Need Some Help Understanding A NEUROTIC CAP!

Hi guys can anyone give be some insight why my gorgeous and yet nuerotic boyfriend _acts jealous possessive, and suspicious, obsessive. He has loving nature attentive, considerate and generous than can switch at a snap of a finger and become very compulsive, clingy makes blow up too and I just can't pinpoint why he becomes like that other than being in cheating relationships the past and now has trouble trusting in a relationship where the women ( me) is very loyal, and loving. There's times when the man is gone for days at at time working away from the state and I miss him dearly, but yet when he comes back he becomes to clingy I feel suffocated after a week I can't wait for him to go back away to work. Here is his natal chart? Can someone help me understand why is this cappy Dr. Jekyll. & Mr Hyde ...thank u so much

HIS NATAL CHART

SUN: CAPRICORN
MOON: PISCIS
MERC: CAPRICORN
VENUS: AQUARIUS
MARS: TAURUS
JUPITER: LEO
SATURN. CAPRICORN
URANUS: CAPRICORN
NEPTUNE: CAPRICORN
PLUTO: SCORPIO

AS😱 AQUARIUS

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Sorry my mistake he also has;

Venus square Pluto. With Pluto in the 9th house, Venus. In a Aquarius. With Pluto in Scorpio. Hope that helps thank u

Maybe he just misses you that much. When caps love, we really love. My bf works one week on/one week off, sometimes two on/two off and when he gets home, I just want to hug him up!! But I don't dare overdo it.

Lol yeah I understand that misses and truly don't mind that because missed soon much too...its when he acts crazy like going. Thru phones mess numbers regular mail not letting me do anything. Or go anywhere without him even to the store he comes with me and eyeballs other guys if they say hi because I known them. I feel like he doesn't trust be or he controlling and jealous for no reason. I'm like WTF.?

HES PERFECT AT TIMES THAN HE SWITCHES OUT OF THE BLUE! WITHOUT A WARNING

God forbids I leave somewhere without telling me he'll call back to back wants to know why I left where Ian why I didn't tell him when I'm coming home or orders me like well it takes no more than 15 mins to get back home ...I expect you here no longer than 20 mins...what is that? Norm for crappies?

Posted by ellessque
my ex has this...

SUN: CAPRICORN
MOON: PISCIS
MERC: CAPRICORN
VENUS: AQUARIUS
MARS: TAURUS

good luck with that 😄

Is that a bad aspect? ... did your ex acted bi polar?

Yes CP AND CAP GIRL...I understand, and there many times he makes me snapped n make him feel awkward. Which than than makes me feel bad and guilty. I just feel he doesn't like me to go anywhere without him. I'm very independant girl and I'm older than he is too he doesn't go much with his friends unless its his famil. Aren't men suppose to do things with other guys like play pool?

Clinginess isn't normal for caps? Well I like going out and partying and hanging out with my girls! I don't think he wants me to be all over the place. I do love him but I don't like being tied down too much I want him to trust me I feel like. Im getting all the negative feedback, for what his past relationships done to him.

If I'm asking where you're going OR when you'll be back there is a reason (planning your demise 😄)...

Posted by cowpuncher
My Cap ex wife had to know where I was, every minute of every day, 24/7. If I was 15 minutes late getting home IN LOS ANGELES TRAFFIC... my cell was ringing and I was getting pissy "where are you?" questions... and eventually that turned into "Who are you cheating on me with!" The 405 Freeway apparently you psycho, that's who.

Some people have a hole inside of them where their confidence should be. You can't fill it for them, it's impossible. They either have to learn to do it for themselves, or not. If they don't, they'll never be a healthy partner for you in a relationship, and they will make your life miserable - seeking their security and positive self image through you, rather than within themselves. Eventually, when that hole doesn't go away, they don't see that as a flaw in themselves. They see it as you being unwilling to wave some magic wand to make it go away for them. Then they start blaming you. Then, things start getting progressively more and more ugly.

