and protective of our hearts so we very slow at the beginning of relationships because till we learn to trust you. She will need more time and more reassurance before she opens up to you emotionally. We are old fashioned and liked to be chased/wooed.
FYI loyalty and respect is big thing to us, any sign of disrespect or ulterior motives she will walk away.

I understand. So I'll be needing extra patience I guess?. Should I call her? even if it doesn't seem to be the best time now? What to do?? haha! Thank you so much.

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So I like this cap woman but she doesn't know yet, we text constantly, we do long phone calls, we would go home together (2 times), she would share personal stuff about her, we're honest towards each other, like she would tell me if I offended her or something, I tried asking her our but she didn't said yes in any invitation.

Last week she invited me to follow her and office mates in their field work in a province, because they're planning to visit this beach. So I went there and stayed for 5 days with them, during those days nothing major happened, I tried to make a move on her but we're in group so I can't have her solo. When I was in the airport we were texting each other and she asked me if I enjoyed my stay there so I answered 'Yes of course, because I'm with you guys, and I'm with you." After answering that she became cold, her texts became one liners or even sometimes none, I felt she became distant and cold towards me. Even when they got back here in the city, she would ignore my texts and she wouldn't answer my calls, last Monday she was back in the office, still cold and distant, I asked her if she's okay, If I did something to offend her unintentionally she said no, she just felt drained, then I was like okay, but during lunch time she went to my work station with her friends, which are my friends too; I saw her very energized and laughing hard with them, and when I started talking with our friends she became silent not reacting much. Until now she's still very cold, I don't know. It's like something changed.

I don't know what to do, I need your advice on this Capricorn Ladies. How can I make her closer again? Why do you ignore or become cold to someone? What should I do? I really like this girl, and I'm very patient with her, that's why I'm trying to take it slow with her, trying to befriend her first, is that ok? Thank you so much in advance. 🙂

p.s. I'm a Cancer Guy.

Talk to her in private not in front of every one, its embarrassing we don't like to share our selves with every one.

Yes, I asked her in private but she's still cold, she said I didn't offended her or something, she just feels drained.

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maybe you were talking to one of the co workers a little too much. That will get you ignored.

maybe you were talking to one of the co workers a little too much. That will get you ignored.



Well, she started to act distant that time, but I made sure that she's still my main focus.

maybe she's used to being your only focus and got jealous.. trust me she knows you like her.

Posted by CapTivating
maybe she's used to being your only focus and got jealous.. trust me she knows you like her.

I don't know, maybe. I'm scared that she knows I like her and she's awkward about it. what do you think? what should I do now?

Posted by CrabMan13

maybe you were talking to one of the co workers a little too much. That will get you ignored.



Well, she started to act distant that time, but I made sure that she's still my main focus.




Don't act like a womanizer, charming the ladies...you won't have a chance then, you'll just.confuse her and make her question if your interest. Be respectful.

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maybe she's used to being your only focus and got jealous.. trust me she knows you like her.

I don't know, maybe. I'm scared that she knows I like her and she's awkward about it. what do you think? what should I do now?

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lol idk I'm in the same situation as you. I was so nervous my "cancer friend" randomly gave me a gift and I tossed it on the table and asked him why he would do such a thing... talk about awkward.

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maybe you were talking to one of the co workers a little too much. That will get you ignored.

Well, she started to act distant that time, but I made sure that she's still my main focus.




Don't act like a womanizer, charming the ladies...you won't have a chance then, you'll just.confuse her and make her question if your interest. Be respectful.



no I never intended to act that way, and the other girl is our friend.

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maybe she's used to being your only focus and got jealous.. trust me she knows you like her.

I don't know, maybe. I'm scared that she knows I like her and she's awkward about it. what do you think? what should I do now?

lol idk I'm in the same situation as you. I was so nervous my "cancer friend" randomly gave me a gift and I tossed it on the table and asked him why he would do such a thing... talk about awkward.

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haha! what kind of gift?

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do any of the other coworkers like you? maybe she's jealous

I don't know. but during our beach trip there's this girl officemate who is having a hard time with her feet because it got sprained, so I'm the one who volunteered to carry her bags for her. And the Capricorn woman I like was the one who helps her in walking. This sprained ankle girl and I would laugh the whole time too during our trip, but this girl has a bf, plus the three of us are friends. What do you think?

