Long distance relationship for cap man

Although we r friends, but I knew he likes me and I like him as well. The key point is that I should wait for him to initiate things between us instead of me. According to some cap experts. I do not want lose my chance to be with him but how can I keep the things going if we stop communicating with each other. (since he is very slow)

He asked me to go back to visit him, and I do wanna do that when I have my break. But he is the only reason that I wanna go back. Meanwhile, I also wonder whether I should send him anything coz he is kinda like to offer me a lot of things instead of receiving anything from me... (kind of traditional man thinking)

how a cap man think a girl is insecure, needy and clingy? How do they like it? Basically I do control my emotion and feeling a lot since I met this guy. And I do the thing as reciprocity, No more no less, is that right way to treat cap man?

Frankly, I don't see the point of long distance relationships. Its great to keep in touch, see each other when you can. That is all fine. But as far as getting serious, well, I just don't see the point because I like my significant other to be around, able to see them on a regular basis, knowing they're close by if you need them, able to build chemistry and spend time together, do couple things, etc. Who knows maybe some day things will work out where yall are closer together and can do all that.

In the meantime, I say, keep in touch and visit each other, just don't take it as a serious relationship. See other people in the between visits. I mean, don't give up opportunity where you are and don't miss out on something while you're sitting around waiting for the cap.

Posted by mytheresa
how a cap man think a girl is insecure, needy and clingy? How do they like it? Basically I do control my emotion and feeling a lot since I met this guy. And I do the thing as reciprocity, No more no less, is that right way to treat cap man?

To answer the question: Caps like secure, independent, confident, non-emotional and non-clingy women. They want you to do your own thing, it makes you more interesting. Don't be afraid to call him out on his crap. He might not like it at the time, but he will respect you and it will make you different from all the other girls who put up with it. Caps like someone who is there own person, so be different than the rest. If everyone else is falling at his feet, be the girl who doesn't.

Reciprocity is good.

Most importantly, don't change to be what you think he wants. Be yourself. Be true to your own personality. He will sense it out in an instant if he thinks you're being fake.

Thank you truecap!I think you are right! Meanwhile, I did change myself from a very emotional and intense to calm status, but i think its good for me sometimes coz those crazy emotional up & down frustrated me and the people besides me, I can't say I'm totally changed or this is good or bad, but I don't wanna lose him or myself because of my intense feelings.

btw, some people suggested me back off a little (stop text) if I want him to call me back. I don't know whether it works or not since I keep 3-5 days between each conversation. Just like you say, I want to him realize my existence but not clingy to him, is that too rational?

Well, men build more attraction if they have to chase. Plus, it lets you know whether they're really into you, instead of having to wonder if they like you. I'm older and more old school, but backing off is never a wrong move.

Perhaps if you don't hear anything for a week or two, then send something either:

1. absolutely silly and hilarious! Something that will make him laugh - something funny or odd, but not weird or sappy. A pic, an observation you made, a joke, etc.

OR

2. a purpose for the contact for example, "you said there was good italian restaurant and my friends and I are wanting to go try it, but for the life of me I can't remember what you said it was called".

When you contact him make sure it's nothing needy sounding (like "haven't heard from you"), nothing like fussing ("wondering why you haven't called"), and nothing boring ("whatcha doing?").

If he doesn't respond, I probably wouldn't do it again.

OH, and caps like a challenge. They like to earn what they get. So don't make it easy for him, catch my drift?

totally get it! In fact, thats the exact thing im doing to him now, i never ask anything like needy or boring, and I never keep text when he stops. I wanna make it fun and let him open himself voluntarily.
I guess the only thing that I need to do is back off, its hard but I try my best!!

I'm dating a Cap man and we live so far away from each other, from the start he was very sweet but then his schedule starts to piled up somehow and everytime i text him there would be no answer or READ. I'm a cancer and i'm pretty emo and think a lots, but i still keep it in since i thought he doesnt like it when i'm being needy. Still i tried to tell him everything honestly and he was apologizing and said i can be needy whenever i want so i recon u should be honest for once, not too much saying but straight to the point. Thats what Cap wants.