Don't go down that road, it only ends in disaster. Keep your eyes firmly fixed on this, and make him treat you right, or find someone else who will.

lol cowpuncher you have the best stories ... i enjoy reading them all ....ironicly your married story reminds me of me I got married very early I fell inloved young with than my best friend. Taurus who now I despise anyway I was the nuerotic jealous insecure maniac wife lol ...he blame my character for leaving but I know that was just. Part of it he has his fault too but I'm much. older than my cappy ( that would be another thread) and maybe I'm getting back what ive sowed lol.... but I was with ex husband Taurus 15 yrs and when we were seperated I waited for him for another seven yrs before I've. Decided. Enough is enough. So I'm Avery loyal sag I just don't understand why he soon compulsive it get me hot tempered I'm not use to feeling withstrained I like coming and going and if I'm out somewhere. He should trust me because I will not do that I don't know if he insecure or traumatized or he just has control issues.

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Posted by lildol
If I'm asking where you're going OR when you'll be back there is a reason (planning your demise 😄)...

You KNOW I fear the hell out of you... right? :p lol

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I knew you'd appreciate that comment 😄

Posted by capgirl75
Interestingly, I *DO* make a mental note of when the person is home, though. I kind of dislike men who are going out too much, if they are seeing me. I do not say anything about it, but I'm paying attention to all the nights he's home and on the phone with me as opposed to going out. But I am absolutely not about to tell someone what they can and cannot do on their own time.

I don't see a problem with that... if you're used to your other half coming home between 5pm and 6pm (or they call then) and it's 9pm and you haven't heard from them, that's a problem! (i.e., if you're married, you live together, in a serious relationship or you typically spend every night together - not some casual dating relationship). But, different strokes for different folks - I do, however, think respect is a 2 way street...

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Posted by lildol
If I'm asking where you're going OR when you'll be back there is a reason (planning your demise 😄)...

You KNOW I fear the hell out of you... right? :p lol

I knew you'd appreciate that comment 😄

I'm going to hit Ebay for some kevlar underclothes before we meet up. That's all I'm saying. lol

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A cast iron "cup" might not be a bad idea either *evil grin*

Posted by lildol
If I'm asking where you're going OR when you'll be back there is a reason (planning your demise 😄)...

Lol I should e the one planning my demise lo

@CP I just would like to add, I'm not jealous and psychotic like that anymore I'm more calm playback with those sort of stuff. I don't get those feelings. Of being jealous and possessive for cap boy than I did for my ex hubby. Taurus. I actually want cap boy to go out more and have a social life. I enjoy going out and having social life. I guess we are in two different aspects in life I've been married had children raised them and started having an outgoing life @ an older age Capricorn boyfriend is looking to settle down have kids I did that already. I'm not sure I want to do that...And with him acting crazy! Is making me run for. The borders. I'm about to do a Houdini. Cap disappearing act.


Lol but I probubly be back anyway ....because the sex is so soo good!!

@R24 I believe that I always had intuitive feeling is it hasn't failed me that's why I had those insanely jealousies. For Taurus he was doing exactly what i was accusing him of. And the truth eventually did came out in the light. Cap boy has been honest with me to the T...that also was proven. That's why I know something else is boiling underneath. I think he's been through alot at young age been in hopeless relationships where he got very hurt and instead if running away he sticks around and acts controlling and possessive. I just want him to relax I think I make him feel insecure because I'm outgoing andvwild and he's so darn serious. Taurus was serious but Capricorn are really stern and serious.even the young ones.

I wanted to see why hes like that or his traumatic points in his life made him that way.

Posted by ellessque
and if you do not want to settle down and have kids, you better tell him NOW. do not ever imply you will simply to appease him and make the relationship drag out longer.

Than you so much ellessque. You have been soon insightful. I appreciate your advise soon much for I have seen your a exceptionally wise with your advise and opinion always straightforward, insightful and to the point I will speak to him about that as well self examine myself because I need to know what I exactly want to do because I know I'm feeling a bit torn right now

Again thank you

Ooommngggg ...yeah selfexamining because this is who he is?? Ooh wow!!!! Than he is insanely jealos and controlling. Ooh hell no!

Big sighing* I Tess I have to make some heartaching decisions. 😢

Thank you everyone you guys been awesome like always

@sagg2DaHeart

Can you post the degrees? All of those Taurus, Scorpio and Aqua placements... sounds like a T-square, which would mean dude has lots of issues to solve on his own. But then again I can't be completely sure unless you post the degrees.

