Caps and Sex

So, I've been FWB with this Cap girl for almost a year now. Until yesterday she has been cool with just using each other for sex. We have designated Monday, Wed, Fri as our fuck days. Yesterday, she tells me she wants more than just sex from me. I told her that I liked our arrangement and that I did not want to give her more than just sex. So, she storms out of bed and starts cursing me out. I'm like WTF! She suggested being FWB in the first place!

Do most Caps act like that when rejected?

Posted by starlover
Well she is a woman

That may be something for you to consider


The arrangement sounds as cold as hell frozen over


Personally, i would rather die in a cellar full of rats than be involved in such arrangement


*Capricorn midheaven*



Ps, if you just want sex, you may wish to hire a prostitute, maybe on Monday, Wednesday and Fridays, they do *cheap* rates

You for hire? JK

It was her idea to just fuck and not mine so spew your garbage elsewhere.

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Posted by starlover
Well she is a woman

That may be something for you to consider


The arrangement sounds as cold as hell frozen over


Personally, i would rather die in a cellar full of rats than be involved in such arrangement


*Capricorn midheaven*



Ps, if you just want sex, you may wish to hire a prostitute, maybe on Monday, Wednesday and Fridays, they do *cheap* rates

You for hire? JK

It was her idea to just fuck and not mine so spew your garbage elsewhere.

.....and now she wants more

things change and move on.....people want more

i guess you need to decide what you want


no need to get defensive......you asked....so you get

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I didn't get defensive.........tit for tat.

Yup.....things changed and she wanted more. I don't.

Now, please answer my question if that's possible

Like Starlover said she's a woman and she got attached. Sex will do that because you're essentially bonding together. That may have been cool for her to have those designated days, but she got attached to you and may have built some emotional bond (i.e. her storming out and cursing you). You may want to leave her alone if you're set on nothing more than sex.....even though it was her idea.

Just my two cents......FWB situation never turns out the way both parties intend for it to. I've never been in a situation like that because I want to know that I have a relationship with this person I'm giving my body to. I've known people who start out like that and it usually ends with the woman crying. Men and women view sex differently.

Posted by starlover
I can't because i dont know how any cappy women would react. i am a scorpio


What do you actually want to know?


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Then why even comment if you have no real input?

I only know one Cap girl and she's my best friend. I've never known her to act like that when rejected, but then again I don't see her getting into a situation like that. I would say that most women may act like when they get emotionally attached. It is what it is....like I said before if you don't want anything more then leave her be.

My Cap acts that way! We've been exclusive fwbs for almost 2 years, but he has never made it a secret that he wants a title, to meet my family, and for me to meet his friends. He gets really mad and spiteful over not having the title. We've lasted because I genuinely care about him, it's not all about sex, and there is a good chance we will be official in the future.

If you won't give her the title, she may change the way she is with you. If you say there is never a chance, she may cut you off completely. Just my 2 cents.

Posted by snlee
Like Starlover said she's a woman and she got attached. Sex will do that because you're essentially bonding together. That may have been cool for her to have those designated days, but she got attached to you and may have built some emotional bond (i.e. her storming out and cursing you). You may want to leave her alone if you're set on nothing more than sex.....even though it was her idea.

Just my two cents......FWB situation never turns out the way both parties intend for it to. I've never been in a situation like that because I want to know that I have a relationship with this person I'm giving my body to. I've known people who start out like that and it usually ends with the woman crying. Men and women view sex differently.

Don't get me wrong. I am not against relationships. Just not one with her. She is way too structured for me. I could ask if we could do our thing on tuesday and it was always NO and stick to the gameplan. I could do that no problem. Now, shes wanting to change the whole gameplan and I can't. I'm not going to contact her anymore.

Posted by starlover
I can't because i dont know how any cappy women would react. i am a scorpio


What do you actually want to know?


:-))

Nice AVI

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Posted by snlee
Like Starlover said she's a woman and she got attached. Sex will do that because you're essentially bonding together. That may have been cool for her to have those designated days, but she got attached to you and may have built some emotional bond (i.e. her storming out and cursing you). You may want to leave her alone if you're set on nothing more than sex.....even though it was her idea.

Just my two cents......FWB situation never turns out the way both parties intend for it to. I've never been in a situation like that because I want to know that I have a relationship with this person I'm giving my body to. I've known people who start out like that and it usually ends with the woman crying. Men and women view sex differently.

