So He Called Me Today ........ (Page 2)

Hey Capgil,

Yes, he's been calling me ... not yesterday but the day before ...

Umm, there are many things going through my head at this point, so that's why I choose not to communicate. Yes, I feel terrible but I keep getting bad vibes ... like something's telling me "Don't do it or you'll be soooorrrryyyy".

So until I can get that out of my head, I'm laying low ....

Geez- so he's putting in several unreturned calls?? Sounds like what I've been doing w/ the Cap guy, except he responded through email only. Maybe he thinks I'm evil and is trying to stay away, like you are w/ Cancer-man? I should have done what you are doing back when this all started up again. You're doing the right thing. You go, cappie! 😉

I totally agree with what CapGirl says/writes. Go Cappysweetie!!!!! 🙂

Awww!!!! thanks CapGirl 🙂 It's difficult because I feel terrible ... but I won't start all the BS again ... I just won't 😢

I'm glad you have no more interaction with the no good man (the capricorn) -- he's no good for you CapGirl ... he would've drove you up the wall and I'm sure you don't want that.

Oh my, well that's what capricorns do when we feel overwhelmed ... laying is what we do unfortunately. It's something that I find most effective when I don't know how to handle a situaion. If "addressing" directly down the middle doesn't work then I throw me hands up and say "screw it!"

Okay, this was freaky ....

Anyway, I come downstairs because my father wouldn't tell me who was at the door, I passed by my mom in the kitchen and she "grinned" and said "I don't know what *insert my dad's name* wanted, go see" .... okay, I thought that was weird.

The cancer guy comes from behind me .... and gives me a hug ....

Was I shocked?!? LIKE HELL I WAS !!!!!!!! My parents are laughing because they knew I was expected him. Good grief!

He said that he has been calling me but I didn't respond and that he emailed me ... but I didn't respond .... oh dear, I had plenty of explaining to do 😢 😢 😢 😢 😢

He wanted to talk away from the house so he told me that he had something in the car for me. Okay, so I agreed to see what it was ... that was his way of getting me to eat lunch with him. I wanted to say no, but he got my parents involved saying that he will bring them food too.

He said that he just needed to talk to me and that's all he wanted ... so I agreed to listen to what he had to say.

And YES, I told him the truth! I told him that I put space and distance between because I it was necessary. He remembers our discussion back in April about how I felt that the relationship was going nowhere and that I needed to back-off. Well, he said that I put too much distance between he and I ... good grief 😢

He thought that I had moved away or went off to school without telling him anything. The cancer stated that I better not do anything like that ... ooops!

So the day ended with him buying lunch *** I didn't want nor expected that *** and talking about personal things.

As far as the way things are now ... yes, I will still keep my distance, there's not way he's going to worm back into my life and cause all sorts of drama.

He tricked me today ............

Well, he pulled a fast one on me today Kris 😢 I didn't answer his calls and I thought that was it ... it was over. But, he found me ...........

Kinda didn't know what the hell to do at that point. Cancers usually leave you alone after so long and I thought he would do the same to me.

OH NO! I don't have any "romantic" feelings for the cancer anymore ... those are long gone *** Thank the heavens for that!!! *** It's just the fact that I don't know what to do with him as a friend -- because I think that he still wants my friendship but is sorry about the past.

That's the cooliest thing you said to me kris ....


Well, the whole being his "friend" could work BUT THERE WILL BE BOUNDARIES! Clear and consise!

Oh typical Cancer man. Clingy as it comes.

The reason why he calls you again, is because he thinks that he can take over your mind by force.

Hi Haffo,

Well, he can't do that! I won't let him, he has far too many other women, he can go and take over their minds. If he needs a friend, then I suppose I can do that much. BUT from a far distance ... very far distance.

I can't get close with him again because I don't trust him like that anymore. He can pull all the trick he wants but I'm not a stupid. However, I do feel that he may need a friend to give him a different prospective on things ... he's just like a little boy trapped in an adult male's body. Turning my back on what I see in him would bother me, so I'll be there to listen to him but that's it.

I have no doubt that he can't do that. They just keep trying, trying, constatnly getting wash off, but still trying, trying....like this.....after some time it starts to become annoying, then they try to turn your friends and family against you, at this point you want to kill them, and they still trying, trying, they have no progress, but they trying, trying....they don't get it, but continue to trying, trying...

Pretty stupid people ya know? And someone has said that Cancer's are more intelligent than Pisces....I'm really laughting with my ass off on that statement.

You know what kris ... never thought about it like that. Hahaha, I've been so focus about what I want and what I want to do that I never really thought about his motives.

Hmmm, he's not getting sex or money out of me ... so what on earth does he want! Good grief!

You make good points buddy 🙂

Bad idea he wants you to feel like that wants you to have sympathy and then he will start crying and put up a big act saying he is all alone and crap and boom your heart will melt and there you are again in his grasp

Very percise Kris. Sounds like you have first hand experience here. And when you are in their grasp, you understand that they just want to be over you to humiliate you all the time. This is their kind of understanding how world turns. I think at the end, most Cancer's either get smashed (killed) or locked up in jails. Capricors seems best suited in dealing with such idiots like them.

Cancer's also thrive on lesser evolved signs like Aries and Gemini. Strangely, they can't fool Taurus.

I think cancers are definetly more cunning with the emotional games not really more smarter.

They definetly play more than Pisces. But Pisces do really reads them instenteniously. At this point they are getting smashed.

some cancers pretend to be suffering all the time just to have their mate do what they want things like that .

I also found this tendency in Geminis.

Hmmm, he's not getting sex or money out of me ... so what on earth does he want! Good grief!

A moment when your defences brake down and you allow him in. They will keep trying indefinetly.