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lol didn't see this part, this sprained ankle girl is the reason. You cant just laugh the whole time with some one else, she's paying attention to you. when ever my friend upsets me this is exactly how I act. strait face act like your not there deliberately laugh harder then it really is just to show you how happy I am with out you lol.. You don't have to do much do get her back, she's not really gone in my opinion. She's just making you feel the way you made her feel. My guess is your acting like it doesn't affect you, that's not good, show some compassion..and stop being so friendly with the co workers you wouldn't like it If she was smiling in a bunch of guys faces all the time, would you?

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Posted by BlackMamba
do any of the other coworkers like you? maybe she's jealous

I don't know. but during our beach trip there's this girl officemate who is having a hard time with her feet because it got sprained, so I'm the one who volunteered to carry her bags for her. And the Capricorn woman I like was the one who helps her in walking. This sprained ankle girl and I would laugh the whole time too during our trip, but this girl has a bf, plus the three of us are friends. What do you think?

lol didn't see this part, this sprained ankle girl is the reason. You cant just laugh the whole time with some one else, she's paying attention to you. when ever my friend upsets me this is exactly how I act. strait face act like your not there deliberately laugh harder then it really is just to show you how happy I am with out you lol.. You don't have to do much do get her back, she's not really gone in my opinion. She's just making you feel the way you made her feel. My guess is your acting like it doesn't affect you, that's not good, show some compassion..and stop being so friendly with the co workers you wouldn't like it If she was smiling in a bunch of guys faces all the time, would you?

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Fair enough. But I check up on her when they got back here, tried talking to her but she's really distant and cold (from what I see). That's my plan, to show her that it doesn't affect me.

What can I do to warm her up again? Should I just go with the flow?

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maybe she's used to being your only focus and got jealous.. trust me she knows you like her.

I don't know, maybe. I'm scared that she knows I like her and she's awkward about it. what do you think? what should I do now?

lol idk I'm in the same situation as you. I was so nervous my "cancer friend" randomly gave me a gift and I tossed it on the table and asked him why he would do such a thing... talk about awkward.

haha! what kind of gift?

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lol a tablet, something super random. He's never even expressed his feelings for me and didn't know why he was doing it he caught me off guard lol I guess were both just too awkward. I did appologize and told him how much it meant and he accepted it . But then for some reason i felt compelled to make it up to him and messed that up too

Mirror her behavior. If she's nice to you, respond in kind. If she ignores you, ignore her. The more you bend to her ways and try to placate her, the more she will perceive you as desperate and weak.

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Posted by BlackMamba
do any of the other coworkers like you? maybe she's jealous

I don't know. but during our beach trip there's this girl officemate who is having a hard time with her feet because it got sprained, so I'm the one who volunteered to carry her bags for her. And the Capricorn woman I like was the one who helps her in walking. This sprained ankle girl and I would laugh the whole time too during our trip, but this girl has a bf, plus the three of us are friends. What do you think?

lol didn't see this part, this sprained ankle girl is the reason. You cant just laugh the whole time with some one else, she's paying attention to you. when ever my friend upsets me this is exactly how I act. strait face act like your not there deliberately laugh harder then it really is just to show you how happy I am with out you lol.. You don't have to do much do get her back, she's not really gone in my opinion. She's just making you feel the way you made her feel. My guess is your acting like it doesn't affect you, that's not good, show some compassion..and stop being so friendly with the co workers you wouldn't like it If she was smiling in a bunch of guys faces all the time, would you?

Fair enough. But I check up on her when they got back here, tried talking to her but she's really distant and cold (from what I see). That's my plan, to show her that it doesn't affect me.

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but it does affect you. The best way to warm her up is to just be honest if you pretend like it doesn't affect you , it's going to escalate. You cancers think your shell's are made of titanium and we can't see through the "poker face" but we can and we want the real you.. Most likely the one who made is laugh

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maybe she's used to being your only focus and got jealous.. trust me she knows you like her.

I don't know, maybe. I'm scared that she knows I like her and she's awkward about it. what do you think? what should I do now?

lol idk I'm in the same situation as you. I was so nervous my "cancer friend" randomly gave me a gift and I tossed it on the table and asked him why he would do such a thing... talk about awkward.

haha! what kind of gift?

lol a tablet, something super random. He's never even expressed his feelings for me and didn't know why he was doing it he caught me off guard lol I guess were both just too awkward. I did appologize and told him how much it meant and he accepted it . But then for some reason i felt compelled to make it up to him and messed that up too

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haha wow he gave you a tablet, what's he's reason? hahaha!

