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I was thinking about my ex today since it's aquarius season and realized that I was rather cruel in our break up. I've already broken up with two people on important dates and I justify that by saying 'it was the right time'. But, thinking about it, maybe I should have had enough tact to wait. I broke up with the aqua on his birthday. It'll be a year soon. I was thinking about how he will associate his birthday with our break up and that'll cause him distress until he finally moves on from me for good. He doesn't deserve that. I can only hope to avoid doing something like this in the future.
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Posted by Scenic
I was thinking about my ex today since it's aquarius season and realized that I was rather cruel in our break up. I've already broken up with two people on important dates and I justify that by saying 'it was the right time'. But, thinking about it, maybe I should have had enough tact to wait. I broke up with the aqua on his birthday. It'll be a year soon. I was thinking about how he will associate his birthday with our break up and that'll cause him distress until he finally moves on from me for good. He doesn't deserve that. I can only hope to avoid doing something like this in the future.




ouch. but maybe he's already moved on from that and disassociated the break-up from his birthday?
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I was thinking about my ex today since it's aquarius season and realized that I was rather cruel in our break up. I've already broken up with two people on important dates and I justify that by saying 'it was the right time'. But, thinking about it, maybe I should have had enough tact to wait. I broke up with the aqua on his birthday. It'll be a year soon. I was thinking about how he will associate his birthday with our break up and that'll cause him distress until he finally moves on from me for good. He doesn't deserve that. I can only hope to avoid doing something like this in the future.




ouch. but maybe he's already moved on from that and disassociated the break-up from his birthday?
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I would like that to be the case. He messaged me back close to November in a moment of weakness but perhaps he's moved on since then.
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vday is round the corner. it's old news the state of heart n mind that i've been in these days.

so i just wanted to share how my bf and i met

i dunno if anyone remembers last year about this time, i was going through the horrendous break up with my ex. honestly, a lot of the horrible stuff i kept to myself and didn't share. at any rate, there was a snowboarding trip that all my friends were planning??_ a trip that was actually my idea, that i didn't go on because my ex decided he was going and that i should NOT go. i might have posted about this on the scorp board actually, but a good number of people here advised against me going, and really i just didn't want to fight my ex about it, so i stayed.

well turns out that's when some mutual friends who did go, invited my now bf to come out and join them for the party at the resort lodge. that was the first time my friends, including my ex, met him, really really liked him and continued to invite him to our parties here in Vegas. Aside from his day job, he's also a dj and an exceptional one at that. my friends are fiends for really good music and thus started the new addition of my sweetie to our band of merry music lovers.

because i was more or less trying to keep away from my ex, i scaled back on hanging out with my friends a little bit. the next party that i went to wasn't until 7 months after the snowboarding trip that i skipped out on.

one of my good friends who was hosting a gathering sent me a threat text saying that if i didn't show up, he'd take me off future invite lists. LOL! so i went. had a great time and towards the end of the party when most people had gone home, I'd stopped gabbing with my friends, started tuning into the music??_ i heard how awesome the dj was mixing and kept running around asking everyone who the dj was. we'd actually been introduced earlier in the night, but it was so fast, he turned on his heel so quick and there was just so much commotion that i didn't really get to talk to him.

at that point of the night, everyone was hanging outside relaxing on the patio??_ everyone left the dj by himself inside to just do his thing. i couldn't help myself and kept walking inside to compliment and talk to him. yes??_ that's right??_ i initiated quite a bit with him when we first met. a lot, really.
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to be perfectly honest??_ i'm instinctively aggressive when it comes to someone i like or am interested in. i just have always reigned it in very well because i was burned too many times when i was younger. i couldn't help myself with him. he's just too sweet??_ has such a friendly and warm aura??_ and extremely talented with music.

when he and i first met??_ he really gave me no indicators whatsoever that he liked me or was interested at all beyond talking to me. lol! but i pressed on regardless and asked for his number and that we keep in touch. LMAO!!! smh

he lives 700 miles away and wasn't back in las vegas until 2 months later. when i happened to be out of town. but at that point we'd not talked at all since we first met. so i'd already chalked it up to something of convenience and perhaps that he saw it as a mere fling. i kinda brushed it off.

he was back around my birthday celebration. my friends threw a party for me and my girlfriend. he flew out to dj. he and i were inseparable that night. my friends were all either fawning over how cute we were or dry heaving at how cheesy they thought we were.

