should i just completely ditch this cap guy?

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The cap guy I am always speaking about...



I messaged him last night and it was a little lengthy but dang you know us cancer/gem cusps could talk for days lol. Anyway, the message said "so there's a chance you read this and don't respond. But you just might and I'm aight with 50/50 haha. But I really want to do sexual things with you. I know what it is. You're not looking for commitment..... truthfully I can't handle anything serious right now with anyone. But being that it's been since May 22-23ish since i've last been sexual it's definitely so damn hard not to want it. Especially since it was orgasmic the first time. I then added a birthday cake emoji....... lol my birthday is tomorrow so that was the reason for the emoji. (mind you we have hooked up once back in May, but didn't have sex, and he was the last guy I was sexual with.)

OF COURSE, he doesn't respond lol (which silence is also an answer, I mean am I right) lol

I felt a little bad for sending the message because I was feeling so sexual and I didn't want it to seem as if I were just using him.

So I sent one more message and stated "i'm ok with your answer. I really apologize for insinuating that with you. it was just a feeling that I should've probably kept to myself. I'm ok with nothing (sexual) happening between us again. Strictly friends with no benefits is just something i've now learned. Sorry again, (inserted name). Take care and continue to prosper. (I then sent the peace emoji) because I didn't want to come off as if I were cutting him from my life or anything but just to keep the conversation peaceful.

He replied immediately with "yooooooooo, sorry for not responding quicker. The long texts are overwhelming." Then says "Just say this : Hey I know you're not ready for anything serious but da** I want your di**..... no strings attached.... let's make it happen." Then he sends a heart emoji and states "I like friends with benefits."

In that moment I realized that he is holding a lot of the power even in the friendship we have. So I did not respond with anything, because I feel that I just need to back off a little. I have never had a guy tell me how I should message him wanting sexual things.... Lol but maybe it's his way to control the situation.



Do you guys think it's a good idea that I keep his message on read......just step back from this one and just let him go?
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Posted by AneemA04
So do you want his D or not?


haha yes I want it. Neither of us are looking for anything serious at the moment. But I mean the way in which he responded like here is how you NEED to text me if you want it. Like wth..... seems like work just to get D. I mean you know when chicks send a text longer than a sentence guys will pick from it and respond to that one particular thing. However, it's like he doesn't even want to do that. It's like I send him a 1-2 sentence text or I get no response at all. Lol never heard of such a thing