Should I go back to my ex husband?

I wouldn’t mind trying again. We just have so much bad history. But after all the mess I’ve been through, I just want to put all my swords down and be with someone normal. He’s the most normal person I’ve been with even though it was tumultuous when we were together. We were young so that had a lot to do with it.

It’s been 10 years though and he’s never stopped trying to get me back. He’s the father of my two kids, a good person, has a good heart, and he’s a go getter much like myself.

My biggest annoyance with him is that as a Virgo, he doesn’t accept his shit. His shit don’t stink yet wants to criticize everyone else.

I’m just at a point in my life where I’m tired of the struggle. Caps, would you marry for stability/financial success and the like?

Going back to something that didn’t work the first time around because you crave ‘normalcy’ seems like a mistake. Imo.

Posted by LadyNeptune

Going back to something that didn’t work the first time around because you crave ‘normalcy’ seems like a mistake. Imo.

Thanks it’s becoming clear to me that your the voice of reason round here haha! I wouldn’t go back right away, def not doing anything during retro season which seems like it’ll be until close to the end of the year. And he’s suggesting counseling which we’ve never done. I really wouldn’t mind doing that if only to help us be better co-parents and get all our differences out.

"Do what you want" ~Tiz

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I wouldn’t mind trying again. We just have so much bad history. But after all the mess I’ve been through, I just want to put all my swords down and be with someone normal. He’s the most normal person I’ve been with even though it was tumultuous when we were together. We were young so that had a lot to do with it.

It’s been 10 years though and he’s never stopped trying to get me back. He’s the father of my two kids, a good person, has a good heart, and he’s a go getter much like myself.

My biggest annoyance with him is that as a Virgo, he doesn’t accept his shit. His shit don’t stink yet wants to criticize everyone else.

I’m just at a point in my life where I’m tired of the struggle. Caps, would you marry for stability/financial success and the like?

What you wrote sounds similar to what my situation was. I'm married 2wice to a Virgo. And no, his shit don't stink. I just make it a regular appointment to pull his diaper off and rub his face in it until he apologises. This is what he said I should have done when I left him. So, here we are.

I dated him first. You can date him foreva. The LAST thing you do is let him move back in or live together in general. PLEASE believe me. Make living together a yearly assessment.

Shit, he can spend the weekend but, make sure he gets ALL his shit when he leaves. Don't let him leave a toothbrush and especially not a shoe.

You do not have to be all or nothing with this. That's defensive "black or white" thinking known as "splitting." This was a type of thinking you had to adopt to protect your emotions. If you're okay now, strong now, let go of that type of thinking.

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people change live your life, don't ask people here for advice, go to therapy and figure it out for yourself

and yes of course caps go for financial security, that's all they go for

they're greedy users

I resent that statement haha! We’re not that shallow we go for looks and nice D too lmao! I’m just tired of doing it for “love” like Tina Turner said what’s love got to do. Love don’t pay the bills yada yada lol

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Posted by Cappadonna

I wouldn’t mind trying again. We just have so much bad history. But after all the mess I’ve been through, I just want to put all my swords down and be with someone normal. He’s the most normal person I’ve been with even though it was tumultuous when we were together. We were young so that had a lot to do with it.

It’s been 10 years though and he’s never stopped trying to get me back. He’s the father of my two kids, a good person, has a good heart, and he’s a go getter much like myself.

My biggest annoyance with him is that as a Virgo, he doesn’t accept his shit. His shit don’t stink yet wants to criticize everyone else.

I’m just at a point in my life where I’m tired of the struggle. Caps, would you marry for stability/financial success and the like?

What you wrote sounds similar to what my situation was. I'm married 2wice to a Virgo. And no, his shit don't stink. I just make it a regular appointment to pull his diaper off and rub his face in it until he apologises. This is what he said I should have done when I left him. So, here we are.

I dated him first. You can date him foreva. The LAST thing you do is let him move back in or live together in general. PLEASE believe me. Make living together a yearly assessment.

Shit, he can spend the weekend but, make sure he gets ALL his shit when he leaves. Don't let him leave a toothbrush and especially not a shoe.

You do not have to be all or nothing with this. That's defensive "black or white" thinking known as "splitting." This was a type of thinking you had to adopt to protect your emotions. If you're okay now, strong now, let go of that type of thinking.

