How to cope with the uninterested Cap?

Okay, I know I have been raving about my relationship since I've been on this website. But like all couples, we have our moments.

My Cap called me and raved about his day. I was so happy for his good news. Then that was it.

What about my day!? He didn't even ask. Does he even care? Is this just a guy thing?!

This happens every once and a while and I just ignore it. I'm very subtle, quiet, and to myself in general.

What would you say or do?

Posted by myloveyourlove32
Okay, I know I have been raving about my relationship since I've been on this website. But like all couples, we have our moments.

My Cap called me and raved about his day. I was so happy for his good news. Then that was it.

What about my day!? He didn't even ask. Does he even care? Is this just a guy thing?!

This happens every once and a while and I just ignore it. I'm very subtle, quiet, and to myself in general.

What would you say or do?

I like to call this the Cap man "tunnel vision". They can be self absorbed especially if they think their work is more important, demanding or difficult than yours. Don't think they mean to be that way though...if that's any consolation...

I just talk about my day when I feel like it, but try to stick to the important points. He does listen and remember, but like all guys I think priming helps. For example, "my day wasn't that great either, and I feel like venting.", or "hey, I had a great day...".

Timing is important, so I don't gripe about my stuff if he just told me how awful his day was. Let him finish. Yeah..it's probably a guy thing? I notice this with Taurus' too...

My cap is absolutely always like this.. for real, though he has no idea.
I just say hey hey hey how about my day huh? It was pretty good/ crap/ fun/ etc - and he's not offended at all. He's usually like oh yeah, how was your day?

Let him vent, then allow yourself to do so too... Pick your battles but generally I don't think he would mind. It's honestly unintentional.

Thanks for all the wonderful advice! He's normally very caring. I think it's when too much excitement or even disappointment is going on he can't even think about anything else. But that goes for all of us right?

By the way, all I think about is timing. I'm very careful with my words.

If someone tells me either very nicely or with a disguised joke, I will make an effort in the future to ask about their day more. I don't mind when people call attention to my rudeness. Actually, I appeciate it because it gives me a chance to make it right.

As humans, when we need to vent or share good news it's very easy to focus on our own issues and forget something simple like asking how the other person's day was. The excitement takes over. No, it's not intentional, it's just a moment of self absorption. I think we're all guilty of this. You may have done it to him before without even realizing it.

Now, it would be a different story if he never, ever asks about your day or if he never considers your thoughts and feelings. You say he's usually pretty sweet and caring, so it's just an oversight, I think.

The best way to deal with an uninterested Cap?

Tell him not to let the door hit him on the way out.