Greentea
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My job is to teach responsibility, independence and good manners. It is to raise a productive member of society. I was strict but also explained why they could not do something or why they should do something. I did it with love and kindness and am supportive. I am also opinionated and they hear that, too. We also had some fun.
I don't know how good of a job I did. They haven't ever gotten in trouble with the law, don't do drugs and people complement me on how well behaved and respectful they are.
They are young adults now and still want to hang out with me, so I must have done something right. Lol
I don't know how good of a job I did. They haven't ever gotten in trouble with the law, don't do drugs and people complement me on how well behaved and respectful they are.
They are young adults now and still want to hang out with me, so I must have done something right. Lol
Posted by Reincarnation:/ ... what made her not the best mother though?Posted by GreenteaMy mother is a Cap. Not the best mother, honestly.
Children of Caps welcome too...what was your experience like with your Cap parents?
Caps..
How do you feel about your children, being parents, or what kind of parent do you think you'll be?
I do like Cap women on the whole though. There's a lot of good souls born in January.click to expand
Posted by ReincarnationI probably lecture too much. It's intended to teach.Posted by Vixen2Lol - same.
I found my mother controlling, sensitive, loyal, and devoted. My father is a Virgo and my mother was not the disciplinarian. My mother and I have had a very rocky relationship, she has had a rocky relationship with my sister as well (interesting enough my sis is 6 years younger Leo Sun /Pisces Moon) due to her controlling nature. My mother guilt trips ...I attribute some of her behavior to the Libra moon she has. But hey, as much as she drives me mental...she's my mom and I love her.
I do try to distance myself from her as much as possible. Everything turns into a lecture. And she is the one who needs lecturing the most. -_-click to expand
I try now not to. They're grown, don't really need to do it anymore.
MY papa is the best papa in the entire universe 😄
He understands me, supports me on all levels.
He lectures me but it's out of concern.
He loves to have fun with me too.
Seriously, I dont need anyone else.
I hope I can make him proud by being a wholesome individual 🙂
What else should I say =D
He understands me, supports me on all levels.
He lectures me but it's out of concern.
He loves to have fun with me too.
Seriously, I dont need anyone else.
I hope I can make him proud by being a wholesome individual 🙂
What else should I say =D
I heavily dislike kids. Most of them are fucking retarded these days and give me every reason to commit seppukku with a butcher knife.
My Cap father has Cap father.
Both had beautiful relationship. My dad is an imprint of his dad.. Although I find grandpa to be a very beautiful soul. His being was more beautiful.
Maybe Capricorns are beautiful as grandparents 😄
I think all Cap men should to have Cap sons 😄 its a cute pairing :p
Any Caparent-Capkid here?
Both had beautiful relationship. My dad is an imprint of his dad.. Although I find grandpa to be a very beautiful soul. His being was more beautiful.
Maybe Capricorns are beautiful as grandparents 😄
I think all Cap men should to have Cap sons 😄 its a cute pairing :p
Any Caparent-Capkid here?
Posted by truecapI still lecture adults --- that are no relation to me.Posted by ReincarnationI probably lecture too much. It's intended to teach.Posted by Vixen2Lol - same.
I found my mother controlling, sensitive, loyal, and devoted. My father is a Virgo and my mother was not the disciplinarian. My mother and I have had a very rocky relationship, she has had a rocky relationship with my sister as well (interesting enough my sis is 6 years younger Leo Sun /Pisces Moon) due to her controlling nature. My mother guilt trips ...I attribute some of her behavior to the Libra moon she has. But hey, as much as she drives me mental...she's my mom and I love her.
I do try to distance myself from her as much as possible. Everything turns into a lecture. And she is the one who needs lecturing the most. -_-
I try now not to. They're grown, don't really need to do it anymore.click to expand
Because they need it. 😉
I know I will be giving lectures, it's ingrained in me, especially with how the kids are these days smh...
I know I'll be a loving mother too, along with love and nurturing, I'll teach them to have manners, respect, and poise, not just for themselves but in society. I will teach them the game of throans in how to achieve when it comes to getting where they want to be, in setting up a game plan (if they choose to take my advice it's up to them), and hopefully when they get older..once I set them free to the wolves of the world, they will take whatever their father and I taught them in their arsenal, and use it.
I know I'll be a loving mother too, along with love and nurturing, I'll teach them to have manners, respect, and poise, not just for themselves but in society. I will teach them the game of throans in how to achieve when it comes to getting where they want to be, in setting up a game plan (if they choose to take my advice it's up to them), and hopefully when they get older..once I set them free to the wolves of the world, they will take whatever their father and I taught them in their arsenal, and use it.
My mom was a though woman, official and kinda cold.. She never yelled at me, if anything she would just staring at me seriously and I was freaked out. Sometimes she would beat me too, if I was out of control or something. I was afraid of her, she wasn't the best mother.
Posted by Vixen2Eeeek I have a leeb moon. And I admit, I am pretty judgemental at times, and I know I will be more so picky with who my kids choose to hang with. I will not hesitate to let then know my thoughts if I feel they're hanging out with the wrong crowd. They're my child, I care for them.Posted by ReincarnationLol!Posted by Vixen2Lol - same.