BSC, welcome to the Cap board 🙂

Posted by BlueSandCacoon
@sagg2DaHeart

Can you post the degrees? All of those Taurus, Scorpio and Aqua placements... sounds like a T-square, which would mean dude has lots of issues to solve on his own. But then again I can't be completely sure unless you post the degrees.

ok I will post give be a fw! Ins so I can add to the thread ..btw h does have issues a bit scary sometimes so sad😢

I believe it looks like this:

SUN: CAP. 29.26
MOON: PIS. 15.16
MERC: CAP. 6.24
VENUS: AQU. 18.32
MARS: TAU. 29.46
JUPITER. LEO. 9.46
SATURN: CAP. 27.55
URANUS: CAP. 10.51
NEPTUNE: CAP. 14.51
PLUTO: SCO. 20.04
LILITH: SAG. 19.14
ACC. PLUTO: CAP. 28.14

AC😱 AQUARIUS

SRY ITS NOT PERFECTLY ALLIGNED IM ON AN ANDROID PHN

I hope that it ......I also read somewhere that
Venus square pluto is a bad aspect his pluto in the ninth house and his Pluto is in scorpio

Posted by ellessque
what other thread? she's all over the place!

what board is it on?

Lmbo u guys are funny lol meetoo is referring. To the first thread I posted ...." LET TALK ABOUT THAT CAPRICORN SEX" LOLLLLLLL!

Posted by lildol
BSC, welcome to the Cap board 🙂

Thanks.

Posted by sagg2DaHeart
I hope that it ......I also read somewhere that
Venus square pluto is a bad aspect his pluto in the ninth house and his Pluto is in scorpio

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Yes, it's a difficult aspect. Venus is supposed to be lighthearted, but Pluto can make things real ugly.

Venus square Pluto
"You easily put pressure on your partner, as you expect much loyalty and honesty in your intimate relationships. Be careful not to let your relationships get to a point where your partner is superfluous and you are working through your own inner demons through him or her."

http://www.cafeastrology.com/natal/venusplutoaspects.html</i><BR>
Also that Taurus Mars tends to bottle those feelings up until they get out of control.

Posted by ellessque
He's going to be difficult, I think it's very clear at this point.

You are going to have to handle him, not "fix" him.

If you aren't much into handling him, you may want to let him go. It won't be easy....he will be around for awhile.

It's interesting that he has sag in lilith and you've come out of a difficult relationship. Perhaps there is something you need to work on thru him?

just DON'T put all YOUR FOCUS on his flaws. Keep it about YOU and for however long you want to endure this....do so with eyes wide open.

Will ellessque yeah also know. He doesn't go away easy he's either play victim makes me feel guilty or he's completely loving and sweet. When he sees I'm not biting his angry controlling demanding. Nature, quite manipulative at times, but I do feel bad when he plays victim of his past because I'm quite a humanitarian and I care for him but I'm going to make some serious life decisions.

Posted by sagg2DaHeart

Posted by ellessque
He's going to be difficult, I think it's very clear at this point.

You are going to have to handle him, not "fix" him.

If you aren't much into handling him, you may want to let him go. It won't be easy....he will be around for awhile.

It's interesting that he has sag in lilith and you've come out of a difficult relationship. Perhaps there is something you need to work on thru him?

just DON'T put all YOUR FOCUS on his flaws. Keep it about YOU and for however long you want to endure this....do so with eyes wide open.

Will ellessque yeah also know. He doesn't go away easy he's either play victim makes me feel guilty or he's completely loving and sweet. When he sees I'm not biting his angry controlling demanding. Nature, quite manipulative at times, but I do feel bad when he plays victim of his past because I'm quite a humanitarian and I care for him but I'm going to make some serious life decisions.

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I takevjust a bitbof fault. Because I provoke him a bit when I purposely push him away. And I can a little cold and distant at time and pushes. Him to the edge. First of I push him away becausevto clingy and two I'm still very fragile from my ex I have not completely drop my wall that I so stubborn put up because I was very hurt. Cappy also always wants to be the Savior. The more he tries to save me the more defiant. I become. Idk Im a very emotional sag I either love too. Much or hate too. Much. I have Venus and Mars in scorpio idk if that has anything to do with it i feel it does and my moon and ascd. In Leo alot of heart and pride and my prides been wounded bad but either way I'm keep one eye open.