Posted by SpiceNSugar
Mirror her behavior. If she's nice to you, respond in kind. If she ignores you, ignore her. The more you bend to her ways and try to placate her, the more she will perceive you as desperate and weak.

Ok, thanks for the advice. I'll try that.

I don't know I guess he just wanted to surprise me and do something nice. he's never done any thing like that before i mean he always gives me snacks and I drew a clean pic of Garfield and gave that to him lol but the extent of our exchange and I've known him for quite a while. He should have just given me one of his tastey gluten free snacks lol would have saved both of our feelings

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Mirror her behavior. If she's nice to you, respond in kind. If she ignores you, ignore her. The more you bend to her ways and try to placate her, the more she will perceive you as desperate and weak.

Ok, thanks for the advice. I'll try that.

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lol let me know how that turns out for you.

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I don't know I guess he just wanted to surprise me and do something nice. he's never done any thing like that before i mean he always gives me snacks and I drew a clean pic of Garfield and gave that to him lol but the extent of our exchange and I've known him for quite a while. He should have just given me one of his tastey gluten free snacks lol would have saved both of our feelings

haha! yes but I hope things would clear up soon between you two. haha!

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Posted by SpiceNSugar
Mirror her behavior. If she's nice to you, respond in kind. If she ignores you, ignore her. The more you bend to her ways and try to placate her, the more she will perceive you as desperate and weak.

Ok, thanks for the advice. I'll try that.

lol let me know how that turns out for you.

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Is this risky? haha!

Posted by DonnaElvira77
Your energies do not mix. You are not a good match for her.Sometimes two individuals get together and energy is produced. Haven't you ever felt that? You are with someone and you feel drained by them or you feel energized. It's not their behavior who knows what it is ..it's the mix between you.

It's like two people who make each other feel good or bad or sexual or whatever. It's not a behavior or anything.

You did nothing wrong.


She feels differently around other people to you. here is nothing you did wrong or nothing wrong with you. You guys are not the right fit for her.

If I am correct there is not a lot you can do about it.

It's not to do with YOU. Some people don't mix.

I am surprised you couldn't sense her energy level dropping before she mentioned it. I usually can in people and tell them to take five etc.

A change is as good as a rest. New people ..new shoes ..new environment.

Different personalities affect each other in different ways. It's observable. Maybe it's pheromones or genetics or whatever.

That's just my two sense.

You two are not hitting it off. Your energies don't mix well.

You cannot do anything but be yourself. Your personality has to naturally get hers or she has to want to help you out. That is not happening. You don't fit. It has not been a good fit.

It will not work.

Thanks for the honesty. I really appreciate it. She got drained/tired because of the beach trip we had. Thank you again. 🙂

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Mirror her behavior. If she's nice to you, respond in kind. If she ignores you, ignore her. The more you bend to her ways and try to placate her, the more she will perceive you as desperate and weak.

Ok, thanks for the advice. I'll try that.

lol let me know how that turns out for you.

Is this risky? haha!

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In my opinion if you mirror some one whos ignoring you you'll never speak again. I mean you did come here for Capricorn advice, why would you go looking for advice and then just do what you do anyways don't cancers already mirror people naturally.. just a thought

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Mirror her behavior. If she's nice to you, respond in kind. If she ignores you, ignore her. The more you bend to her ways and try to placate her, the more she will perceive you as desperate and weak.

Ok, thanks for the advice. I'll try that.

lol let me know how that turns out for you.

Is this risky? haha!

In my opinion if you mirror some one whos ignoring you you'll never speak again. I mean you did come here for Capricorn advice, why would you go looking for advice and then just do what you do anyways don't cancers already mirror people naturally.. just a thought

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I agree, mirroring is not the right strategy. I think the best thing is to persist until the person gives you some indication that they definitely won't see you. At that point, you just absolutely stop and never call them again.

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Posted by SpiceNSugar
Mirror her behavior. If she's nice to you, respond in kind. If she ignores you, ignore her. The more you bend to her ways and try to placate her, the more she will perceive you as desperate and weak.

Ok, thanks for the advice. I'll try that.

lol let me know how that turns out for you.

