How conventional are you?

On a scale of 1-6....how would you rate your views on marriage? 1 being highly conventional...6 being very unconventional. Do you fit the stereotypical grounded, disciplined, conventional Earth sign?

1. The male assumes total responsibility for the financial income, and the fixtures and handy-work around the house. He protects his wife and his family. The female assumes all the domestic roles in the household, cooking, cleaning, laundry, sewing, ensuring all the bills are paid on time, helping the children with their homework. Both spouses have traditional objectives in raising their children, not spoiling the children, raising their children to understand the importance of hard work, a good education, integrity, responsibility, structure, spiritual values, respect, and obedience.

2. The male assumes responsibility for 75% of the financial income, and 100% of the fixtures and handy-work around the house. He protects his wife and family. The female assumes 25% of the financial income (works part time)and assumes all the domestic roles in the household, cooking, cleaning, laundry, sewing, ensuring all the bills are paid on time, helping the children with their homework. Both spouses have traditional objectives in raising their children to understand the importance of hard work, a good education, integrity, responsibility, structure, spiritual values, respect, and obedience.

3. The male assumes responsibility for 50% of the financial income, and 100% of the fixtures and handy-work around the house. He protects his wife and family. The female assumes 50% of the financial and assumes all the domestic roles in the household, cooking, cleaning, laundry, sewing, ensuring all the bills are paid on time, helping the children with their homework. Both spouses have traditional objectives in raising their children to understand the importance of hard work, a good education, integrity, responsibility, structure, spiritual values, respect, and obedience.

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4.The male assumes responsibility for 50% of the financial income, and 50% of the fixtures and handy-work around the house. He protects his wife and family. He also assumes 50% of the the domestic roles in the household, cooking, cleaning, laundry, sewing, ensuring all the bills are paid on time, helping the children with their homework. The female also assumes responsibility for 50% of the financial income, and 50% of the fixtures and handy-work around the house. She also assumes 50% of the the domestic roles in the household, cooking, cleaning, laundry, sewing, ensuring all the bills are paid on time, helping the children with their homework. Both spouses have 'mixed' objectives in raising their children, helping them to understand the importance of hard work, a good education, integrity, responsibility, respect,....as well as allowing them to express their viewpoints, challenge religion, adults, teachings,

5. The male assumes responsibility for 25% of the financial income, and 50% of the fixtures and handy-work around the house. He protects his wife and family. He also assumes 75% of the the domestic roles in the household, cooking, cleaning, laundry, sewing, ensuring all the bills are paid on time, helping the children with their homework. The female assumes responsibility for 75% of the financial income, and 50% of the fixtures and handy-work around the house. She also assumes 25% of the the domestic roles in the household, cooking, cleaning, laundry, sewing, ensuring all the bills are paid on time, helping the children with their homework. Both spouses have unorthodox objectives in raising their children. No rules. No punishment. No structure. Total autonomy. Children should be children. Make their own mistakes. Find their own path.

6. No pre-defined expectations. Creating their own happy endings. It really doesn't matter.

#3 is closest for me.

Give or take percentage points from income. I do expect a wife to work this day and age, although if she makes less than 50% of the household income, that's fine by me. And vice versa - if she makes more than 50% - perfectly fine.

Also, I have no problem helping with the domestic chores, though I'd expect it would work out to around 75% her and 25% me. Conversely, help with yard work, maintenance, etc. would be fine by me, and I'd expect to carry no less than 75% of that role, and appreciate the contributions of my wife.

Posted by M
However things work best is fine by me. Some of the choices felt all or none.

Sometimes expectations lie dormant (unconscious) until bridges are ready to be crossed, and there's room to fine tune them. God forbid it gets gritty...well however the dust settles.

Nice to see you back among us Mr. M 🙂

We are somewhere between 3 and 4 in our household. I do 90% of the household chores. We both work, and we both make the same amount of money. I only have 1 child, and my son is not his son, so I do 90% of the child stuff, though he does see him off to the bus stop in the morning and pitch in as needed. I am not opposed to doing a little yard work, like weeding or something, but I do not know how to work the lawnmower and frankly, power tools scare me. lol. He does most of the "handy work", which, you know, we rent, so it's not much, but he's a Scorpio and he needs me to kill bugs for him. lol.

Number 2 is pretty close for me.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
On a scale of 1-6....how would you rate your views on marriage? 1 being highly conventional...6 being very unconventional. Do you fit the stereotypical grounded, disciplined, conventional Earth sign?