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Yas girl all the Virgos I know are this way! My auntie too and she’s my favorite haha. Maybe I will just date until I die. I’m feel like I’m having a midlife crisis about to turn 40 and shit and here I am single as a dollar bill fawwkk lol

You’ve given many great advices.

Except ‘don’t do it’ written by someone single who looks at marriage as something beneath her...

If his shit doesn’t stink - saving on air freshener right there! Lol

Try and see! All I know - men grow up and mature! Good luck!

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Well as far as I’m concerned one must take responsibility for their own stuff & work together to make it work. If this is missing, it blows up eventually. It’s possible he’s matured.. but I tell you they really have to face themselves to make that happen. Until it does, it will continue to be tumultuous imho. Man would I go back to either of my ex husbands no. Am I tempted with #2 hell yes. But it would end up the same.. hard when it just almost worked long term.. but toxic comes in when people won’t face their shit.

I think my Virgo is masochistic. He really enjoys a tough cookie.

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I wouldn’t mind trying again. We just have so much bad history. But after all the mess I’ve been through, I just want to put all my swords down and be with someone normal. He’s the most normal person I’ve been with even though it was tumultuous when we were together. We were young so that had a lot to do with it.

It’s been 10 years though and he’s never stopped trying to get me back. He’s the father of my two kids, a good person, has a good heart, and he’s a go getter much like myself.

My biggest annoyance with him is that as a Virgo, he doesn’t accept his shit. His shit don’t stink yet wants to criticize everyone else.

I’m just at a point in my life where I’m tired of the struggle. Caps, would you marry for stability/financial success and the like?

What you wrote sounds similar to what my situation was. I'm married 2wice to a Virgo. And no, his shit don't stink. I just make it a regular appointment to pull his diaper off and rub his face in it until he apologises. This is what he said I should have done when I left him. So, here we are.

I dated him first. You can date him foreva. The LAST thing you do is let him move back in or live together in general. PLEASE believe me. Make living together a yearly assessment.

Shit, he can spend the weekend but, make sure he gets ALL his shit when he leaves. Don't let him leave a toothbrush and especially not a shoe.

You do not have to be all or nothing with this. That's defensive "black or white" thinking known as "splitting." This was a type of thinking you had to adopt to protect your emotions. If you're okay now, strong now, let go of that type of thinking.

Yas girl all the Virgos I know are this way! My auntie too and she’s my favorite haha. Maybe I will just date until I die. I’m feel like I’m having a midlife crisis about to turn 40 and shit and here I am single as a dollar bill fawwkk lol

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I know. I'm 44. But, I really enjoy my career and making money.

Make plans.

I have plans to rescue cats, infants, and toddlers... alone lost in the world wondering.

Buy a big house and bathe and hug and luv 'em. I'll be damn near retired, daughter gone to college, but this Taurus ain't going nowhere. Probably legitimately start a family in my house. Married in the backyard, wife delivering 1st grand in the pool.

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So you want a divorce for 2nd time too? Since you don't love him obviously and want to try out of convenience...there's ko possible outcome to that. Virgos don't put up with concenience only, they want more. Once he sees why you're back he'll leave but for good. You can never fool them and what you're reconsidering is not what they want which will become obvious to him soon enough. Spare yourself another trouble and seek further, world is wide enought to find 1 decent person for yourself

Read.

Don't feel.

He's been trying to get back with her for a decade. He knows what it do.

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I wouldn’t mind trying again. We just have so much bad history. But after all the mess I’ve been through, I just want to put all my swords down and be with someone normal. He’s the most normal person I’ve been with even though it was tumultuous when we were together. We were young so that had a lot to do with it.

It’s been 10 years though and he’s never stopped trying to get me back. He’s the father of my two kids, a good person, has a good heart, and he’s a go getter much like myself.

My biggest annoyance with him is that as a Virgo, he doesn’t accept his shit. His shit don’t stink yet wants to criticize everyone else.

I’m just at a point in my life where I’m tired of the struggle. Caps, would you marry for stability/financial success and the like?

What you wrote sounds similar to what my situation was. I'm married 2wice to a Virgo. And no, his shit don't stink. I just make it a regular appointment to pull his diaper off and rub his face in it until he apologises. This is what he said I should have done when I left him. So, here we are.

I dated him first. You can date him foreva. The LAST thing you do is let him move back in or live together in general. PLEASE believe me. Make living together a yearly assessment.

Shit, he can spend the weekend but, make sure he gets ALL his shit when he leaves. Don't let him leave a toothbrush and especially not a shoe.