Thank you all been soon kind, great advice ...srry I talk soon much

Posted by ellessque
my ex wasn't abusive, controlling or jealous....or at least he kept it controlled very well.

but one intense look could make someone piss their pants.....LOL

but you may also be misinterpreting or dealing with residuals with your ex. so, take each situation as it's own and work with it individually. like lildol said, if someone normally calls you everyday at 6 and doesn't call til after 10...then yeah, it's courteous to give an explanation. No, you don't have to, but it's still courteous to do so.

his words were very sharp and cutting. I just learned to give it back to him. For awhile I would throw my nose up like "how dare you!!!" and storm off but after awhile I just rearranged my words to match his. He eventually would catch himself and call himself a dick because I think me using his words on him bothered that pisces moon a bit.

he was also brutally honest at all times. there are no niceties and he doesn't say things to be mean or get a rise out of you...he says them because they are true. if you look nice, you look nice.....if you don't, he'll tell you. some people will gasp at that but I'd much rather be told. The positive thing about that is you will always know what comes out of his mouth is true, if you are willing to take it the way it's said and NOT read into it.

he was very intimidating and the friends he keeps are mostly those that follow him, he's very much a leader. his friends and family are gold to him and he often did "too" much for them. You have to step back, do not compete with anyone. Everyone in his life has a place and not everyone intertwines with everyone else.

that's just my two cents. *shrugs*

This is true with cappy he very direct in what he Swiss and means I think he wanting to be protective becomes clingy, he very serious and a charmer doesn't like to follow he dies lead the problem with that I don't like being lead. I'm bossy and I like things my way too. He takes it as disrespect. To him and blows his fuse he has an attitude its his way or no way, and its ok but I'm not fully use to it. But not to make him look like complete Ahole. Which he sarcastically. Admits also he said born and raised lol he's has humour too, he has a very sweet gentle loving side to him he's charming at tines he cooks he serves me andcwhen e outside he proud to be with me and treat me like a queen very protective,

As long as I'm with him he's protective he dies have a bad temper it looks like from Taurus Mars but I will be careful sorry guys for the typos really need to take this setting off the phone thanks again have a rest niggthanks again ellessque. For that great wisdom God has given you

When I first responded, I didn't realize the extent of the controlling behavior. You're going to have to stand up for yourself and don't take his crap.

Wondering....how did his dad treat his mom?

Sagg, I think this is a lot to deal with from someone who is "half your age." Im assuming he's 20-25? Even if older, that's a lot of nerve coming in and being that controlling and possessve of someone who has more experience with life.

If you do decide to break away do it gently. I get bad vibes from people that think they "own" others.

Dr. Jekyll. & Mr Hyde...Get out, just leave okay, you've had the unfortunate luck to meet an insecure out of control nut, you're not dealing with a healthy man and no amount of understanding, love, empathy will change his pathological behavior.

Some research would help you, start with Google, google Dr. Jekyll. & Mr Hyde which may lead you to words like Narcissist, Bipolar basically you'll be informed he's suffering from some kind of pathology that WON'T CHANGE, the best you can do is get very INFORMED, the more you know the better off you'll be, hopefully you'll save yourself before you lose your mind because your freedom, mental health and physical health should be way more important to you than him.

Thats a good point cheeky. In a way he is being used for sex. I have a feeling he thinks this relationship is more than what it really is.

Sorry everyone, I haven't been on the post. Abd hurry off was cause he was ariund and I don't want him to be aware I'm in a forum, but yes meetoo is absolutely right, he is a red flag. Ellessque. Is very insightful aswell is not easy confronting. Cappy he becomes very angry irrational andvcan very well fly the handle.

As fir those who are wondering his age YES he is half my age which is one of the reasons I at times feel guilty when he is upset because even though he acts more older than his age, I thought his age had alot to do with his jealous behavior. Because I was the same wa in my 20's as I replied to cowpunche. Like sone of u guys already mght know I was with my ex husband for 15 yrs before ge just. Abandoned. His family I suffered very much. I stood single and waited for my ex to come back anyway long story short.....ex never came back played emotional games I very depress and emotionally stress out finally found the courage to let go. I stood alone, for 2 yrs never gave the time a day to anyone, mostly I'm approched by younger men, I notice young men and older men have all issues if its not one thing is the other.

