Pouting when you don't get your way?

Now I am posting here to complain about the guy who once pursued me.

Now, he's very short with me and moody lately. I support some of his decisions but I'm not afraid to speak up if I don't think something will work. Yesterday, I told him that one of his approaches about dealing with an employee matter wasn't the best route. He called me to talk about it and got really testy with me. I had to end the call by asking him to consider my viewpoint. That was earlier in the day yesterday.

Today, I find out that he went to our VP to basically tell him that I'm not supporting his views or keeping him in the loop with matters I'm working on regarding his employees. NOT TRUE. I keep him in the loop as much as I deem appropriate.

It turns out that I have one last meeting with him that will require travel. The VP says since the meeting is in Dallas, he wouldn't approve airfare and told me to hitch a ride with the Cap. So I email him and ask him if he wanted me to drive or him. I get this short response: "Whichever. Don't care".

So I just reply back with "Thanks but I'll just take my own car".

Since my response, I've gotten 2 emails, 1 text, and a phone call all basically apologizing for his short attitude.

Don't kiss your co-worker. It sucks when it doesn't work out. I figure he's acting this way because I'm not giving into him...but who knows. Maybe he's going thru a moody or pouty period?

Posted by houstonpeach74
Now I am posting here to complain about the guy who once pursued me.

Don't kiss your co-worker. It sucks when it doesn't work out. I figure he's acting this way because I'm not giving into him...but who knows. Maybe he's going thru a moody or pouty period?

this is a prime example why you shouldn't shit where you eat.

such enlightenment. Thanks.

Wow, can't seem to get you guys to understand I want nothing from this guy.
Same people, same attitude each time.

Posted by houstonpeach74
Wow, can't seem to get you guys to understand I want nothing from this guy.
Same people, same attitude each time.

its called tough love. i'm saying don't go around messing around with co-workers and burning bridges. its a great way to:
1. have drama in the workplace
2. get fired

talk about taking your work home with you. i thought this was common sense people!

Ha@ "the guy who once pursued you" lol. That's funny.

Don't kiss your co-worker. It sucks when it doesn't work out.

That's all we tried to tell you in the beginning dear.

If he's keeping things business related then don't entertain thoughts of why he's acting the way he is. Unless he pursues you again and you reject him, then you can't make too many assumptions. Caps are very moody, so his attitude could be 50/50. At least he apologized for his behavior.

yeah, don't shit where you eat LOL

True, at least he apologized, but for him to apologize 4 times within one hour is bordering on excessive. When my boss acts like an ass, he doesn't apologize, so why should I expect one from this Cap? I think it's me who keeping this business related. To go to our boss and tell him I'm not supporting his employee matters is unacceptable. I'm somewhat convinced that he was the one who influenced our boss to tell me to go to Dallas with him for this meeting.

I'm only "entertaining" the thought because if you want to apologize, do it once.

@apologizing 4 times

He's chasing...We told you that already, so much of your mental energy on a guy you say you want nothing to do with. Wish you would be more emotionally honest, you are now officially in an imaginary relationship.

we are not stupid.

Posted by tiki33
@apologizing 4 times

He's chasing...We told you that already, so much of your mental energy on a guy you say you want nothing to do with. Wish you would be more emotionally honest, you are now officially in an imaginary relationship.

we are not stupid.

I agree with this.
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Imaginery relationship? Explain.

Posted by houstonpeach74
True, at least he apologized, but for him to apologize 4 times within one hour is bordering on excessive. When my boss acts like an ass, he doesn't apologize, so why should I expect one from this Cap? I think it's me who keeping this business related. To go to our boss and tell him I'm not supporting his employee matters is unacceptable. I'm somewhat convinced that he was the one who influenced our boss to tell me to go to Dallas with him for this meeting.

I'm only "entertaining" the thought because if you want to apologize, do it once.

Why are you comparing him to your boss? They are two separate people that will do separate things the majority of the time, I'd like the think. You can't expect him to react like your boss would.

How did you find out that he went to your boss with this?

Posted by houstonpeach74
Imaginery relationship? Explain.

My take is, if he cuts you cold turkey you would hate it. Whatever is going on, you are enjoying this and whatever he does you will analyze as if it means something more, because deep down you want it to.

My boss called me earlier today and asked me what was going on with me and Cap. I asked him what he was referring to and she said that Cap just left his office blowing off steam saying I shot down his ideas on how to handle one of his employee matters. The boss said that Cap thought I was undermining his authority. I told my boss "if he thinks that and you're actually calling me to ask for my justification, then why am I even his legal and hr advisor?"

The comparison is to state that if you want to apologize, just do it ONCE. My boss won't even do it once, but if you are going to do it, don't overkill it.

Posted by houstonpeach74
My boss called me earlier today and asked me what was going on with me and Cap. I asked him what he was referring to and she said that Cap just left his office blowing off steam saying I shot down his ideas on how to handle one of his employee matters. The boss said that Cap thought I was undermining his authority. I told my boss "if he thinks that and you're actually calling me to ask for my justification, then why am I even his legal and hr advisor?"

The comparison is to state that if you want to apologize, just do it ONCE. My boss won't even do it once, but if you are going to do it, don't overkill it.

Is your boss male or female because I saw a "she" thrown in there?

Anyway, that wasn't a good move on his part. Still, you can't compare him to do things the way you or your boss would. It's overkill to you, but he felt the need to keep apologizing, and I've gotten like that before when I knew I overstepped my boundaries and wanted the other person to really know how sorry I was, so again, it's just him doing it his way.

but overall, messy situation

sorry. He not she

Posted by lnana04

Posted by houstonpeach74
Imaginery relationship? Explain.

My take is, if he cuts you cold turkey you would hate it. Whatever is going on, you are enjoying this and whatever he does you will analyze as if it means something more, because deep down you want it to.

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i agree with this, it sounds like you're in denial.

Imaginary speaks for itself. You are developing a story based on the FLESH, desire, none of it is real.

Reading into his current behavior from hidden feelings you have for him, writing a story around a relationship that doesn't exist, basically developing a bond through conflict b/c you can't play out what you really want to play out with him emotionally and sexually. You can't make objective decisions b/c now it's personal, he's taking it personal and so are you, your job is on the line with all this la la land stuff.......you each should consider taking your own transportation to Dallas(no excuses) and stay away from one another.

"So I just reply back with "Thanks but I'll just take my own car"."

I am driving there by myself.