THE UNTHINKABLE ON MY DATE WITH CAP

For those of you whom read my other post about —Cap blast from the past?? well this is an update, and I already feel awful ??_Anyway, here it goes??_


Currently just started dating a Capricorn I??ve known since middle school. We had our first date this past weekend after 13 years. It was perfect, our phone conversation long and deep and I think we were really having a connection. Then I did the unthinkable while he was tickling me I called him someone else. At first I didn't know if he heard me so I laughed it off, but he did and he said he was mad at me. Then kept saying he thought he was the only one, and he thought he was special. I kept apologizing and I told him the guy lives in another state, I used to talk to him on the phone every day before the cap and I rekindled. Mind you.. the cap and I JUST rekindled like a few weeks ago, and this was our first mini-date at his house. I hadn't seen the cap in over 6 years, and haven't chilled with him in 13 yrs. It was an honest mistake and I'm super embarrassed and disappointed in myself because I don't even like the dude. Smh. Anyway, Cappy insisted he was not mad and he's over it, and he wants me to be his girlfriend, said he loves my style and wants us to work, but not to ever do that again. He kept kissing me and being super affectionate all night. He kept kissing my hand, and my forehead when he thought I was sleep.lol. I tried calling him last night(the next day) he didn't answer, and never called back. He normally doesn't always respond to text right away, so im used to that, but this is my first time calling instead of texting . Any thoughts? Think maybe he's still mad and lied about it.

Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
LOL

-___- my cousin laughed too.lol. But i'm seriously pissed at myself, i really like this cap and haven't even seen the other dude in over 2 years.

LMAAAAAOOOO!

Give him some time. He will get over it.

I wouldn't worry about it.

Don't sweat it and don't start to panic.

It was a mistake, you apologized.

This is where you must remain composed... I wouldn't call again.

Good luck.

AND and if he's going to be UNFORGIVING about that...

it's best to move on from that type of person.

😄

This sounds about right for a Libra.......

Posted by aquapiscescusp
AND and if he's going to be UNFORGIVING about that...

it's best to move on from that type of person.

😄

Same thing my cousin said, and he's a cap. lol. Guess you are all right. I love the feed back. I feel much better. Everyone is telling me not to panick. I haven't apologized since he said he was over it. I let it go because i didn't want to keep bringing it up since the night was going so well, he seemed eagar to move on so i followed suit.

Still cant believe i did that.lol

Posted by LunarMaiden
This sounds about right for a Libra.......

here you go...

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Posted by aquapiscescusp
AND and if he's going to be UNFORGIVING about that...

it's best to move on from that type of person.

😄

Same thing my cousin said, and he's a cap. lol. Guess you are all right. I love the feed back. I feel much better. Everyone is telling me not to panick. I haven't apologized since he said he was over it. I let it go because i didn't want to keep bringing it up since the night was going so well, he seemed eagar to move on so i followed suit.

Still cant believe i did that.lol

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here, just to make you feel better : I called my once BF another name after we were intimate

the guy's name I called out was a mutual friend of ours and we spent hours together

honest mistake, had no interest in that guy whatsoever

BF never believed that but he got over it

we just never hung out together as much after

LOL

Also I forgot to add, that he kept trying to get me to agree to being his girlfriend even after my slip of tongue. Kept saying how he thinks I??ll be good for him, and I'm such a sweet girl he knows I??ll be good for him. At first I didn't think he was serious but he was. He kept telling me not to agree just to say what he wants to hear, and honestly I was shocked. I'm used to guys throwing every excuse on why a relationship should wait, and be taken slow so they can do their thing. However he was serious. I said I would like to be his girl but I don't know if that makes us a couple, I don't know because he didn't answer when I called the next day. It's like everything is up in the air. Perhaps I should just play things by ear??_you think?

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AND and if he's going to be UNFORGIVING about that...

it's best to move on from that type of person.

