Capricorns and Texting (Page 2)

Posted by MilaniKisses
Errr!

He just texted me back saying he has to work tomorrow.... And then after work he was taking his daughter to ChuckECheese (This i knew about, Work I didnt)...

I'm just ready to give up on putting forth the effort in trying to see him and even talk to him... I'm trying my hardest to be patient, but its getting really thin!

I'm going to tell him "I'm going to stop trying to put in the effort in us meeting up. I will let you decide when you can"

However, I don't know if I have the patients to wait on him.

So I tried one last time with him...

He said "Fuq, I still need to buy her a gift"

I could tell he was frustrated. I gave him the option and one last try of seeing if his parents could watch his daughter this evening and I would help him shop for a gift and the party supplies.

No response...

So I texted him this:

"I see you have a lot on your plate. Hope you are able to take care of it all this weekend. You know I want to see you, so I'm placing the ball in your court for you to decide when we can see each other. For now, I will lay off the effort on trying to spend time with you for our growth until you are ready."

Hope he reads past the message and see's that I'm almost-kinda giving up and that he doesnt put forth any effort... but I doubt it.

Posted by Piscessunvirgomoon
Funny , I text my Caps once in a while and If dont hear back I let it go.

But there was this one time lol I texted my cap and expected a answer from him and when I got no answer at all

I texted him " hi , hello?

And he said "are you being funny? " Whats hi hello??""

I just had to point that out it still cracks me up.

One time my cap made me so mad.. LOL!

He was making up for it..

So he's texting me asking me what's wrong.. Saying "just kiss and hug me already and make-up.." He apologized.. But I'm venting like "Babe I want all that but you're taking this lightly.." He's like "No babe, I'm not taking it lightly.. lol I'm serious".. I'm calm but still venting.. but again he's very understanding at this time.. It was something small.. But he knew I had reasons to be a "baby"..

So I didn't know he was at an event for work.. When he took too long to respond I texted"..

"Hellooooo?"

"—?"

"———?"

"—————??"

(I'm annoying) 😆

He responds "BABE... LOL! I'm at an event working.. you don't have to keep writing all this —— .. lol! I'm responding.. but it'll take time.. just kiss me cry baby.."

LOL!

That was only one time.. Usually I just don't bother if our texting isn't steady. We both get busy from time to time.

Posted by MilaniKisses
Errr!

He just texted me back saying he has to work tomorrow.... And then after work he was taking his daughter to ChuckECheese (This i knew about, Work I didnt)...

I'm just ready to give up on putting forth the effort in trying to see him and even talk to him... I'm trying my hardest to be patient, but its getting really thin!

I'm going to tell him "I'm going to stop trying to put in the effort in us meeting up. I will let you decide when you can"

However, I don't know if I have the patients to wait on him.

Ooh.. I'm thinking..

I've gotten upset with my cap and write things like "I give up.."

He doesn't take it so well..

If you feel it's too much for you just give him space and if you really can't do this full term, I say you reconsider being with him.. it takes so much patience with them.. and if work comes up, they do tend to put that first.. nothing against you.

I know how hard this is.. but if you truly like him, try to work with him..

Posted by MilaniKisses

Posted by MilaniKisses
Errr!

He just texted me back saying he has to work tomorrow.... And then after work he was taking his daughter to ChuckECheese (This i knew about, Work I didnt)...

I'm just ready to give up on putting forth the effort in trying to see him and even talk to him... I'm trying my hardest to be patient, but its getting really thin!

I'm going to tell him "I'm going to stop trying to put in the effort in us meeting up. I will let you decide when you can"

However, I don't know if I have the patients to wait on him.

So I tried one last time with him...

He said "Fuq, I still need to buy her a gift"

I could tell he was frustrated. I gave him the option and one last try of seeing if his parents could watch his daughter this evening and I would help him shop for a gift and the party supplies.

No response...

So I texted him this:

"I see you have a lot on your plate. Hope you are able to take care of it all this weekend. You know I want to see you, so I'm placing the ball in your court for you to decide when we can see each other. For now, I will lay off the effort on trying to spend time with you for our growth until you are ready."

Hope he reads past the message and see's that I'm almost-kinda giving up and that he doesnt put forth any effort... but I doubt it.

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This was okay to write. IMO. You have to speak your mind.. and not hide them for his sake.

However, sometimes they tend to take it wrong. But still, good for you for being direct with him..

He will know your frustrations are true but he may not answer because he is sure you're disappointed in him at the moment.. I'm sure he's not trynna intentionally shut you out but they are "slow" like that.. ?

I understand your frustrations, trust me.

Posted by Rindaroo
They will make effort, and you need to let them do it. It may not always be what you want & when you want, but if you stop the effort & you are important to them, they will make the effort.

