Capricorns and Sex

First off, sorry if this is TMI.

I just realized that my Cap FWB has never initiated sex with me. I am always the one who makes the first move, and he usually tries to delay. Eventually we will, and it's always hot~

Is this normal for Cap guys? Why does he do this?

"OHMAGHERD, SHE'LL TURN ME DOWN. BEST LEAVE IT UP TO HER!"

Could be a hint of insecurity, but more than that, he is tweaking it to your comfort. FWB is not the ideal situation, so he could be leaving it to you to make sure your comfortable with it, and also so you have your share of responsibility for it. If it goes left, or your emotions get more involved, he wont feel like he took advantage or used you.

Posted by lnana04
Could be a hint of insecurity, but more than that, he is tweaking it to your comfort. FWB is not the ideal situation, so he could be leaving it to you to make sure your comfortable with it, and also so you have your share of responsibility for it. If it goes left, or your emotions get more involved, he wont feel like he took advantage or used you.

Lol... It's just a more sneaky, cowardly way of using people. I didn't initiate it, I was lead here by your suggestions. I did willingly participate tough 😉

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Posted by lnana04
Could be a hint of insecurity, but more than that, he is tweaking it to your comfort. FWB is not the ideal situation, so he could be leaving it to you to make sure your comfortable with it, and also so you have your share of responsibility for it. If it goes left, or your emotions get more involved, he wont feel like he took advantage or used you.

Lol... It's just a more sneaky, cowardly way of using people. I didn't initiate it, I was lead here by your suggestions. I did willingly participate tough 😉

How is it cowardly if you are letting people make their own decisions?

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It should be a give and take, and not let just one person make the decisions... Especially if you are enjoying it just as much. Cowardly.

Ahh! I see, it's a combination of what everyone is saying... that actually makes sense... when we met 5 months ago, I did not want to be sexual with him. One night it happened (long story and mixed signals)... and I was quite upset afterwards. The first time was mutual*

Why does he try to delay it though?

I think it's because he wants more from you than FWB. Might be trying to subconsciously let you know that it doesn't have to be about sex and he'd like you to know he'd like to hang out with you without sex being involved.

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Posted by lnana04
Could be a hint of insecurity, but more than that, he is tweaking it to your comfort. FWB is not the ideal situation, so he could be leaving it to you to make sure your comfortable with it, and also so you have your share of responsibility for it. If it goes left, or your emotions get more involved, he wont feel like he took advantage or used you.

Lol... It's just a more sneaky, cowardly way of using people. I didn't initiate it, I was lead here by your suggestions. I did willingly participate tough 😉

How is it cowardly if you are letting people make their own decisions?

It should be a give and take, and not let just one person make the decisions... Especially if you are enjoying it just as much. Cowardly.

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The last dude I was with was like this. I kinda disliked it because of that. It absolutely felt like "I'll let you initiate so I don't have to take responsibility if things go south. After all, YOU initiated it all. I'm just an innocent bystander!!" *eyeroll*

That, and insecurity would explain it.

ooh how i hate these types of situations here. Normally i will allow myself to get head from this guy whose posed to be actually close to me; yea it wrong but i single; an he has a girlfriend; which isnt my fault cause if he was home he wouldnt be here eating this twat , but i usually allow him initiation so i wont feel as guilty when he tries for intercourse; since i told every guy the same thing recently; no more sex until i get married; but knowing oral sex is considered sex as well, so i do it to feel less guilt and thats how i as a capricorn role even though the head great i dont see mysel being with him; but used to love him until he placed me a the ituation of not knowing he had a girlfriend until final notice while we were dating hes an old child hood bud so its hard to end our friendship although he is still very much in love but if he is why does he have a girl i dont take his duck ass serious so that could be the case in this situation with you too

Posted by truecap
I think it's because he wants more from you than FWB. Might be trying to subconsciously let you know that it doesn't have to be about sex and he'd like you to know he'd like to hang out with you without sex being involved.

He's mentioned this numerous times including sending me cheeky jokes that basically say I'm only in this for fun and sex. When I was tired one day before visiting him, he said we could just cuddle and sleep.

I'm wondering is this some sort of test? Should I dial it down, and let him initiate?

I'm sure he doesn't mind the sex! lol!

Not sure what to tell you to do on that one. Guys? Any ideas?

What's his mars sign?

Pisces mars likes to get the green light before they initiate.

He is Aries in Mars, and Pisces in Venus...

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Posted by lnana04
Could be a hint of insecurity, but more than that, he is tweaking it to your comfort. FWB is not the ideal situation, so he could be leaving it to you to make sure your comfortable with it, and also so you have your share of responsibility for it. If it goes left, or your emotions get more involved, he wont feel like he took advantage or used you.

Lol... It's just a more sneaky, cowardly way of using people. I didn't initiate it, I was lead here by your suggestions. I did willingly participate tough 😉

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Whatever the situation, a lot of the times a Cap male will get blamed or name-called in some way regardless. He's probably been called a user before, so he's doing things to the opposite extreme so it won't come to that. In his mind, it could be *let me let her make her own decisions regarding sex and let her direct how it goes in that area.*

I mean, now you consider him a user for being a participant lol. If he initiates, and she comes on complaining or crying...considering their situation, it'll be he was just using her for sex. He'll still be looked at as a user.

When the males get to brushing everybody off...it's their cold etc lol. no win