making plans, or spontaneity...

back w another question....

(some updates: so me and cap guy meet 2-3 times per week and seems to be going ok. no disappearing spells, just very less texting but perfectly fine w me. seems like the lesser u care the more he cares. )

so as I hv read Capricorns always make plans ahead of time and see long term to make sure they don't waste their effort. plans, I kinda need them.

so for the past weeks while we meet it has always been very last min. and really to occasionally change my plans to meet him too often last min is getting on my nerves. he is always unable to commit ahead of time. as much as work is concern I know he is really busy but even plannng to meet on weekends Would go like:

cap: let me know if u r doing anything tmr.
me: will b done by 4.30pm, u gt plans?
cap: for now no. depends on feeling...

I am feeling like a back up plan... 😢
cap guy is cap sun/ saggi moon/cap venus, btw...

thanks!

When you're my #1 I will change my schedule around a plan a day for us to spend time. I want to give all my attention to you and make sure nothing will take away my attention that's just for you. Texting you last minute and you changing your schedule all the time would make me not really put you first. I would feel you would always be there and I wouldn't have to work that hard or respect your time. I'm not sure if you're #2 but honestly I would treat my #2 this way because my #1 doesn't have time. You would be my back up plan and I wouldn't talk about us in the future tense in a serious type conversation to make sure I can stay detached from you for when my #1 is ready.

thank you noonie, tt made a lot of sense.

First come, first serve...tho you might reserve Fri/Sat for your special one, you go ahead and tell your friends "let's meet up on (whatever day you have open)." I hate that "I'll have to see how I feel" stuff--don't treat your friends like that, it's disrespectful.

Plans. I like to know what I'm doing ahead of time. I like to be excited, mentally prepare, look forward to something.

I can be spontaneous, but I'd rather have a plan. Spontaniety makes me nervous because I can't think of all the angles and anticipate what is going to or what could happen.

Call me boring....

u know what twirlingstrawberry, I m thinking the same thing. but there has to be a way to deal w the saggi moons? 🙂