😄

Same thing my cousin said, and he's a cap. lol. Guess you are all right. I love the feed back. I feel much better. Everyone is telling me not to panick. I haven't apologized since he said he was over it. I let it go because i didn't want to keep bringing it up since the night was going so well, he seemed eagar to move on so i followed suit.

Still cant believe i did that.lol

here, just to make you feel better : I called my once BF another name after we were intimate

the guy's name I called out was a mutual friend of ours and we spent hours together

honest mistake, had no interest in that guy whatsoever

BF never believed that but he got over it

we just never hung out together as much after

LOL

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lmao. Oh man if it happened during sex i would've just buried myself on the spot.lol. Yes that does make me feel better. Okay...i can calm down.lol

You're welcome ^

Posted by CluelessCancer
two weeks talking and already in a relationship. chill out.

Wasn't me, he kept bringing it up. But i'd be lying if i said i didn't enjoy hearing that he'd like for it to go that route. It's certainly a change from hearing "Oh i'm just doing me, whatever happens happens" -__-

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Posted by CluelessCancer
two weeks talking and already in a relationship. chill out.

Wasn't me, he kept bringing it up. But i'd be lying if i said i didn't enjoy hearing that he'd like for it to go that route. It's certainly a change from hearing "Oh i'm just doing me, whatever happens happens" -__-

REd flag dude. I get it. Every girl wants to be in a relationship with a man she really likes. Give it time to build. If a guy tells me he loves me or wants me to be with him in only 2 weeks. RED FLAG.

slow it way down.

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I feel you 🙂 Thanks. I will. If he ever calls again...lol

bwahahha i did that to a guy. I dont think he ever got over it. rightfully so

This doesn't make sense, how does he know who this person is to you if you just rekindled?

Posted by WaterCup
This doesn't make sense, how does he know who this person is to you if you just rekindled?

He didn't know who the guy was Watercup. I tried to cover it up at first by laughing it off and saying i called him by his name, but he made it very clear he heard me call him someone else. So i decided to against my normal Libra nature and be 100% honest and tell him about the guy. He knew it wasn't family or something otherwise i would'nt have tried to cover it. I dont know it just seemed if i would've try to lie and say it was my cousin or something he would've really gotten pissed. He had already said i didn't have to try to cover it up, and i should've been honest from jump because had just given me a speech about not worrying about other guys.

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two weeks talking and already in a relationship. chill out.

Wasn't me, he kept bringing it up. But i'd be lying if i said i didn't enjoy hearing that he'd like for it to go that route. It's certainly a change from hearing "Oh i'm just doing me, whatever happens happens" -__-

REd flag dude. I get it. Every girl wants to be in a relationship with a man she really likes. Give it time to build. If a guy tells me he loves me or wants me to be with him in only 2 weeks. RED FLAG.

slow it way down.

I feel you 🙂 Thanks. I will. If he ever calls again...lol

He will call again. If you really want this to work. Slow it way the heck down and get to know one another. Just let him know you really love his company and want to take it slow.

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Okay. 🙂

Posted by DMV
bwahahha i did that to a guy. I dont think he ever got over it. rightfully so

Never got over it huh...lol. My cappy male cousin says he thinks it's petty for a guy i haven't seen in 6 years, to get "that" mad. He says he could understand it make him wonder, or even make him a bit uncomfortable at first, but if he really likes me he should be able to move past it considering it was only our very first date.

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Posted by WaterCup
This doesn't make sense, how does he know who this person is to you if you just rekindled?

He didn't know who the guy was Watercup. I tried to cover it up at first by laughing it off and saying i called him by his name, but he made it very clear he heard me call him someone else. So i decided to against my normal Libra nature and be 100% honest and tell him about the guy. He knew it wasn't family or something otherwise i would'nt have tried to cover it. I dont know it just seemed if i would've try to lie and say it was my cousin or something he would've really gotten pissed. He had already said i didn't have to try to cover it up, and i should've been honest from jump because had just given me a speech about not worrying about other guys.

