Need to understand Cap Man...any advice?

Hi

So recently I met a cap man and we started to become friends. We're comfortable with each other and we share a lot of jokes poking fun at each other as we're from different areas in the same country.

I kinda knew one of my friends liked him, and she knew I liked him too. As me and cap man were just friends - I'm actually still married and in early stages of separation (cap man is also newly single)- and the other girlie friend is happily married, I didn't really think much of it.

Then the other night after a night out he came back to my place and we ended up sleeping together. I'm kinda kicking myself as I've never slept with anyone I'm not in an established relationship with and I tend to do long term (I know typical Libra!). Anyway, cap man and I had an incredible night/day...he didn't leave my place until late the following afternoon. He was great under the sheets and really sweet and intimate, we fell asleep together in each others arms.

So I asked him afterwards if anything had previously happened with my friend and he said she had confessed to liking him but due to her marriage and the fact they also work together nothing could happen. On this basis, we agreed we'd keep our encounter to ourselves so as to not hurt her feelings. This made me a little uneasy as I didn't want to keep secrets from my mate but I agreed in any case. As a Libra girl I have a preference towards taking a blatantly honest approach.

A few days later I found out from my friend they had shared many intimate conversations and kissed a couple of times. He also asked her not to communicate to me about their interactions, although this happened before we slept together. Needless to say we now know everything. I did confront him and he assured me that he'd enjoyed our time together and didn't regret it. He said he wasn't playing games. However, I feel like friend is still all over him and he's not exactly fighting it off. I have worked hard not to even show a flinch over it, I don't want to let it bother me.

But am I being played?

I like this guy, although I wouldn't say my feelings are particularly strong yet, I'm treading carefully, but maybe there is potential. Have I blown it by sleeping with him too soon?

I have kept my distance since, beyond one or two messages between us in which we discussed our prospective breakups and it was definitely more friend text than anything else.

We have in no way discussed if we would sleep together again or not. Any advice?

Foreverloveme, thanks for you message, I kinda feel like that's what I needed to hear.

I don't consider myself in a relationship as I'm separated but I understand why you've said what you said cause I'm not divorced yet so there is definitely still baggage.

The friend issue tricky and I think you right, it's unlikely he'd be looking to move into another long term thing so soon after the last Tbh, not sure I am either.

Good sound advice.

Posted by ParisianCappy
he's a player

My instincts tell me the same but as I think highly of him, I think it was easier not to believe it.

Clear we should be friends and nothing else! Better to know now right?!

Both you and your friend messed around with this guy knowing the other had feelings for him. Take him out of the equation and work on that.

Lol..what a little shithead. Trying to understand him would be a waste of valuable time.

I refuse to believe that you and your friend were the only ones he was trying to mess with or has at work.

Take it for what it was and focus on getting your divorce handled and being on your own fpr a while, before putting yourself out there again. Put your energy into doing that and you'll be better off. Good luck!!

Posted by CAPLOCK
Lol @ OP - You're ALL players.

Just a Capricorn calling how i see it.

Its a small circle and the three of you are all involved in this love triangle. Smh.

Time to start back at square one before the shape of this gets worse hahaha

I know! TC is just as guilty, and a liar as he is. Honestly TC, you and your friend showed little self respect and loyalty towards each other, so as a man mysrlf, why should I show it towards you? Actions speak louder than words you know.