Is this risky? haha!

In my opinion if you mirror some one whos ignoring you you'll never speak again. I mean you did come here for Capricorn advice, why would you go looking for advice and then just do what you do anyways don't cancers already mirror people naturally.. just a thought

I agree, mirroring is not the right strategy. I think the best thing is to persist until the person gives you some indication that they definitely won't see you. At that point, you just absolutely stop and never call them again.

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I doubt she's ignoring you because she doesn't like you, she's most likely doing it because she became jealous, there is a difference. Humans have natural instincts to protect our heart from being wounded or embarrassed, that doesn't make us bad individuals. I don't think its a good idea ignore some one because their ignoring you because they are protecting their hurt feelings. The best way to fix this is to find a way to talk it out. She wont look at you like your desperate and weak she will look at you like you really do care about her reassuring her feelings. lol I am convinced that Cancer/Capricorn are the worst at communicating feelings. We can have a whole relationship planned out in out head and be soo memorized by each other but are ready to cut each other off over the tiniest misunderstandings lol.

agreed with Donna77. she only sees you as a friend. no romantic interest.


'Yes of course, because I'm with you guys, and I'm with you." After answering that she became cold, her texts became one liners or even sometimes none, I felt she became distant and cold towards me.

that was what I'd do to let someone down easy. i appreciate when someone likes me so in return I'd try not to hurt their pride. unfortunately not everyone would get the hint (it's really not a hint. it's very obvious.). one of my ex coworker didn't get it for years until I told him that I was getting married and he was pissed "how could you not know how much I have liked you??!!!" and proceeded to wish me ill. we didn't keep in touch for couple years and i had never initiated any conversation with him so his hurt reaction was a bit ridiculous lol

anyway, use your common sense. if a person really wants to be with you, regardless her sign, she will show that she wants to talk/see and get closer, unless she is emotionally retarded / damaged. and if it's the latter, i'd say you deserve better, anyway.

also,

even though it is not uncommon that as a man, you maybe able to chase, chase and chase until a girl of your dream is moved by your persistence. the thing is when she lacks passion for you, she may jump ship easily later down the road and tear your heart part.

a relationship is way solid and long lasting when mutual passion, love and appreciation are present. you would feel 100x better as a man when you are genuinely loved and adored by the object of your affection.

Posted by iCloud9
also,

even though it is not uncommon that as a man, you maybe able to chase, chase and chase until a girl of your dream is moved by your persistence. the thing is when she lacks passion for you, she may jump ship easily later down the road and tear your heart part.

a relationship is way solid and long lasting when mutual passion, love and appreciation are present. you would feel 100x better as a man when you are genuinely loved and adored by the object of your affection.

You may have literally changed my life with what you Saud in these two posts. Life is too short to chase someone who doesn't show you affection. I will not call that cap girl again unless she shows the right amount of interest and puts in an effort. Thank you very much for some of the best words anyone has Saud on these boards. You gave me a moment of perfect clarity.

i'm capricorn and i've been in similar situations before where I had to cease contact with some guys whom I like but am not interested in romantically. I think she just likes you as a friend and is being distant now because she realises you like her more than a friend.

you are very welcome IC.

i know you will be way happier and emotionally content with a woman who can return your affection and attention. yes life is too short for something otherwise.

Posted by MissGemmiI hate to burst your bubble, but this isn't really only a Cap/cancer thing, but a general .../cancer thing.

The memorized thing is something that is in all cancer/other sign couples/relationships. It happens in any cancer relationship no matter what sign as long as both parties hold on to a certain extent, because they can't let go for some reason or the other sign has a watery or earthy element in their sign. Sometimes if the intensity is too much you just want to cut it off completely, while when it's just lingering and fun you can just go with the flow and just let it happen.

Most of the cancer relationships are like this, that is why you feel like you're memorized by each other. No. They just plant their seed in your mind and then just let it grow. So, now when I meet a Cancer (may it be male or female) and they start to connect with me emotionally with their words, their questions, their way of quietly slipping into your life by keeping the communication continuous, flirting, doing those sweet little things etcetera. I put on the breaks right and just walk away (respectfully). I recognize the pattern now and will never fall into it again.

Omg! You unearthed the global cancer conspiracy to dominate the world one kitty at a time!

Ms. Gemini is here crabbies, run for your lives!

