I met a Cappy guy and he seems to be coming on strong and quickly. Is this normal for a Cap? Very open about his life and etc? I feel like he is laying it on a little thick. I am an Aqua girl, how do I slow him down, but not off?
Cap Man Coming on Strong—
Tell him to slow down what is he doing in detail—
-Eats a red Skittle-
-Eats a red Skittle-
What is his Mars and Venus? That might make a difference.
No it is not. I always go slow. Sounds to me like he may be insecure. I know most caps are insecure anyways. I am. But that sounds like he is VERY insecure.
Took your advice and told him I like to take things slow, and if he is looking for a "jump off" (booty call) then he is barking up wrong tree. His answer: He will wait as long as it takes to have me, and that when he sees something he wants he is on it. Not sure if he meant it or thought it sounded good. :-)
in my exp... when a guy comes onto me like that...
how do i put this...
i dont buy it?
I'll date him if i'm still interested to see where he's going with it all, but i'll def put my emotions on hold until i have him figured out.
there shouldnt be anything wrong with telling him upfront that you want to take things slower. If he's worth it, he'll listen.
how do i put this...
i dont buy it?
I'll date him if i'm still interested to see where he's going with it all, but i'll def put my emotions on hold until i have him figured out.
there shouldnt be anything wrong with telling him upfront that you want to take things slower. If he's worth it, he'll listen.
Posted by bareitall
Took your advice and told him I like to take things slow, and if he is looking for a "jump off" (booty call) then he is barking up wrong tree. His answer: He will wait as long as it takes to have me, and that when he sees something he wants he is on it. Not sure if he meant it or thought it sounded good. :-)
ahhh yes... see... nicely done
Posted by cowpuncher
bareitall: Do you think you could get his birth date and location of birth from him? I'm really curious here and I bet some others are too.
Dec 31 1977 NJ
Can I just say you guys give the best advice!!! I have posted about a Cancer Man in the past on the Cancer board and they are the worst!! I find all of your comments really helpful, one of my best friends is a Cap and she is really helpful as well, I thought that was just her, but I see now it is the Cappy in her! :-)
A few more things
- Complimenting me a lot
- Wants to text and call a lot
- Asking to see me (public places)lol
- Keeps saying he really likes talking to me
I am not used to this at all. I hope he listens and slows it down, something about this guy has me intrigued, but I'm not sure I am seeing the real him. I told him that as well. As an Aqua/leo girl, I can't say I dislike the attention at all, but I am afraid it is just a big game. But regardless of his actions, I am going to take it slow and it will be a long time before there is anything more than a little kiss. (and the kiss is subject to more observation as well) :-)
- Complimenting me a lot
- Wants to text and call a lot
- Asking to see me (public places)lol
- Keeps saying he really likes talking to me
I am not used to this at all. I hope he listens and slows it down, something about this guy has me intrigued, but I'm not sure I am seeing the real him. I told him that as well. As an Aqua/leo girl, I can't say I dislike the attention at all, but I am afraid it is just a big game. But regardless of his actions, I am going to take it slow and it will be a long time before there is anything more than a little kiss. (and the kiss is subject to more observation as well) :-)
Birthchart! I found it - Can anyone tell me what it all means? :-)
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Time unknown
Sun Capricorn 9.25
Moon Virgo 12.16
Mercury Sagittarius 21.11 R
Venus Capricorn 4.09
Mars Leo 9.14 R
Jupiter Gemini 29.58 R
Saturn Virgo 0.11 R
Uranus Scorpio 15.17
Neptune Sagittarius 16.44
Pluto Libra 16.37
Lilith Gemini 28.05
Asc node Libra 10.39
Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Time unknown
Sun Capricorn 9.25
Moon Virgo 12.16
Mercury Sagittarius 21.11 R
Venus Capricorn 4.09
Mars Leo 9.14 R
Jupiter Gemini 29.58 R
Saturn Virgo 0.11 R
Uranus Scorpio 15.17
Neptune Sagittarius 16.44
Pluto Libra 16.37
Lilith Gemini 28.05
Asc node Libra 10.39
Well it may be the mars in Leo.
I copied this from alwaysastrology.com
"Mars in Leo wants to be significant and create a lasting impression. They are passionate and strong-willed. They are willing to take risks and have ambitions to "be someone." They have a strong sense of authority and personal magnetism.
