Help! Pushed Cap away cos depressed. Want him back

Hello All.

First time poster. Nervous.

I'm a Cancer girl who broke up with my Cap boyfriend of just four months because I am depressed about being out of work and hated having him around to witness it. I felt ashamed and embarrassed. I didn't want to bring I'm down with me. It felt exhausting having to pretend I could afford to go out with him for dinner etc And the rest of the week I was living on discount foods and crying.

Also I felt he wasn't falling for me. He kept telling me how much he liked me all the time. Never 'love'. But he would squeeze me all the time and tell me 'I really like you'. Adorable but kind of infuriating. Maybe I'm impatient and I've heard Caps are super slow. He didn't ask to introduce me to his friends yet either. I panicked and thought....this has no future. Then pushed him away.

It's been a week today and I have deliberately not been in touch with him as it's not fair on him. But I do miss him terribly and keep hovering over the text message button wanting to tell him that he is all I can think about.

We ended on nice terms. No nasty words at all. Is there a chance here? What's the best tactic for me? Stick to nc or reach out and say something emotional and apologise? 

So appreciate any advice. Thank you x

Depends if he's cool with wishy washy. Lay the pussy on him to sweeten the deal.

Lay the kitty Lady Neptune? ..I take it that means what I think it does? Ha.

But I haven't seen him since we split and even then I hadn't seen him for a couple of weeks. Surely we need to start communicating first before all that? I just need to know whether CAPs ever come back and fight for someone they've lost. Or is the ball ALL in my messed up court now?

Posted by ScorpioTruth
Just be honest with him and tell him what you told us about why you felt ashamed and didn't want him to see you at your lowest.

Cap men are probably the most logical, understanding/empathetic men I've met. You just have to be honest with him, no games.

As far as you being frustrated with him not telling you he loved you after 4 months? Four months?!?! Honey that is nothing. Lol be grateful that he is telling you that he likes you a lot. He's not doing that to be "cute".. that was his way of being open and honest with you.

If I can give any advice, it would be to try to learn to love without expectations. Don't tell someone that you love them expecting to hear it back. In that case, you're doing it for the wrong reasons and would be better off keeping it to yourself.

Thank you for your blunt reply Scorpiotruth.

I think I needed to hear some home truths and what you said struck me. It's true that maybe I was being impatient wanting him to tell me he loves me so soon. I'm 38 and SO tired of getting relationships wrong. I just want to find the kind of love I see other people having but I never quite seem to get it right.

I have had a really hard life and for many years I choose the wrong men because of this....men who treated me awfully and I let them.

Then this guy....he was finally a lovely guy. Bit drippy..but incapable of making decisions and definitely a mummy's boy beyond belief. But otherwise kind, funny and a total gentleman.

Maybe I pushed him away because it wasn't right. Or maybe I did it because I can't cope other a normal nice guy and only undertand and tolerate men who treat me like sht.

I did tell the Cap man about the shame I felt over not having a job and money . I told him when I broke up with him. Said it was embarrassing having him around to witness it all. So he knew/knows.

I haven't has the guts to message him. Too scared that is already dating and has moved on.