Don't get me wrong. I am not against relationships. Just not one with her. She is way too structured for me. I could ask if we could do our thing on tuesday and it was always NO and stick to the gameplan. I could do that no problem. Now, shes wanting to change the whole gameplan and I can't. I'm not going to contact her anymore.

But happy to have sex with her 3 times a week


How many women do you think would remain in this type of situation?

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I don't know. First FWB ever.

She suggested the situation. Hell yea I was loving sex 3 times a week. Who wouldn't?

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Nobody likes feeling rejected. Anybody with a temper would respond that way. She's prolly gonna pull the plug on your arrangement.

And I am cool with that if she so chooses that path. Sex was good but not worth all the screaming and cursing. We both work long hours and it was good stress relief.

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Posted by cheekyfaerie
Nobody likes feeling rejected. Anybody with a temper would respond that way. She's prolly gonna pull the plug on your arrangement.

Who could blame her, to be fair. I don't mind relationships but not with you


Come on!

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Now whose being defensive? Hmmmmm Ms Scorpio?

If you want to spend more time with her ie. Tuesdays, she would want the title. My Cap is structured too, we spent almost every single weekend together for the past 2 years but only maybe 5 weekdays... He makes it clear that if he were my bf then I would be more "entitled" to his time.

She must like you quite a bit to spend this much time with you, what is your sign?

Here's a tough question...did you in any way lead her on that there would be a future?

Posted by SunMoonStars
Here's a tough question...did you in any way lead her on that there would be a future?

Nope, we never even went out to eat. Just come over, talk for a few, shower, sex, shower and bounce. It was easy.

Posted by ScorpiosHarmony
who does fwb for more than 3 months anyway? Both of you set yourselves up for this mess!

It's not a mess on my end. I'm just wondering if Caps normally act this way about this stuff. Her decision and her terms. She's a Cap and she's normally very strong.

Not the fact that she's a cap, but that she's a female. Gig's ip, it sounds like. My guess is that she always wanted more, but was using the FWB as an excuse to try to get a rship going. She didn't realize that guys don't think that way.

Posted by Gobshite
Happygolucky, it's not a Cap thing - it's a universal thing.

What's your star sign?

Aries.

Posted by sultrykitty
Not the fact that she's a cap, but that she's a female. Gig's ip, it sounds like. My guess is that she always wanted more, but was using the FWB as an excuse to try to get a rship going. She didn't realize that guys don't think that way.

Did you not read anything I wrote? She did not want more than sex.

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Posted by Gobshite
Happygolucky, it's not a Cap thing - it's a universal thing.

What's your star sign?

Aries.

LMAO! Knew it!!!

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How's that Mr Gobs?

^ LOL 😄

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Posted by Gobshite
Happygolucky, it's not a Cap thing - it's a universal thing.

What's your star sign?

Aries.

LMAO! Knew it!!!

How's that Mr Gobs?

An aggressive tongue!!!

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Guess you're an Aries too?

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Posted by snlee
Like Starlover said she's a woman and she got attached. Sex will do that because you're essentially bonding together. That may have been cool for her to have those designated days, but she got attached to you and may have built some emotional bond (i.e. her storming out and cursing you). You may want to leave her alone if you're set on nothing more than sex.....even though it was her idea.

Just my two cents......FWB situation never turns out the way both parties intend for it to. I've never been in a situation like that because I want to know that I have a relationship with this person I'm giving my body to. I've known people who start out like that and it usually ends with the woman crying. Men and women view sex differently.

Don't get me wrong. I am not against relationships. Just not one with her. She is way too structured for me. I could ask if we could do our thing on tuesday and it was always NO and stick to the gameplan. I could do that no problem. Now, shes wanting to change the whole gameplan and I can't. I'm not going to contact her anymore.

But happy to have sex with her 3 times a week


How many women do you think would remain in this type of situation?

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I have and did.

its all about knowing what you want and not faking it for the sake of lonliness or being fake.

I didn't think Aries. Interesting.

I do think some Caps, men and women, can do the fwb thing easily. I think it becomes a pride an ego thing eventually though...like how dare he not ask for a relationship lol!

It sounds like you will walk away, but if you ever look back and decide to give it a shot make sure she isn't seeking a relationship to please her ego.

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Posted by sultrykitty
Not the fact that she's a cap, but that she's a female. Gig's ip, it sounds like. My guess is that she always wanted more, but was using the FWB as an excuse to try to get a rship going. She didn't realize that guys don't think that way.

Did you not read anything I wrote? She did not want more than sex.