1. The male assumes total responsibility for the financial income, and the fixtures and handy-work around the house. He protects his wife and his family. The female assumes all the domestic roles in the household, cooking, cleaning, laundry, sewing, ensuring all the bills are paid on time, helping the children with their homework. Both spouses have traditional objectives in raising their children, not spoiling the children, raising their children to understand the importance of hard work, a good education, integrity, responsibility, structure, spiritual values, respect, and obedience.

2. The male assumes responsibility for 75% of the financial income, and 100% of the fixtures and handy-work around the house. He protects his wife and family. The female assumes 25% of the financial income (works part time)and assumes all the domestic roles in the household, cooking, cleaning, laundry, sewing, ensuring all the bills are paid on time, helping the children with their homework. Both spouses have traditional objectives in raising their children to understand the importance of hard work, a good education, integrity, responsibility, structure, spiritual values, respect, and obedience.

3. The male assumes responsibility for 50% of the financial income, and 100% of the fixtures and handy-work around the house. He protects his wife and family. The female assumes 50% of the financial and assumes all the domestic roles in the household, cooking, cleaning, laundry, sewing, ensuring all the bills are paid on time, helping the children with their homework. Both spouses have traditional objectives in raising their children to understand the importance of hard work, a good education, integrity, responsibility, structure, spiritual values, respect, and obedience.

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For us, between 1 & 2, although even part-time work, it's more number 1. HIGHLY CONVENTIONAL. we allow the banks to automatically make sure the bills are paid on time. It's systematic, so we don't have to do it by hand like writing checks or going into the gas & electric office to pay as in grandparent's time or something like that. (that's very old fashioned)

#4 -

50/50 across the board. On everything. I expect an equal partnership where every responsibility is shared.

That is how my ex and I did it (and it worked well) and what I would expect from a future partner.

Posted by truecap
#4 -

50/50 across the board. On everything. I expect an equal partnership where every responsibility is shared.

That is how my ex and I did it (and it worked well) and what I would expect from a future partner.

Really? That seems unrealistic (the way the #4 option is phrased).

I thought # 3, with the caveats I specified, lined up closer to a 50/50 in reality.

I can't imagine telling my SO, "Hey, we've got another tree down. I ran the chainsaw last time, so you better hop to it babe. I've got some dusting to do."

LOL

@CapTenn...

I love doing domestic chores, but I'm a bit of a tomboy as well. Blame it on my Venus in Aries, I don't mind getting my hands dirty using power tools. 😉

Posted by CapTenn
I can't imagine telling my SO, "Hey, we've got another tree down. I ran the chainsaw last time, so you better hop to it babe. I've got some dusting to do."
LOL

How come? I love chainsawing trees and there's nothing that I like more than seeing a grown man dusting the house naked wearing an apron 😉

Just sayin'

LOL

I've know some pretty resourceful ladies, and dated one for over 5 years, but none that were confident in handling a chainsaw.

Color me impressed s-N-s. Maybe you should change your name to SnakesNSnails....🙂

Posted by CapTenn

Posted by truecap
#4 -

50/50 across the board. On everything. I expect an equal partnership where every responsibility is shared.

That is how my ex and I did it (and it worked well) and what I would expect from a future partner.

Really? That seems unrealistic (the way the #4 option is phrased).

I thought # 3, with the caveats I specified, lined up closer to a 50/50 in reality.

I can't imagine telling my SO, "Hey, we've got another tree down. I ran the chainsaw last time, so you better hop to it babe. I've got some dusting to do."

LOL

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Okay, a chainsaw I'm scared of. lol!
But I have toted wood to a wood chopper before and ran it through.
Isn't that equal?

Posted by truecap

Posted by CapTenn

Posted by truecap
#4 -

50/50 across the board. On everything. I expect an equal partnership where every responsibility is shared.

That is how my ex and I did it (and it worked well) and what I would expect from a future partner.

Really? That seems unrealistic (the way the #4 option is phrased).

I thought # 3, with the caveats I specified, lined up closer to a 50/50 in reality.

I can't imagine telling my SO, "Hey, we've got another tree down. I ran the chainsaw last time, so you better hop to it babe. I've got some dusting to do."

LOL

Okay, a chainsaw I'm scared of. lol!
But I have toted wood to a wood chopper before and ran it through.
Isn't that equal?

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Close enough. 😉

Posted by CapTenn
Color me impressed s-N-s. Maybe you should change your name to SnakesNSnails....🙂

SnakesNSnails and puppy dog tails!! 😉

Posted by noname
both of us chip in for the cleaning lady. problem solved lol

An excellent solution!