i sent a " I'm glad we are friends /lovers" text and no response

I sometimes overthink things so I come here for Cappy input. He's a cap and I'm a fish, we like/ love each other and been seeing each other for a while now. Heres the text I sent " I know🙂( we were talking about something earlier in the day). As you know I am glad we are friends/lovers and look forward to what the future holds. I say this because I'm feeling good tonight 🙂". is this too much? I think it sounds nice,but I'm a gooey person hee hee

You either love each other or are in like...the fact that you write like/love, friends/lover sounds like you are unsure about whether he feels the same...hence your need to ask us if your text was over the top.

Until you are certain about how he feels for you and vice versa (certain you are on the same page), those declarations should wait.

thanks for the advice 🙂

Just a fancy way of saying FWB?

It feels like pressure to me.

If not pressure, then expectations.

Posted by truecap
If not pressure, then expectations.

Agreed.

The ol in direct approach

I agree with @malloryor, the slashes are ambiguous, and it seems like you are unsure of your feelings about him and his feelings about you. If anything, the slashes may be confusing him, but the nature of what you said isn't really a big deal, I don't think.

If he likes you, then what you wrote shouldn't be a problem. I say "gooey" things to my BF all the time, and he thinks it's "cute," "sweet," "adorable," "insane but adorable," or "scary but sweet." If a guy likes you, and your feelings are genuine and true, then nothing you say (in the "gooey" department should ever be "too much."

update he said "great message. are you free this week?' so yeah.thanks everyone 🙂

He didn't confirm or share with your sentiment, though....

"Great message." Really? That's all he had to say? Well, besides scheduling a hook up. I'd be troubled if that's all he had to say after I spilled out something so sweet.

I don't mean that as I would only send a text like that to get a certain type of response. But it'd be nice something back along similar lines. Either a confirmation of your sweet words or a denial indicating he's on a different pathway.

OP, referring to my post above, I'd probably not say anything to him about any of it. I wouldn't send any more sweet messages. I would still continue as normal. BUT, he'd be on some type of probation with me. I'd watch and observe, see what his actions show me from now on. I'd be wary and probably distance a little (put up a thin shield, in other words).

Ehhh, but that's just me. I'm a cap. 😉

Well it's okay now she got a reply. Must be alright.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Well it's okay now she got a reply. Must be alright.

I guess that's all she wanted was a simple reply.

Was that a test that she did to see if he cared enough like she did?

Posted by DMV

Posted by truecap
If not pressure, then expectations.

Agreed.

The ol in direct approach

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And just reading my own post (above). I just realize I'd have expectations, too, if I sent a text like that. Of some sort. Either good or bad.

My aqua and I were dating about a year and a half and I sent him a text telling him how much I wanted his body, his sex, etc. At the end, I added "I don't only want your body, I want your heart too". His response "Well, I need my heart...it circulates blood throughout my body". I couldn't help but laugh. Such a typical aqua response - his avoidance. But, I took it as positive and redirecting my thoughts. If he had just said "great measage. Lets hook up". I'd have been hurt and disappointed.

I forgot to add:

I didn't send that to be indirect or fishing for his feelings.
I sent it to be very direct about what I wanted. 😉

thanks for your responses

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Was that a test that she did to see if he cared enough like she did?

Who knows...she is probably one of those posters who only appears when she needs advice, which is fine, but now that things seem good...

I kinda don't know what to say in response sometimes 😛

Posted by Tashibaby
I kinda don't know what to say in response sometimes 😛

It might help if you decide what YOU truly want.

Then be direct with the cap and tell him. Don't ask him what he feels or what he wants. Tell him what YOU want. Then see what he has to say and see if he's on the same page.
Caps like and respect directness. If he doesn't feel or want the same, you'll know. If he does, you'll know. Don't pressure him or put him on the spot, just be direct.

Pressure to put my feelings into words make me uncomfortable. Yet you don't think I show emotions. Come on! I'm rubbing your feet and hands after you've had a day of rough, manual labor. (I don't do that for just anyone) I'm bringing you your favorite dessert I baked myself - from scratch - because I felt like you needed a treat (I don't like to cook). I bought tickets to NASCAR because you like it (I hate NASCAR). I watch action films when I'd rather watch a chick flick. I touch you and hold your hand (I'm not a touchy feely person with anyone else, even my kids). I am physically there for you cheering you on and supporting your 5K and I have work to do at home (I've never done that for anyone else).

Those actions speak loudly.

So I don't say mushy stuff.....if you're in a relationship with me, you'll KNOW how much I care.

Posted by Vixen2
Lol..seems to me that Caps get pressured easily if that's what's deemed from her message...

Just an expression of her emotion or feelings. Doesn't anyone tell someone somehow that what they are doing with someone makes them feel good...

I know Caps CAN be uncomfortable with feeling but come on..

It'd be different if she were in an exclusive relationship with him. She's not, so it comes across as pressure.

Posted by Foreverloveme
He's already told her though. From what I took from it she's too young for him to want a relationship with. He enjoys her company. Plus he just got out of a 20 year marriage. Who would be in a rush for a relationship after that?



https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/capricorn/23-year-old-pisces-needs-help-with-53-year-old-capricorn-6415967/?checkpg=1

Interesting. I see why he responded like that

Yeah I'll just be direct on what i want from our little arrangement . no pressure, just fun .🙂

sometime i feel like reality gets away from me majorly ..just gotta pull it back

On top of that i usually tell people i like my feelings in a huge wave ..oh well lol

ok i did get a bit hurt

Thank you @Foreverloveme 🙂

Posted by Tashibaby
sometime i feel like reality gets away from me majorly ..just gotta pull it back

You are certainly not alone

@Vixen i did that one here and got blasted

Posted by LillyPetal
I agree with @malloryor, the slashes are ambiguous, and it seems like you are unsure of your feelings about him and his feelings about you. If anything, the slashes may be confusing him, but the nature of what you said isn't really a big deal, I don't think.

If he likes you, then what you wrote shouldn't be a problem. I say "gooey" things to my BF all the time, and he thinks it's "cute," "sweet," "adorable," "insane but adorable," or "scary but sweet." If a guy likes you, and your feelings are genuine and true, then nothing you say (in the "gooey" department should ever be "too much."

What she said LOL

Posted by Tashibaby
@Vixen i did that one here and got blasted

Who blasted you?

hmm i can't remember the persons IP but let me go back and check