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She was lying dude. She wanted to sleep her way into your heart.

I don't think so...not if she was that structured and it all was her terms. He said he couldn't even suggest a different date lol. I'd think she'd be a little more flexible and open if she wanted more from him initially.


We can sometimes be "okay, its time for the next step" type of people.

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Posted by sultrykitty
Not the fact that she's a cap, but that she's a female. Gig's ip, it sounds like. My guess is that she always wanted more, but was using the FWB as an excuse to try to get a rship going. She didn't realize that guys don't think that way.

Did you not read anything I wrote? She did not want more than sex.

She was lying dude. She wanted to sleep her way into your heart.

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Idk. She never showed and feelings if she had some. She even found a "date" to her sisters wedding. Screams no commitment to me.

Posted by lnana04
I don't think so...not if she was that structured and it all was her terms. He said he couldn't even suggest a different date lol. I'd think she'd be a little more flexible and open if she wanted more from him initially.


We can sometimes be "okay, its time for the next step" type of people.

I'm just wondering if caps normally do this.

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Posted by lnana04
I don't think so...not if she was that structured and it all was her terms. He said he couldn't even suggest a different date lol. I'd think she'd be a little more flexible and open if she wanted more from him initially.


We can sometimes be "okay, its time for the next step" type of people.

I'm just wondering if caps normally do this.

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What? Have the emotional outbursts?

Possibly. Personally, I'm not an emotional Cap on the surface, my friend has questioned my feelings for him, but I do have emotional meltdowns....not outbursts, but I will blow a phone up with text messages out of the blue. It's from one extreme to the other, so in short, yes...it's possible, especially if we are in an unpleasant situation, even if we created it.

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I don't think so...not if she was that structured and it all was her terms. He said he couldn't even suggest a different date lol. I'd think she'd be a little more flexible and open if she wanted more from him initially.


We can sometimes be "okay, its time for the next step" type of people.

I'm just wondering if caps normally do this.

What? Have the emotional outbursts?

Possibly. Personally, I'm not an emotional Cap on the surface, my friend has questioned my feelings for him, but I do have emotional meltdowns....not outbursts, but I will blow a phone up with text messages out of the blue. It's from one extreme to the other, so in short, yes...it's possible, especially if we are in an unpleasant situation, even if we created it.

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Thanks for the feedback. She has not contacted me and it's Wednesday. I hope it stays silent

"we never even went out to eat. Just come over, talk for a few, shower, sex, shower and bounce. It was easy."

just 2 animals fuUcking on a robotic schedule in a confined smelly dark room. why call it "friends" with benefits? this is an insult to call it a friendship. you probably only care whether she has a vagina and she cares whether you have a working d.

Posted by iCloud9
"we never even went out to eat. Just come over, talk for a few, shower, sex, shower and bounce. It was easy."

just 2 animals fuUcking on a robotic schedule in a confined smelly dark room. why call it "friends" with benefits? this is an insult to call it a friendship. you probably only care whether she has a vagina and she cares whether you have a working d.

LOL. Her house smells like vanilla spice.

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Posted by Happygolucky
We have designated Monday, Wed, Fri as our fuck days .

Lol didnt know people get turned on "designated days"

+1

Whatever happened to spontaneity?


*Robot Voice* ~~ ""You WILL feel horny Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays""

What if she wanted a shag on a Saturday night?


😛


Also, what a weird combo...Saturn and Mars ~ is that even viable?

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Idk.

Sex was good, WAS uncomplicated, and was convenient for both of us.

Thanks for all the feedback.

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Posted by Happygolucky
We have designated Monday, Wed, Fri as our fuck days .

Lol didnt know people get turned on "designated days"

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Whatever happened to spontaneity?


*Robot Voice* ~~ ""You WILL feel horny Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays""

What if she wanted a shag on a Saturday night?


😛


Also, what a weird combo...Saturn and Mars ~ is that even viable?

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I think you have selective reading. Pretty sure I said SHE made the days and time and would not deviate.

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Posted by Gobshite
Happygolucky, it's not a Cap thing - it's a universal thing.

What's your star sign?

Aries.

LMAO! Knew it!!!

How's that Mr Gobs?

An aggressive tongue!!!

Guess you're an Aries too?

Do you have Aries Merc? It's not often to see a fellow Ram on this board. 🙂

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No I don't champranger. And hi!

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Posted by Happygolucky
Do most Caps act like that when rejected?

