He left 2 years ago... a question for you Caps.

Hi all!

I'm a Virgo with a question for you all.

I met a Cap man a couple of years ago through a good friend of mine, after going through a break up with my ex-boyfriend. This man and I connected instantly. He would even go to his job, talking about me constantly. Saying things like he couldn't believe how much we had in common or stating things like "I've never met someone like her", "I've never felt such a connection to someone I barely know, like this." I could feel it, he could feel it; it was obvious we both felt the same way. As we got closer, I found out that he, too, was going through a breakup with a long term girlfriend. She was back home in another state and he was here for the summer to get away and decide what he wanted to do with himself. We hung out almost every day for 2 months and got intimate a few times. When it came close to the end of summer, he starting talking about not going back home, but staying here instead. The one night he brought this up, he stated this while looking at me as if he wanted me to tell him to say; but I couldn't do something like that. His ex-girlfriend ended up coming to see him a week later and he left with her shortly after. Before he left, he told me that him and I could be friends. He told me, he'd never forget me and that when he came home to visit, he'd be sure to hit me up and we could hang. This was all through text of course.

Here's where my question begins. A month after he left, he blocked me on facebook and had me blocked for a good year and a half. He also blocked my phone number and any way of messaging him. I was really confused and a little hurt, because I knew what him and I had felt was real and I really believed him when he said we could remain friends. I brought the issue up to my good friend and he stated that the only reason I was blocked was because his girlfriend found out about me and he didn't want any troubles in his relationship. To me, this didn't really make much sense because We live a couple states apart and I only knew him for 2 months of my life, so why was I such a big deal? I also found out that he frequently asks about me and he even tried finding out where I live, since I ended up moving closer to his hometown. My question is why is it such a big deal to talk to me? And if he doesn't want to bring trouble into his relationship, why is he constantly asking about me, 2 years later, but won't talk to me personally? Does he actually hate me and just doesn't want to con

My question is why is it such a big deal to talk to me? And if he doesn't want to bring trouble into his relationship, why is he constantly asking about me, 2 years later, but won't talk to me personally? Does he actually hate me and just doesn't want to confront me about the subject?

I'd really love to see this man again. Even if it were just at friends. I just had some an amazing connection with him, something I felt was so rare. It sucks he just up and left, never to speak with me again.

The fact that you don't understand why he did that is troubling...

Yes, he had a connection with you. But he chose to mend things with his girlfriend (who, by your story, was never fully out of the picture). Out of "respect" for her and the stage they were at in their relationship, he won't talk to you. Which is smart on his part, BC if he did, while trying to work things out with her, would be unfair to everyone.

He wasn't (totally) free when you met him, and by all rights he should put his girlfriend about you and any budding friendship you may have had. Which is clouded by sexual attraction. You should be respecting him for this. How he treats her now is how he'd treat you if you were together.

Of course he'll ask abt you but not actually speak to you... You're on his mind, she'll (possibly) never know he asked a friend a question. But he's for the most part doing what he needs to do to give his relationship a fair shake. Clearly he can't be just friends with you, and even if he could, she would never accept that and you need to respect that. *insert cliche quote here*

It seems like you already knew he had a gf and thought he would choose you because of a connection.

Ask yourself did you want him because it was a challenge for him to be taken or did you really like him?

Some people get caught up in the chase that they cant even distinguish between the two.

Move on what's for you will be for you.

Posted by phEnyxBull876
The fact that you don't understand why he did that is troubling...

Yes, he had a connection with you. But he chose to mend things with his girlfriend (who, by your story, was never fully out of the picture). Out of "respect" for her and the stage they were at in their relationship, he won't talk to you. Which is smart on his part, BC if he did, while trying to work things out with her, would be unfair to everyone.

He wasn't (totally) free when you met him, and by all rights he should put his girlfriend about you and any budding friendship you may have had. Which is clouded by sexual attraction. You should be respecting him for this. How he treats her now is how he'd treat you if you were together.

Of course he'll ask abt you but not actually speak to you... You're on his mind, she'll (possibly) never know he asked a friend a question. But he's for the most part doing what he needs to do to give his relationship a fair shake. Clearly he can't be just friends with you, and even if he could, she would never accept that and you need to respect that. *insert cliche quote here*

^^This.

Yes, it is troubling that she doesn't understand it. A mature person would completely get it and actually support it.

Caps and virgos always have a connection. No one is doubting the connection and the fact that he liked you.

It is a problem of timing and he respectfully decided to honor his commitment. He admittedly told you from day one he was there for some space and the intention of that was to decide what he wanted to do. He has a history with his girlfriend and a connection with her as well. Respect his decision to work on the relationship.

The fact that he's asking about you could be from guilt because he knows he strung you along those two months. He probably had reall feelings for you, most likely has no hard feelings against you and will always think fondly of you. Let him. Let him keep fond memories of you. You'll always be the 'girl who got away', the girl he wonders about, the girl who could have been if things were different. Bittersweet as it is, it's nice to be remembered like that.