Capricorn180189_GS
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Thx for sharing . No i am not a cap. Just like to say that communication in a relationship is the keyword. Not always easy...
Posted by LindaaaatjeIt takes a lot of communication. I mean really a lot >.
Thx for sharing . No i am not a cap. Just like to say that communication in a relationship is the keyword. Not always easy...
Posted by Capricorn180189_GSPosted by LindaaaatjeIt takes a lot of communication. I mean really a lot >.
Thx for sharing . No i am not a cap. Just like to say that communication in a relationship is the keyword. Not always easy...click to expand
Do you find capricorns good at communicating?
No, I do not think so unless things happen. Probably very insensitive towards others, but we do expect good communication from others.
>.< sorry.
>.< sorry.
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No, I do not think so unless things happen. Probably very insensitive towards others, but we do expect good communication from others.
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When he doesn't communicate things with me, i shut down at one moment because its like he is not sharing enough.
I don't want to shut down but i get the feeling that things comes just from my side.
Its like a puch and pull relationship....
Posted by LindaaaatjePosted by Capricorn180189_GSHow did it start with?
No, I do not think so unless things happen. Probably very insensitive towards others, but we do expect good communication from others.
>.
When he doesn't communicate things with me, i shut down at one moment because its like he is not sharing enough.
I don't want to shut down but i get the feeling that things comes just from my side.
Its like a puch and pull relationship....click to expand
He used to share things with you and then he has been reserved lately or ...?
You feel shutdown is because you feel he has no interest to share things, isn't it? Oh well, I know cancer girl likes to share a lot to other people, her selfiess goodness..
But for Cap, there could be things that he finds hard to communicate, afraid of judgement from others? It takes time for him to open the barrier and be comfortable with you thou, but he would not share everything for that he still has fear of you judging him.
Low esteem, yet want you to be proud of him and everything about him, so he would share if he is proud of it. But for you to find his deep secret, you need more effort, touch his heart, if you could do that till he shows his vulnerable side, releasing his tears and emotion in front of you, he will be transparent to you.
but would you mind if he wants to know everything about you? If no, then probably he would open up to you easily.
Posted by Capricorn180189_GSPosted by LindaaaatjeLet us say he used to share more.Posted by Capricorn180189_GSHow did it start with?
No, I do not think so unless things happen. Probably very insensitive towards others, but we do expect good communication from others.
>.
When he doesn't communicate things with me, i shut down at one moment because its like he is not sharing enough.
I don't want to shut down but i get the feeling that things comes just from my side.
Its like a puch and pull relationship....
He used to share things with you and then he has been reserved lately or ...?
You feel shutdown is because you feel he has no interest to share things, isn't it? Oh well, I know cancer girl likes to share a lot to other people, her selfiess goodness..
But for Cap, there could be things that he finds hard to communicate, afraid of judgement from others? It takes time for him to open the barrier and be comfortable with you thou, but he would not share everything for that he still has fear of you judging him.
Low esteem, yet want you to be proud of him and everything about him, so he would share if he is proud of it. But for you to find his deep secret, you need more effort, touch his heart, if you could do that till he shows his vulnerable side, releasing his tears and emotion in front of you, he will be transparent to you.
but would you mind if he wants to know everything about you? If no, then probably he would open up to you easily.click to expand
And i'm not the selfies kind of cancer :-) i don't do selfies, it's silly. I do not cry nor wine either :-)
It all started with kind of an argument concerning money. He tells me to spend all my savings and buy things that i want to and would make me happy ( including his new teeth :-)).
I told him i want to keep some money on the side for the future, when i am in need off money, when something happens to me and i urgently need a new car or have to be hospitalised. He doesn't understand that. Maybe he will not get his new teeth because of my desition?
Since than, i feel ( could be wrong ) a change in him. It's like i don't matter that much to him anymore.
If that would be the case...then he would only said to live together because of my money....That i am not useful for him anymore...And that thought scares me.
Posted by LindaaaatjePosted by Capricorn180189_GSNot sure if I am able to help. The thought is killing you slowly and yes I know you can't help it unless you are clear about it.Posted by LindaaaatjeLet us say he used to share more.Posted by Capricorn180189_GSHow did it start with?