What made me give cap a chance and I cant really pinpoint is mostly how I was approached he very charming knows exactly the words to say and there was chemistry between us, I dp love and was attracted to his mind his intelkect the way he communicates that's what attracted me to him his words were beyond the intellect of someone his age that was what got my attention and. I felt an instant attraction to him. ...I felt finally someone who can speak to me and I can have a decient conversation and a understanding. I didn't know his real age than because He lied, which is a big problem with me being a sag I can't stand them I believed him and went out as friends only. He was honest after our initial. First date. His reason he wanted me to know him as a person for his mind not his age. .
.good answer dont ya think. Lol

Capricorn did not show red flags in the very beginning. was extrenely charming inellectual romantic and serious he seemed to love my free spirit ways and I ....do not act my age or look my age I'm the one who act young bubbly and wild he's the opposite. He serious reserved act mature,

We enjoy eachothers company because. While I was attracted to his intellectual and male magnetism, I guess he was turned on by my wild catefree youthfulness. I can be quite a ham to if I say so myself. Lol

Well geting back to this odd relationship. He became obsessive after we were first intimate nit all once of course. Overtime, I of course was and am sucked in by his sexuality, because he's amazing and may I add he is just the third person I've been intimate with for I was a virgin with my husband, so I haven't been around so I'm not expierienced, but he brings out a animal magnetism inside me I never expierienced before. Also most importantly the biggest. REASON I HAD STAYED WITH CAPPY

is because although he's be controlling. Abusive to an extent he has help me move on ....help me to leave that very dark depressing state of anxiety and hoplessness that my ex husband bury me in and that my dear friends...IS THE NUMBER 1 REASON! I'm soo very greatful that I no longer want to die for someone who made me fear being alone being unloved, of feeling unworthy, that. Was the somber. I was in when cap came in, he saw through my cheerful facade, now I'm not I partied so I wont feel or think I feel he did come in my life at that time in life i needed him.

All of you had been insightful. I AM NOT GOINGVTO CONTINUE FEELING MISTREATED, I WANTED YET TO BE FAIR, BECAUSE I FELT ALTHOUGH HE YOUNG AND HE ALSO BEEN IN THROUGH HIS SHARE OF A VERY TURBULENCE LIFE. I PICKED UP THESE RED FLAGS AND NEED TO MAKE SUREWHILE READIBG AND RESEARCH I CAME UPON DXPN AND EVENTHOUGH I CARE FOR HIM READING THE POSTS AND ALL YOUR ADVICE AND INSIGHTFUL OPINIONS WARNINGS

ALSO LETS NOT FORGET THE NATAL CHART I HAVE POSTED ASKING HELPED ME TO MAKE UP MY MIND CAP WAS HERE IN MY LIFE SO I CAN LEARN FROM HIM, AND TO EXPIERIENCE AND TO GROW, WE NEEDED EACHOTHER AT THAT TIME HOWEVER, ITS TIME FOR BOTH OF US TO MOVE ON 1, BECAUSR THE RELATIONSHIP IS NOT HEALTHY. 2, HES YOUNGER THAN ME WANTS A FAMILY AND KIDS IVE DONE THAT ALREADY, BESIDES WHOS. SAYS I CAN HAVE ANYMORE KIDS AT MY. AGE LOL I LOOK 25 YRS OLD AND FEEL GREAT BUT THAT DOESNT TAKE AWAY THAT I WILL BE 40 YRS OLD IN NOVEMBER LMBOOOOOO ....WITH THAT ALL SAID IN REALITY IS NOT FAIR AT FOR CAPRICORN WHOS BEEN HOUNDING ME TO MARRY HIM AND IVE BEEN SAYING NO

Hopefully is not too late for him to find a nice girl ....and he can learn to not be controlling obsessive abusive ect. Maybe hell learn from this odd relationship. And well I'm not going to look for another. Relationship no time soon I think I need to learn to embrace being alone for awhile

And for those ladies lol who are wondering lol ....I WILL NOT EVA FORGET THAT CAPRICORN SEX!!!!! IT WAS DELISIOUSLY, ORGASMIC!!"

stick to my word when I say!!!