Well being a cap myself i can not even identify with FWB concept. Even if its commitments free...it has to involve attachment and emotions. Anyways coming to the point of rejection. No body "storms out and starts screaming"...there has to be more story attached to it which may be u missed mentioning

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Not more to the story. I'll change FWB to fuck partners. Did that help?

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Posted by sultrykitty
Not the fact that she's a cap, but that she's a female. Gig's ip, it sounds like. My guess is that she always wanted more, but was using the FWB as an excuse to try to get a rship going. She didn't realize that guys don't think that way.

Did you not read anything I wrote? She did not want more than sex.

She was lying dude. She wanted to sleep her way into your heart.

Idk. She never showed and feelings if she had some. She even found a "date" to her sisters wedding. Screams no commitment to me.

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Or perhaps just wanted to get a reaction out of you. Otherwise, why would she even tell you? You're just a plaything, according to you.

Here's my question Ram:

When she said she wanted more, what tone and attitude did you have when you turned her down?
That could have been the catalyst to her actions.

I'm surrounded by Aries and I am quite familiar with their tone and attitude and it's quite harsh sometimes.

Posted by truecap
Here's my question Ram:

When she said she wanted more, what tone and attitude did you have when you turned her down?
That could have been the catalyst to her actions.

I'm surrounded by Aries and I am quite familiar with their tone and attitude and it's quite harsh sometimes.

Her: This arrangement is going good. Glad we agreed to do it.
Me: Me too. Glad its going smooth.
Her: What do you think about dating?
Me: You said you didn't wanna date and you told me "wanna do this or not"
Her: So, you don't wanna date me?
Me: YOU said FWB only so that is where I stand right now.
Her: I can't believe you. Fucking asshole.......bunch more of this type of stuff.......then gets dressed and storms out.

whenever a woman tells you she's cool with just sex - LIAR LIAR LIAR

trust me women will do nearly everything if there's slight hope

You didn't even consider it. Took no time at all to even think about it. Pretty much tells her she's not worthy of a date. Probably hurt her feelings since it confirmed for her she's only good for sex. It's like "oh, I'm good enough to f**, but not good enough to date".

The FWB ran it's course, time to find another one, Ram.

And, karma does come around. You might fall for the next one and she might treat you the same way. I've seen it happen.

Posted by truecap
The FWB ran it's course, time to find another one, Ram.

And, karma does come around. You might fall for the next one and she might treat you the same way. I've seen it happen.

Its also funny how everyone wants to side with the woman. Like I treated her like shit or something.

I wanted to date her when we first met. SHE SAID NO. So, I made a decision to accompany what SHE wanted. Blocked out my feelings and just did the deed. It was good while it lasted.

Don't wish karma on me Truecap.......it might splash back on you.

Posted by truecap
You didn't even consider it. Took no time at all to even think about it. Pretty much tells her she's not worthy of a date. Probably hurt her feelings since it confirmed for her she's only good for sex. It's like "oh, I'm good enough to f**, but not good enough to date".

Too funny! You are blind to what is being said. Getting butthurt for the cap

This is exactly why I just monitor the boards.

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Posted by truecap
The FWB ran it's course, time to find another one, Ram.

And, karma does come around. You might fall for the next one and she might treat you the same way. I've seen it happen.

Its also funny how everyone wants to side with the woman. Like I treated her like shit or something.

I wanted to date her when we first met. SHE SAID NO. So, I made a decision to accompany what SHE wanted. Blocked out my feelings and just did the deed. It was good while it lasted.

Don't wish karma on me Truecap.......it might splash back on you.

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I didn't say you treated her wrong, just offering up a woman's perspective.

You asked why would she act this way.....just a guess as to why she did.

Posted by RumiLove
I thought you were a Sag lol.

Btw, do you want to date her now that she wants "more than just sex"??

I'm sorry if I missed any post where you have an answer to this...a little impatient for that 😛

Nope. I don't want that with her. She is way to structured for my taste.

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The FWB ran it's course, time to find another one, Ram.

And, karma does come around. You might fall for the next one and she might treat you the same way. I've seen it happen.

Its also funny how everyone wants to side with the woman. Like I treated her like shit or something.

I wanted to date her when we first met. SHE SAID NO. So, I made a decision to accompany what SHE wanted. Blocked out my feelings and just did the deed. It was good while it lasted.

Don't wish karma on me Truecap.......it might splash back on you.

I didn't say you treated her wrong, just offering up a woman's perspective.

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Yes you did. The whole karma thing was insinuating I did something to incur karma. Own your words.