I found my mother controlling, sensitive, loyal, and devoted. My father is a Virgo and my mother was not the disciplinarian. My mother and I have had a very rocky relationship, she has had a rocky relationship with my sister as well (interesting enough my sis is 6 years younger Leo Sun /Pisces Moon) due to her controlling nature. My mother guilt trips ...I attribute some of her behavior to the Libra moon she has. But hey, as much as she drives me mental...she's my mom and I love her.
I do try to distance myself from her as much as possible. Everything turns into a lecture. And she is the one who needs lecturing the most. -_-
My mother is completely over sensitive to everything in regards to things pertaining to herself...you must walk on eggshells however...she is completely insensitive and inappropriate with her opinions at times to others...it's mind boggling. She has said quite a few times that she wished she made other life choices...basically, that she wished she hadn't chosen motherhoodclick to expand
My Cap mother wasn't evil, but very detached, self-absorbed, lazy, and unloving.
If me, or my brothers, had a dream or an idea --- she was sure to snuff out our desires quickly. The mood was almost always melancholy, negative, and dark.
Believe it or not, we are very close now as adults. I love her very much. She didn't get dealt the best hand in life, but she tended to keep the shitty cards in her hand, and never took a risk on something better. She still doesn't. She lives vicariously through her mal-adjusted children. I have the defiance, independent spirit, and iron will. My middle brother has the drive, adventure, and free spiritedness. My baby brother --- well, at 29 he still lives with mom and knows how to roll a good blunt. He got the worst of it, I'm afraid.
Mom learned with me, had her best parenting years with middle brother, and had given up by the time baby brother came along. I believe that shows in how our individual lives manifested.
I still harbor some resentment towards her deep down. She should have been better --- a lot better, but she was weak.
If me, or my brothers, had a dream or an idea --- she was sure to snuff out our desires quickly. The mood was almost always melancholy, negative, and dark.
Believe it or not, we are very close now as adults. I love her very much. She didn't get dealt the best hand in life, but she tended to keep the shitty cards in her hand, and never took a risk on something better. She still doesn't. She lives vicariously through her mal-adjusted children. I have the defiance, independent spirit, and iron will. My middle brother has the drive, adventure, and free spiritedness. My baby brother --- well, at 29 he still lives with mom and knows how to roll a good blunt. He got the worst of it, I'm afraid.
Mom learned with me, had her best parenting years with middle brother, and had given up by the time baby brother came along. I believe that shows in how our individual lives manifested.
I still harbor some resentment towards her deep down. She should have been better --- a lot better, but she was weak.
Posted by CapTennNot enough guidance, not enough lectures growing up. Lol.Posted by truecapI still lecture adults --- that are no relation to me.Posted by ReincarnationI probably lecture too much. It's intended to teach.Posted by Vixen2Lol - same.
I found my mother controlling, sensitive, loyal, and devoted. My father is a Virgo and my mother was not the disciplinarian. My mother and I have had a very rocky relationship, she has had a rocky relationship with my sister as well (interesting enough my sis is 6 years younger Leo Sun /Pisces Moon) due to her controlling nature. My mother guilt trips ...I attribute some of her behavior to the Libra moon she has. But hey, as much as she drives me mental...she's my mom and I love her.
I do try to distance myself from her as much as possible. Everything turns into a lecture. And she is the one who needs lecturing the most. -_-
I try now not to. They're grown, don't really need to do it anymore.
Because they need it. 😉click to expand
Posted by GreenteaNot enough thinking, and short on responsibility and accountability.Posted by CapTennNot enough guidance, not enough lectures growing up. Lol.Posted by truecapI still lecture adults --- that are no relation to me.Posted by ReincarnationI probably lecture too much. It's intended to teach.Posted by Vixen2Lol - same.
I found my mother controlling, sensitive, loyal, and devoted. My father is a Virgo and my mother was not the disciplinarian. My mother and I have had a very rocky relationship, she has had a rocky relationship with my sister as well (interesting enough my sis is 6 years younger Leo Sun /Pisces Moon) due to her controlling nature. My mother guilt trips ...I attribute some of her behavior to the Libra moon she has. But hey, as much as she drives me mental...she's my mom and I love her.
I do try to distance myself from her as much as possible. Everything turns into a lecture. And she is the one who needs lecturing the most. -_-
I try now not to. They're grown, don't really need to do it anymore.
Because they need it. 😉click to expand
Lacking basic common sense, and priorities out of whack.
I have strong opinions, but try to voice them less these days.
Why is lecturing by Cap parents an issue lol? Smile and listen carefully. They do not invest their time and energy if they don't care lol.. They may be sarcastic and harsh and cold while doing so, sometimes my dad lectures me like he's making fun of me or situation, in a very sardonic way... I always laugh, crack jokes and agree lol.my dad smiles too 😄 One can enjoy lectures too! :p
Posted by GreenteaYou are sounding like my dad!!!Posted by Vixen2Eeeek I have a leeb moon. And I admit, I am pretty judgemental at times, and I know I will be more so picky with who my kids choose to hang with. I will not hesitate to let then know my thoughts if I feel they're hanging out with the wrong crowd. They're my child, I care for them.Posted by ReincarnationLol!Posted by Vixen2Lol - same.