and the rest is history. from that weekend on, not a day has gone by where we haven't been connected at least several hours by FaceTime, text, phone convo??_ and we've spent every weekend together save for one very painful weekend apart. not that it's been so long, or a huge amount of time since, but it's been quite simply??_ very lovely.
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Posted by CluelessCancer
1) He's either a Virgo or Cancer

2) So fling? You slept with him that night? He's definitely not a Cancer then...

hmmmmmmm



1) nope

2) nope

nice assumption there. this is precisely why i don't share much about him and us. 😉 what was said was that i *thought* he had a fling in mind given the lack of contact at that point. and therefore i kinda brushed him off.
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to be perfectly honest??_ i'm instinctively aggressive when it comes to someone i like or am interested in. i just have always reigned it in very well because i was burned too many times when i was younger. i couldn't help myself with him. he's just too sweet??_ has such a friendly and warm aura??_ and extremely talented with music.

when he and i first met??_ he really gave me no indicators whatsoever that he liked me or was interested at all beyond talking to me. lol! but i pressed on regardless and asked for his number and that we keep in touch. LMAO!!! smh

he lives 700 miles away and wasn't back in las vegas until 2 months later. when i happened to be out of town. but at that point we'd not talked at all since we first met. so i'd already chalked it up to something of convenience and perhaps that he saw it as a mere fling. i kinda brushed it off.

he was back around my birthday celebration. my friends threw a party for me and my girlfriend. he flew out to dj. he and i were inseparable that night. my friends were all either fawning over how cute we were or dry heaving at how cheesy they thought we were.

and the rest is history. from that weekend on, not a day has gone by where we haven't been connected at least several hours by FaceTime, text, phone convo??_ and we've spent every weekend together save for one very painful weekend apart. not that it's been so long, or a huge amount of time since, but it's been quite simply??_ very lovely.



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Creepy - wow what an amazing journey I'm really happy for u both xhugsx and thank u for sharing!

I've got some good news n some bad news...I've had a really really busy time at work n haven't been chasing capi - he's noticed n has initated contact first a few times.
Work got worse n the tube strikes were awful I got caught up in it 1h 30 mins to make a 35 min journey - I told capi I had an awful day n needed some TLC - he was meant to have a client meeting in the city but got cancelled due to tube strikes -said he was looking forward to seeing me.
So this is now the third time he's cancelled soo I told him calmly n presented the facts n told him I won't believe him the nxt time he says he'll come. This really opened up his eyes n now he's doing the chasing. Well all of 5mins he got hurt playing footy.

Actions are needed - tells me he's been thinkn of me n wants to look for a job closer to me. Then says when he knows he'll be in town for sure he'll tell me.
What if something more important comes up ? his response to this was
We will go n il give u TLC.
Lol asked me what type lol - figured what the hell so I replied with the "shopping kind" lol well what did he expect...!

Let's see if I can hold out for him to take us out.
Oh n he says it will get less busy soon... Havnt I heard that before.
Ps I got a lovely goodnight message with an x
Must really b missing me
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After years of hopelessly flopping in all my relationships, I've come to believe that admitting you love someone has its own time and place. It shouldn't be forced, it shouldn't be "just" a response. I want to make sure I actually MEAN it when I say it.

Well, now the issue is saying it when I mean it. It's never been this awkward telling someone I love them. Ever. I am too worried about whether it's the right time, or the right place, or how he'll react. Even though I know damn well he'd probably be relieved and overjoyed if he heard it from me even if we were in the most un-romantic situation there is. I've nearly slipped up so many times. At least eight. Eight times, last time I kept count. And that was in a day. But then I have a mini panic attack and shut the hell up. If I bottle it up anymore I'm going to pass out next time it reaches my tongue and gets clenched between my teeth.

What was the most awkward is when he caught me staring at him catching his breath after he finished the benchpress and asked me what I was thinking about. Three words. Not so hard right?
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Came into another Pit Bull last night (followed my daughter's bf home). Friendly boy and get's along fine with my two dogs, if his owners don't come looking for him I'll have to work with a rescue to get him re-homed. All my years doing rescue, I did not think I'd end up doing PB rescue. It's all good, they are really great, loving dogs!