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Oh ok. Well, he sounds sensitive because it's not like you were busy having sex or anything like that. Mistakes like that happen especially when you're used to saying someone's name over a period of time. Guys' egos are unbelievably fragile sometimes. You could have said it's a co-worker's name, someone that you work very closely with or whatever. Personally, it annoys me when people want explanations/details for every little thing. He didn't need to know who the person is imo, it's none of his business but heads up to you for being truthful. Now he knows so don't be surprised when he starts to obsess about your relationship with the other guy. IJS. Sometimes exes should remain nameless, that's my way of doing things anyway. Good luck with your new romance girl 🙂

Haha. I'm the same way girl lol. Normally that exactly how I roll, I HATE to discuss ex-boyfriends, as I like them to remain in my past. However this case was a bit different the guy lives in another state, and he's not an ex, he's more of a previous encounter and nothing the Cap has to worry about. So I didn't mind telling too too much about telling him who the guy was, because he really isn't a threat. He's in another state, and even if he moved here Cappy still wouldn't need to worry because right now he holds my interest. I just hope he comes around. Have you ever dated a cap WC? Just wondering??_

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Haha. I'm the same way girl lol. Normally that exactly how I roll, I HATE to discuss ex-boyfriends, as I like them to remain in my past. However this case was a bit different the guy lives in another state, and he's not an ex, he's more of a previous encounter and nothing the Cap has to worry about. So I didn't mind telling too too much about telling him who the guy was, because he really isn't a threat. He's in another state, and even if he moved here Cappy still wouldn't need to worry because right now he holds my interest. I just hope he comes around. Have you ever dated a cap WC? Just wondering??_

No I haven't dated one but there's one that I'd like to cannibalise lol. Too hot but too young, I'd traumatise the little goat 😄

Oh guuuurl hahaha... Well he needs to chill if it was only the first date..

He'll come around if he's into you 😉. They always do. And if not move it along and lesson learnes lolol sorry I dont mean to laugh but damn... 😛

Posted by Peanutbutter
Oh guuuurl hahaha... Well he needs to chill if it was only the first date..

He'll come around if he's into you 😉. They always do. And if not move it along and lesson learnes lolol sorry I dont mean to laugh but damn... 😛

Lol. It's fine I'm used to it. Everyone I tell starts laughing before they even give their opinion. It's comical after the fact, but when it first happen I was like —Oh shit.?? Lol. Anyway, no word from him today, I'm keeping my mouth shut like everyone says so as not to push the issue. And I know I??ll have to move it along if he never comes around, I'm just hoping he's into me like he said he was. When I was over there he seemed smitten by me, and completely into me even after my slip up??_so I don't know. He's sudden silence is like —huh??

Okay it's been 2 days since our date, and nothing besides the text on Sunday when he texted
"you never ate your pizza"
(completly ignored the part when i said i miss him already)
i respond "Save it for me"
He respond "O_0 LOL"
I said that because i wanted him to invite me back. Wishful thinking.
Then around 6pm that evening i tried to call nothing.
Now today is day 2 and no word. So i sent him a text a moment ago saying "Good Afternoon, hope all is good your way 🙂" he has responded yet, but if he doesn't is it safe to assume he's no longer into me for whatever reason, or am i trippin?

p.s our date was Saturday 😢

Does he work weekends? Does work keep him fairly busy?

Maybe hes just busy or he likes you so much hes nervous about what move to make next?

I want to remain positive but when a Cap likes someone they are heavy on the pursuit for the most part unless of course life is busy then sometimes we dont fet the attention we women crave from them...

Wait it out is my best advice... he has a whole day to reply and if he doesnt just assume what happened was an insult to him and move on ?? Idk Cappy men what do you all think??