You do not have to be all or nothing with this. That's defensive "black or white" thinking known as "splitting." This was a type of thinking you had to adopt to protect your emotions. If you're okay now, strong now, let go of that type of thinking.

Yas girl all the Virgos I know are this way! My auntie too and she’s my favorite haha. Maybe I will just date until I die. I’m feel like I’m having a midlife crisis about to turn 40 and shit and here I am single as a dollar bill fawwkk lol

I know. I'm 44. But, I really enjoy my career and making money.

Make plans.

I have plans to rescue cats, infants, and toddlers... alone lost in the world wondering.

Buy a big house and bathe and hug and luv 'em. I'll be damn near retired, daughter gone to college, but this Taurus ain't going nowhere. Probably legitimately start a family in my house. Married in the backyard, wife delivering 1st grand in the pool.

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Got the big house, the cats and the kids lol. I’m actually lonely in it. Your right though just gonna focus on my coins and find other interests other than dating rn.

And yah he’s still so immature in many ways and don’t need another child. Done with that! So many fish in the sea, I know if I keep going I’ll find my silver tuna eventually lol

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So you want a divorce for 2nd time too? Since you don't love him obviously and want to try out of convenience...there's ko possible outcome to that. Virgos don't put up with concenience only, they want more. Once he sees why you're back he'll leave but for good. You can never fool them and what you're reconsidering is not what they want which will become obvious to him soon enough. Spare yourself another trouble and seek further, world is wide enought to find 1 decent person for yourself

His cancer moon won’t let me go no matter how many times I say no no annnd no! This is the only moon I can think of that’s worse than my own when it comes to coming off as needy. They’re really like poor little lovesick pups lol.

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"Do what you want" ~Tiz

Gotta say though, I wouldn't spend my time with someone who needs to be right all the time. Let alone the rest of my days.

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Happy belated! And yes I will be old and gray by the time I’m 42.5 if I go back to this man. It’s not that he always needs to be right, he’s just NEVER wrong.. wait is that the same thing? 😂

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Posted by Sagicorn

So you want a divorce for 2nd time too? Since you don't love him obviously and want to try out of convenience...there's ko possible outcome to that. Virgos don't put up with concenience only, they want more. Once he sees why you're back he'll leave but for good. You can never fool them and what you're reconsidering is not what they want which will become obvious to him soon enough. Spare yourself another trouble and seek further, world is wide enought to find 1 decent person for yourself

His cancer moon won’t let me go no matter how many times I say no no annnd no! This is the only moon I can think of that’s worse than my own when it comes to coming off as needy. They’re really like poor little lovesick pups lol.

Both me and my sons dad have cancer moon. Smh lol I don’t know if we will ever let each other go completely. ☹️

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Oh yeah those cancer moons will have you guys doing an eternal tango lol! And if it wasn’t for the kids I’d probably have cut ties a long time ago js.

I have a friend who’s a Scorpio and his wife is Gemini with cancer moon. He’s cheated several times but she always comes back. Couldn’t be me.

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I wouldn’t mind trying again. We just have so much bad history. But after all the mess I’ve been through, I just want to put all my swords down and be with someone normal. He’s the most normal person I’ve been with even though it was tumultuous when we were together. We were young so that had a lot to do with it.

It’s been 10 years though and he’s never stopped trying to get me back. He’s the father of my two kids, a good person, has a good heart, and he’s a go getter much like myself.

My biggest annoyance with him is that as a Virgo, he doesn’t accept his shit. His shit don’t stink yet wants to criticize everyone else.

I’m just at a point in my life where I’m tired of the struggle. Caps, would you marry for stability/financial success and the like?

What you wrote sounds similar to what my situation was. I'm married 2wice to a Virgo. And no, his shit don't stink. I just make it a regular appointment to pull his diaper off and rub his face in it until he apologises. This is what he said I should have done when I left him. So, here we are.

I dated him first. You can date him foreva. The LAST thing you do is let him move back in or live together in general. PLEASE believe me. Make living together a yearly assessment.

Shit, he can spend the weekend but, make sure he gets ALL his shit when he leaves. Don't let him leave a toothbrush and especially not a shoe.

You do not have to be all or nothing with this. That's defensive "black or white" thinking known as "splitting." This was a type of thinking you had to adopt to protect your emotions. If you're okay now, strong now, let go of that type of thinking.