As a side note, I was arrested and went to jail last night too... never thought I'd be doing that either :/

First time for everything I suppose!!
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Came into another Pit Bull last night (followed my daughter's bf home). Friendly boy and get's along fine with my two dogs, if his owners don't come looking for him I'll have to work with a rescue to get him re-homed. All my years doing rescue, I did not think I'd end up doing PB rescue. It's all good, they are really great, loving dogs!

As a side note, I was arrested and went to jail last night too... never thought I'd be doing that either :/

First time for everything I suppose!!



Lingering effects of the super new moon...
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Posted by lildol
Came into another Pit Bull last night (followed my daughter's bf home). Friendly boy and get's along fine with my two dogs, if his owners don't come looking for him I'll have to work with a rescue to get him re-homed. All my years doing rescue, I did not think I'd end up doing PB rescue. It's all good, they are really great, loving dogs!

As a side note, I was arrested and went to jail last night too... never thought I'd be doing that either :/

First time for everything I suppose!!



You wild child, you! Hope you're not in too much trouble. 🙂
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Posted by CluelessCancer
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Posted by CluelessCancer
1) He's either a Virgo or Cancer

2) So fling? You slept with him that night? He's definitely not a Cancer then...

hmmmmmmm



1) nope

2) nope

nice assumption there. this is precisely why i don't share much about him and us. 😉 what was said was that i *thought* he had a fling in mind given the lack of contact at that point. and therefore i kinda brushed him off.



Sigh. You can pm me his zodiac sign. It's killing me.
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ehhhh??_ lol. i'm keeping a tight lip for a while.

just curious as to why you are so curious, though? 🙂
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Came into another Pit Bull last night (followed my daughter's bf home). Friendly boy and get's along fine with my two dogs, if his owners don't come looking for him I'll have to work with a rescue to get him re-homed. All my years doing rescue, I did not think I'd end up doing PB rescue. It's all good, they are really great, loving dogs!

As a side note, I was arrested and went to jail last night too... never thought I'd be doing that either :/

First time for everything I suppose!!



Lingering effects of the super new moon...
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on the bright side??_. big points for sexiness. for both pb rescuing and being a rebel.
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@truecap: Rebel? Yeah, that's me LOL

@Elle, I'll keep that in mind for next time 🙂

@Creepy: I'm sure my mug shot was NOT sooo sexy, but thanks 😛

(I was yelled at too when they took my mug shot - like I know wtf to do not to mention I didn't have my glasses so I couldn't see shit - and they were rough taking my prints as well as the booking officer couldn't get it right, how the fuck can they get mad at me because he was inept? I was treated like a criminal 😭)

Note to self: NEVER try to look at a police officers name tag when he's acting like a dick! They tend to become more dick like!

Spent 12 hrs in the can, butt cheeks hurt from sitting on concrete the whole time! Offensive touching of a police officer is a Class A misdemeanor in my state and carries up to a $ 2,000 fine and/or a year in jail.

The other officer and my daughter are both witnesses that I didn't "poke" him (which is what he said I did)! BUT, will the other officer do the right thing or not want to rock the boat with regards to his superior? *smh*

I am NOT prison material 😭
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As for the dog, I did receive a call. It was rather strange though. Sounded like a little girl and she said something along the lines of "If you still have our dog and you don't want him anymore can you bring him back on Wed in a box?" (maybe she said "put him in the box" - doghouse?). Then she said something to her mom in Spanish before hanging up. I do believe he was kept as an outside dog - smells to high heaven - and given the temps were dropping below zero again last nigh I had no qualms not calling back right away and holding him. Then again, maybe that's why they wanted to wait until Wed when things are expected to warm up a bit...
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I decided yesterday, out of the blue, to measure an area underneath my window, and go to home depot to buy wood and have it cut to those measurements.

Thaf was the easy part. I want to build a little plant stand for my houseplants, thing is...I know anything about building anything. Didnt know the size of nails needed, the fact that I need a drill...nothing.

Biggest turnoff...a lot of the men that work in home depot didnt know either smh. I realized a few yrs ago Im attracted to a guy thats good with his hands.

Anyway, I hate that I kind of "wing it" when it comes to projects. I have an idea, start it, and learn as I go. My Cappie grandmother would not approve...she is the opposite..thoroughly prepared before anything. Im allergic to that way of doing things.