Oh No,

I know he's not a terrible person, he's just very confused. All that complexity has taken over his life. Like everyone, he's going to have to learn a few things ... and if I see where he's going to do something stupid, I'd warn him about it -- the rest is up to him.

OOOOh dear, I feel so mean 😢 But I know this is the only way he will learn how to be a man ... his mother has babied him way too much as an adult so things are going to be rough for him until he gets a grab on things.

And yes, I'm strong enough NOT to take any advances seriously because of our past history -- he was an asshole and I am aware of that.

Now, would I want some like that in my life again? Nope nope nope nope nope, I'm good 🙂 Cancers are much better friends, they are sweet people 🙂

I have a pisce friend that I had to stop who continued to self-pity herself until I "took a step back". It wasn't that I didn't care about her but she was just getting too caught up in her own misery. Now that I stopped feeding into her self-piting, she is starting to realize stuff! Go figure 😛

LOL, yeah but it's nice to have friends though 🙂 Even if they get on my nerves ... like that pisces, she can be a hand full but she's alright 🙂

As far as that cancer goes, there will be a 9 1/2 meter pole between us but he can talk to me about personal problems and I'll listen. LOL, I feel sorry for the poor soul that actually falls in love with him, he needs to find himself and it may take him a while to do that.

I need to find a virgo or leo guy 😄

Actually, virgos are cool, they have a subtle attractiveness about them (mentally and physically)-- the down-to-earth ones are earthy, and I like that 😛

Leos are very funny and they show much affection 😉

NO no no dont go back to him. Ive read all ur posts and all i say is Stay Away!!

Oh No ingo, I'm not going back to him 🙂 I'm just trying to figure out what I can do ... now that he popped up out of no where yesterday afternoon -- I didn't expect that ... He has a history of doing this but after what we discussed in April, I thought he would've left everything alone.

That's why there are strict boundaries up right now.

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Really kris? Hmmm ..... well, pisce too then 😄

I have a pisce friend that I had to stop who continued to self-pity herself until I "took a step back". It wasn't that I didn't care about her but she was just getting too caught up in her own misery. Now that I stopped feeding into her self-piting, she is starting to realize stuff! Go figure

Actually there is nothing here to figure. We don't talk about our personal problems, unless we are asked for. That's the difference of Pisces from Cancer and probably Scorp too. Most of the time we don't like to talk about problems too, even thought are being asked for. You can find proof of what I've said here on this forum. How many Pisces you do know who wave their personal problems like it's normal daily talk? Almost none.

Yeah, I notice that it's hard for a pisces to talk about there personal problems ... however, when they do, you'll see that many things have bothered them.

It's good to open up and let everything out to someone you are close to.

I will tell you why we do rarely open up. We perfectly understand the reasons. We do not need commentaries of others. Asking what you already know is waste of our time.

Kris

Scorps and Pisces aren't different much. The difference of Pisces from Scorp is that Pisces is more subtle in their ways. The result is always same.

Hahaha, I guess that's why ..... LOVE WATER SIGNS 😛 Scorpios, Pisces and Cancers ... OH MY LOL!!!

Oh phew, my pic didn't come out, it was pretty too .....

Phew!

I think I'm "semi" fixed the problem with the cancer guy. Since I can't take legal action on the guy (he hasn't threatened me or done physical harm to me), so I'm not going to be as cold as I was but I will still keep distance between us.

~sigh~

I could try a pisces guy.. I just never meet them. Or maybe I do, I just never ask signs if I meet people. There's a cancer guy who wants to meet me. I'm not sure yet if I wanna meet him, he's nice to talk to on the phone but I've never met him in person yet. I just feel like my heart is dead. Maybe it will recover next year.. We'll see..

*sad*

Don't be sad sweet&sour 😢

Why do you feel like your heart is dead —— Well, as a cap, when we ge hurt or mislead by men way too many times, those are the end results. My aunt is a very beautiful woman -- I'm not being bias at all, she is.

Her sisters don't have nearly as much beauty, depth and substance as she does, yet she is single ... while the other sisters are still out trying to catch a guy. She finds it silly to catch after men day in and day out.

I feel deep down inside that she does want someone but she doesn't have much faith in men anymore .... much like myself, it's going to take one HELL of a man to get me back in a relationship anytime soon -- and that's no lie, the ones I encounter are far too stupid.

So please tell what the problem and why you are feeling sad —?? Maybe we can help 🙂

Well, cappysweetie, those problems can't be solved here.. 🙂 But thanks for asking. It's just that I would like to meet a good guy for me but I'm not interested in any guy I meet. I don't know why but even when I meet goodlooking guys, I just smile and go away. I don't even bother to get known to them. Why? I don't know. If it doesn't feel good at first then I'm not interested. I am very seldom interested in someone, maybe once or twice a year.

Now because I don't have feelings for my husband anymore and I have filed for divorce, I feel lonely and realized that I have been lonely for years already. I have friends but that's not the same. Anyway, I will survive, just being sad right now. Many guys are asking me for date but I don't feel like I wanna go.

My heart is dead, it doesn't say anything when I meet guys.

Oh btw, cappysweetie.. I think I'm just going through this because of my divorce and all the changes in my life. I'm gonna be ok with this dilemma soon..

And you too, CS.. Don't let that cancer guy to come to your life again, he had his chance already. If I give another chance to a guy, I always waste my time with him. They'll never change..

Is this dude a cancer? well not literally...hahah..although thinking about it, he could be..the way he's acting..keeps coming bck and disappearing!..lol..Touchwood..shouldn't say things like that!..

Anyways..on a happier note, my best friend (cappy) met a cancerian man in January and they are moving in together next month. she said he's everything and more...I am so glad she's finally met someone she's happy with. She's just divorced a gemini guy who put her through hell..