Yas girl all the Virgos I know are this way! My auntie too and she’s my favorite haha. Maybe I will just date until I die. I’m feel like I’m having a midlife crisis about to turn 40 and shit and here I am single as a dollar bill fawwkk lol

I know. I'm 44. But, I really enjoy my career and making money.

Make plans.

I have plans to rescue cats, infants, and toddlers... alone lost in the world wondering.

Buy a big house and bathe and hug and luv 'em. I'll be damn near retired, daughter gone to college, but this Taurus ain't going nowhere. Probably legitimately start a family in my house. Married in the backyard, wife delivering 1st grand in the pool.

Got the big house, the cats and the kids lol. I’m actually lonely in it. Your right though just gonna focus on my coins and find other interests other than dating rn.

And yah he’s still so immature in many ways and don’t need another child. Done with that! So many fish in the sea, I know if I keep going I’ll find my silver tuna eventually lol

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You lonely with cats and kids!!!

I've been skirting around the US chasing this $ $ $ $ too much to buy. I rented mini' mansions. But, this time I'm set in the right area where I really can progress w/o moving. I really don't even need to climb any higher (Capricorn Rising).

But, I think you know that nothing is more lonely than a suckass relationship.

However, as women approach 50, we really dgaf.

My Pisces grandma moved away from her last partner thanks to a hurricane. She told me no more sticky icky sex. He can take her on a date or two on the weekend. And, that's how it was until the day she died.

How many cats and kids? I'm planning to foster both.

Posted by Cappadonna

I wouldn’t mind trying again. We just have so much bad history. But after all the mess I’ve been through, I just want to put all my swords down and be with someone normal. He’s the most normal person I’ve been with even though it was tumultuous when we were together. We were young so that had a lot to do with it.

It’s been 10 years though and he’s never stopped trying to get me back. He’s the father of my two kids, a good person, has a good heart, and he’s a go getter much like myself.

My biggest annoyance with him is that as a Virgo, he doesn’t accept his shit. His shit don’t stink yet wants to criticize everyone else.

I’m just at a point in my life where I’m tired of the struggle. Caps, would you marry for stability/financial success and the like?

depends on ur dominant energies, placements/ houses.



honestly being capricorn domiannt AND 4th house dominant...



i NEED security at the end of the fucking day.



i love LOVE and i need it very much... but i really need to feel secure.

so if i find a man who has BOTH i am over the moon!!!!



i'm only air singularity for example...

so the rest of my placements... determine WHY.



so honestly u would have to look at your domiannt energies. because u will always choose the way of that path..





yes men and women will ACCUSE me of being materialistic and shit. i dont care. I need NEED it very very much.

and i also need love too. So if i am with a very ambitious man who is wealthy, and he doesn't love me very much

and i love him unrequited...it would be terrible because he would have to be the King that gets his Queen a chastity belt LOLOLOL

hahaha.

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Posted by Cappadonna

I wouldn’t mind trying again. We just have so much bad history. But after all the mess I’ve been through, I just want to put all my swords down and be with someone normal. He’s the most normal person I’ve been with even though it was tumultuous when we were together. We were young so that had a lot to do with it.

It’s been 10 years though and he’s never stopped trying to get me back. He’s the father of my two kids, a good person, has a good heart, and he’s a go getter much like myself.

My biggest annoyance with him is that as a Virgo, he doesn’t accept his shit. His shit don’t stink yet wants to criticize everyone else.

I’m just at a point in my life where I’m tired of the struggle. Caps, would you marry for stability/financial success and the like?

depends on ur dominant energies, placements/ houses.



honestly being capricorn domiannt AND 4th house dominant...



i NEED security at the end of the fucking day.



i love LOVE and i need it very much... but i really need to feel secure.

so if i find a man who has BOTH i am over the moon!!!!



i'm only air singularity for example...

so the rest of my placements... determine WHY.



so honestly u would have to look at your domiannt energies. because u will always choose the way of that path..





yes men and women will ACCUSE me of being materialistic and shit. i dont care. I need NEED it very very much.

and i also need love too. So if i am with a very ambitious man who is wealthy, and he doesn't love me very much

and i love him unrequited...it would be terrible because he would have to be the King that gets his Queen a chastity belt LOLOLOL

hahaha.

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Yes yes yesss!! Totally agree with all of this. NEED to feel secure for sure! And Love is important as much as I want to shun it away lol

How do you know which placements are dominant?