I found my mother controlling, sensitive, loyal, and devoted. My father is a Virgo and my mother was not the disciplinarian. My mother and I have had a very rocky relationship, she has had a rocky relationship with my sister as well (interesting enough my sis is 6 years younger Leo Sun /Pisces Moon) due to her controlling nature. My mother guilt trips ...I attribute some of her behavior to the Libra moon she has. But hey, as much as she drives me mental...she's my mom and I love her.
I do try to distance myself from her as much as possible. Everything turns into a lecture. And she is the one who needs lecturing the most. -_-
My mother is completely over sensitive to everything in regards to things pertaining to herself...you must walk on eggshells however...she is completely insensitive and inappropriate with her opinions at times to others...it's mind boggling. She has said quite a few times that she wished she made other life choices...basically, that she wished she hadn't chosen motherhood
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I burnt my fingers when I didn't believe in my dad's judgement and friended a girl. It was embarrassing because people get different impressions by the company you keep.
My mother also had control issues. As if she had to prove dominance over me. This has changed extremely now that I am grown though. I'm a Leo and I usually did what I wanted to do anyway but respectfully. Like I'd convince her to let me do it my way but she'd be disappointed in me or keep telling me it wasn't a good idea. She is BIG on responsibility and being productive. Following the rules. Money managment too. If you want something done precisely , call her
She is also very supportive, loving, generous (with me, I'm her only child), and opinionated.
She is also very supportive, loving, generous (with me, I'm her only child), and opinionated.
Posted by Vixen2Aww Vixen.. My dad says many things too .. "I'm a bad father", "I wouldnt have married if I had had some sense" blah blah blah.Posted by ReincarnationLol!Posted by Vixen2Lol - same.
I found my mother controlling, sensitive, loyal, and devoted. My father is a Virgo and my mother was not the disciplinarian. My mother and I have had a very rocky relationship, she has had a rocky relationship with my sister as well (interesting enough my sis is 6 years younger Leo Sun /Pisces Moon) due to her controlling nature. My mother guilt trips ...I attribute some of her behavior to the Libra moon she has. But hey, as much as she drives me mental...she's my mom and I love her.
I do try to distance myself from her as much as possible. Everything turns into a lecture. And she is the one who needs lecturing the most. -_-
My mother is completely over sensitive to everything in regards to things pertaining to herself...you must walk on eggshells however...she is completely insensitive and inappropriate with her opinions at times to others...it's mind boggling. She has said quite a few times that she wished she made other life choices...basically, that she wished she hadn't chosen motherhoodclick to expand
Its just their frustration. And Capricorns are nut-cases who like to project a bad or cold image of themselves. They just want best in everything they do.
When all they need is a hug :p ..they wont respond to it..yes...but it does touch their heart :p
About insensitive comments on others...its just that they don't trust easily. Or rather mistrustful of people if they find some little unnoticeable thing to be inappropriate. I'm dealing with my dad being horribly judgemental too.. He's toning it down.
Posted by GreenteaChildren of Cap parents usually turn out very well.
Children of Caps welcome too...what was your experience like with your Cap parents?
Caps..
How do you feel about your children, being parents, or what kind of parent do you think you'll be?
The boys learn to be responsible human beings. So early in life too.
My capricorn mother in law had a Pisces sun/cancer moon mother and a Gemini sun/Sag moon father and they were very very religious and strict.
however, all their children turned out very very WELL.
i dont have their risings but they are dominant cancer energy. And Pisces sun grandma had a capricorn mars. I bet Gemini sun grandpa had a 10th house.
My husband turned out to be a very very MATURE man, and very good too. And my Cancer bff who has a Cap father and Gemini mother turned out lovely and responsible and kind.
her brothers are also turning out to be very very DECENT young men. It's hard but they LEARN love, responsibility and good manners.
I have a capricorn grandmother and she was a good woman who is able to produce alot of people to respect her, despite her being so tiny. It's like the tinier, the more she packs a PUNCH.
My Libra brother in law has a Capricorn mother and a Leo father. Both parents are very loving and good parents, their children turned out good and responsible.
I'm gonna find out what Virgo brother in law's mother's sign is. Ive met her several times during birthday parties and such, and at the funeral, and she is QUIET and passive. I'll go see, but i am betting some capricorn and 10th house going on.
Posted by RumiLAs long as I get through, they can make fun of my lecturing. It doesn't have to be so serious all the time.
Why is lecturing by Cap parents an issue lol? Smile and listen carefully. They do not invest their time and energy if they don't care lol.. They may be sarcastic and harsh and cold while doing so, sometimes my dad lectures me like he's making fun of me or situation, in a very sardonic way... I always laugh, crack jokes and agree lol.my dad smiles too 😄 One can enjoy lectures too! :p
I just need to know they're absorbing what I'm teaching them.