BEST SEXXXX I EVA HAD!!!!!!!! ;-D

Posted by ellessque
okay....I'm going to go completely AGAINST the grain (for those who despise what I'm going to share, can block me if ya want 🙂)

can you give us specific instances where you felt he was being abusive, controlling and jealous?

try not to exaggerate or put feelings into the examples....just give facts.

based on what you've said in your last post. I think you could make this in to a positive situation if you stop scaring yourself for a minute.

Where can I begin first he started being clingy all the time around me I couldn't visit friends he wanted me to spend all my time with if I left to be with friends he would come unexpectedly and would court me to leave cause he's wsiting for me, if I was gonna make a quick stop at the store he had to come with me than eyeball any man that lookef at me I had to hpld his hand if I didn't he eould get irritated. Which after awhile more like he grabbed my hnd forceful as not for to let go. He would go thru my phone call people back to see who I was speaking with go through text messages answer phne calls and not give me the messages. He started wanting me to change who I am if I drank I couldn't drink if I smoked cigarettes bad habit from suffering from anxiety, I couldn't smoke yet he smoked behind my back. Those small thing became bigger things than he started getting angry than explosive. When I was cold and distant toward him he started becoming irrational. And hasveven followed me to friends house or looked for me like a psycho when I argued and take off but the whole time I can see him from a distant yet because he's terribly nearsighted and doesn't have his eyeglasses cannot spot me but I can see him frantically. Searching for me. He's controlling and when he sees he cant budge me he will become manipulative to get his way he' ll goes as much as cry and play the victim. Role, the I love you soo much role I'm afraid your gonna leave me or I was cheated on I have trust issues, mind I'm the one who has serious issues but I learned to trust

The most serious ones which made me feel like I can't. Do this are:
Yells at me in the streets
Has followed me when I take off after an argument started from his irrationality
accuse me of thingsvi haven't done
Got soo angry has thrown a blender shattering across a room

Btw my blender at that

Has an explosive temper

Everything to him is disrespectful he oders respect all the time the last time I check my dad is in florida I'm here in NY

I also have a bad temper and I can be and excuse my french. A REAL A $ $ B#@ CH! SO WE' LL CLASHING ALOT RIGHT NOW I CAN MAKE HIM FEEL LIKE $ H% T

I'm sorry we end bumbing at times real hard! Lol the make upcsex is amazing but in all. Reality we both need to grow up I'm too old. For these childish games.

Please bear with me here typos auto correct really bad with this android laptop is taken and completey taken over my fourteen. Yr old she takes it everywhere

Make the best at reading my horrible typing here
I can't stand this phone!! Sorry

Posted by ellessque
.....and how did you react the very first time he acted this way?

I was taken back like kinda surprised but felt flattered someone treating me like the best he eva had, turned. Me on he waa a bit assertive in charge kinda caveman ....but after I while started irkin me, and I would retaliate ir be defiant than get sweer talked or feel the guilt because I dint like huting someone else after going through hell with the ex. I would feel rather badly and made up for it like in other words apologize and was extra loving and sweet to him followed his orders a bit to make him feel he has control ....baf choices

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coward!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 😛

DAMN YOU SCORPS 😛

What ya wont me to say?! huh 😄

That she is focusing tooo much on sex as sooooo many other women ( she already has issues with intimacy on that aspect...him being the 3rd man...plz not I'm skipping over the threads so I wouldn't know the extend of her story from HER point of view)


BUT...my PISCES MOON is telling me....THEY BOTH need to take a gigantic step back and reassess the situation!!!!

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I had inimacy issues because TAURUS EX SUCKED IN THE BEDROOM!!! LOL couldn't keep up and wasn't. Very good at sex pleased. Himsef and rolled over lol would go straight to sleep

Capricorn is in his 20S CAN DO ANYTHING YOUR HEART DESIRES HE WAS A CHARMER AND A BEAST IN THE STREETS....he knew how to lure you to do whateva he wanted and never i never once felt awkward with him in the contrary he made me feel like I was the most beautiful sexiest creature in his eyes and every thing sexually he did he did perfect or betta yet.