Honestly I don't really know how his normal everyday life is because he and I haven't been back talking for that long. I know normally when I ask what he's doing he's either in class or doing homework. He's working on getting his certificate in Culinary Arts right now. He seems as if he's always on the go and I will say so far I??ve noticed he never responds to text right away, sometime he may take 2-3 hours other times it's faster I really don't know. There's no normal routine yet
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However I sent that text about 2 hours ago now, at 12:20 and nothing. I got on Facebook on my lunch around 1:50 and saw on my timeline that he comments on someone's post, of course this sends a red flag to me because that means he had his phone in his hand saw my text and hasn't responded. I guess I should hang it up 😢 I just didn't think what I did was so bad that he??d cut me off cold turkey considering how lovey dovey he was from the time I walked in the door until the time I walked out including after my slip of tongue asking me to be his girl..I'm puzzled but I??ll get over it. Guess I missed something.

Posted by CluelessCancer
Sigh.

1) Don't ever TELL A MAN YOU MISS YOU. LET HIM TELL YOU THAT. THEN SAY "ME TOO"

2) DON'T EVER TELL A MAN YOU LOVE HIM. EVER. UNTIL IT'S YOUR WEDDING DAY. LOL . IM JUST SAYING. WAIT UNTIL HE SAYS IT.

3) DON'T EVER CALL A MAN. EVER. OR TEXT HIM. UNTIL HE CALLS YOU. SEVERAL TIMES.

ACT LIKE YOU GOT A LIFE GIRL....IF YOU MAKING HIM YOUR LIFE...HE WON'T BE INTERESTED.

WHY YOU DOING THE WORK.

I will admit. Normally I think and act like you said CC, and then all I get is guys telling me I don't show any interest or they went with someone else because they never really knew how I felt since normally I NEVER text first, and damn sure don't call.
I will admit I regret telling him I missed him. But I didn't see an issue in texting him in the past, because he was texting me too. I called him once, because he called me once. I??ve never told him I love him (would??nt dare).
But nonetheless I get what you are saying, and I'm not going to say another peep to him since it's obvious he has lost interest. I just don't like that it's so sudden. I was actually starting to like him, it's a little disappointing that he's just going to cut cold turkey without a trace, but I guess it's just life.

Posted by CluelessCancer
Give it time. Don't force it. Yes you are human you miss him and you like him. That's fine. But just let him do the work.

next time you want to text him sweet nothings, text your girlfriend sweet nothings. Let him make the moves-then respond as you see fit-

remember CAPS are generally teflon it takes a long time for them to get sweetened up to the deal.

LOL. Text my homegirls the sweet nothings, I feel that. I??ll keep that in mind next time im in my feelings. I hear you.

Posted by CluelessCancer
Sigh.

1) Don't ever TELL A MAN YOU MISS YOU. LET HIM TELL YOU THAT. THEN SAY "ME TOO"

2) DON'T EVER TELL A MAN YOU LOVE HIM. EVER. UNTIL IT'S YOUR WEDDING DAY. LOL . IM JUST SAYING. WAIT UNTIL HE SAYS IT.

3) DON'T EVER CALL A MAN. EVER. OR TEXT HIM. UNTIL HE CALLS YOU. SEVERAL TIMES.

ACT LIKE YOU GOT A LIFE GIRL....IF YOU MAKING HIM YOUR LIFE...HE WON'T BE INTERESTED.

WHY YOU DOING THE WORK.

That's just terrible advice right there.

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Posted by CluelessCancer
Sigh.

1) Don't ever TELL A MAN YOU MISS YOU. LET HIM TELL YOU THAT. THEN SAY "ME TOO"

2) DON'T EVER TELL A MAN YOU LOVE HIM. EVER. UNTIL IT'S YOUR WEDDING DAY. LOL . IM JUST SAYING. WAIT UNTIL HE SAYS IT.

3) DON'T EVER CALL A MAN. EVER. OR TEXT HIM. UNTIL HE CALLS YOU. SEVERAL TIMES.

ACT LIKE YOU GOT A LIFE GIRL....IF YOU MAKING HIM YOUR LIFE...HE WON'T BE INTERESTED.