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I wouldn’t mind trying again. We just have so much bad history. But after all the mess I’ve been through, I just want to put all my swords down and be with someone normal. He’s the most normal person I’ve been with even though it was tumultuous when we were together. We were young so that had a lot to do with it.

It’s been 10 years though and he’s never stopped trying to get me back. He’s the father of my two kids, a good person, has a good heart, and he’s a go getter much like myself.

My biggest annoyance with him is that as a Virgo, he doesn’t accept his shit. His shit don’t stink yet wants to criticize everyone else.

I’m just at a point in my life where I’m tired of the struggle. Caps, would you marry for stability/financial success and the like?

What you wrote sounds similar to what my situation was. I'm married 2wice to a Virgo. And no, his shit don't stink. I just make it a regular appointment to pull his diaper off and rub his face in it until he apologises. This is what he said I should have done when I left him. So, here we are.

I dated him first. You can date him foreva. The LAST thing you do is let him move back in or live together in general. PLEASE believe me. Make living together a yearly assessment.

Shit, he can spend the weekend but, make sure he gets ALL his shit when he leaves. Don't let him leave a toothbrush and especially not a shoe.

You do not have to be all or nothing with this. That's defensive "black or white" thinking known as "splitting." This was a type of thinking you had to adopt to protect your emotions. If you're okay now, strong now, let go of that type of thinking.

Yas girl all the Virgos I know are this way! My auntie too and she’s my favorite haha. Maybe I will just date until I die. I’m feel like I’m having a midlife crisis about to turn 40 and shit and here I am single as a dollar bill fawwkk lol

I know. I'm 44. But, I really enjoy my career and making money.

Make plans.

I have plans to rescue cats, infants, and toddlers... alone lost in the world wondering.

Buy a big house and bathe and hug and luv 'em. I'll be damn near retired, daughter gone to college, but this Taurus ain't going nowhere. Probably legitimately start a family in my house. Married in the backyard, wife delivering 1st grand in the pool.

Got the big house, the cats and the kids lol. I’m actually lonely in it. Your right though just gonna focus on my coins and find other interests other than dating rn.

And yah he’s still so immature in many ways and don’t need another child. Done with that! So many fish in the sea, I know if I keep going I’ll find my silver tuna eventually lol

You lonely with cats and kids!!!

I've been skirting around the US chasing this $ $ $ $ too much to buy. I rented mini' mansions. But, this time I'm set in the right area where I really can progress w/o moving. I really don't even need to climb any higher (Capricorn Rising).

But, I think you know that nothing is more lonely than a suckass relationship.

However, as women approach 50, we really dgaf.

My Pisces grandma moved away from her last partner thanks to a hurricane. She told me no more sticky icky sex. He can take her on a date or two on the weekend. And, that's how it was until the day she died.

How many cats and kids? I'm planning to foster both.

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Go Grandma lol! Nothing wrong with that haha! My oldest just went off to college so I guess that’s one of the reasons why I am feeling lonely. I have one at home still and two siamese kitties. Plate is full there.

Good job on your success I’m a Cap rising too so always seeking to climb higher. I have my own business but I still want to do more so I’m just going to focus on other projects and expanding because as you may know one can never have enough saved up for a rainy day. 🤑

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I wouldn’t mind trying again. We just have so much bad history. But after all the mess I’ve been through, I just want to put all my swords down and be with someone normal. He’s the most normal person I’ve been with even though it was tumultuous when we were together. We were young so that had a lot to do with it.

It’s been 10 years though and he’s never stopped trying to get me back. He’s the father of my two kids, a good person, has a good heart, and he’s a go getter much like myself.

My biggest annoyance with him is that as a Virgo, he doesn’t accept his shit. His shit don’t stink yet wants to criticize everyone else.

I’m just at a point in my life where I’m tired of the struggle. Caps, would you marry for stability/financial success and the like?

What you wrote sounds similar to what my situation was. I'm married 2wice to a Virgo. And no, his shit don't stink. I just make it a regular appointment to pull his diaper off and rub his face in it until he apologises. This is what he said I should have done when I left him. So, here we are.

I dated him first. You can date him foreva. The LAST thing you do is let him move back in or live together in general. PLEASE believe me. Make living together a yearly assessment.

Shit, he can spend the weekend but, make sure he gets ALL his shit when he leaves. Don't let him leave a toothbrush and especially not a shoe.