No, I do not think so unless things happen. Probably very insensitive towards others, but we do expect good communication from others.
>.
When he doesn't communicate things with me, i shut down at one moment because its like he is not sharing enough.
I don't want to shut down but i get the feeling that things comes just from my side.
Its like a puch and pull relationship....
He used to share things with you and then he has been reserved lately or ...?
You feel shutdown is because you feel he has no interest to share things, isn't it? Oh well, I know cancer girl likes to share a lot to other people, her selfiess goodness..
But for Cap, there could be things that he finds hard to communicate, afraid of judgement from others? It takes time for him to open the barrier and be comfortable with you thou, but he would not share everything for that he still has fear of you judging him.
Low esteem, yet want you to be proud of him and everything about him, so he would share if he is proud of it. But for you to find his deep secret, you need more effort, touch his heart, if you could do that till he shows his vulnerable side, releasing his tears and emotion in front of you, he will be transparent to you.
but would you mind if he wants to know everything about you? If no, then probably he would open up to you easily.
And i'm not the selfies kind of cancer :-) i don't do selfies, it's silly. I do not cry nor wine either :-)
It all started with kind of an argument concerning money. He tells me to spend all my savings and buy things that i want to and would make me happy ( including his new teeth :-)).
I told him i want to keep some money on the side for the future, when i am in need off money, when something happens to me and i urgently need a new car or have to be hospitalised. He doesn't understand that. Maybe he will not get his new teeth because of my desition?
Since than, i feel ( could be wrong ) a change in him. It's like i don't matter that much to him anymore.
If that would be the case...then he would only said to live together because of my money....That i am not useful for him anymore...And that thought scares me.click to expand
For you to find o
Posted by LindaaaatjePosted by Capricorn180189_GSNot sure if I am able to help. The thought is killing you slowly and yes I know you can't help it unless you are clear about it.Posted by LindaaaatjeLet us say he used to share more.Posted by Capricorn180189_GSHow did it start with?
No, I do not think so unless things happen. Probably very insensitive towards others, but we do expect good communication from others.
>.
When he doesn't communicate things with me, i shut down at one moment because its like he is not sharing enough.
I don't want to shut down but i get the feeling that things comes just from my side.
Its like a puch and pull relationship....
He used to share things with you and then he has been reserved lately or ...?
You feel shutdown is because you feel he has no interest to share things, isn't it? Oh well, I know cancer girl likes to share a lot to other people, her selfiess goodness..
But for Cap, there could be things that he finds hard to communicate, afraid of judgement from others? It takes time for him to open the barrier and be comfortable with you thou, but he would not share everything for that he still has fear of you judging him.
Low esteem, yet want you to be proud of him and everything about him, so he would share if he is proud of it. But for you to find his deep secret, you need more effort, touch his heart, if you could do that till he shows his vulnerable side, releasing his tears and emotion in front of you, he will be transparent to you.
but would you mind if he wants to know everything about you? If no, then probably he would open up to you easily.
And i'm not the selfies kind of cancer :-) i don't do selfies, it's silly. I do not cry nor wine either :-)
It all started with kind of an argument concerning money. He tells me to spend all my savings and buy things that i want to and would make me happy ( including his new teeth :-)).
I told him i want to keep some money on the side for the future, when i am in need off money, when something happens to me and i urgently need a new car or have to be hospitalised. He doesn't understand that. Maybe he will not get his new teeth because of my desition?
Since than, i feel ( could be wrong ) a change in him. It's like i don't matter that much to him anymore.
If that would be the case...then he would only said to live together because of my money....That i am not useful for him anymore...And that thought scares me.click to expand
For you to find o
#continue
For you to find out and for me to wait for your update.
I guess you have been talking with him about how wise it is to keep some savings. Try telling him about the thought that scares you. (then you can see his reaction that probably give you clue if he is wanting your money only)
Odd is normally Caps are more a saver than a spender. Probably the other Caps ( I just got to know one who gave me impression that she is gonna die young, thus spend all money by age of 30-40), perhaps he belongs to this Caps. I do not why he convincing you to spend all your money, you would be at a better position to know this.