IT WAS EROTIC YET SENSUAL, EXPLOSIVELY HOT JUST LIKE HIS TEMPER, MAGNETICALLY ADDICTIVE. AND SEDUCTIVE ALL AT NCE!!! MMMMmmmm!!!

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A NEUROTIC CAP WE ARE ALL ROTIC.

@ saphra he threw bledet because I do order him not to be irrational he threw it across the room not at me

1 I did break up with him and he hasn't. Done that again. I'm always arguing back cause I do have sharp tounge I'm not a punk either! I also have a explosive temper! ..one of the reason why taurus couldn't handle me so I did hokd back my tounge. Because did not want to repeat past mistakes. But cappy got caught in my rage too that's why he ends up leaving home teary eye. But what I'm saying its not healthy and I was hoping for change mind you guys need to take into consideration we spend more calm good times than bad. And in the end he has improvef on his behavior its his clingyness and posssiveness his temper has been controlled we speaking about how he can get that was the first and last he did months ago. He since has not been stalking exploding or been goin through my phone he has calmed alot. But I need to make sure cause his little flaws like his clingyness and not leting me go out is a problem still

That is why I posted his chart to get feedback on him ellessque. Informing me hecwill never change and telling what u see is whatvu get hey who wouldn't freakvi believe just like what has came out from just looking. At his chart alot is on point.

As for the relationship is still upto me if I deal with or not, I can leave it cause I've been off ofbit before, however when I have a capricorn man cause he still a man young or not, begging me anto relenguish it and

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Posted by sagg2DaHeart
The most serious ones which made me feel like I can't. Do this are:
Yells at me in the streets
Has followed me when I take off after an argument started from his irrationality
accuse me of thingsvi haven't done
Got soo angry has thrown a blender shattering across a room

Btw my blender at that
Has an explosive temper
Everything to him is disrespectful he oders respect all the time the last time I check my dad is in florida I'm here in NY

So what?

You don't care as much about the abuse and thrown blenders as much as you do about getting the payoff you get when you're with him. As long as you keep getting that payoff, as long as that payoff keeps filling that void inside you, as long as you choose to indulge in it, you won't leave. Who are you trying to kid? You don't really mind the yelling. You don't really mind the accusations. You don't really mind him following you. All of that is more than handleable in light of your *addiction* to *whatever else* you're getting from him. And you will continue to make excuses, because for now, entertaining any other thought will jeopardize whatever part of the relationship you're addicted to.

Posting a litany of complaints about him and the relationship (with a "but I have to grow up, too" rejoiner) is just a waste of time. There is no way to dress up or idealize the junkie-pusher relationship.

You haven't hit rock-bottom yet. The question is what awaits you when you do, and whether you will allow yourself to get there. Until then none of this is a big deal. It's just lip-service.




P.S.: Remember to duck.

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Okay lmbooooooFIRST OF ALL U GUYS AREVTYPING AWAY N Y AM I FEEL LIKE IM GETTIBG JUDGE....SAPRAH I DONT NEED TO DUCK BLENDER WAS THROWN ACROSS THE ROOM NOT AT ME.
SECOND OF ALL! I HAVE A BAD TEMPER TOO IM SHARP WITH MY WORDS AND IM THE FIRST TO PUNCH ONE N THE FACE HENCE WHY I DO NOT WANT TO GET IN CONFRONTATED ON, HE SEEN MY WRATH TOO AND WHEN HE CANNOT CONTROL ME THATS WHEN HE HAD A TEMPER TANTRUM N THREW MY BLENDER CUZ I CAN BE DOWN RIGHT DISRESPECTFUL TOO.

AS FAR, THIS RELATIONSHIP IT HAS ITS VERY. DISFUNCTIONAL UP S AND DOWNS NOT ALL THE TIME IT HAS NOT BEEN ALL BAD!!! WE HAD MANY GOOD TIMES ACTUALLY MORE GOOD HAN BAD

ALSO CAPPY ALSO HAS CALMED DOWN MANY THINGS

The temper tantrum blender altercation was the first and last he exploded, also he is more calm as far as not going thru the phone call or the phne I want to make sure it not written in the stars

Hence I posted hs chart because he still has issues trusting and controlling because he is clingy also not normal for caps that usually go off and disappeared.