Posted by babygurlOh I will, my many sag amd aqua bits provide enough fun. 😉Posted by GreenteaRemember to have fun.. spoil them a bit at times. You can teach them all the valuable lessons they need to know in order to become successful adults. But being an adult already has so many rules and demands by itself. I don't think it hurts to indulge them a bit. Not everything has to be a grooming for when they become men and women. This is in no way personal but a general advice to all cap mothers like myself.Posted by RumiLAs long as I get through, they can make fun of my lecturing. It doesn't have to be so serious all the time.
Why is lecturing by Cap parents an issue lol? Smile and listen carefully. They do not invest their time and energy if they don't care lol.. They may be sarcastic and harsh and cold while doing so, sometimes my dad lectures me like he's making fun of me or situation, in a very sardonic way... I always laugh, crack jokes and agree lol.my dad smiles too 😄 One can enjoy lectures too! :p
I just need to know they're absorbing what I'm teaching them.
Childhood should be their safe haven in which they get to look back on fondly; and smile when adulthood becomes overbearing because we all know more often than not that it does.click to expand
I am still a Cap, so they will learn to be respectful and respected human beings.
Posted by GreenteaThe good -- (As bad as it may sound) --- I was thrown to the wolves around 13 years old. My mother was off living her life (bar hopping), and I learned to fend for myself, and became very independent -- very young. Things adults struggle with today, I had mastered by age 16.
@Reincarnation
@RumiL
@Vixen2
@CapTenn
And anyone else.... what did you take away from your Cap parent that contributed to how you are today...good and bad I suppose.
The bad -- A lot of anger, bitterness, and guilt. I finally started growing past the anger in my mid-thirties. I carried it far too long. I still egret much of my behavior, and how I treated people in my past. I carry a lot of guilt. I haven't shaken that yet......and may never.
Posted by CapTennAs much good and many lessons you may have learned, I still feel a bit sad knowing you had to go through that 😢Posted by GreenteaThe good -- (As bad as it may sound) --- I was thrown to the wolves around 13 years old. My mother was off living her life (bar hopping), and I learned to fend for myself, and became very independent -- very young. Things adults struggle with today, I had mastered by age 16.
@Reincarnation
@RumiL
@Vixen2
@CapTenn
And anyone else.... what did you take away from your Cap parent that contributed to how you are today...good and bad I suppose.
The bad -- A lot of anger, bitterness, and guilt. I finally started growing past the anger in my mid-thirties. I carried it far too long. I still egret much of my behavior, and how I treated people in my past. I carry a lot of guilt. I haven't shaken that yet......and may never.click to expand
Posted by GreenteaWell, thank you.Posted by CapTennAs much good and many lessons you may have learned, I still feel a bit sad knowing you had to go through that 😢Posted by GreenteaThe good -- (As bad as it may sound) --- I was thrown to the wolves around 13 years old. My mother was off living her life (bar hopping), and I learned to fend for myself, and became very independent -- very young. Things adults struggle with today, I had mastered by age 16.
@Reincarnation
@RumiL
@Vixen2
@CapTenn
And anyone else.... what did you take away from your Cap parent that contributed to how you are today...good and bad I suppose.
The bad -- A lot of anger, bitterness, and guilt. I finally started growing past the anger in my mid-thirties. I carried it far too long. I still egret much of my behavior, and how I treated people in my past. I carry a lot of guilt. I haven't shaken that yet......and may never.click to expand
I'm fine, though. It just took a while.
My story is just a cautionary tale for young women. My mother had me 2 days after she turned 18 years old.
She wasn't prepared. Teen moms = no bueno.
Posted by ImpulsvKind words.Posted by CapTennU know better u do better. Let go of the guilt you are human who had to do the best they could on their own since 13 years old! If anything you have done great for urself.Posted by GreenteaThe good -- (As bad as it may sound) --- I was thrown to the wolves around 13 years old. My mother was off living her life (bar hopping), and I learned to fend for myself, and became very independent -- very young. Things adults struggle with today, I had mastered by age 16.
@Reincarnation
@RumiL
@Vixen2
@CapTenn
And anyone else.... what did you take away from your Cap parent that contributed to how you are today...good and bad I suppose.
The bad -- A lot of anger, bitterness, and guilt. I finally started growing past the anger in my mid-thirties. I carried it far too long. I still egret much of my behavior, and how I treated people in my past. I carry a lot of guilt. I haven't shaken that yet......and may never.
Be compassionate to urself for your past n now know works towards the present n future to be betterŠclick to expand
Gracious. 🙂
My ex husband's dad is a cap. His Mom is a Sag. I LOVED them. His Dad taught them responsibility at a young age and did everything he could for them. Emotionally he was there for them too. I had a Cancer Dad...he didn't do anything for my siblings and I.
Sadly, my ex went through a rough stage in his life and took it out on me. One of the reasons I stayed long after I should have left were his amazing, loving parents.