My Cap & I have opposite schedules so it's not easy. We both have a lot going on, and any downtime isn't necessarily gf time. Possibly but not always. The key is to have your own stuff going on too because it is not going to be a seeing you everyday thing. For me, it's perfect. I'm a Sag and need my space too. I have kids who want my time, I have piano lessons, I'm writing a book & editor meetings, and other social time with girlfriends occasionally. We are both as flexible as possible and no pressure. It seems to work well.

When I first met him, he didn't think I was interested because of my effort level. Well he didn't make much either, so I let him go. He came back months later making effort because HE was interested. Well I think it made a difference in his behavior. He knows he has to make effort if he wants to see me. I am not begging. This is I suppose because after a marriage with someone who did not initiate at all, I just can't be the one making all the effort anymore. So it's like show me!! ?

Milani, This is true..

Have your own things going so you keep yourself busy..

They take their time and are slooooooww! Lol

You have to give effort sometimes but let him put work in as well..

It may not be when you want as @Rindaroo said but they do put in the time when they really like you.. just takes them longer is all..

I've had a lot of time to be patient because im I'm a LDR with mine but we make due when we can throughout our hectic schedules..

It's always appreciated.

Thank you Poison_Ivy and Rindaroo for your advice. I like him a lot and definitely see myself with him long term.



Maybe its me too...I dunno. I'm so use to getting so much attention from guys that, well, its never been hard to find a guy. Not going to lie - but I really love the constant attention, and maybe I've gotten so used to it that my expectations have become more fantasy than reality. But one thing with all those guys that give me attention and swoon me, just as fast as they came, they left. They never lasted...

I really can sense that my cap guy is in it for the long haul, which is exactly what I want.

Posted by MilaniKisses
Thank you Poison_Ivy and Rindaroo for your advice. I like him a lot and definitely see myself with him long term.



Maybe its me too...I dunno. I'm so use to getting so much attention from guys that, well, its never been hard to find a guy. Not going to lie - but I really love the constant attention, and maybe I've gotten so used to it that my expectations have become more fantasy than reality. But one thing with all those guys that give me attention and swoon me, just as fast as they came, they left. They never lasted...

I really can sense that my cap guy is in it for the long haul, which is exactly what I want.

No problem at all, anytime! ?

It takes a lot of patience w/ these guys so be prepared. It's all worth it in the end! ?

This is the first cap that I've dealt with in a serious relationship so I have to tell myself that he's different, but it's okay. Like you, I'm use to attention from other men and I still get a lot.. so it's hard to accept his personality at times. He pursued me in the beginning.. made sure I knew he wanted me and eventually, he stole my heart... never made it about sex (I have to make that clear, he was extremely respectful).. so maybe 6 months in, he got all weird, but I think it's because things started getting weirdly intense between us.. Love came into play.. and maybe it was a lot to take in for him.. specially considering his ex hurt him deeply.. that maybe he just wants to slow it down for a bit & make sure I'm genuine.... again, this is okay.. I'm learning a lot on the way.. and from that, growth. I can focus on my goals and aspirations along with him focusing on his own, then in the end come together as one.

& like you say, the guys that clung to me FAST, ended JUST as fast.. wouldn't you rather a man who takes his time.. gets to know your ins and outs slowly..? I do. ☺️ It's all about the bigger picture.. they want something lasting and looking toward the future.. considering you in that future would take planning.. etc.. they don't move towards things on impulse..

Show him you care, check in on him.. they need a ton of love and affection .. and a bit of space too.. You'll get use to his ways.. you'll sense when he needs said space.. allow that.. they get pretty stressed at times..

But still,

Let him lead; you won't be disappointed. ?

Caps are truly amazing men! ♥️

Poison_Ivy and Rindaroo - Aww I wish I could give you guys hugs right now. You both have been such a huge help - Earlier I was going nuts, but now have a better understanding of him. And I can say 'a better understanding of him' because his actions, mannerisms, and everything else match up to your descriptions.

About 30 minutes ago, I was open and honest about my texting frustrations I was having earlier... He apologized about it and then soon inquired about my day... 🙂

A week ago I had mention that I did understand why he still had his POF dating app on his phone when he said that I was the only girl he was interested in. He sensed I didnt like it and soon deleted it off his phone.

Those actions meant a lot to me.

Oh and another thing that made me smile was last night we were talking about what we were doing at that time - He said he was watching a military movie. Then he was like "oh, I forgot you don't like military movies." Sure not a big deal, but it was to me that he remembered such a small detail about me that I briefly mentioned when we first met. Of course all filled with emotions, I responded "Aww, your remembered that!" with a kiss emoji at the end 🙂 His response was a short and simple "Yep"

So missing my Cap guy. Spoke to him briefly this morning through text, but that's it. This is the longest we've ever gone without talking since we met. I sent him a few texts earlier telling him I was thinking about him, but nothing... I knew he was going to have a long busy day with work and then his daughter' party... so I didn't want to bother him much. I'm sensing this was when he needed that "space"...

An old fling of mine invited me over to his place, but I declined because all I could think about was my cap guy.