I see he might have potential but again not fair even if it did work and we both grow up or evolved. Its not fair to him because oulf our age difference and the aspects in our life,

Reason why this timevim considering ending this relationship for good! Not the abuse only, because likevi said we both provoke eachother!

@ saphra sex is not the only reason I'm in a relationship with him he great at it yes its addicting? HELL YEAH!!! nir I feel I shouldn't bring that up

F@#% thattt!! IF ITS GOOD ITS GOOD AND IM A BE 40 and I'm. Proud to say us women incthis age shouldn't be embarrassed or afraid to let our sexuality out and be proudvof it!

I'm not in this for the sex!!!! I post and I REPEAT I FELL FOR CAPRICORN FOR HIS INTELLECT! we can communcate have conversation for hours we laugh we joke we cry and show emotions he also show affection is considetate very attentive to me inside and outside and expresses to me how beautiful great of person I am


So he is not completed THE DEVIL REINCARNATED PEOPLE!


I NEEDED ADVICE FROM SAIN PEOPLE OKAY
and I got advice from sain ppl


AGAIN THANK YOU SOO MUCH ELLESSQUE. YOU BEEN THE LESS JUDGEMENTAL AND VERY INSIGHTFUL

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Posted by sagg2DaHeart


IT WAS EROTIC YET SENSUAL, ****EXPLOSIVELY HOT JUST LIKE HIS TEMPER,****** MAGNETICALLY ADDICTIVE. AND SEDUCTIVE ALL AT NCE!!! MMMMmmmm!!!

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Yes indeed that was definately a plus a million

AND I QUOTE: NOTHING WRONG WITH IT
!!! WE SHOULD BE GRATEFUL FOR GREAT SEX!!!

MOST PEOPLE HAVE NOT EXPIERIENCED IT!!!!

IM GLAD NOW WHEN I LOOK BACK! I CAN SAY IT WAS AWESOME AND ONE OF THE BEST EXPIERIENCED I HAD NOW I CAN GROW OLD AND DIE IN PEACE

LOL how many pthers can say that—?

And I'm DAMN PROUD OF IT TOO .....WITH MY HEAD UP!!!

WOOO HOOO! GO SAGGIE!!

SHE'S A DRAMA QUEEN

Posted by capgirl75
And honestly, response has nothing to do with the age difference, he is not a stable person. It makes me feel scared for you.

I understand cap girl I'm throwing the quotes. Bcuz its not just the great sex! I do care for him but does have issues...but we all have issues I have issues. I'm leaving the relationship because its not entirely healthy and I'm in it for different reasons I love him but I dp not want to settle I want ti have fun and not be tied up, he want to settle down I'm too wild for him and older and he can't calm me save me control me and with that we are both disfuntional because we both provoke and argue back just like he has mr hyde temper . Do I still care for him ...YES! Is it gonna WORK...NO! So with that I leave you saying I needed some advise to make some decisions. And I have I'm very thank ful and. Appreciative because you guys are all awesome and. Helpef me but in the end I always knew what I had to do I just need to make sure

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SHE'S A DRAMA QUEEN

YESSSS DA F@#% I AMMM!!!

mr tate I'm a drama queen! And I'm also very sweet and adorable, but the is I'm a SAGITTARIUS. AND FRANKLY BLUNT ANDBI GET PISST OFF TOO ehen ivfeel I'm being hammered. With judgemental advise, all over the place and I can't keep up!! I don't like defending myself and no one seems to be understanding except ellessque. Who been asking and giving thorough non judgemental advise raw and straight. Ooh the sweet and lovable cap girl.....


However what I say I say as truthful as I can for those who think I'm staying in a relationship for just sex your wrong lol I care for the capricorn
but I'm not staying in a relationship that's not going anywhere not just the abuse, but because the time has come for the end like dat songs says

" its been a long time comin" lmboooooo
and saphra if u want to believe I'm staying in a abusive relationship for sex .....believe what u want

Abd yes I do like it rough hard raw! I'm a leo rising!!! Roooaarrrrr!

With a my venus & mats in scorpio I'm not delicate not one bit!!!!!

I just don't understand how you could fall for someone who treats you like he did/does.

For the record, us caps really don't like drama.

Yall, it's only a matter of time before we see this story on the evening news.