You do not have to be all or nothing with this. That's defensive "black or white" thinking known as "splitting." This was a type of thinking you had to adopt to protect your emotions. If you're okay now, strong now, let go of that type of thinking.

Yas girl all the Virgos I know are this way! My auntie too and she’s my favorite haha. Maybe I will just date until I die. I’m feel like I’m having a midlife crisis about to turn 40 and shit and here I am single as a dollar bill fawwkk lol

I know. I'm 44. But, I really enjoy my career and making money.

Make plans.

I have plans to rescue cats, infants, and toddlers... alone lost in the world wondering.

Buy a big house and bathe and hug and luv 'em. I'll be damn near retired, daughter gone to college, but this Taurus ain't going nowhere. Probably legitimately start a family in my house. Married in the backyard, wife delivering 1st grand in the pool.

Got the big house, the cats and the kids lol. I’m actually lonely in it. Your right though just gonna focus on my coins and find other interests other than dating rn.

And yah he’s still so immature in many ways and don’t need another child. Done with that! So many fish in the sea, I know if I keep going I’ll find my silver tuna eventually lol

You lonely with cats and kids!!!

I've been skirting around the US chasing this $ $ $ $ too much to buy. I rented mini' mansions. But, this time I'm set in the right area where I really can progress w/o moving. I really don't even need to climb any higher (Capricorn Rising).

But, I think you know that nothing is more lonely than a suckass relationship.

However, as women approach 50, we really dgaf.

My Pisces grandma moved away from her last partner thanks to a hurricane. She told me no more sticky icky sex. He can take her on a date or two on the weekend. And, that's how it was until the day she died.

How many cats and kids? I'm planning to foster both.

Go Grandma lol! Nothing wrong with that haha! My oldest just went off to college so I guess that’s one of the reasons why I am feeling lonely. I have one at home still and two siamese kitties. Plate is full there.

Good job on your success I’m a Cap rising too so always seeking to climb higher. I have my own business but I still want to do more so I’m just going to focus on other projects and expanding because as you may know one can never have enough saved up for a rainy day. 🤑

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We are similar in many ways. And, one of my cats is a Siamese. I did a thread in the pet section on her.

See I'm planning, cause I read about this stage in life... AND, I'm married. It doesn't change this upcoming stage of life.

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Going back to something that didn’t work the first time around because you crave ‘normalcy’ seems like a mistake. Imo.

Thanks it’s becoming clear to me that your the voice of reason round here haha! I wouldn’t go back right away, def not doing anything during retro season which seems like it’ll be until close to the end of the year. And he’s suggesting counseling which we’ve never done. I really wouldn’t mind doing that if only to help us be better co-parents and get all our differences out.

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I never got a notification for this 😩

*shakes fist at Duncan

Counseling sounds like a great thing for you both. If you do move forward with him make him jump through some hoops first. Can’t be too easy.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Going back to something that didn’t work the first time around because you crave ‘normalcy’ seems like a mistake. Imo.

Thanks it’s becoming clear to me that your the voice of reason round here haha! I wouldn’t go back right away, def not doing anything during retro season which seems like it’ll be until close to the end of the year. And he’s suggesting counseling which we’ve never done. I really wouldn’t mind doing that if only to help us be better co-parents and get all our differences out.

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If you think @ladyneptune is a voice of reason around here than ur doomed in whatever ur endeavouring to do.

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Well as far as I’m concerned one must take responsibility for their own stuff & work together to make it work. If this is missing, it blows up eventually. It’s possible he’s matured.. but I tell you they really have to face themselves to make that happen. Until it does, it will continue to be tumultuous imho. Man would I go back to either of my ex husbands no. Am I tempted with #2 hell yes. But it would end up the same.. hard when it just almost worked long term.. but toxic comes in when people won’t face their shit.

I think my Virgo is masochistic. He really enjoys a tough cookie.

Lol. Sometimes an Aries can cross a line.. mine did & I had to choose myself. No way I go back. I miss him & our life together though.

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I am forgiving and generous to a fault. But, it works for me as my 1st love, hearthrob, was actually Jesus.

Other girls has posters of this rock stars, and actors... I had Jesus.

So, I don't expect much of mortal men.

No. Move forward, never backwards.

