Capricorns's Past Relationships

Ok... First of all I feel pretty dumb asking this question, because I tend to think of myself as a pretty intelligent person, but when it comes to matters of the heart I'm pretty dumb. I think it's because I am so detached and unemotional that when my feelings get involved, I don't think very clearly.

I've been dating my boyfriend for 2y. On New Years day I found out that my boy friend was also seeing another girl. He has been off and on with this girl for about 7 years. I wasn't upset or anything at that time, because I'm partially to blame. For the first year and maybe 8 months, I never really took our relationship serious or really knew what I wanted or how I felt. I mean I wasn't seeing anyone else and spent every day and night with him, but i just wasn't really ready to give my entire heart to someone. My career was my priority.

It wasn't till after we broke up in January that I realized just how much I loved him and wanted to be in an exclusive relationship. At that time he realized the same and we got back together maybe a week after we broke up. What I didn't know at the time was that the other girl of 7y was still in the picture. Long story short it's been 4 months and he has told me that he has tried and is making the steps necessary to break ties with this girl of 7 years and that he is in love with me and doesn't want to lose me, but he feels obligated to this girl of 7 years and does not want to hurt her and his family knows her blah blah blah...

I've spoken to this girl and she is a mess. She told me that she knows he is in love with me but she loves him and all of this other stuff... She pretty much stated this is how their relationship always have been. Mine and his relationship has never been like this. This is actually the first time we've ever really had issues. I'm just a bit confused as to how or why he wont just cut this off. Maybe its the Sag in me but if it came down to losing someone I really care about and want to be with, then there would be no hesitation. I mean he has told me that he is being mean/cold and distant with her hoping she'll just fade away or say she doesn't want him around etc... but why not just tell her the truth. Its like wants to be the good guy, but the longer this drags out the more I am ready to just walk away and never look back. It's aggravating, because I know I deserve more and am pretty good catch, but I'm in love with him and honestly believe that his intentions are to cut her out of his lif

Part of post is missing......but I think we can safely assume that he will not leave her based on actions. In my experience men that have been that long with a woman, despite on and offs and despite cheating, will never really leave her. Just my 2 cents.

Posted by GemShimmies
I kind of had a similar problem with my cap h usband. We didn't date long before we got married but a few months into dating i caught him having a chat with his gorgeous ex fiance. Granted that convo was two weeks into dating, he said he missed her, made plans to see her etc. Every once in a while i catch him talking to her, and i feel he isn't honest about who contacted who,etc. I have asked him why he'd want to remain friends with a woman that really broke his heart and he said he always tries to put the bad behind and remember all the good times they had and remain friends. I said i didn't think that was appropriate because remembering the good times means you're harboring feelings for her. He insists he is not. I've confided in some friends who say that what he did was messed up but he married me not her.

So you got the title and ring so you assume you won.. And you convince yourself you are still winning even though he might still be sleeping with the ex or investing in her emotionally?

Im sorry but What kind of metality is this..

WW88. He has been with you for two years and hasnt cut her out. You dont think he would have already done that if he wanted to?

Its not your fault he doesnt feel the same connection w you that he did with her but cmon......

TWO YEARS!