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Haha, sorry, incandescentcancer. I feel embarassed now 😉 it sounds very bittered and you pointed out my frustrations.

There are always cute, nice and mature Cancers, especially when they are gifted with a Cancer Venus (I don't like my cancer Venus, because it doesn't match up my sign). I'm just very guarded now with Cancers knowing they can easily unravel my emotional weaknesses. By the end I just feel manipulated into a whole scheme, leaving me flabbergasted, while they were just doing their thing. Communicate, being lovey dovey, act interested, use their emotional psyche to make you their center of attention and then BAM! something happens and then POOF all is gone. Leaving me addicted.

It's my own fault. Again, you're just doing your thing and I just believe it.

I will find something else soon to put my interest/curiosity in. No worries, but you Cancers were a nice project 🙂

I understand what you mean, but don't be bitter. Cancers really don't always know that they have this effect on people.

I am older and I understand it and don't do this with people, someone younger may not have the same understanding. The one thing I can say for sure is that there is no bad intentions or plans to manipulate. It's more of a lack of self awareness.

I am Venus in Cancer too, it's a tough Venus to have.

Lastly, don't have this view that all Cancers are bad or you can't date any of them, no sign is entirely off limits.

Posted by Gobshite

Posted by iCloud9
also,

even though it is not uncommon that as a man, you maybe able to chase, chase and chase until a girl of your dream is moved by your persistence. the thing is when she lacks passion for you, she may jump ship easily later down the road and tear your heart part.

a relationship is way solid and long lasting when mutual passion, love and appreciation are present. you would feel 100x better as a man when you are genuinely loved and adored by the object of your affection.

I've been saying this for years. Men shouldn't be chasing after women they barely know, based solely on looks and/or the way their presence makes them feel. That's simply infatuation and a potential recipe for disaster.

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Basically. I run from guys who show a great amount of interest in me before getting to know me. I don't trust it, and I know I'll disappoint that guy in the end because what he most likely is attracted to is a fantasy.

Posted by Gobshite

Posted by iCloud9
also,

even though it is not uncommon that as a man, you maybe able to chase, chase and chase until a girl of your dream is moved by your persistence. the thing is when she lacks passion for you, she may jump ship easily later down the road and tear your heart part.

a relationship is way solid and long lasting when mutual passion, love and appreciation are present. you would feel 100x better as a man when you are genuinely loved and adored by the object of your affection.

I've been saying this for years. Men shouldn't be chasing after women they barely know, based solely on looks and/or the way their presence makes them feel. That's simply infatuation and a potential recipe for disaster.

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All that is well and good, but your first spark with any person is their looks and how their presence makes you feel. How else do you think you would fall in love? You can't hit up all your female friends just because you know them well.

Posted by lnana04

Posted by Gobshite

Posted by iCloud9
also,

even though it is not uncommon that as a man, you maybe able to chase, chase and chase until a girl of your dream is moved by your persistence. the thing is when she lacks passion for you, she may jump ship easily later down the road and tear your heart part.

a relationship is way solid and long lasting when mutual passion, love and appreciation are present. you would feel 100x better as a man when you are genuinely loved and adored by the object of your affection.

I've been saying this for years. Men shouldn't be chasing after women they barely know, based solely on looks and/or the way their presence makes them feel. That's simply infatuation and a potential recipe for disaster.

Basically. I run from guys who show a great amount of interest in me before getting to know me. I don't trust it, and I know I'll disappoint that guy in the end because what he most likely is attracted to is a fantasy.

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This is not always true but to a great extent I agree.

well, I am love at first sight type of person (lol) so I was not saying that men shouldn't chase after a woman they barely know. I usually knew instantly or at most within 3 meetings whether the right type of chemistry was present. if natural affinity and initial strong romantic chemistry were not there, no amount of getting to know each other or intellectual compatibility will make me fall in love. my point was from my perspective, it's not wise to chase when she does not feel the romantic pull. even if your persistence pays off, it may not be in your best interest long term.

Posted by CrabMan13
S because I'm with you guys, and I'm with you." .

I think this sounds very couply. Yall aren't a couple, but this sounds like you're assuming you are. If she doesn't like you like that, this text could have given her an "icky" feeling.

You asked her out before and she turned you down. sooooo......

She turned cold because she doesn't want to lead you on or give you any ideas about her being interested.