WHY YOU DOING THE WORK.

That's just terrible advice right there.

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Well can you give me something better...kind cappy male?

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Posted by CluelessCancer
Sigh.

1) Don't ever TELL A MAN YOU MISS YOU. LET HIM TELL YOU THAT. THEN SAY "ME TOO"

2) DON'T EVER TELL A MAN YOU LOVE HIM. EVER. UNTIL IT'S YOUR WEDDING DAY. LOL . IM JUST SAYING. WAIT UNTIL HE SAYS IT.

3) DON'T EVER CALL A MAN. EVER. OR TEXT HIM. UNTIL HE CALLS YOU. SEVERAL TIMES.

ACT LIKE YOU GOT A LIFE GIRL....IF YOU MAKING HIM YOUR LIFE...HE WON'T BE INTERESTED.

WHY YOU DOING THE WORK.

That's just terrible advice right there.

Well can you give me something better...kind cappy male?

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1. Let a man know that you miss him .... in moderation.

2. Let a man know you love him .... when the time is right.

3. It's ok to call or text a man..... in moderation. (agree him more than you....but not never)

4. Don't just 'act' like you have a life .... actually have one. Make him a 'part' of your life. Do 'some' of the work. The heavy lifting is his in the beginning, but not all his. (Especially if you've called him another man's name. 😉)

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Sigh.

1) Don't ever TELL A MAN YOU MISS YOU. LET HIM TELL YOU THAT. THEN SAY "ME TOO"

2) DON'T EVER TELL A MAN YOU LOVE HIM. EVER. UNTIL IT'S YOUR WEDDING DAY. LOL . IM JUST SAYING. WAIT UNTIL HE SAYS IT.

3) DON'T EVER CALL A MAN. EVER. OR TEXT HIM. UNTIL HE CALLS YOU. SEVERAL TIMES.

ACT LIKE YOU GOT A LIFE GIRL....IF YOU MAKING HIM YOUR LIFE...HE WON'T BE INTERESTED.

WHY YOU DOING THE WORK.

That's just terrible advice right there.

Well can you give me something better...kind cappy male?

1. Let a man know that you miss him .... in moderation.

2. Let a man know you love him .... when the time is right.

3. It's ok to call or text a man..... in moderation. (agree him more than you....but not never)

4. Don't just 'act' like you have a life .... actually have one. Make him a 'part' of your life. Do 'some' of the work. The heavy lifting is his in the beginning, but not all his. (Especially if
you've called him another man's name. 😉)

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LOL. Well so far, would you agree that i've done enough considering the circumstances and i should leave the ball in his court from this point?

yes, pinklibra, I haven't read through the entire thing, but it seems you've attempted to go out of your way to smooth it over. You're good.

I just had to clear up the CC disinformation campaign. Never take advice from a cancer, especially a clueless one. Too much thinking with emotion and lack of brain engagement.

Posted by CapTenn
yes, pinklibra, I haven't read through the entire thing, but it seems you've attempted to go out of your way to smooth it over. You're good.

I just had to clear up the CC disinformation campaign. Never take advice from a cancer, especially a clueless one. Too much thinking with emotion and lack of brain engagement.

Cap men are great ...

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yes, pinklibra, I haven't read through the entire thing, but it seems you've attempted to go out of your way to smooth it over. You're good.

I just had to clear up the CC disinformation campaign. Never take advice from a cancer, especially a clueless one. Too much thinking with emotion and lack of brain engagement.

Cap men are great ...

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I thought he was, now i'm wondering...

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yes, pinklibra, I haven't read through the entire thing, but it seems you've attempted to go out of your way to smooth it over. You're good.

I just had to clear up the CC disinformation campaign. Never take advice from a cancer, especially a clueless one. Too much thinking with emotion and lack of brain engagement.

Cap men are great ...

I thought he was, now i'm wondering...

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No news yet?