I also left though because they cried and told me to. They said they loved me and will always see me as a daughter. They said I didn't deserve to be hurt so much and that they needed to help turn his life around. His Dad and I used to have talks. We'd sit there and just talk for hours. I'd do that with his Mom too. He was a great role model for his kids and grandkids. I think my ex is starting to get back to being himself again. That I would say is partly because of his Father. He is a great man.
Sadly, my ex went through a rough stage in his life and took it out on me. One of the reasons I stayed long after I should have left were his amazing, loving parents.
I also left though because they cried and told me to. They said they loved me and will always see me as a daughter. They said I didn't deserve to be hurt so much and that they needed to help turn his life around. His Dad and I used to have talks. We'd sit there and just talk for hours. I'd do that with his Mom too. He was a great role model for his kids and grandkids. I think my ex is starting to get back to being himself again. That I would say is partly because of his Father. He is a great man.
@Greentea --- Many things. Many things have influenced me consciously and subconsciously. My dad struck me at roots. He always pointed towards my attitude towards things, even small things like leaving shoes neatly placed in the rack. It's just not about being mannered or orderly,it's about my attitude towards things that protect my feet. Little things like this.. and what I've learnt off late is how to not react emotionally to everything. Slow down a bit. Put it aside and really just focus on what I can do. Learn that some things aren't in our control, no point in getting worked up - got much to do.
..take RESPONSIBILITY for everything I do, or that which happens to me, or that which happens in my "jurisdiction" without complaining even if I'm not at fault. "You could've done much to avoid it" .
...he taught me how to support myself and be self-reliant. He's so big on being self-reliance and has taught me in tough ways TBH. Very blunt, very direct, very severe.
I'm very sensitive, he knows it more than I myself know and wants me to be tough and says (not a good translation, but you get tge essence if it) "you shouldn't ever show you hand before people and ask for anything - material help or even love, you should only give" .
One more thing is. ..I was taught this very early, maybe in junior school - if someone us saying something to you or about you, just consider fir a moment if there us any truth in it - ifthere isn't any, just leave it. If there is truth in it -think about it.
IDK if I'm really living what all he wants me to live up to, but these things and many more not mentioned here.. I will always carry, and strive to achieve or live it.
But I guess I'm still not being as tough as I should be. My dad says if I was a boy...hed have been very badass with me and made me into a tough person.. "You dont know how ugly the world can be" ..he says all the time.
..take RESPONSIBILITY for everything I do, or that which happens to me, or that which happens in my "jurisdiction" without complaining even if I'm not at fault. "You could've done much to avoid it" .
...he taught me how to support myself and be self-reliant. He's so big on being self-reliance and has taught me in tough ways TBH. Very blunt, very direct, very severe.
I'm very sensitive, he knows it more than I myself know and wants me to be tough and says (not a good translation, but you get tge essence if it) "you shouldn't ever show you hand before people and ask for anything - material help or even love, you should only give" .
One more thing is. ..I was taught this very early, maybe in junior school - if someone us saying something to you or about you, just consider fir a moment if there us any truth in it - ifthere isn't any, just leave it. If there is truth in it -think about it.
IDK if I'm really living what all he wants me to live up to, but these things and many more not mentioned here.. I will always carry, and strive to achieve or live it.
But I guess I'm still not being as tough as I should be. My dad says if I was a boy...hed have been very badass with me and made me into a tough person.. "You dont know how ugly the world can be" ..he says all the time.
Posted by RumiLHe doesn't want anyone taking advantage of his lil girl.. too many predators. He see's you as perhaps being too innocent...those are the most vulnerable. He.probably wouldn't be able to take it if you were hurt in any way, so he's focused on making you tough.
@Greentea --- Many things. Many things have influenced me consciously and subconsciously. My dad struck me at roots. He always pointed towards my attitude towards things, even small things like leaving shoes neatly placed in the rack. It's just not about being mannered or orderly,it's about my attitude towards things that protect my feet. Little things like this.. and what I've learnt off late is how to not react emotionally to everything. Slow down a bit. Put it aside and really just focus on what I can do. Learn that some things aren't in our control, no point in getting worked up - got much to do.
..take RESPONSIBILITY for everything I do, or that which happens to me, or that which happens in my "jurisdiction" without complaining even if I'm not at fault. "You could've done much to avoid it" .
...he taught me how to support myself and be self-reliant. He's so big on being self-reliance and has taught me in tough ways TBH. Very blunt, very direct, very severe.
I'm very sensitive, he knows it more than I myself know and wants me to be tough and says (not a good translation, but you get tge essence if it) "you shouldn't ever show you hand before people and ask for anything - material help or even love, you should only give" .
One more thing is. ..I was taught this very early, maybe in junior school - if someone us saying something to you or about you, just consider fir a moment if there us any truth in it - ifthere isn't any, just leave it. If there is truth in it -think about it.
IDK if I'm really living what all he wants me to live up to, but these things and many more not mentioned here.. I will always carry, and strive to achieve or live it.