Mars in Leo is impatient with those who are disloyal or narrow minded. They are idealistic, and if they get humiliated, they are quick to defend their principles. They follow their heart. They take pride in everything they do because their ego gets involved with every situation.
Mars in Leo has a lot of physical energy, but they do fine intellectually and they are fairly practical. They are confident and self-sufficient. Their vitality is noticeable. They can be very dramatic, and they can be very successful performers. They are determined to succeed at whatever they strive for, and they make excellent leaders.
They may be overbearing with their own opinions. They can be domineering and stubborn. Pride can be their downfall. On the other hand, they are playful, have a good sense of humor, and are full of warmth. They want to leave a legacy through their actions. They are generous and romantic. Leo Mars is friendly and exuberant, if a bit impulsive.
In relationships, they are affectionate and demonstrative. They love the excitement of a new love affair. They like to be the center of attention in the bedroom as much as they like it in the other areas of their life. Mars in Leo is very dramatic, and they enjoy opulent surroundings. They are passionate and charming. They don't like competition in the bedroom or with past lovers. They are faithful, and expect to be treated the same way. While they do pay attention to their partner, their primary concern is their own enjoyment. They may be possessive or jealous, but they may try to hide this. Leo Mars is not above testing their partner. They may try to pull the wool over your eyes from time to time. They may come across too strong at times or get impatient, but they are open and direct.
Mars in Leo brings a lot of fun and romance to a relationship, and they appreciate a partner who reciprocates in kind. Their enthusiasm may be a bit overwhelming for some people. When their ego becomes involved in the relationship, it can disrupt an otherwise happy situation. They want to be happy and settled with someone they can have a fun, romantic relationship with."
I copied this from alwaysastrology.com
"Mars in Leo wants to be significant and create a lasting impression. They are passionate and strong-willed. They are willing to take risks and have ambitions to "be someone." They have a strong sense of authority and personal magnetism.
Mars in Leo is impatient with those who are disloyal or narrow minded. They are idealistic, and if they get humiliated, they are quick to defend their principles. They follow their heart. They take pride in everything they do because their ego gets involved with every situation.
Mars in Leo has a lot of physical energy, but they do fine intellectually and they are fairly practical. They are confident and self-sufficient. Their vitality is noticeable. They can be very dramatic, and they can be very successful performers. They are determined to succeed at whatever they strive for, and they make excellent leaders.
They may be overbearing with their own opinions. They can be domineering and stubborn. Pride can be their downfall. On the other hand, they are playful, have a good sense of humor, and are full of warmth. They want to leave a legacy through their actions. They are generous and romantic. Leo Mars is friendly and exuberant, if a bit impulsive.
In relationships, they are affectionate and demonstrative. They love the excitement of a new love affair. They like to be the center of attention in the bedroom as much as they like it in the other areas of their life. Mars in Leo is very dramatic, and they enjoy opulent surroundings. They are passionate and charming. They don't like competition in the bedroom or with past lovers. They are faithful, and expect to be treated the same way. While they do pay attention to their partner, their primary concern is their own enjoyment. They may be possessive or jealous, but they may try to hide this. Leo Mars is not above testing their partner. They may try to pull the wool over your eyes from time to time. They may come across too strong at times or get impatient, but they are open and direct.
Mars in Leo brings a lot of fun and romance to a relationship, and they appreciate a partner who reciprocates in kind. Their enthusiasm may be a bit overwhelming for some people. When their ego becomes involved in the relationship, it can disrupt an otherwise happy situation. They want to be happy and settled with someone they can have a fun, romantic relationship with."
And caps tend to just go for what they want. We are ambitious. You just need to try to determine what it is he wants - either a fling or a relationship.
Posted by truecap
And caps tend to just go for what they want. We are ambitious. You just need to try to determine what it is he wants - either a fling or a relationship.
TrueCap thank you so much!!!! This sounds more like him than anything else I have read. I am going to continue with taking it slow and if all he wants is the "cookie" He will be waiting for a long time, I am not going to let him charm my panties off. He may make it difficult but I am up for the task!! lol lol
You're welcome! Make him work for it, hun!
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