Nope. And i've decided to back off. Hopefully he comes around. If not, well then i have to assume he didn't really like me as much as he said to begin with.

Posted by pinklibra
Nope. And i've decided to back off. Hopefully he comes around. If not, well then i have to assume he didn't really like me as much as he said to begin with.

He will come around... sounds like he liked you. That just threw him off. Time... just keep busy, talk to us 😄

That might be fun.lol. I gotta admit the Cap boared be jumping more than the other boards, even mines.lol. People respond fast as hell on this board.

Posted by CluelessCancer
Are you the PRIZE LIBRA....are you? Well.

Yes. I am. Which is why I??ve decided to back off, and conclude that if he was really into me to begin with like he said then he will be back despite his bruised ego IF that's even why he dipped. Nonetheless, if and when he does return I will not harp on the subject. BUT if he brings it up, and I find out he dipped on me that fast over an honest mistake..well I cannot honestly say I'm going to be as comfortable falling for someone that can dip that fast after only one date after 13 years of knowing one another and 6 yrs since we've last seen each other prior, because other than my slip of tongue the night was perfect. We didn't get physical, it was all laughter, and jokes and lots of affection and talks about childhood and well anything that came to mind.

Don't think I don't appreciate your advice CC, as I??ve stated previously some of the things you mentioned I often do, but I gotta admit acting as if I don't care about a guy may not get me hurt, but it does get me —him?? either because men are simply and acting like you don't care may work on some, but others may actually believe it. So I do believe there is a time and place to say and do things like @CAPTEN said, which is why I'm going to take BOTH of your advice and just give it time and slow it down.

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yes, pinklibra, I haven't read through the entire thing, but it seems you've attempted to go out of your way to smooth it over. You're good.

I just had to clear up the CC disinformation campaign. Never take advice from a cancer, especially a clueless one. Too much thinking with emotion and lack of brain engagement.

Shut your azz, Libra do you know this guys Cancer, left him.

We can see why, he belittles women. He's a sexist pig.

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I belittle morons, regardless of sex. Your advice is moronic, which is why you whine non-stop about being alone. Take someone else's advice, perhaps from a sign that uses their brains instead of their feewings.

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yes, pinklibra, I haven't read through the entire thing, but it seems you've attempted to go out of your way to smooth it over. You're good.

I just had to clear up the CC disinformation campaign. Never take advice from a cancer, especially a clueless one. Too much thinking with emotion and lack of brain engagement.

Shut your azz, Libra do you know this guys Cancer, left him.

We can see why, he belittles women. He's a sexist pig.

I belittle morons, regardless of sex. Your advice is moronic, which is why you whine non-stop about being alone. Take someone else's advice, perhaps from a sign that uses their brains instead of their feewings.

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cap men are great...

LOL

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yes, pinklibra, I haven't read through the entire thing, but it seems you've attempted to go out of your way to smooth it over. You're good.

I just had to clear up the CC disinformation campaign. Never take advice from a cancer, especially a clueless one. Too much thinking with emotion and lack of brain engagement.

Shut your azz, Libra do you know this guys Cancer, left him.

We can see why, he belittles women. He's a sexist pig.

I belittle morons, regardless of sex. Your advice is moronic, which is why you whine non-stop about being alone. Take someone else's advice, perhaps from a sign that uses their brains instead of their feewings.

You're a moron for using stereotypes against me. I do use my brains. I have no heart. Not when it concerns one of you cardboards.

go fold yourself up in a corner and stfu already.

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You use your brains?

You do know that people read your posts right?

Posted by CluelessCancer
I'm sorry but being called dumb by a chick is unconsciounable.

Don't you mean 'unconscionable'? 😉

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I'm sorry but being called dumb by a chick is unconsciounable.

Don't you mean 'unconscionable'? 😉

Yes. Your point? I knew it was spelled wrong and still posted it, because i could care less about spellcheck.

anyways this is an utterly useless conversation.

bye.

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You continue making it for me. Later.