But I guess I'm still not being as tough as I should be. My dad says if I was a boy...hed have been very badass with me and made me into a tough person.. "You dont know how ugly the world can be" ..he says all the time.
With a boy, well he would teach him to be a real man, tough and gentle. 🙂
Ughh. Too many typos. Excuse the typos 😢
Oh the men are different. My friend has a cap dad and he is on one hand funny, generous, opinionated, and hard working.. on the other he is slightly depressed, and gives guilt trips frequently to his children from what she tells me
Posted by GreenteaYes Greentea.. *sighs*. My gullible nature pisses him off. He goes into his sarcastic..sardonic comments "yes, yes.. Be like this.. You will be screwed"(his exact words) .. "Even God cannot help you" and "you dont belong here, go to a monastry" ...blah blah blah.. Sometimes he gets really angry and will not talk to me even. But IDK what to do!! Lol.Posted by RumiLHe doesn't want anyone taking advantage of his lil girl.. too many predators. He see's you as perhaps being too innocent...those are the most vulnerable. He.probably wouldn't be able to take it if you were hurt in any way, so he's focused on making you tough.
@Greentea --- Many things. Many things have influenced me consciously and subconsciously. My dad struck me at roots. He always pointed towards my attitude towards things, even small things like leaving shoes neatly placed in the rack. It's just not about being mannered or orderly,it's about my attitude towards things that protect my feet. Little things like this.. and what I've learnt off late is how to not react emotionally to everything. Slow down a bit. Put it aside and really just focus on what I can do. Learn that some things aren't in our control, no point in getting worked up - got much to do.
..take RESPONSIBILITY for everything I do, or that which happens to me, or that which happens in my "jurisdiction" without complaining even if I'm not at fault. "You could've done much to avoid it" .
...he taught me how to support myself and be self-reliant. He's so big on being self-reliance and has taught me in tough ways TBH. Very blunt, very direct, very severe.
I'm very sensitive, he knows it more than I myself know and wants me to be tough and says (not a good translation, but you get tge essence if it) "you shouldn't ever show you hand before people and ask for anything - material help or even love, you should only give" .
One more thing is. ..I was taught this very early, maybe in junior school - if someone us saying something to you or about you, just consider fir a moment if there us any truth in it - ifthere isn't any, just leave it. If there is truth in it -think about it.
IDK if I'm really living what all he wants me to live up to, but these things and many more not mentioned here.. I will always carry, and strive to achieve or live it.
But I guess I'm still not being as tough as I should be. My dad says if I was a boy...hed have been very badass with me and made me into a tough person.. "You dont know how ugly the world can be" ..he says all the time.
With a boy, well he would teach him to be a real man, tough and gentle. 🙂click to expand
He wants me to get into Police Service(in my country) so that there will be two gun me
Got cut off!
...two gun men by side all the time lol.
I can say I'm improving a lot though! :p
...two gun men by side all the time lol.
I can say I'm improving a lot though! :p
Posted by RumiLIf my child was too innocent, I think I would be one of those crazy mothers who would inspect every man she brought around with a fine tooth comb. Smh..
Got cut off!
...two gun men by side all the time lol.
I can say I'm improving a lot though! :p
He crazy about you. Lol.. wants to make sure he teaches you everything before he leaves this earth. Can't protect you then.
Posted by GobshiteMy cap daughter and I used to clash quite a bit. It's gotten better now that we don't live with each other.
I'd rather have a Cap father than a Cap mother any day of the week...
And my mom's BFF is a cap with a cap daughter and they always clashed, too.
Posted by RumiLI hope my kids feel this way. My son, probably does. Charming Aries he is, always ends up making me laugh. My cap daughter....well, we're working on it. At least she wants to hang out with me. 🙂
Why is lecturing by Cap parents an issue lol? Smile and listen carefully. They do not invest their time and energy if they don't care lol.. They may be sarcastic and harsh and cold while doing so, sometimes my dad lectures me like he's making fun of me or situation, in a very sardonic way... I always laugh, crack jokes and agree lol.my dad smiles too 😄 One can enjoy lectures too! :p
Posted by truecapLol. Truecap..you're funny about the Cap daughter bit.Posted by RumiLI hope my kids feel this way. My son, probably does. Charming Aries he is, always ends up making me laugh. My cap daughter....well, we're working on it. At least she wants to hang out with me. 🙂
Why is lecturing by Cap parents an issue lol? Smile and listen carefully. They do not invest their time and energy if they don't care lol.. They may be sarcastic and harsh and cold while doing so, sometimes my dad lectures me like he's making fun of me or situation, in a very sardonic way... I always laugh, crack jokes and agree lol.my dad smiles too 😄 One can enjoy lectures too! :pclick to expand
(Taking note)..don't have sex during the month of March.
😉
I've always tried to throw a little fun goofiness into things.
I still try to get my kids to ride the little horse ride in front of the store...they look at me like I've lost my ever loving mind!!! Lol!!!