♑️❤️

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Well as far as I’m concerned one must take responsibility for their own stuff & work together to make it work. If this is missing, it blows up eventually. It’s possible he’s matured.. but I tell you they really have to face themselves to make that happen. Until it does, it will continue to be tumultuous imho. Man would I go back to either of my ex husbands no. Am I tempted with #2 hell yes. But it would end up the same.. hard when it just almost worked long term.. but toxic comes in when people won’t face their shit.

I think my Virgo is masochistic. He really enjoys a tough cookie.

Lol. Sometimes an Aries can cross a line.. mine did & I had to choose myself. No way I go back. I miss him & our life together though.

I am forgiving and generous to a fault. But, it works for me as my 1st love, hearthrob, was actually Jesus.

Other girls has posters of this rock stars, and actors... I had Jesus.

So, I don't expect much of mortal men.

I am forgiving and generous to a fault also sweetheart.. you don’t spend 20 years with someone and leave unless it is necessary to your wellbeing. It’s not about expectations.

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No comparison here, okay?

Just talking about myself.

First you start with "Aries can cross a line..."

When you dan been married how many times? To how many signs?

Don't start none, won't be none.

I'm reaaaaal intuitive. Don't play with me.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Going back to something that didn’t work the first time around because you crave ‘normalcy’ seems like a mistake. Imo.

Thanks it’s becoming clear to me that your the voice of reason round here haha! I wouldn’t go back right away, def not doing anything during retro season which seems like it’ll be until close to the end of the year. And he’s suggesting counseling which we’ve never done. I really wouldn’t mind doing that if only to help us be better co-parents and get all our differences out.

If you think @ladyneptune is a voice of reason around here than ur doomed in whatever ur endeavouring to do.

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What! You don’t think I’m the voice of reason?!! How will I survive this disappointment

*weeps uncontrollably

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I was going to ask

Do you love the man. Then don’t bother your doing him a disservice

Do you want to take care of him when old n frail

Good point.

I thought about this before taking my Virgo back.

I love him like family every day and forever.

Romantic love can be hourly.

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Well as far as I’m concerned one must take responsibility for their own stuff & work together to make it work. If this is missing, it blows up eventually. It’s possible he’s matured.. but I tell you they really have to face themselves to make that happen. Until it does, it will continue to be tumultuous imho. Man would I go back to either of my ex husbands no. Am I tempted with #2 hell yes. But it would end up the same.. hard when it just almost worked long term.. but toxic comes in when people won’t face their shit.

I think my Virgo is masochistic. He really enjoys a tough cookie.

Lol. Sometimes an Aries can cross a line.. mine did & I had to choose myself. No way I go back. I miss him & our life together though.

I am forgiving and generous to a fault. But, it works for me as my 1st love, hearthrob, was actually Jesus.

Other girls has posters of this rock stars, and actors... I had Jesus.

So, I don't expect much of mortal men.

I am forgiving and generous to a fault also sweetheart.. you don’t spend 20 years with someone and leave unless it is necessary to your wellbeing. It’s not about expectations.

No comparison here, okay?

Just talking about myself.

First you start with "Aries can cross a line..."

When you dan been married how many times? To how many signs?

Don't start none, won't be none.

I'm reaaaaal intuitive. Don't play with me.

Nice 🙄 it was not about you specifically but I feel no need to explain after your reaction.

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Good.

Cause I was about to show you some real "line crossing..." ...and, anybody who wanted to get in my way could get some too.

Posted by NostalgicCappyy

No. Move forward, never backwards.

♑️❤️

💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻👌

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I wouldn’t mind trying again. We just have so much bad history. But after all the mess I’ve been through, I just want to put all my swords down and be with someone normal. He’s the most normal person I’ve been with even though it was tumultuous when we were together. We were young so that had a lot to do with it.

It’s been 10 years though and he’s never stopped trying to get me back. He’s the father of my two kids, a good person, has a good heart, and he’s a go getter much like myself.

My biggest annoyance with him is that as a Virgo, he doesn’t accept his shit. His shit don’t stink yet wants to criticize everyone else.

I’m just at a point in my life where I’m tired of the struggle. Caps, would you marry for stability/financial success and the like?

depends on ur dominant energies, placements/ houses.



honestly being capricorn domiannt AND 4th house dominant...



i NEED security at the end of the fucking day.



i love LOVE and i need it very much... but i really need to feel secure.

so if i find a man who has BOTH i am over the moon!!!!



i'm only air singularity for example...

so the rest of my placements... determine WHY.



so honestly u would have to look at your domiannt energies. because u will always choose the way of that path..





yes men and women will ACCUSE me of being materialistic and shit. i dont care. I need NEED it very very much.

and i also need love too. So if i am with a very ambitious man who is wealthy, and he doesn't love me very much

and i love him unrequited...it would be terrible because he would have to be the King that gets his Queen a chastity belt LOLOLOL

hahaha.

