Confused about a capricorn man.

Hi there,
I am Aquarian. I had a short-five month relationship with a Capricorn man, roughly 6 months ago. During that time, he said he really liked me. There was a physical chemistry and attraction but our connection was also very much on a mental level, talking about life, society, arts etc.
We had to part ways primarily because of geographic reasons, and also because we are from very different communities/backgrounds for our families to accept the relationship.
Well, we parted ways mutually, so I asked him if it was OK to occasionally stay in touch and say hi via email or phone and catch-up occasionally. He said he would like to.
Here is my question, for the last 6 months, he has never initiated a phone call or email. He will promptly call me back if I email him, and seem very happy to talk, but I feel hurt that he never misses me enough to call me himself. Cause I surely miss him.
We caught up a few weeks back, and there was instant chemistry. We spend hours talking our hearts out without noticing anything else. He seems so happy to be in my company and shares his thoughts and views, which are quite private. He says he is sad at he cannot spend more time and that that he had a great time caching up. Yet, he never seems to initiate a phone call / email.
Even if he was to treat me purely as a friend and ruling out all the chemistry between us, one surely has the manners to call a good friend occasionally to see how it is going.
I don't understand, and feel like I am hurting my own ego when I contact him. What's going on in his mind ?

You feel hurt that he doesnt miss you enough to call. Do you feel this way with all your friendships? He could pick up on your desire for him to miss you, and not initiate in fear of leading you on.

Also as Cheeky said, some of us can go months or even a year without talking to someone. And not initiating a call doesnt mean you are not missed btw.

Hi guys,

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. It helps to get a third party perspective. I guess like many of you said, he may have moved on, and accepted the facts if there is no future, and just being polite by answering my calls.
I guess its just the dreamer in me that thinks that things can work out still.
Thanks guys, I feel more objective now.

Posted by lnana04
He could pick up on your desire for him to miss you, and not initiate in fear of leading you on.

BINGO!

If you really want to be friends the last thing you want is to come off as a high-maintenance friendship....not really our style . I hadn't spoken to my BROTHER since last December until a few days ago. But, when he called I was glad to hear from him and we caught up. I have a sister who does this exact same thing. She start "feeling hurt" that I don't miss her enough to call her more. My response...."keep this up and see when I call you next."

Distract yourself and stop calling and he'll call....at some point. If that's not good enough for ya, you might not want to be "friends" with a Cap. IMHO

Foxglove,
Thanks, I agree that it may be worth being brave and honest and voicing my feeling, at the most there may be a backlash and a complete end, which I guess won't be too different than now anyway, as he is not initiating any contact. Appreciate it.
Sometimes its worth taking a little risk if there is a chance !

Aqua 86,
Thank you, and I am sooooo glad that you understand exactly what i am feeling. Your experience sounds exactly similar to what I am going through.
I have never really tried holding off any contact — cause I thought that's a game, and my cap may not like such games. But if it worked, may be its worth a shot. Again, I hate palying such games, cause I feel that ideally it should all be mutual and —truly?? felt. But again, that's me - an —idealistic?? Aquarian.
I just want him in my life in some capacity, cause I feel I truly connect with him and vice versa. But I don't want to be seen as —needy?? and as an —obligation/burden?? by him. I just soo wish he just opens up and truly tells me what he expects out of me, and what I mean to him — all I want is an honest answer and nothing more, as i know I can easily just accept the reality — but I need to know it from him. These mysterious cap men !!!

Sounds like him aqua86