And car dancing....so much fun!!! They get soooo embarrassed. I'm over here like, you don't know those people in those cars....you'll never see them again. Besides, they think we're having a blast! Serious little cap would look at me mortified...mom.just. STOP! Bwahahaha!
Hee hee!
I still try to get my kids to ride the little horse ride in front of the store...they look at me like I've lost my ever loving mind!!! Lol!!!
And car dancing....so much fun!!! They get soooo embarrassed. I'm over here like, you don't know those people in those cars....you'll never see them again. Besides, they think we're having a blast! Serious little cap would look at me mortified...mom.just. STOP! Bwahahaha!
Hee hee!
Posted by truecapI dance in the car sometimes...probably won't change when I have kids... those poor kids. Lol
I've always tried to throw a little fun goofiness into things.
I still try to get my kids to ride the little horse ride in front of the store...they look at me like I've lost my ever loving mind!!! Lol!!!
And car dancing....so much fun!!! They get soooo embarrassed. I'm over here like, you don't know those people in those cars....you'll never see them again. Besides, they think we're having a blast! Serious little cap would look at me mortified...mom.just. STOP! Bwahahaha!
Hee hee!
You're right, probably won't see those people again anyways.
Posted by GreenteaShit. 😢Posted by RumiLIf my child was too innocent, I think I would be one of those crazy mothers who would inspect every man she brought around with a fine tooth comb. Smh..
Got cut off!
...two gun men by side all the time lol.
I can say I'm improving a lot though! :p
He crazy about you. Lol.. wants to make sure he teaches you everything before he leaves this earth. Can't protect you then.click to expand
My dad says he will haunt me if anything happens to him. Its said in a light hearted yet serious way but... I dont like hearing such things.
Hahaha.. Yes. My dad is very severe.. But he did like two guys or so he says!! The only guys he liked(but didn't date or anything) was my Cap crush and a certain Virgo...Weirgo(stealing FrenchKap's term ) .. But ofcourse we decided "there's time for everything" 🙂
"there's time for everything" is also one essential thing I learnt from dad.
Posted by RumiLFreaky...I say that too. You're right, your dad and I are too much alike it seems.Posted by GreenteaShit. 😢Posted by RumiLIf my child was too innocent, I think I would be one of those crazy mothers who would inspect every man she brought around with a fine tooth comb. Smh..
Got cut off!
...two gun men by side all the time lol.
I can say I'm improving a lot though! :p
He crazy about you. Lol.. wants to make sure he teaches you everything before he leaves this earth. Can't protect you then.
My dad says he will haunt me if anything happens to him. Its said in a light hearted yet serious way but... I dont like hearing such things.
Hahaha.. Yes. My dad is very severe.. But he did like two guys or so he says!! The only guys he liked(but didn't date or anything) was my Cap crush and a certain Virgo...Weirgo(stealing FrenchKap's term ) .. But ofcourse we decided "there's time for everything" 🙂
"there's time for everything" is also one essential thing I learnt from dad.click to expand
Posted by truecapWhy or where do you and your daughter clash, Truecap?Posted by RumiLI hope my kids feel this way. My son, probably does. Charming Aries he is, always ends up making me laugh. My cap daughter....well, we're working on it. At least she wants to hang out with me. 🙂
Why is lecturing by Cap parents an issue lol? Smile and listen carefully. They do not invest their time and energy if they don't care lol.. They may be sarcastic and harsh and cold while doing so, sometimes my dad lectures me like he's making fun of me or situation, in a very sardonic way... I always laugh, crack jokes and agree lol.my dad smiles too 😄 One can enjoy lectures too! :pclick to expand
I can assure you..by whatever I've read of your Aries sun. He totally enjoys your parenting and friendship🙂
And thankyou 🙂 you are best parents!
Posted by Greentea: DPosted by RumiLFreaky...I say that too. You're right, your dad and I are too much alike it seems.Posted by GreenteaShit. 😢Posted by RumiLIf my child was too innocent, I think I would be one of those crazy mothers who would inspect every man she brought around with a fine tooth comb. Smh..
Got cut off!
...two gun men by side all the time lol.
I can say I'm improving a lot though! :p
He crazy about you. Lol.. wants to make sure he teaches you everything before he leaves this earth. Can't protect you then.
My dad says he will haunt me if anything happens to him. Its said in a light hearted yet serious way but... I dont like hearing such things.
Hahaha.. Yes. My dad is very severe.. But he did like two guys or so he says!! The only guys he liked(but didn't date or anything) was my Cap crush and a certain Virgo...Weirgo(stealing FrenchKap's term ) .. But ofcourse we decided "there's time for everything" 🙂
"there's time for everything" is also one essential thing I learnt from dad.click to expand
Posted by cheekyfaerieWhat are your kids' signs?
Think I'm a better dad than a mother. Shit with emotional support, but a great provider/teacher/disciplinarian. Things have been hard since it's pretty much just me and them, but we've also had a lot of fun. Hopefully it all balances out.