Yes yes yesss!! Totally agree with all of this. NEED to feel secure for sure! And Love is important as much as I want to shun it away lol

How do you know which placements are dominant?

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go to astrotheme.com or cafeastrology or astro.com



btw.... yeah LOL i get u.

i need security.



the Sun/Mars /Jupiter for marriage for women are really TRUE.

at least in my case.

but if i marry poor..

i will RAISE him up and support him so that he will be powerful and a money making machine. lol

but i gotta have LOVE.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Going back to something that didn’t work the first time around because you crave ‘normalcy’ seems like a mistake. Imo.

Thanks it’s becoming clear to me that your the voice of reason round here haha! I wouldn’t go back right away, def not doing anything during retro season which seems like it’ll be until close to the end of the year. And he’s suggesting counseling which we’ve never done. I really wouldn’t mind doing that if only to help us be better co-parents and get all our differences out.

I never got a notification for this 😩

*shakes fist at Duncan

Counseling sounds like a great thing for you both. If you do move forward with him make him jump through some hoops first. Can’t be too easy.

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i didnt either LOL



i had to remember.... i thought... hmmm then came back here.

Haha, who said men change, men mature? It’s much more likely for people to say men never change. And ask yourself which one you believe.

It sounds like you’ve kinda made your mind up and you just want someone else to support your decision. But if there were arguments before and you can’t stand them, then don’t get back together, they will not dissapear magically, they will repeat time after time, and year after year. If you “ok” carrying on with the arguements, and they at a manageable level for you, then get back together.

Don’t get married for security, give yourself security, and get married for love. And it’s time to stop “trying” and stop “giving it a go”.. it’s time to start “knowing” and making tough decisions, and moving on with your life. I know it’s easier said than done. But after ten years, isn’t it time you let it go? If he’s walked out before, he’ll walk out again, and anyone who does walk out then that person is not linked to your destiny, that man is an obstacle holding you back from your destiny. It’s time to move on.

Posted by AriesJo

Haha, who said men change, men mature? It’s much more likely for people to say men never change. And ask yourself which one you believe.

It sounds like you’ve kinda made your mind up and you just want someone else to support your decision. But if there were arguments before and you can’t stand them, then don’t get back together, they will not dissapear magically, they will repeat time after time, and year after year. If you “ok” carrying on with the arguements, and they at a manageable level for you, then get back together.

Don’t get married for security, give yourself security, and get married for love. And it’s time to stop “trying” and stop “giving it a go”.. it’s time to start “knowing” and making tough decisions, and moving on with your life. I know it’s easier said than done. But after ten years, isn’t it time you let it go? If he’s walked out before, he’ll walk out again, and anyone who does walk out then that person is not linked to your destiny, that man is an obstacle holding you back from your destiny. It’s time to move on.

Yes I’ve come to see over the last few days that he’ll never change his stripes and the advice on here has also been helpful. I’ve decided to not go backwards. I’ve been dealing with heartbreak for the last three months from a Scorpio but am pretty much over that as well. I guess I was feeling lonely and entertained the thought of getting back together with him (my ex). He keeps trying to entice me back by telling me that he’ll take care of me financially (which is something I rank quite high as a Cap) but there are many problems “under the rug” and I know it’s just not worth the headache.

I’m turning 40 at the end of this year and the fact that I still haven’t met my soulmate was making me a bit depressed. But onward and upwards, I’m a good catch and soon enough I’ll find my forever mate.

Your so right about whoever isn’t a part of your destiny will be removed. Well I truly believe that. I’ve been doing my affirmations and praying and it’s all becoming clear to me that in the past I made many hasty decisions which is why I’m at this point in my life. Thanks! Onto the best years to come.

🙏💕

Posted by bmoon8

Venus retrograde is supposed to be a good time to rekindle a relationship. I don't go back to exes, they are exes for a reason. But if he has been persistent and trying to get back with you, and you have feelings for him... it would be a good time to rekindle if you desire.

My Scorpio just reached back out lmao. I have more feelings for him since this was my last relationship. My ex has always felt “like home” tho. It’s hard out here for a pimp 😂😩