One thing is how he feels about the new teeth? Is it a want or a need? He would want his love to spend on what he needs, as a sign of love. This could be why of the sudden change.
Money is not the only thing a Cap could focus tho. But be careful don't get used, and loses all your monies. Some caps would rather have a richer partner.
That's all I could tell. Cheers 🙂
For you to find out and for me to wait for your update.
I guess you have been talking with him about how wise it is to keep some savings. Try telling him about the thought that scares you. (then you can see his reaction that probably give you clue if he is wanting your money only)
Odd is normally Caps are more a saver than a spender. Probably the other Caps ( I just got to know one who gave me impression that she is gonna die young, thus spend all money by age of 30-40), perhaps he belongs to this Caps. I do not why he convincing you to spend all your money, you would be at a better position to know this.
One thing is how he feels about the new teeth? Is it a want or a need? He would want his love to spend on what he needs, as a sign of love. This could be why of the sudden change.
Money is not the only thing a Cap could focus tho. But be careful don't get used, and loses all your monies. Some caps would rather have a richer partner.
That's all I could tell. Cheers 🙂
@Capricorn180189_G S
He is being weird, his actions are weird. He is distant and i can't stand distant when i am sensing that something is wrong. So yesterdayevening he wanted to give me a " plastic" kiss goodnight and i asked him in a kind and soft way " what is wrong with you?"
He exploded...responded by saying " what did i do wrong now?" I responded calmly by saying " you don't have to be agressive. It's a simple question"
He said " nothing is wrong " ( with a angry voice)
This morning he was up first. I got up too and said " goodmorning" in a nice way. He responded in a nice way too.
Kissed me goodbye to go off to work ( not plastic kisses though but a real kiss) and took off.
He's avoiding confrontation about last night, about problems/issues and i am not that kind of person. I like to talk about that things and try to come to a sollution.
"""He would want his love to spend on what he needs, as a sign of love. This could be why of the sudden change."""
Love shouldn't be something you can buy....it shouldn't depend on money...
When i give/buy something for him , it's because i want to. When someone askes me money or ask if i want to buy somethings that is something else....
He doesn't have money problems but his teeth cost a very amount off money that he doesn't have. I suggested he saved up and fix his teeth in steps...
He can be a penny pincher for other things.
Like we have a dishwasher but i can't use it because it costs to much. He always said " it's more pleasant to do the dishes together by hand".
But who does the dishes? Not him anyway...
He is not being consistent in his thoughts ( don't know how to say this in english). Like i said before, he constantly changes things he said, he would do.
Oh well, we will see what happens.
One things for sure. His and my guards are down....
He is being weird, his actions are weird. He is distant and i can't stand distant when i am sensing that something is wrong. So yesterdayevening he wanted to give me a " plastic" kiss goodnight and i asked him in a kind and soft way " what is wrong with you?"
He exploded...responded by saying " what did i do wrong now?" I responded calmly by saying " you don't have to be agressive. It's a simple question"
He said " nothing is wrong " ( with a angry voice)
This morning he was up first. I got up too and said " goodmorning" in a nice way. He responded in a nice way too.
Kissed me goodbye to go off to work ( not plastic kisses though but a real kiss) and took off.
He's avoiding confrontation about last night, about problems/issues and i am not that kind of person. I like to talk about that things and try to come to a sollution.
"""He would want his love to spend on what he needs, as a sign of love. This could be why of the sudden change."""
Love shouldn't be something you can buy....it shouldn't depend on money...
When i give/buy something for him , it's because i want to. When someone askes me money or ask if i want to buy somethings that is something else....
He doesn't have money problems but his teeth cost a very amount off money that he doesn't have. I suggested he saved up and fix his teeth in steps...
He can be a penny pincher for other things.
Like we have a dishwasher but i can't use it because it costs to much. He always said " it's more pleasant to do the dishes together by hand".
But who does the dishes? Not him anyway...
He is not being consistent in his thoughts ( don't know how to say this in english). Like i said before, he constantly changes things he said, he would do.
Oh well, we will see what happens.
One things for sure. His and my guards are down....
* His and my guards are up *
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Checking out for now - gs