Posted by RumiLThe only guy I dated that my father liked andPosted by Greentea: DPosted by RumiLFreaky...I say that too. You're right, your dad and I are too much alike it seems.Posted by GreenteaShit. 😢Posted by RumiLIf my child was too innocent, I think I would be one of those crazy mothers who would inspect every man she brought around with a fine tooth comb. Smh..
Got cut off!
...two gun men by side all the time lol.
I can say I'm improving a lot though! :p
He crazy about you. Lol.. wants to make sure he teaches you everything before he leaves this earth. Can't protect you then.
My dad says he will haunt me if anything happens to him. Its said in a light hearted yet serious way but... I dont like hearing such things.
Hahaha.. Yes. My dad is very severe.. But he did like two guys or so he says!! The only guys he liked(but didn't date or anything) was my Cap crush and a certain Virgo...Weirgo(stealing FrenchKap's term ) .. But ofcourse we decided "there's time for everything" 🙂
"there's time for everything" is also one essential thing I learnt from dad.click to expand
still asks about is a Virgo.
😛
Posted by MontgomeryHows your dad Montgomery😄Posted by RumiLThe only guy I dated that my father liked andPosted by Greentea: DPosted by RumiLFreaky...I say that too. You're right, your dad and I are too much alike it seems.Posted by GreenteaShit. 😢Posted by RumiLIf my child was too innocent, I think I would be one of those crazy mothers who would inspect every man she brought around with a fine tooth comb. Smh..
Got cut off!
...two gun men by side all the time lol.
I can say I'm improving a lot though! :p
He crazy about you. Lol.. wants to make sure he teaches you everything before he leaves this earth. Can't protect you then.
My dad says he will haunt me if anything happens to him. Its said in a light hearted yet serious way but... I dont like hearing such things.
Hahaha.. Yes. My dad is very severe.. But he did like two guys or so he says!! The only guys he liked(but didn't date or anything) was my Cap crush and a certain Virgo...Weirgo(stealing FrenchKap's term ) .. But ofcourse we decided "there's time for everything" 🙂
"there's time for everything" is also one essential thing I learnt from dad.
still asks about is a Virgo.
😛click to expand
Oooh. Weirgos are the guys then! :p I wonder what is it they like about weirgos...hmm.
Posted by cheekyfaerieFixed moons?Posted by MontgomeryThe eldest is Virgo and the youngest is Leeb, on the Virgo cusp. They're both very fixed, like myself.Posted by cheekyfaerieWhat are your kids' signs?
Think I'm a better dad than a mother. Shit with emotional support, but a great provider/teacher/disciplinarian. Things have been hard since it's pretty much just me and them, but we've also had a lot of fun. Hopefully it all balances out.
click to expand
I've always thought Cap should be/is honorary Fixed
sign anyway.
Posted by RumiLJust a battle of the wills. We're both strong headed.Posted by truecapWhy or where do you and your daughter clash, Truecap?Posted by RumiLI hope my kids feel this way. My son, probably does. Charming Aries he is, always ends up making me laugh. My cap daughter....well, we're working on it. At least she wants to hang out with me. 🙂
Why is lecturing by Cap parents an issue lol? Smile and listen carefully. They do not invest their time and energy if they don't care lol.. They may be sarcastic and harsh and cold while doing so, sometimes my dad lectures me like he's making fun of me or situation, in a very sardonic way... I always laugh, crack jokes and agree lol.my dad smiles too 😄 One can enjoy lectures too! :p
I can assure you..by whatever I've read of your Aries sun. He totally enjoys your parenting and friendship🙂
And thankyou 🙂 you are best parents!click to expand
@RumiL
My father seems to be mellowing-- unless
he's taken up drinking for sport or something.
🙂
And I have no idea... the Virgo has a LEO Moon
but he can turn what seems 'out there' into
simple Logic-- which my Father understands.
My father seems to be mellowing-- unless
he's taken up drinking for sport or something.
🙂
And I have no idea... the Virgo has a LEO Moon
but he can turn what seems 'out there' into
simple Logic-- which my Father understands.
Posted by cheekyfaerieI believe you. o.OPosted by MontgomeryI *think* so? With my moon, rising and Venus all fixed, it's hard to be objective. •Posted by cheekyfaerieFixed moons?Posted by MontgomeryThe eldest is Virgo and the youngest is Leeb, on the Virgo cusp. They're both very fixed, like myself.Posted by cheekyfaerieWhat are your kids' signs?
Think I'm a better dad than a mother. Shit with emotional support, but a great provider/teacher/disciplinarian. Things have been hard since it's pretty much just me and them, but we've also had a lot of fun. Hopefully it all balances out.
I've always thought Cap should be/is honorary Fixed
sign anyway.
Both Gem moons! Ha. I'm surrounded by it. But the Tall One's Scorpio rising/Mars with Leo MC and Shorty's Leo Asc, Scorp Venus and Taurus Mars/MC. Sometimes... the struggle is real.click to expand
And
TAURUS MARS on the little one. .. woo hoo!
😄
The secret you may already know is validation.
'I understand' can go for miles when nothing
else works.
LOL@ the Tall one... I didn't even know you
were a mom, Cheeky.
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